You say you wish you could come up with words to help heal...? Believe me you have. It's the understanding and putting into words what a lot of us have gone through and are still going through. I know it makes me feel so much better knowing....knowing.
Hello Kenny. Thank you for your video. I’m stuck on anger and depression. I’ve known since I was quite young that my Mother was ‘difficult’. It wasn’t until right after she passed did it hit me like a lightning bolt she was a narcissist. Everyone else saw it for what she was, except me. Or I realize some of it and hoped no one else would see it. And there were good times as well. My oldest sister is also a narcissist. I was always aware she’s a narcissist and terribly abusive. Terribly. She was also my Mother’s ‘golden child’. Our Mother was aware of our sister, just opted not to do anything about it. Until the ‘golden child’ turned on her. It includes theft, lies, defamation, I could go on. The words “wicked & vicious” come to mind. There is absolutely no relationship with this sister by any family member. I’m stuck on anger & depression. As her executor I need to finish handling her estate. Then will I seek professional help. My anger is deep. I recently learned the other term “scapegoat”. That would be me. I have one child. He just turned 23, and is autistic. Fortunately high functioning, working hard to help him progress. He’s everything to me, and was absolutely not raised the way I was. I knew this was a cycle to be broken. However my anger & depression is on my shoulders like sandbags. When I can put my Mother’s estate behind me I will need to focus on acceptance. Although I don’t know how I can ‘accept’ it. There are too many hard, hurtful feelings. I have to get rid of the anger & depression. It’s awful. Thank you for letting me vent.
I have to remind myself constantly that by the time my mother became a parent (to me, and at age 19) her narcissism was fixed. She wasn't capable of nurturing, supporting, approving--not even of herself. I was probably hurt the worst because of my vulnerability as a child, but she hurt virtually everyone in her life who wanted to love her and be loved by her. AS hard (impossible?) as it is for us not to take all that abuse personally, to wonder how we could be such failures, such a disappointment to someone we wanted & needed to love us, it WASN'T personal. It was/is the nature of narcissism and the emotional bankruptcy of the narcissist.
Great video, thank you!! I do not understand why I am having a hard time starting your book. Usually I dive right in. A lot of memories are surfacing now. So happy I survived it. Your videos really do help!!
Don’t be too hard on yourself. 80% of people that purchase my book never get past the first three chapters. If you recall in the first chapter I warn you that you will probably get sick or hurt or so-called “busy”… Your brain and body is going to look for all of these subconscious ways to avoid reading my book. That is how the worst day cycle works. 😁 Just try to read one paragraph a day, one page each day… You just need your brain and body to get used to the new information and eventually you will turn towards it and you will dive in and you won’t be able to put it down once you start seeing how the information will transform your life.
My son is 4. Me and his father are separated and he is narcissistic, and I see it in his mother. I can also see traits in myself and others. The difference in some of those with narcissistic traits, is that some are willing to recognise, learn and grow, and some are not. I'm willing and learning all the time. How do I help my son not to grow to have narcissistic traits and when to recognise these traits - I find all children have narcissistic tendencies, it's how we nurture them to drop these.
@@kennyweiss I was brutely discarded by my mother at the age of 11. She put me on a plane to a foregin country and forgot about me. Iam now understanding that I was born into a narcissistic family dynamic. Thankful for finding your work.
Do you do trauma recovery work for narcissist recovery abuse? Or can you suggest a way to find a good one? Thanks for saying that recovery is worth it to to our future and partners.
Yes I do. If you go here to my free online magazine site you can learn more about my private coaching and Groups and Masterclasses and they all have direct links to schedule, join or purchase www.thegreatnessuniversity.com/
