Sweetie, please please give yourself a pat on the back for helping ALL of us out here that are just like you!! ( There's more of us than you know!! 😉) You are so inspiring and a very beautiful person inside and out!! Thank you again❣️😬
Best to teach them the basics now of being a good adult who can take care of themselves and any future family they may have. My boy loves his kitchen, dolls and helping clean with a damp cloth! 💗 Little'uns learn so much through roleplay
My mother raised 11 children, and I raised five children, My mother once gave me the most valuable piece of advice about toys and clothes. She said if you turn your house in to nursery, and your house clothes shop the kids will get bored and will not be hungry to play with toys or develop long term learning, or calm thinking ability.less is more. Plus if you save 10 a week for each kids that would be 1000 a year , by the time boys are 18yrs , you would be saving 18000 for two . In two separate accounts. Save the money so you can spend on them in ten yrs. So you can still buy that expensive trainers when they are big , the boys would remember it and appreciate much. I saved 10 a week for 18yrs gave to my daughter when she went to university to study law for rents now shes a lawyer. Don't fall into the hands of consumerism, two sets of pyjamas and two sets of weekend clothes uniforms and special clothes for occasions. Save and you will have little financial security. Peace.
I switched on RU-vid for a distraction since I was on the verge of tears just looking at my messy home. This video popped up and changed it all! Thank you for being so open with your struggles because your trouble spots are mine exactly. Thanks a million for the honest motivation!!!!❤
As a grandma, one trick my daughter-in-law taught me was that when I buy a toy(s) for the grandkids, I bring them when I visit, but take them when I leave as the toys 'live' at my house. That way her house is not overwhelmed and the toys become special and not mundane. The children also look forward to playing with those special toys when they come to visit me.
So far, your commentary is the only channel I can tolerate. It’s genuine, doesn’t overstimulate me, have music, you are so genuine, and a great speaking voice in general. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing with us. It’s helped me so many times with your words of encouragement, support, and kindness when I’m struggling or need to relax.
I just found this channel about 30 minutes ago. This is the second video and I could listen to her talk all day. Seriously. Partly because of her accent because I'm Canadian and I don't think our accents are very exciting. But I think she seems very genuine and open. It makes me sad to read some of the negative comments.
@@GreatMindsSeekTruthI'm the same. I also can't handle cooking videos or diy videos with music. Usually the music is far louder than is needed and if they just have text on the screen explaining the steps or what ingredients with music to me it seems so impersonal.
"I would give a rock sentimental value" - me too. It really helps to know that someone else feels that way! I am improving, in theory - in practice, not quickly enough. Remi, you are so encouraging and kind. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you!
I found your comment about being in an ideal situation to even get started cleaning up intriguing. I thought I was the only one...lol. It's like I have this "vision" of how my environment needs to be before I can even start cleaning. Of course, being in that perfect situation rarely occurs. Thanks for sharing!!
Im the kind of person that will help anyone else clean up, but when it comes to my house i just ain't got no interest. But after watching your video I've been given me the get up and go that i need. Thank you.
As a mother of two sons who also loved Lego, I found it very helpful to get one big sheet that the boys were encouraged to keep the Lego on top of. When they wanted to build , they each grabbed a corner of the sheet and lifted all the sheet which held all the blocks out of the tub. When they finished playing, they each grabbed corners of the sheet , lifted up the whole thing and put it back into the tub. Easy fast cleanup, and gives the boys a chance to feel good about helping with a tidier house.
WOW look at you! Almost to 100k followers. You’re inspiring all of us to just keep plugging away at the decluttering journey. I’m 75 now and I’ve been working on doing just that since my husband passed. I have done a lot already but I’m still working at purging my house. Every little bit helps and I want to keep going so it’s not all left to my daughter to do. Thanks for the inspiration Remy 🌻
I've just had to clear my mother in law's house after she passed away unexpectedly and to go through all the stuff in a week and try and find new homes for as many things as possible so that they don't end up in a landfill was such an overwhelming and stressful task. It's wonderful that you're thinking ahead for your daughter to not have to go through that.
That’s really kind of you to be doing that purging so your daughter won’t have to; and it’s hard work as it is very stressful to go through sentimental things. Sorry your husband passed and God bless you.
I absolutely adore you 🥺🫶 I wish I could find a friend like you 😂 literally reminded me of myself and thought I was all alone out here 😅 thanks for being a real human I enjoyed this and feel confident and motivated now 🧡🌼🍂
I was your months ago and I decided that I was worth 15-30 mins of exercise each day and I’ve been doing it. And I feel so amazing, better and better every day. You deserve more then your doing for you and if you struggle to see it like that then think, your a better mom even to do self love and self care things for yourself. You got this ! If I can do it you definitely can ❤️
I've decluttered about 80% of the contents of my house over the last 18 months and I dont miss any of it! Here are my tips now I'd now consider myself a minimalist: I'm trying to go a bit further at the moment. Just got rid of a load more stuff I'd kept "just in case" and dont actually need and I've worked on whats *really* sentimental and why and found I can let some of that go too by keeping photos of the items which remind me of someone or something and letting the actual item go to find a new life with someone else. My top tips would be: 1) Numbers method. Turn the "should I get rid of this" question on its head. Think about how many of something to *keep* first. So, for example, when I was decluttering clothes I would think "How many tee shirts do I need? Even if I only did a wash weekly (and I put a wash more often than that in reality) 7 is plenty". Then I'd choose my *favourite* 7 to keep. The focus being on having my best, most favourite items to keep made getting rid of the rest so much easier and now I feel great about every item in my wardrobe. Same with the kids toys, ask them to choose their favourites. 2) Container method. Think about how much space you are willing to give a category of things and let the container size be the limit. For example, I got 4 smallish Ikea boxes and gave one to make up, one to skin care, another to medicines and a 4th to "backstock" because that's what fits in my bathroom cabinet. Any mote than that and I've got mess because I cant easily put it away and store it in the cupboard space available. So I had to keep *only* what fitted in the boxes. Again, I picked my favourites first and the rest had to go. This really helped me be realistic about the space I have to store stuff when the priorty is living easily with my "stuff" serving me instead of feeling weighed down by having to look after it! 3) Stop the in flow method. Every time I went to buy something which wasnt food or a repeat consumable household item, I'd ask myself "What is the lifespan of this product and how will it be disposed of when I no longer want or need it"? This REALLY stopped me buying cheap crap I didn't truly need and focused me on buying fewer things but spending more on quality purchases which can either be recycled (because its made of wood or metal instead of cheap plastic) or will have the longevity to be passed on after I'm done with it. Having to save for something of higher quality often delayed the purchase for long enough for me to realise I didnt really need it in the first place!! Hope those tips help someone else ❤ Good luck!
Those are brilliant tips and thanks so much for sharing. Will copy and apply these. I won’t be happy with 7 tees but I could be happy with 14! 😂 baby steps lol! Great ideas to implement. Thanks so much for sharing!
This video has brought back so many happy memories of my son being young and having so many books. Before one house move we got rid of over 300 books! I just reached the end. Do the kitchen next. 👍🏼
Remi, you are doing great. When you get decluttered try doing a carrier bag a day as anything that goes is an item not to think about. Maybe speak to your family about the Christmas and birthday gift situation. Gifts don't have to be possessions, it can be a day out having fun or a special meal together etc. Love watching and listening to your video's.
Remi, because you end your day in your bedroom I think that your bedroom should be first. Your bedroom needs to be where you can end your Day & relax, especially all that you & your partner deal with every day. So your bedroom needs to be your top priority & then deal with your kitchen. I feel that what I have seen you do that you deal with things very well. Everyone deals with things differently & everyone has different life styles, so you have to do what works best for you. Take care & keep doing things in your own way & in your own time of how things needs to be done. Stay safe & healthy.
Honestly your cleaning is second to all the beautiful voice and motivational speaking. Cleaning is a bonus. You leave people feeling calmer and better about themselves, it’s magic!
Dear Remi, making your bed in the morning is a sweet promise to yourself that no matter what you are faced with over the course of the day, you will have a neat clean place to lay your head at night. Thanks for these videos. I have ADD, and these make me feel I'm not alone.
I vote you do the kitchen next. You use that space daily and it will be adding daily stress for you, whereas the doom cupboard won't be as frequent. But I'd definitely break it down over several sessions to avoid burnout!! I really relate to this channel and it gives me a lot of grace with the nagging voice in my head, we're doing the best we can. Perfection doesn't exist, doing something imperfectly will always be better than avoiding the thing because we wanted it perfect. As someone who is also nonstop ill currently, I hope you have more better days ❤
Oh sweet girl, don’t listen to TROLLs. Some people just have to criticize. It’s disgraceful. I’m in the USA, and I was watching you. Your poor little soul running around cleaning. You have precious boys and what a lovely family. I think U do a bang up job. I love the way your house looks. You’re so good to your animals. You certainly have a beautiful heart. I’m with U spending time with my children are the biggest priority. Stop beating yourself up. You Do You! Let these trolls eat DIRT!!!! ❤😂
As an ADHD Autistic adult, I really needed this video. I live by myself in a 2 room apartment and way too much stuff. Thank you for showing me how to start. I really struggle with that part
Well with kids it’s gonna help her serve them more easily. It’s so hard to make food when you can’t get to what you need easily. But … you can do both. Take one cabinet at a time in the kitchen. When that’s done go work on a section of bedroom! That’s what I do if I can’t make myself tackle a whole room at once.
I'm from across the pond in Atlanta GA USA, and I love your voice it's calming, my children are grown but I remember these days, your honesty and transparency is refreshing
Hi, Remi! Sometimes I go back & watch your videos over again. It's like visiting a friend! Your voice & comments are soothing and uplifting. When the kids drive me crazy, a "visit" with you helps me calm down and chill out! Thanks for your contributions to the world! ❤️🌍😊
Only found your channel the other day Remi! I really struggle to declutter but you have encouraged me to start. You’re so wise and full of good advice. You must be an old soul as I’m twice your age and nowhere near as wise as you. Look forward to seeing more from you. Thank you ❤xxxx
Wow, what an amazing difference when you'd finished! I vote for your bedroom next, so you can relax when you go to bed. For storage and organisation ideas, don't even look at potential solutions until you have finished decluttering and you know exactly what you want you go where and how much of it there is. Once you know, you can buy storage to fit the spaces properly and you'll know how much capacity the storage will need to have to actually work for you. It's so annoying to buy storage that doesn't fix the problem.
Thank you for your video, I often feel overwhelmed and procrastinate a lot. I wish fairies would come along and do it while I’m asleep lol. I’m going to try this way - usually when I do a list, I put everything down, or do one room at a time, but your way makes a lot of sense. Thanks again, and I’ll let you know how I go. I hope you feel better soon
You got me off the couch today I swept,scrubbed the bathroom,cleaned the living room, ran the sweeper, did some dishes after eating a small meal. It is all because you got me motivated! Even decluttered a kitchen cabinet. So Thank you ❤
"we are on to sorting the book shelf now for anyone who haven't been watching the screen." I look up from the crochet, just happily feeling the inspiration to clean come to me, and I felt busted, but in a supportive and understanding sort of way. I chuckled.
Maybe start with the bedroom. Leave the bigger job till last. Laying your head down to sleep every night and smiling because your bedroom is clean and your safe haven is the utmost feeling. Love watching and listening to your voice overs. Greetings from Victoria Australia 🇦🇺
My vote is for the kitchen since you use that space multiple times a day. Keep up the great work!! And I appreciate your honesty- saying what is hard to get motivated to do and what you don’t like doing at all. Thanks for being REAL!
Do the kitchen next because it is so relaxing having a tidy and organised kitchen you will feel the biggest benefit from an organised kitchen than the cupboard in ur room x
We are from Japan my son is 25 yrs old and I’m 54 yrs old we’re struggling everyday how to start to clean up our own mess in our home and we are so lucky to accidentally found your videos which is very informative and necessary to us. You have a nice family you are all very helpful and kind.we hope you all best and all healthy.GodBlessed you all thank you so very much.take care💕🇯🇵🙏✝️💕
I'm a very messy person but over the last 4 weeks I've been decluttering my house, we've had about 6 tip runs and still got 1 more to go and a toy room and 1 bedroom left to sort out, I suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD so it takes me a while to get into a cleaning mood and if someone tells me to do something else I just stop, well done on decluttering
I would suggest the kitchen first. It looked like there were things inside the cabinets and drawers that weren’t necessarily kitchen items. It would drive me crazy to have to move toys and games to get to my pots, pans, flatware, etc. And, to me, it seems that you would have more space if it was tidy. I’m a lot older than you and it has taken me a long time to accept that I will not put things away that are stored in containers with lids. I use a lot of cubbies and shelving with bins! Have you ever watched Clutterbug? She does a great job of breaking down the storage systems that work for different personalities. For example, I prefer things to be out of sight but in loosely defined categories which is why lid-less bins work for me. I store all of my hair styling products in a shower caddy so that I can pull the whole thing out, use the products I need, then put the caddy back out of sight. That’s also a great way to store children’s art supplies since it so easy to keep tidy. Your son could pull out the bin of supplies, use them, then dump it all back into the bin to carry back to a shelf or cupboard. Also, if your son does most of his drawing at the kitchen table, the art supplies could be stored in the bottom of a cabinet in the kitchen to make clean up easy. I like to watch you because it gives me inspiration and I really like listening to your commentary!
I just found this video, as well as you are tidying video, and I absolutely love you and your honesty. I am a mom with some executive function issues as well, so as expected my children have some EF issues as well, and my son is autistic. Seeing that other moms also have to balance getting things done with what works for their family is so refreshing. Thank you so much for sharing! Much love from Oklahoma, USA! ✌🏻
You’ve come so far and should be so proud of yourself, I know that you may not think so but you’re loved by so many of your fans because you make them feel better about how they feel 👏🥰❤️
Beautiful videos, not just about cleaning and decluttering but mostly about finding balance and thriving in your own life and helping others. Love and thank you from Utah, USA!
Currently procrastinating my house because I get so overwhelmed and thinking it’s gonna take forever when I rationally know it won’t. Lol thanks for the video it has helped !
Oh my goodness! I just want to say thankyou from the bottom of my heart. Im so lucky I came across your channel. Watching your videos with tears in my eyes right now as you're speaking to my heart. Im a homeschooling mama to three amazing wildlings and Your content is so wholesome and real and you're a shining light and a motivation to all overwhelmed mamas.
When you said " out of sight out of mind " that hit home. Kitchen cabinets is my choice, I have to have everything in sight or I forget I have it, especially in my sewing room. ❤
Hello beautiful. I've just come across your videos. I'm currently on my decluttering/ cleaning the house 🏠 journey & fully enjoyed the first video of yours cleaning your lovely hard working Dad's house & have watched 2 per day of yours since hehe.... You're very inspiring & it's motivated me to start & be me in this world as I find you are very relatable, down to earth & charismatic like myself & it's so nice to see that just how messy your place can quickly get after a wonderful clean & feeling not the only one!!! What a humble video of yours was for the week cleaning challenge & your cute boys trying to help their Mummy a bit ever soo sweet!!! Thank you for being sooo honest in your voice overs & I encourage you to keep going as you're doing a fantastic job in all fronts 🥰
When I was a kid and my mom would de-clutter, she would bring bags of things she didn’t think I needed to me and it would be my job to go through them and make the final decision on keeping them or not. Eventually that became toxic and she would gaslight me into getting rid of things I really wanted to keep, but I think the original sentiment of letting your kids decide the fate of their property is not only reassuring to them, it builds character. Apparently it’s a fairly common trauma to recall the pain of a parent getting rid of your toys against your wishes. It’s all-around best to include your kids in the decluttering at some point and allow them to make decisions about their own property.
I vote for the kitchen. When I finally got my kitchen decluttered, it changed my whole house. Even when the whole rest of the house is overwhelming. I would do one drawer at a time. You are so amazing. Thank you for this channel. It has been so good to find someone who gets it.
I love your voice overs! I'd never thought of a small reward for completing a task. It's very inspiring to hear how you've broken goals down to a small sustainable task. Thank you for sharing yourself! 😊
I have watched so many decluttering videos and this is the first one I have ever related to! 😅 I'm basically you!! It's so nice to know that I'm not the only one who struggles with all this! Thank you! ❤❤ Edited to add: I would do your bedroom first! When you have a space you can go and relax, it really helps! I've been slowly working on my bedroom and it has helped so much!
Tackle all of the medications and first aid. I gathered small bins that I was not using in my home and labeled them. That gave me a sense of structure and then I just started putting items in the correct bin. Once it was all sorted, I went through one bin at a time and determined expiration dates. Sometimes that will matter, other times it won't. Once I threw out anything that was over my accepted threshhold, I felt really empowered and pleased. Now I can scan the bins, determine what I am low on, and buy only what is actually needed.
One of these days I’ll get through one of your videos without crying 😭❤️ the thoughts you shared about your brother were so beautiful 😭😭 You’re a beautiful person, Remi! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi, I love your videos and your honesty. I have a bit of OCD and finally have found that if I make a schedule for myself, of things that need to be done, I can do one or two things a day instead of rage cleaning. I really like your practice of rewarding yourself. Going to try that.
I cannot tell you how precious you are to me, Remy. I love that you are natural, vulnerable, authentic, and transparent. You are so good at sharing your struggles honestly while simultaneously being truly inspirational. Being a person whose default is messy/chaotic/overwhelmed is a huge cross to bear and you are making that so much more bearable for others like you. You are creative, beautiful, brave, and strong. You have tremendous dignity and integrity, and I wish we were friends IRL. Keep making these amazing videos. You have created a beautiful thing. 🩷
Good job! I guessed 7 bags. I have lived in my house for over 30 yrs. every week I have a bag or 6 that I fill for donations. Last week 14 totes were brought down, from the attic, 4 totes, 2 crates and 3 bags went to the donations center. I’m struggling with baby stuff and baby stuffed animals. Tomorrow I will be firm about it
Kitchen..start from the top and work downward..if you have not used it in a year toss it...use a color dot system when you use them.a different color for each month. At 6 months toss it. Only kitchen things in the kitchen.grab a basket and use it to move the things that don't belong to where they do belong..your the best!!!❤
I can attest to working in tiny increments. I moved into a new flat a year ago, and executive disfunction just stopped me entirely from finally unpacking and sorting everything. I recently started working on just one box or bag at a time - one a day - and while it only takes about 10-20 minutes, the difference it makes is enormous. Mostly mentally. I see the physical change in my space, and I feel eager to make more of a dent. If I'm lucky, I'll spend more time sorting out things because the little burst of positive energy gets the momentum going. I'm still not done, but I think the most important thing is that I've shown myself I can absolutely do it, and it doesn't need to all be done in one swoop. Cheeky edit:: As a grown-up person whose 'home' genre is horror, it is SO cool that you're supporting your son in his interests! I was always made to feel that my interests weren't quite right when I was younger, and always felt a little ashamed of them until I hit my 'screw it' age. There's a lot of really neat horror aimed for younger people out there!
Autism and ADHD here, love watching these as they're realistic for me! I live alone with no one to hold me accountable so I really get stuck on starting a declutter. Plus its so overwhelming! So I've paid for a lady to come and help me organise and declutter for a few hours, who is trained with the impact of neurodivergence. And I'm so excited! Just wanted to share in case this would help anyone else. You can have a google for people available in your area 😊 (just make sure they are qualified and legit before you go for it!)
The more of your videos I watch the more times I say “that’s me!” I love your videos and in fast speed, because I don’t want to do anything. I get overwhelmed by thinking how long it’s going to take me so I don’t do anything. It makes me feel like I can do things fast too. Probably doesn’t make sense but that’s how my mind works. Anyway I feel I want to get started and feel more motivated to do things. We never had kids so I have zero excuse but I am a sentimental keeper too. On the flip side I love to organize closets etc. I love being organized. Weird huh? By the way, I vote for the kitchen. It’s the biggest of the two jobs and once that gets done, the bedroom will be a snap. Please keep making the videos! You inspire me and so many others.
For sure your bedroom next. My reasoning is because, compared to the kitchen, there is significantly less things which will mean: 1) it won't take as long because there are less things, 2) if you start the kitchen which is bigger with more things, you're more likely to burnout and not get to your bedroom for quite a while, and 3) starting your bedroom means you will sleep better as a result of less stress in the room and be motivated to get the kitchen complete. I hope this helps you! Thank you for your videos, I enjoy you and what you bring to us!!!
These are good points but when I get a dilemma like this, I do BOTH. I start in a corner of my room and my kitchen. Like I would start in the bedroom and then when I complete a section and I’m fed up with that I’ll go start a section in the kitchen and work on it for how long I can. I work on a spot that can be deconstructed, cleaned and restored to order when I’m working 2 rooms.
12:21 As I make my bed every Morning(for the past 7 years) I quote a US Navy Admiral…. Start the day with a task completed. If the rest of my day goes poorly then I know I got at least one thing done that day. When I go to bed at night I feel satisfied with how lovely my bed looks even if it is surrounded in chaos. Slidling under the covers of a made bed is lovely. It only takes a couple minutes and makes such a difference! 💙🦋
I feel like I’m watching a British version of myself- everything from the all or nothing mentality, loving helping others with clutter even though I often struggle myself, the mid-clean McDonald’s 😂 and even the comfort comedies! Not sure if you’ve looked into body doubling but it’s so helpful for me to be talking to someone else while I’m working - I tell them they’re babysitting me but even if it’s just on the phone it makes the mindless work enjoyable because I’m not focused on how hard the actions feel as much as the conversation which always feel satisfying. Down the road if you are helping others you may show how working together with a friend or someone who works the same as you can be a great motivation. I’m sure the kids loved coming home to a reorganized room!! 😄😄
Remi have you watched Clutterbug? She has a test to see our organising style. Looking at your kitchen cupboards, I think you're a ladybug, then she gives the organisation systems best for the way you organise. Also she did a tough love livestream recently & I highly recommend watching that for anyone who is overwhelmed & doesn't know where to start. It really changed my mindset. 😊 Well done on getting so much out of your home!
Hi ! I'm from Portugal, 52 years old, and your videos are being a blessing to me ❤ Finnaly I understood myself and why I am the way I am... procrastinating, having huge trouble to start tasks and so on... I didn't know executive disfunctio was a thing, but it tottaly describes me! I'll stick around and learn more from you😊 Thank you, THANK YOU 🙏🫶🫶🫶
Your channel has quickly become one of my favorites! I also struggle with executive dysfunction, and hearing you talk about yours in such a non-judgmental way has helped me a lot. Your positive outlook and little chatty tangents also help ease my anxiety in moments where I’m stressed and generally overwhelmed by life. So thank you! Much love to you and your family. ❤
Finally! Someone knows what i'm feeling! I decided to be a bit stern with myself. Everyday I put the timer on and get at least one bag of stuff out of the little's room. She has so.much.stuff!!! It doesn't help that she's the third kid and she has inherited toys and books and clothes and tchotkes of every description. Watching you declutter kid stuff makes me feel like I can get back to the battle. Thanks! I have an idea for your overwhelmed series: how to slow down and spend time with your kids when you're overwhelmed at work and don't have a lot of energy. 😅 For sheer honesty and do-ability you have earned a new subscriber!
Great job! I always found decluttering my son's items the most challenging due to the sentimental aspect of it. But his room was the one that needed it the most because he was constantly outgrowing toys/clothes/books etc., and new ones were constantly coming in!!
I think you're a fabulous individual and its your videos I watch when I need inspiration for cleaning. Thank a lot and don't change anything. You remind me of myself a bit when my kids were little and growing up...they're adults now in charge of their own homes.
Can I just say how refreshing your honesty is ❤ and how positive you make me feel about not being great at getting my crap together as quickly as I would like , small steps😊
Dear Remi I found your videos & wonderful gift they have been to me! You have become my cleaning buddy😊 I love listen to hear your voice as I'm working. I suffer with PTSD and Major Depression and last month tested my sanity. My mom came home from rehab; her getting use the home attendants and the fact that only older brother 2 out four children have been helping her. All week long, I donated craft supplies to a school, put things in the recycling bin and I can see the floor! Please don't change your videos in anyway. It's because of you, I finally got things under control so I have space to enjoy my sewing machine. I'll keep you posted! Hugs! ❤
Having a bad mental health,day, pregnant and with a toddler, the house is a disaster, but this video just helped me feel less bad about it, as this just happens in families. And seeing you get it done, motivates me to do the same once I feel about better! Thank you ❤️
Looking at your cupboards for the brief moment, I feel like your items are ill fitting in there because you are lacking shelves. You need some more shelving to put in things of the correct size. 💜 I enjoy listening to you, your voice is lovely!
I love your videos. Not only for the cleaning inspiration but you are so wise. The number of people that you help with your videos who struggle with any form of disability or delay... I'm sure is huge. ❤
