I'm in the same boat...I feel so lonely and empty sometimes...but you got this! You will eventually get through this and you are strong enough to get through this!
Remind yourself that this too will pass and remind yourself that you’ll get so much time with them in the future so there’s no need to worry. I know this is easier said than done because I feel the same a lot studying abroad but it does get better and it does get easier. Hope this helps
Damn, I'm going to enter university in 4 months and that's why I'm seeing this video. I'm scared of being away from home. I hope you guys will do great and find this video useful for your current situation
I go to a university that’s about 4 hours away from my home. I definitely suffer homesickness, quite severe actually. I agree with what some people have said. I’ve gone home for my birthday, thanksgiving and winter break. Once you return from home it is so SO hard getting back into the groove. I literally said to my roommate the day I left for winter break “I’m so excited to go home but I know when I’m back in a month I will suffer again”, and here we are. I think the one thing we should all be thankful for is that the reason we are homesick is because we love our home, love our family and am lucky to have them. I assume people that don’t like their family probably get homesick when they go home from college. Either way, homesickness is normal, it’s a painful reality! How I solve it: 1. Get your mind off home! Go eat with friends, watch your favorite sport on your laptop, talk with your roommate. Just do something to get it off your mind. 2. (I can’t stress this enough) FACETIME YOUR FAMILY! I know like stated in the video and in comments it’s best not to reach out to your family but for me, if I’m so homesick I call my mom, listen to her voice, or even text her! Texting great too because you know they are there, but if you have a hard time hearing the voice of the people you miss texting is great. However, I FaceTime my family once a week! The FaceTime is usually an hour to hour and a half and at the end I feel so good, and it’s nice having that! 3. TALK ABOUT IT! Everyone, at some point in their life goes though some form of homesickness weather it’s a new job, school, city, etc. Talk about it to someone that will listen to it 4. CRY, CRY, CRY!! Crying is so important. Let out the emotions! Think of it like a dam. If you just keep holding in the tears, everything you will totally flood. If you cry from time to time, let it out, it will empty that dam. Right now, as I write this I cried! It’s normal, it’s what our body does to let our emotion. REMEMBER, Homesickness is so hard, it’s HELL(!!!!!) but we do everything for a reason! We go to college to get our degrees! It will go by so fast and the next thing you know your will (hopefully) have a job in your hometown or near and you can visit your fam! Just reach out! Don’t suffer though this alone! That is the worst thing you can do! Get your mind off it! And if you just can’t, call home, text your family! Have your parents send a care package! It’s not just you in this struggle, it’s you, your parents, your siblings! The whole family is going through your homesickness, they understand! Use the resource, call them, cry to them, and talk through it! I don’t care if I called my mom every day even for 10 minutes. If it helps, go for it! Good luck anyone and maybe in 4 years when I graduate (hopefully) I will look back and see that all of this homesickness was worth it, because I will have my degree in hand!
i just started college about 2 days ago and i genuinely feel like i can’t take it anymore. i feel lonely and super homesick and i’m always on the verge of crying. i honestly don’t know how much longer i can put up with this. i miss home and my family so bad it hurts. i want to go home.
Since I was 17, I left my hometown to go to another city to study. And despite the fact that 3 years have passed, each time it feels worse, I don't think it will ever go. I feel so lonely here, I only made a real friend and she goes back to her city on vacation so I'm alone again, and I can't talk about it with anyone because my parents would worry and and I don't want them to believe that all the effort and money they spend for me to be here is in vain. But I miss my home so much, my pets, my siblings and my parents. When school starts it's a little better just because I'm too busy to feel sad about home, but when I have nothing to do the sadness hits me and I need to go back home but I can't. I feel such like a baby because I'm crying and the worst thing is that I have social anxiety so I'm locked in my apartment all the time if I have to go out it's torture but I go crazy locked up with my thoughts all the time. It helps a bit to see that I'm not alone in this and there are several people going through the same thing, I send a hug to all of you. Possibly no one will read this but I needed to get it out of my system.
It’s such a weird feeling. Today I went to the aquarium and it was such a nice day and thought it would be even better if I spent it with my parents. I came back home I found out that I lost a sticker that I bought and started crying for hours and hours. It’s like a huge wave of depression and I’ve been feeling like that for days now. Every time I think about school and work I just want to do anything to not go to class or work I don’t know how I’m gonna survive this semester. I’m just sk glad that it’s a normal thing and a lot of people share the same feelings (like I saw in the comments) that makes me feel so normal and I know that it’ll pass
Definitely will try this…. I am severely homesick at the moment… it’s truly tough emotionally because I know I have to do homework and study but it’s just draining and I am always tired. I know that I am out of my comfort zone so I am just pushing through it. For sure will be binging your videos.
@@winim01 thank you for the concern, I got over it. Distancing myself from some people helped too. Also as school and things got busier, I distracted myself from thinking that way. I think I had too much alone time.😜
@@sofiakoblyuk19 I totally understand u. I'm not a freshman, I'm a 2nd year student. During my first semester when I was in pre-university, I was severely homesick and lonely too. And now I'm in my 2nd year (new place, not the pre-university anymore), the classes have been online since the first day of my 1st year. Tomorrow I'll go there for the first time ever and I'm worried I'll be homesick and feel lonely again even tho I got used to be lonely during pre-university days. But I think it's not gonna be as long and as bad as last time as I've already experienced it. I'm an introvert with social anxiety but people always think I'm just an arrogant person.
@@winim01 me too sis . I've just started my freshman year and today I've moved to college . Just a few hours ago my parents dropped me off and everyone said their goodbyes and right after I started bawling my eyes HARD . In college , it's as if I"m a ghost , everyone socializes and no one ever looks at me even . I just don't know what to do . I just wanna be surrounded by my family and friends right now , but I'm out of town with unfamiliar surroundings . It's as if a protection over my head is ripped off .This feeling is hopeless . will I get over this homesickness ?
@@Foreveryoung5578 it's ok. It's just a matter of time. The homesickness will surely go away but takes time depends on u. Maybe after a month or two months. Or maybe as fast as half a month only. You'll either get friends or get used to being lonely. For my case, I'm used to being lonely already 😂. I know how homesickness feels. It sucks. U just miss your home n family so bad. The new environment gives some kind of culture shock. But trust me, it will go away. That feeling will go away. When I was having it I also thought like it would never go away because it was just so bad. Well, apparently it did go away. U wanna know something? During my first day in college, I said "I'll never miss this place". Well, guess who misses that place now.. Hmm
Feeling homesick ryt now , and I can't control my tears and been looking at the family pictures but it ain't helping. Glad I found people who are feeling like me
thank you so much for this video. i’m feeling awful and already dreading going onto campus because i know i’ll be homesick, and i’ll definitely be using your tips
Discovering this video in Sep 2022 after searching on RU-vid for homesickness tips AHHAHAHA so thank you Clarence for this video and it will certainly help other people like me who are currently away from home. It makes me feel better that I’m not the only one going through this emotion. To anyone who is feeling homesick - it will pass and we will see our loved ones soon enough and make happy memories while we're at it🥺😬
I moved out of my parents house a month ago, leaving almost 10 years of being a shutin behind… I miss my family, oddly enough I miss being alone and my cat especially. We grew up together and I just haven’t figured out how to make friends and socialize as it was never really in my life before. It’s definitely not the same as college life because I couldn’t afford my board and so I live off campus online and its really been so isolating which I thought I would like but I just can’t
Currently I’m at a summer program that transitions you from high school to college but ever since my mom closed the door to leave me behind it became so real I never imagined to be in this much pain every single day just thinking about what was and the happiness I felt before coming but I know it will get better and that it’s a big thing that I’m doing I just have to persevere even if it means I cry a lot at times there are always options
I came abroad before few days, i am not able to live here , everytime I decide i would overcome this some or the other problem reminds me of my house. I have never been away from home and this new country completely feels like a hell to me. The people around me are so mean and won't care about my existence. I am going back to home soon bcuz if I stay here i will became mentally ill.
I moved out of my home with my mom for just 3 years because she's a teacher and we had to do some stuff related to her job, I'm 13 turning 14 and these 3 years will be the years where my body goes through all sorts of stuff to develop and I won't be the little girl anymore at all, people won't be used to me at all nor would I be, Especially my brother and my dad. I holded it in for months since we got the news and we got to the home we were gonna spend the next 3 years in, and when it was complete silent while having dinner with my mom i just broke into tears begging her to call my dad and brother to come here with us, she tried but they had their own works to do too. Hearing their voice gives me warmth but talking to them makes me cry again, my moms concerned about my health and I can't stop crying. My mom says that I'd get over it when school starts, yes. But I'm not that good at making friends and people here don't talk the language im familiar with, But still, I just wish this never happened and I just want to go back to the way it was. But I have to deal with it :,)
@@wonderfulnoodles OMGGG im rooting for you ♡♡ but to just add, my first three days in dorm were the worst :"D i was trying not to cry most of the time even while in class SKSKS but i felt better at the 4th day because i had tons of free time so i went sightseeing! i hope you are feeling better :> you'll get through this too!
Im leaving tomorrow and I don't i can do it My heart is beating fast and I keep yawning for some reason. I feel like crying and I got no one to talk to about this 😔
I wish I can I say I’m moving states but but I’m moving countries..I’m from Jerusalem but going to CC in Santa barbara cali. I’m feeling very homesick that I can vomit really. I have some friends here but I feel empty and so Alone wtf.
