Am I the only one who kinda, from a male perspective, would feel very offended if people tel women what to wear because we couldn’t “control ourselves” like how degrading is that? Like I would be so offended if someone thought I only talked to them because they were wear *gasp* shorts. That’s also why I don’t like dress codes that much
Nameless i understand that and I think it’s perfectly okay if you want to do that because you want to. But I’m just saying that It’s kinda insulting to assume men are only talking to someone for there body
isn’t “smokin hot” a pretty sexual term? and isn’t the appeal of modesty to not be sexualized? why is this woman in my recommended and who is paying for this to be advertised?
yeah, she's a hypocrite ten different ways. "Looks nice" is subjective too. She's been shamed her entire life by her religion and believes that the human body is shameful and women should hide. But wears makeup to be more attractive.
shes obviously using the phrase "smokin hot" to catch peoples eyes to watch her video. what she really meant is she want to be attractive but not overtly sexualizing herself in the process. theres a difference.
Because men already dress modestly. I want to see more short shorts on men. But unfortunately men’s fashion is typically just not focused on showing the goods. Because they don’t have to be sexy to be seen or heard. The real sexism is in what we are “ allowed” to wear because we have been “ liberated”. Give me a break men are still in control of what we wear and what they get to have access too. It’s a mans world still. And dressing immodestly is really only putting us right where they want us. Rise up ladies.
I’m sure those videos exist. However that has NOTHING to do with this video😂 if you don’t like the content, don’t watch. Watch what you do like. I’m glad there is a conservative influencer. I don’t know any other youtubers that follow my values and I love these videos and I am NOT oppressed nor do I dress for anyone but myself.
Literally my principal in catholic school. Luckily this catholic school was chill compared to others in regard to religiosity. But my lord tge dress coad was shameful.
If we actually dressed to for ourselves we’d have no issue dressing our best when alone at home. No one that says they dress for themselves actually does, they’re deceiving themselves I mean this as general, yes there will be some girls who do dress up for themselves as well. Tho even then they may not do it every day and may not wear anything too fancy like heals. Point is, most do it to impress others. And even those who dress up for themselves may also have another intention to impress others. I truly wish most women didnt dress to impress society, there would be a lot more modesty and self-worth
@@SS-ry5yv I actually dress really nice at home.... regularly... people don't do that I do it even if no one is coming over and no one's going to see me.... I just feel yucky if I don't like I'm sick or something because those are the only times I don't bother
iit’2 2ollux bruh ikr, i’ve commented on so many of her videos just asking whyyyyyyyy, why are you so close minded and ignorant!!!! also just her “facts” are WRONG, they are her opinions that she is forcing on people as facts. Omg i can’t believe she is this ignorant. 😒
ooohooo, what a detective you are, lol. those are just pictures of classic and elegant ballgowns, like c'mon sis, those make sense to someone who's into fashion, not an actual gotcha or a discount to the point of the video.
Why you gotta dress for others, though? To be accepted In this toxic society? The country I live in is based off of conservative views. The freaking United States. 😤
Hot Cheeto hi! I just want to point out that she (Abby) wants to have a voice on this platform in order to talk about her opinion. That’s what RU-vid is for. People of all walks of life are here. Telling someone to ‘leave’ as you have done ( no disrespect, just saying) is not opening up this convo. We should be able to express our opinions, differing or not without being told it’s not our place. Abby has done that in the video, and I expressed that I disagreed here in the comments.
she’s not forcing her ways to other females. she made this video for people who WANT to dress like this. people really have the audacity to say it’s okay for other girls to show hella skin but when a girl prefers to cover up, it’s an issue? come on 😩
Legging advocate here. Just wanna say that it totally depends on the legging. A thick, high quality, structured pair of leggings is just as modest as your first pair of pants.
@Anglo-Saxon In Asia Alright then do I, along with other lesbian and gay people, just not exist? Definitely not gonna be reproducing, and I can't say that I want men's attention. Also, a lot of people don't give two shits about attracting a partner lol, a lot of people care more about making themselves happy and comfortable than showing off to the opposite gender
Row Benn we can’t get away from her. She’s buying ads constantly and they’re filling up every bodies recommendations. The amount of times I clicked to remove her ads is astounding to me. I finally came to her channel to see what everybody else is saying about it. And the point of this video is for her to convince somebody of her point of views, as are most of her videos. So you are extremely wrong, this video is not for people like you who agree with her
Modesty isn’t disagreeing with that. Modesty involves dressing in a way that represents how you want to be seen on the inside. If you don’t want to, why are you here? Lol
Whether the boys are distracted isn’t my problem- I’m wearin the mini skirt if I want! But if you want to dress modestly go you!!! But there is no “should” or “shouldn’t” there is only whatever every woman wants!
Nameless that’s valid as hell! if that works for you more power to ya ! just remember that other people in the same situation might want to do differently and ya gotta remain respectful of that!
Sunnyside Storytime Married men shouldn’t be in those clubs in the first place. Also, what does this have to do with it being guys’ responsibility to watch themselves??
Hot Cheeto I actually do know it’s for faith reasons, she’s an Orthodox Jew. I’m not saying the way she dresses is the sexist part I’m saying the phrases she uses and mentality she has is sexist. I’ll respect anyone who dresses modestly for any reason. What I won’t respect is the sexist micro-aggressions she uses. In one vid she says “dressing modestly is about facing the reality that men are visual creatures” this basically implies that women’s bodies will always be sexualized and women are okay with that. In the same video she ends by saying “so ladies let’s dress like the *ladies* we are” she is invalidating women’s identity and implying that only real women dress modestly. Her videos are pushing a mentality that perpetuates rape culture. There are so many creators that make faith based videos about dressing modestly without doing any of what I mentioned she is not one of them. As for watching her video I got an add for one of her videos. I watched the whole thing and decided I couldn’t make my opinion off of one video so I watched this one, and it was enough to make up my mind.
Do you look at every woman wearing a dress, leggings, anything that shows shoulders etc. with overly sexual eyes? Because if you're creepily staring at someone for wearing something hardly revealing, I think you need to check your minds judgment.
Perverts are everywhere and they may be watching. I would choose to play it safe and dress right rather than have all my stuff out. That’s just me though. I don’t got nobody to impress and I don’t want eyes on me. But some women do so...
Raine A yes, that was sort of my point. That she seems to appreciate the female form in a more “revealing” dress....so it seems to me at least. Maybe she feels it’s ok on the wall, just not on an actual person? I’m not sure. I feel there’s some wiggle room dressing as a conservative, dresses such as the ones on her wall I feel would be perfectly suitable for certain occasions. I suppose the rule is....just don’t go overboard. Don’t show too much cleavage or anything too short. That’s basically what I would go by no matter what I believed. Many places you can be asked to leave if your outfit is too outrageously revealing.
wear whatever the f you want. edit ish: i said this because some women might feel pressured to wear modest clothes when you can wear whatever you want.
I’m sorry, did you just objectify yourself? “Smoking hot”. “Modestly and catch a guys eye”. Ok let’s stop there. Your previous videos state women need to dress to keep men’s eyes off of them and not distract them. Now we want to dress to be “smoking hot”?
My personal view on leggings: good for working out. But I’m anti wearing leggings for pants normally on a personal level because I like being the fashion police to myself and I refuse to be basic. I’d wear a ball gown to the grocery store if I had the confidence.
I wore a massive 1980's wedding dress to a Marilyn Manson show like fifteen years ago, it got torn to actual pieces. Like it was hanging off of me by the time it was over, but it was fun to wear a gown for no reason. You should do it if you want to.
Whatever is considered “sexy” is subjective. I could be in sweats and my boyfriend would still say I’m “sexy.” Or, you could be dressing “modestly” and still be sexy. Now are there types of clothing that may be too revealing for certain settings (work, family events, etc.)? Absolutely. But to say that sexy and modest are on the opposite ends of the spectrum is not accurate.
Hot Cheeto huh what? Idk why she thinks conservatives have ownership on looking good without being inappropriate. I dress quite modestly, I’m just saying she is making it seem like it will ruin your life to wear a tight fitting outfit or w/e.
Hot Cheeto because her ads keep popping up on every bodies recommended like she’s some kind of virus. Eventually somebody is gonna click and tell her what they think
I should be able to wear whatever I want. If I'm distracting, that's not my fault. Like a child who isn't paying attention in class, that's their fault. Whoever is distracted by the way I look, that is their fault, not mine. I'm wearing clothes.
Neha Singh this. 👏 People choose to sexualize anything and everything, so we constantly get told to "cover up!" I hate that so much. Your comment just made my day. ❤️
@@s2c1mw7mP5l no it wasn’t I am not a liberal and I’m trying to find modest clothing that arent $100. What I find is that it’s either $100’s or it simply shows everything I have and more. It angers me that covering myself up vacuums my wallet away. It shouldn’t be like that.
My conclusion with her channel is the she's uncomfortable with being sexy. In my humble opinion the way she channels being "modest" she should get comfortable with being sexy & learn that part of herself
There’s some people who would never dress sexy. And that’s her choice 🤷♀️ just like our choice is to choose if we care about dressing modestly or not. Not everybody is made to wear crop tops and shorts with their butts hanging out and that’s fine
Blue Crusader are you seriously this bored to tell a teen that she isn’t “marriage material” just bc of her style choice in one photo ☠️. you have no idea how damaging this is, yikes. 😬
Cry me a f***ing river. If someone posts a video called "Why you should invest in Bitcoin" I don't say "My money, my choice! You're not the boss of me! REEEEE!"
@Mrs Kay I respect myself by wearing stuff that I wanna wear and feel confident in myself. I like short shorts. I like tops that reveal cleavage. My body is mine, I'll wear what I want, thanks.
Don’t let these negative comments keep you from sharing your ideas on this topic. She even said she understands women who do not choose to dress this way. It is good for young women in this day and age to see that dressing in crop tops and mini skirts is not the only way to fit in. That is mostly what you see on social media nowadays. Not all women feel comfortable dressing that way and would like to not feel alone in that aspect.
Thank you for speaking out. It really bothers me how all of these comments go off on how we shouldn't dress for men...when she never said those words even once. So thank you so much for getting and understanding what she was trying to do.
this is so sad. i hope young girls don’t see this and think that this is how it has to be. instead of teaching us how to dress modestly and cover ourselves up let’s teach men not to sexualize, objectify, and rape women. dressing “sexy” doesn’t make you any less of a valid, “feminine”, and “lovely” woman. seriously shame on you.
@@Sunnysidestoriesandmusic No I dress the way I want because it gives me confidence and makes me feel good about myself, not for anyone else and especially not for men
Yes. The whole goddamn point of fashion is to communicate who you are. If I wear all black, people assume I'm a goth. If I dress preppy, people assume I'm posh. Etc.
i’m going to be a positive comment. and literally all these women commenting here are probably the same ones who are like “we need to bring up all women! feminism!” yet hate on this woman when she’s doing her, and helping other women who want to be more modest, like myself. I appreciate you, dont listen to the hate girly.
If I may speak for a large portion of the comment section, most of the people here don't really care what she wears. Personally, I don't care if you wear a burka, I don't care if you wear a bikini. The criticism of Abby is that she does, and she degrades all women who don't agree with her. She relates a woman's value to her relationship to men, which is not helpful to anyone.
Hey people who are hating on Abby and her values, this channel isn’t for you. Please leave this space for likeminded traditional woman, and we will leave your spaces alone :). Everyone deserves to have their own values, that is the principle of free speech
Tbh if she wants to follow these types of views then I don’t see a problem as long as she doesn’t look down on others for not following her views and doesn’t try to change the way others like to dress.
i would love to dress modestly i guess to please my parents, but the main reason why i stopped being that way is because it made me incredibly insecure about my body. i don’t want to be frumpy but i also want to be comfortable in my own skin and show it off for myself.
As a young girl (im 12) I feel that’s it’s important that woman should be able to dress how they feel. A woman shouldn’t have to hide her body because a man can’t “control” himself. Woman shouldn’t and don’t dress up for male validation or attention. They dress up because it makes them feel good. Covering up doesn’t make you safe from men and nor will it stop some of them from harming you. It’s not about what you have on it’s about what the men picture you with it off.
I dress modestly because I am uncomfortable dressing in short or revealing items. Also I find there is something beautiful about loving parts of you that only you can see, without the added complements. I do not care how other people dress. Dress however you want. I only have a problem with what you wear if it’s extremely inappropriate for the occasion. For instance going commando, wearing a short skirt, and a clear tube top, at grandfathers funeral.
Abby, thanks so much for sharing and breaking down the outfits. I came from a very conservative background and totally get it. Love, love, love the ideas. Thank you for sharing. I feel inspired. I have a friend that always looks put together and after watching your video I realized she is doing exactly what you are talking about.
hey guys if you clicked on the video then leave a bad comment that’s just rude not everyone wants to be modest but she’s trying to promote it for girls that do so be kind pls❤️❤️
I LOVED all of your outfits, but that last outfit was my favorite. That dress is gorgeous! I really appreciated your take on modest attire, many people can view “dressing modestly” as frumpy when it’s so far from it. I’d loved to see more content from you on this topic and more outfit inspirations!
Classically Abby While I don’t agree with everything you do, I admire you for being able to put up with the hate. Everyone is entitled to live how they want and I feel a lot of these comments are uncalled for. Anyways...God bless you.
OMG she is literally catering to one type of woman (Conservative women obviously) if you don't agree you should not be here. It's like a homophobic person going to a gay persons page just to post negative comments. I agree with a lot of what she is saying from a religious perspective and I completely understand people who disagree with her but she has a point where people like to degrade women who like the idea of having a husband and caring for them and dressing modestly. She has her ideals you have yours and lets try to be respectful to each other.
Eve B If a woman wears a shirt that she feels confident in, why judge her?! she feels comfy with her body. stop telling woman that you can’t wear clothes that show skin. they are CONFIDENT. support the woman don’t tear them down! also, men aren’t distracted by clothing. :(
Maybe she’s talking about thin leggings that bare it all? I had bad impressions with leggings initially but nowadays there are really good options of leggings, and the high quality ones (not necessarily expensive) aren’t super thin yet still super comfy
Hey offended people. You realize you don’t have to watch these videos. It’s for people who want to dress modest for themselves and feel more comfortable doing so. Just like a woman should be allowed to wear revealing clothing and it’s disrespectful to judge her, the same applies for modesty. She’s not hurting you by sharing these tips and trying to look good while making sure not to get attention she doesn’t want. If you don’t like that there’s no need to try to ruin it for people that do. Maybe you be happier if you got a life and stopped harassing women you don’t know on the internet. Thanks.
Maybe if she got off everyone else's RU-vid recommendations and her videos stopped getting shoved down everyone's throats? I don't like getting ads that tell me to dress 'modest' and be a good housewife EVERY damn day.
Thank you! My point exactly. These people waste so much time trying to drag her down or knit pick her words And just because something shows up on you're recommended or ads DOESNT MEAN YOU HAVE TO FUCKING CLICK ON IT! You have the ABSOLUTE ability to scroll past. Just like I DO Everytime I see a videos or ad I don't like or give a SH about. It's also called self control.
Gotta be honest, not a fan of how everyone is coming at her for her opinion. I admire that she's expressing her thoughts about it. Not everyone is going to agree with dressing a certain way, and that's okay. So in that aspect, everyone coming for her decision to dress this way is wrong.
I notice a lot of negative comments here and I'm not usually one for modesty but I do try to look nice and not inappropriate. I understand what she is saying and love the classic feminine nature of her outfits. It's something I would like to steer a little more towards. Just because it's modest doesn't mean it's not beautiful. Favorite outfit would be #1 that's definitely my kinda style. The one with the casual dress and Jean jacket was the next for me. I really like having a balance so I'm definitely following you here and on Instagram now so I can take some inspiration from you! Be blessed! 🙏
Fun quarantine drinking game: take a shot every time she says “modest”, take two every time she says something misogynistic or sexist I’m about to be plastered in about 15 min🙃
These outfits are what I’d wear in high school. Which was 5 years ago. Not to mention I had a very strict dress code. Now I wear whatever I want. Now if you wanna dress modestly cool go ahead but don’t judge ppl who don’t. 👌
I'm 21 and a conservative. I think it's ridiculous to dress modestly so "men dont stare" that's ridiculous. I'm going to wear my mini skirts with ripped up fishnet stockings with ridiculously huge platform heels. If I think I look cute that's all that matters also who says I'm dressing for men? I WANT COMPLIMENTS FROM CUTE GIRLS NOT MEN!
Thank you for this wonderful video! I am a Christian and I make it a goal to make my entire closet modest. In this modern world, it is really hard to find modest clothes that don’t need to be layered. I loved this video, and I will definitely be watching more!
I love this I absolutely love this I mean I love all of your content but your content on modesty as well as your singing videos those two categories are my absolute favorite.
Seriously what is wrong with everyone in the comment section!? I was raised in the church and grew up a pastors kid. So what if she is more covered up. She is giving HER opinion. I wear leggings ALL the time and tank tops and I wasn't offended by this video at all.
Sara C I think the problem is the way she phrases it. If you look at some of her other videos there are so many sexist micro-aggressions. In one at the end she says “so ladies let’s dress like the *ladies* we are” this implied that only real women dress modestly and she was invalidating women weather she realized it or not. Also a lot of people simply don’t agree with the idea that instead of teaching boys to control themselves we should teach girls to cover themselves up to avoid being sexualized. She also said “dressing modestly is about facing the reality that men are visual creatures” this tells young girls that no matter what they do their bodies will be sexualized, so they should cover up to be sexualized as little as possible and that is toxic. I will respect anyone who dresses modestly weather it be for religious reasons or not but I expect the same in return. Her videos are full of implications that “immodest” dressers don’t deserve respect.
@@rebeccafrances7709 You also have to remember that you are viewer. You do not know her personally so there is no need to get upset or offended if what she is saying is not harming you.
Sara C im a teenager and this video is pushing the mentality that my body will always be sexualized and that’s okay. the same mentality that goes with thinking women who get raped were asking for it. the same mentality that tells young girls that it’s okay to disrupt their education because a boy was distracted. the same mentality that tells me if i get raped i can’t abort the baby. so yeah it’s hurting me. i am in no way saying the way people dress is hurting me, im saying the micro aggressions and the thought process she encourages hurts me. i don’t mean that all people who dress modestly agree with this thinking i just don’t approve of the implications and micro aggressions *she* uses. like i said i respect people who dress modestly for whatever reason. what i don’t respect is this mentality and the micro aggressions, sexism, and rape culture that often come with it. there are *so* many creators who dress modestly that don’t encourage this mentality and she is not one of them.
It’s great If you want to dress conservative but women’s outfits don’t have to revolve around what men think We should be able to wear what makes us feel beautiful and confident. If a man is really worth your time he should be able to see you in short shorts and still be able to love your personality. And wearing a top that’s a bit cropped or a dress that’s on the shorter side Doesn’t mean you’re trying to get male attention it could just mean your dressing for yourself. If dressing conservative makes you feel more comfortable don’t feel pressured to dress revealing but if you’re someone who likes to dress less conservative sometimes that’s ok too. Sorry this was a long paragraph I would love to hear other opinions on this topic :)
I didn't see all the thumbs down until after I posted my comment. I just wanted to add that at first I was really upset and thought, "That must really hurt." After thinking it over for a few minutes, I realized that the thumbs down, even though I am sure they are terribly painful, they show how desperately needed the message is. Thanks for being brave and putting yourself out there. Please keep it up. There are ladies out here would love to hear your content, the push back shows how desperately thirsty us conservative girls are for more influencers with similar values.
Funny thing is that this would be still considered immodest by more Conservative people. Showing a bit of leg, jewelery, flashy colours, high heels, tight pants could all be considered immodest. And believe me your still attracting the "male gaze". There is a whole fetish for that. So why worry so much and dress just for yourself however that might look. modest or not.
What are Orthodox Jewish rules on dressing modestly? You briefly mentioned elbows covered and skirts at the beginning of the video but I’d be interested in knowing more!
In general, Orthodox Jewish women (like me) cover the collar bone, elbows and knees with a skirt. In addition, the clothes shouldn't be skin tight. Some women also wear tights or pantyhose as well.
Esther Neissany Thats very similar to the Catholic Marian modesty standard. Covering two fingers below collarbone, three-quarter length sleeves and skirts below the knee.
Everyone is hating on her, but like you came to this video knowing what your getting. She does give her reasons on why she’s modest, but she’s not criticizing anyone who doesn’t follow her style choices. She’s just giving advice to people who have that same lifestyle as her. You can dress however you want. So why can’t she want to dress modestly? It’s kinda similar to women who choose to wear hijabs. They can if they want to, and give advice to people who want to do the same. I feel like people are holding her to a different standard because she’s Jewish or Christian.
unlike most of the people in this comment section i liked this video i’m an independent baptist so dressing modestly is a big thing for me even though it may not be a “cool” thing to be doing at 15, so thank you for some more ideas!
i rlly dont like dressing modestly by your standards but i never dress to show off or try to look hot or sexy. i dress in whatever i am comfortable in. i am a conservative but i dont agree with a lot of your modest fashion advice. that being said, i think its amazing that you dress in the way that you like and youre not conforming for anybody and i do agree with a ton of your other views. god bless and much love :)
