Become emotionally independent and take control of your happiness! 4 easy and useful steps to get your emotions detached from whatever or whoever that you have been attached yourself to
1. accept it (don’t run away with it) 2. put a label on it ( recognize the emotions, know how you feel and you’ll feel less of it 3. realize that thoughts are only thoughts, and not your self (you have the power to control it) 4. it is okay for you to not be okay (nothing in the world lasts, it comes in cycle) So much relatable , I hope that everyone will have a happy life and get through on every challenges with their life. AJA! 💛
1. Accept that the feeling is there 2. Label them. ((Identify what this feelings are. By conciously recognize the emotion, it reduce the effect.)) 3. Realize that the thought in your head is only your thought. ((It is not you. Thought are thought. You are you.)) 4. It is okay for you to not feel okay. ((Allow yourself to feel sad or angry. Sooner or later youre gonna overcome it. You are not gonna be angry for ther rest of your life))
I really feel like crying soo badly i meet a guy he treated me like heaven 6months passed by very happily n now he is completely a different person how can someone be soo selfish I m not able to think n react i m emotionally broken into pieces I know he never expressed his love for me but acted in a certain way now he says that never did he love me it was just an attraction 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I wannna get outttt of thisss pleaseeeee god
Remember how worthy you are. He didn't deserve you. You should be happy that you are not trapped in his manipulation games. Move on. Forgive him and forget. Also, forgive your emotional dependency, and please, be independent in the future. That is a phase of your life that you learn what true love is. Your feeling is true but his is not. This is also about self respect or self love. Don't let people love you wrong. Please be happy girl. You are worthy
Lots of great tips here that reminded me of my mindfulness practices. By recognizing your thoughts as thoughts, you take away their power. Even your strongest emotions cannot harm you when you cradle them with awareness and compassion
I think these steps might actually work for me. I'm currently at the learning to recognise what each emotion is and how it feels inside my body. Thankyou for sharing this how to video
You're such an angel. Thank you so much for taking time to help us with your light. I'm currently going through a funk and this is something that I needed to hear; better yet, it is an answer to my prayers. God bless and much abundance to you 💚
informative. but, how exactly to achieve detachment ? some people (like me) are like magnets, they get emotionally attached to people around them...and when they're gone,they have nothing left. what to do about it ? be it friends, boyfriend, colleague... Not having expectations is one way,but its human tendency man ! I'm really frustated (labelled it)
Mandira Debnath oh my god ,you perfectly describe my situation,when I was young I use to cry a lot if someone visit us for a vew days and leave,but now I grew up not having expectations on any one,and most of the times I dont feel anything,no happiness no angry no sadness no feeling at all,I think I just gave up ,and decide not to let my feelings hurt me ever again,so I shut them.down.
You're just a human who's emotionally keen to other humans (it's a good thing). If the world needs more of anything it's definitely a stronger sense of humanity.
I am going through a really bad heartbreak, I want to learn how I can detach myself from this person emotionally, I am frustrated and mentally unhealthy.
I think it comes down to building up an independent sense of self-knowing who you are apart from anyone else. It takes time and effort, and many things mentioned here already will help, such as meditation, reassuring yourself, and engaging in hobbies. I am finding that committing to tasks and routines and activities that I want in my life just because it’s who I want to be is helpful. I am encouraged by the studies she talks about in the video that show awareness makes a difference. You are probably more self aware now than in the past and that is something to feel grateful for.
Wow... While I was watching this video and being super sad about my bf ignoring me, he texted me and I could feel all my sadness vanish. That really made me finally realize that THIS NEEDS TO STOP
This is wonderful... I don’t plan to use it to improve my feelings after a breakup, but because there is a toxic member of my family. I’m planning on using this to control my angry feelings about this person.
im inlove with someone and its a long distance relationship that i know will not work out and it hurts so bad and im trying to detach while still in a good place so when the time comes that we must separate it wont hurt as much. i know he is confused that im insecure at this moment since all is well but i guess im grieving now while hes still around so the break up in the future will hurt my heart a lot less. hearing you say that nothing will last and it will dissolve and bring new things is hard for me to accept but at the same time im accepting that. i wish our love and concrete "ill be with you forever no matter what" is true but i know its slowly fading and i absolutely sense this and it hurts my heart deeply. i guess its best to detach now than to hold on to something i know will ultimately end in a worse heartache than now. Thank You for you words and advice.
thanks it's a very helpful video it's amazing i even try with all the rejection received this life and of course i do need some connection and positive helpful connection
I’m in a 4 year relationship I am a college student and I’ve realized I wanted him to always be around I was so in love I wanted him to just cuddle me and sleep with me . I thought he felt the same way but I guess not ? Everytime I would ask him to stay he would say “ you always want me to stay over I already see you all the time “ . Now I realize I need to detach my feelings and become more independent . I’m kinda at the point where I stopped crying for him at night and now I’m at the stage of just wanting to detach myself so he can feel it but I’m such a emotional person I get attached too easily and now I’m stuck and I can’t detach from him he’s my happiness and I don’t know how to feel my own happiness by myself
I'm at the point where I don't know if I'm being paranoid or something is really not what it seems in my relationship. Like always I'll follow my heart and that means break it and leave. Thanks for the video, what you said will definitely help after break up.
One advise. Don't chase women. Women don't feel love the same way as men, they play emotional games they don't even understand, consider children. You need to have options and look like a man with options not only her. If you come across as having no options then she will over value herself as too good for him, nice guys are called creepy by women but bad boys as mysterious and cool. I know it sucks because when men truly love they like to show it all. Most women find attractive when they don't know if a man likes them or not. These are validations steps that makes her fall in love, they are emotional creatures you don't need to understand them, just check their actions not words. Don't ever give too much, only give emotionally when the person deserves it, cheap things are replaceable. Only love quietly the women who loves you loudly. Sometimes treat her with absence, sometimes love her. Take your time doing things without her. There is too much on this subject but good luck.
I'm a cancer and I very much focus all of my energy on my best friend. She doesn't know it, but her and family really saved me in a time of need, when my family wasn't there. We hang out almost everyday, but she has this problem where she'll ghost me if she does'nt want to hang out, which is understandable- but she doesn't know that I literally rely on her mentally and hate being alone. Im trying to learn how to rely more on myself, but it's so upsetting that i'm not enough for myself.
@@kamrynyoung1583 to you know how many types of people Are in this world who seems like they Are normal but they arent ? And they live amoung us where Ever you Are in this world
Thank you ! Can you make a video specifically on how to deal with jealous extended family who are always cursing and wishing the worst for you . How to not let their negative energy affect you ? That energy is creating fear and draining me
Good question, because that's happens so frequently. And by the way, I think this (the lack of self-awareness) is the major reason why people develop Borderline Personality Disorder. In such case, you need a helper, someone you can trust and work as a team in the effort of identifying and labeling your emotions. Can be your mother, romantic partner, close friend or therapist. At times, you will just angry at your "helper", then team work will become very hard to accomplish, as you'll likely become hostile and produce an emotional reaction in your "helper" too. But that can be softened if both you talk and agree in forehand about how to deal with this kind of situation. Sometimes all your "helper" can do is explain in forehand his boundaries and how will they be reinforced. Yet, when you are dealing with someone with a mental disorder, it may be impossible to get to such agreement, so you won't be helpful with just assertiveness, boundaries and compassion. That's when "non-aggressive punishment" comes into place, but you need some sort of dominance to do it. That can be, for instance, when a husband suspends internet usage his wife who hates boredom, or a therapist suspends the appointments of a client who is overreacting too much and making it unproductive.
Murilo Perrone thanks for the advices and tips, i appreciate it :) But like i said, i got over it, i don't talk to her anymore but we finished our relationship in a peaceful way, i'm moving on now
Hey so I have this amazing relationship where I’m excepted for who I am but as days passed by I realized that I depend on him to be happy to be okay to feel a live and I thought if we took a break that would help me to depend on my self to feel my own emotions without depending on him but sometimes i feel like I don’t need the break, i miss him i feel so alone without him wt should i do? should I complete the break or should i stop and try to stop depending on him while he is with me
OK there is a friend of mine.. He used to talk to me daily it's been a one year to our friendship. I got used to of that routine and I got attached to him.. Now he doesn't text me on daily basis like before even though it's quarantine.. He still texts but he is not the same anymore I got used to of him.. How do I detach these feelings
How did a young lady like you become so Fuckin smart I’m way older than you and you are so much more got it together than me thanks for making this video you have helped me so much
I’m so hurt. I️ love this girl, but she doesn’t love me the same way. We tried dating and she didn’t think I️t worked. I️ need to detach but she deserves love but it’s so hard for me to deliver. Idk what to do. Please help someone
Detach and let go you have to have less contact ..and the less contact the more you will get in control of your emotions and finally detach from your desire with that person.
