One of the more common reasons why men never make it past the "talking" stage is that the woman you're interested in is most likely talking to several other men at the same time. So, it can be hard to keep her attention on you enough to get her to be your girlfriend when you're competing against a lot of other guys. You just have to be yourself and hope she chooses you, because at the end of the day, she is going to make a decision. I just hope you are the best decision she has made to date.
"hope she chooses you" you outta yo mind 😂 if you live life that way you will never succeed it should be like i only give attention to women which are interested in me and me alone otherwise byee bye
Tbh I don't rlly have any idea but test her and ask questions and also try to see the red flags or set her up on a test to see if see goes off with another dude and not you .
You're overthinking it at that point. Just be yourself. Talk about what YOU want to talk about. Lead the conversation. If she ain't about what you wanna talk about, then fuck it, she probably ain't compatible with you to begin with. Have the mindset of you're vibing out if she's worth your time and your presence, not you trying to make yourself worth her time.
A RU-vidr called “better call George” says you should treat them like they 10yo. Meaning you don’t take them seriously and talk about things a kid would understand and be interested. This includes the topics of convo like: Travel, food, relaxation, fun, entertainment, etc. this is what women like to talk about. Avoid stuff like politics, future plans, work, religion, philosophy, school. Dont turn it into an interview by just asking question after question, but when you do ask question, let them be interesting things that lets you learn about their personality. Avoid questions that can be answered with “yes” or “No”. Keep everything playful. She should be doing most of the talking. They love to talk about themselves. If they start trauma dumping then curve it to something playful. That should not be something being spoken to you, and obviously you should not do it to them. Just think about how you first made guy friends. You just started talking and vibing about similar interest. Now since you don’t just want friendship from a woman. You’re gonna have to flirt a little but playfully. Say things that makes her imagine things. Paint pictures with your words. You gotta tease, push-and-pull a little here and there (not literally). One last thing: Don’t bond over negativity. Yeah you can relate and that’s good. But they will unconsciously build a correlation of negative feelings with you. So avoid that.
Bro there is some ugly people who I AS A DUDE, found charming for how charismatic and fun they are. It’s magnetic. The more time I spent with them the more desensitized I was to their looks. They make you feel like yourself and can open up to them easily. For anyone thinking it’s all about looks. Yeah, but also no.
Great analysis bro. And someone you find “ugly” could be attractive to someone else so it’s really just about perspective i guess. It would be cool if we got the best of both worlds and found a good looking girl yet a super supportive and loving girl at the same time. Unfortunately, it’s a hard thing to find nowadays
I’ve come to realize that it doesn’t matter what you do and what you say. She will decide whether to proceed or not. I’m a field paleontologist and I make a shit ton of money in oilfield. I’m talking to a woman who is 8 years older than me who is a school teacher that I wanted to hit off with her. I tell her what I do in my job, how much I make, my goals and ambitions. Shoot I even found a fossil that I showed her that I told her if we meet I could give to her. I completely nerdee her out and all she said was “wow you’re so smart you definitely sound mature” *with a forced smile emoji* honestly like what the hell bro… what do women like?
All of that does matter, when ur maybe 35+ females will get desperate and not really care about doing long talking stages but for most people here u need the game in order to pull, looks can work but females get bored quickly so all looks no real interaction will shut all of that down
I agree with some men who say never tell too much. Im a gurl and have just talked to a guy for 3 weeks and all of sudden the spark is gone. I really want to pull away and I feel so guilty. Now i understand why im nit that interested anymore :(
I been talking to a girl for about a month and we’ve hung out a few times and I asked her if she wanted to hang out on valentines and she said yes so I got her some flowers and we went to the movies, I’ve already met her parents and they both like me but I need some advice for a few things. I hate texting her throughout the day because I would rather call her after school bc we go to dif schools but she thinks I’m ignoring her if I don’t respond so what can I do about that? I want to ask her to be my girlfriend but idk how and I can tell she’s waiting for me ask but idk how. She always asks if I talk to other girls and drops hints that we should date but idk what to say and I trust that she doesn’t talk to other guys because she has never had a boyfriend and she is really close with her older brother and they go to the same school and he is very protective of her but he’s okay with me. Any advice helps bc she loves god and I care about her and I think she would be a good first girlfriend
aye bro im finna put you on game. You're one of the lucky ones. You found a good one , DON'T LOSE HER. Especially with all these other hoes and peer pressure about fucking and getting bitches. That shit will eventually leave you empty. Trust me. I wish someone told me what im about to tell you when I was younger. Reading your comment literally reminded me of exactly how I was when I was younger. I found the perfect girl who forever changed my life but I ended loosing her because I was to afraid to tell her how I felt. I didn't man up. Don't make the same mistake I did . It's really not that difficult brother I promise. She already said yes to hanging with you on Valentines Day, you met her parents, brother you're there already. If she didn't fuck with you none of that would have occurred. Life and time waits for nobody homie. Communicate with her. That's all it is . Tell her that you'll talk to her after school because you prefer to talk to her in person. You like seeing her after school . that's all. Just be honest bro. So many relationships fail because they don't communicate. Also, yes you like her and she makes you a bit nervous but bro she's still your friend. Just talk to her like if she's one of the homies. Yes you like her but at the end of the day she is still your friend. Make jokes , roast each other and have a laugh, share memes, go fishing, go explore some abandoned places, share music, share favorite shows, your dreams , your goals, go get in some trouble together. the possibilities are endless . You got what every guy at my age wishes they had. I say this with much love bro. You have to man up. I know it sounds a bit harsh but that's all it is. Play you're cards right. I didn't man up and I ended up losing my chance with the girl I loved. Don't let it happen to you bro. You got this! Don't doubt yourself or ever think you ain't good enough.
@@kazuto979 hey thanks man I appreciate the advice and I used it, she had said that she had wanted to go to an aquarium so I decided to man up and offered to take her and she said that it sounded like fun and that she would let me know if she could go, I’m probably overthinking it but I feel like she wants me to put in more effort and that she liked how I was confident enough to ask her to go with me, if you have any advice for keeping her interested I would love to hear it because you seem to know a lot more than me and the advice you gave helped and I just wanted to say thanks man
@@jarrast6866man fr the way of keeping a relationship is lowkey being you, she gotta like your presence the way you are and that's the easiest part, the hard work you doing already also don't rush it you got all the time of the world
@@jarrast6866I know I’m responding late but someone else already gave you some good advice so you good. One thing I have learned is that if you got a opportunity to get a girl who likes you and you like her, never turn the other way. At least give it a chance, if you guys don’t work out, move on. This way, you will at least not have to always thing “what could have been”
@kazuto979 brotha thats some game you put down on the young boi, i been around for a bit as well and did similar things as you meaning letting a real one go. I also didnt take the subtle hints from others that had good potential because i am so self conscious and think im just not good enough amd dont look good at all. Now at the age im at (and i see dudes my age still vibing with women 20 to 25) i just dont get that vibe from any woman and i missed the boat on getting one that hasmt been "ran thru" or with "a lot of issues" or "crazy" .....whats your age brotha?
Texting is just for logistics i.e settings things up. And if you do want to flirt on the phone for whatever reason then hit her randomly w/o warning on FaceTime. But yeah I agree not txt no call. Phone is for making things happen.
With me I feel like I don’t have enough words in a conversation with a chick like I know good lines but after I say them it’s hard to continue the convo
Same bro, talking to girls is just so awkward to me because I never know what to say or never want to say anything offensive. Also, it’s hard keeping eye contact cause I don’t wanna seem flirtatious or anything.
The difference between a friend and a boyfriend is looks. If she’s not giving you that energy of a girls who is genuinely attracted-desired to you then your wasting your time. Move on and keep your dignity intact
been through a couple of talkin stages and tried to meet up/plan a date plenty of times after talkin for a month or so and they never wanted to, never understood it.
With the girl that was on the Thumbnail I’m sorry bro but….Naw it’s no such thing as a “Talking Stage” 😂 It’s only the “fucking stage” and the “leaving stage”
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Im sorry as a woman the advice around the 8 minute mark is terrible advice. Im 21, I still play games don’t get me wrong, but if you’re wishy washy you’re gone bruh😭
I'm 15 and in secondary school so I feel you man , girls are just people and first off if she knows everyone at your school especially the boys why are you even chatting her up or talking to her in the first place , ask her out that's why you in the talking stage . I'm gonna be 16 in a few months.
I can't do it anymore man. I'm defeated at this point. I think I'll just pay for it from now on. I can't keep chasing these entitled women, it's draining me mentally and emotionally. If I wanna have fun I'll just pay an escort and save my sanity
Shouldn't it be the opposite? I feel like the roles are reversed...The man should be on offense and the woman should be on defense. Anything other than that is either insecurity, bad judgment, or just bad advice, in my opinion... The man should take the lead and make an effort to pursue her by taking control of the way the relationship sways, especially if she likes you and she's shown you signs that she's interested. The woman should be the female and respond to this leadership and make suggestions along the way. If you establish these proper roles in the beginning, she will never confuse you on what she really wants or what she is expecting because you made her comfortable enough to know that you're not afraid of being honest, expressive, and decisive about what you want. Don't leave it up to the woman to make the decision cause now you're giving her your job/ your heavy-duty causing there to now be a lack of trust if you can even step up to the plate and be a man. As a female, my relationships haven't gone any further than the talking stage because I felt the guys were always giving me their roles to play. I shouldn't be initiating conversations consistently, you shouldn't be waiting on me to make plans, you should be making some kind of effort to see me or to speak to me, and I shouldn't feel like I'm seeking your attention (especially if you agreed to start communicating)...BE A MAN for crying out loud! Don't make me feel like I'm chasing you cause that'll make me lose interest quickly...
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