From the age of 12 till the age of 19 my mom was not a part of my life I had told my dad that her brother in law molested me and she called me a liar and slapped me. I distanced myself from her and she disappeared from our lives for 7 years during that time I helped my dad care for my siblings. My dad remarried and his wife was not loving to us and I moved out and rarely talked to him once he remarried. My mom defended my child molester till his death. Adapting to trauma was a way of life for me. My sister became an alcoholic and homeless and that was another blow to deal with and she had a accident and ended up with a traumatic brain injury and she passed away in 2018. My parents weren't very helpful after her accident. All this pain was unbearable. I don't think deep trauma goes away.I tried to spare my kids as much as possible.
I'm so sorry for all you've been through. It’s incredibly brave of you to share your story. The pain you've faced, from your mom's actions to losing your sister, is unimaginable. It’s understandable that you feel deep trauma doesn't just go away. Your strength in caring for your siblings and trying to protect your own kids is truly admirable. Please remember, it's okay to seek support and take care of yourself. You deserve healing and peace.
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you I am working through all the negative issues in my life to lighten my heart and mind I feel I am recovering on a daily 💜🌼💐
I tried to tell my ex husband how important it was that he is kind, in front of our child. He would not take it seriously. So now he is my ex husband. Our children are the furture. Safety and love are the bare minimum, not some extra cherry on top for the specially privileged.
This man is the first person whose insight, knowledge and intuitive wisdom has helped me come to know and heal the broken parts of myself ....from my healed heart I thank you Gabor Mate 🙏 💖
If you were abandoned as an infant ie. left in your crib for hours alone, not held, touched, rocked or soothed, then this would have been life threatening and you will feel it deeper than 'emotional pain.'
This is quite interesting and helpful to me. Thank you. At the same time, it's not really about "how to heal from deep abandonment pain," which is the title. It's about what causes that sort of pain. Is there a video with Dr Gabor that's mostly focussed on how to heal from deep abandonment pain? If so, I'd love to know the name of the video. Thank you.
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The past is NOT gone in childhood survivors of neglect/brutality. It's in you, your body and soul until and if you can heal. Yours is a dangerous, naive and trite attitude that gets survivors into a lot of trouble.
