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As someone who is currently struggling with severe anxiety and suicidal thoughts I need this video lol. Wondering if I should send it to my one friend or if that's a passive aggressive way of saying they aren't doing enough to help
Hi, a quick reminder from someone who was usually the therapist friend... It's NOT easy to support someone who actually is suicidal, please take care of yourself too !
@@gray414 I truly hope they get better! Keep reminding them they are beautiful every day, even when they don’t believe it (you might already be doing that too!) it might not be much, but it could help a little, and sometimes a little is more than enough Remember to take care of yourself as well, you are just as beautiful and strong as they are, and it’s amazing you try your best to take care of your friends You are awesome and so are they! Take care of yourself alright? It’s much easier to fill somebody’s cup when your own cup is already filled
@@gray414 omg yayyyy so glad to hear they are getting better! And yes keep at it! I’m sure you two will bloom into very pretty sunflowers ^^ (yes cringe pun intended-)
It's so dumb that most people's solution is "just be happier." They might word it like "Just take a walk" or "Just bake a cake." But those aren't solutions that will apply to everyone. The solution is an actual engaging conversation that continues through multiple sessions. Having someone care enough about you to have a conversation and discuss the topic is so much better than trying to solve it in one go. (I'm not a mental health professional, I'm just speaking about what helped me through it.)
To whoever reads this, i love you i love your smile i love your laugh i love your personality i love your hair (or lack thereof) i love your insecurities i love your accomplishments i love your failures i love your eyes i love your beauty i love your handwriting (or the way you communicate) i love the way you dance i love you on your happy days i love you on your sad days i love you on the days you feel lonely i love you on the days you feel helpless i love you on the days you feel like no one cares i love you on the days you feel forgotten i love you on the days you feel unmotivated i love you on the days you feel loved i love you on the days you feel sick i love you on the days you feel motivated i love you on the days you feel depressed i love you on the days you feel stresses i love you on the days you feel crazy i love you on the days you feel hopeful i love you on the days you feel cuddly i love you on the days you feel clingy i love you on the days you feel amazing i love you on the days you feel beautiful i love you on the days you feel like a failure i love you on the days you feel angry i love you on the days you feel aggressive i love you on the days you feel horrible i love you on the days you feel safe i love you on the days you feel unsafe i love you on the days you feel vulnerable i love you on the days you feel weird i love you on the days you feel ok i love you when you're healthy i love how you sing (or hum or feel the music) i love your taste in music i love your taste in movies i love your taste in tv shows i love the way you move i love the way you act i love you when you cry i love you when you're kind i love you when you're mean i love you when you're alone i love you when you can't feel i love you when you feel too much i love you when you can't take life anymore i love you when you feel like it's too much i love you when you're asleep i love you when you have nightmares i love you when you have dreams i love how you believe i love you when you believe in yourself i love you when you don't believe in yourself i love you when you hate yourself i love you when you love yourself i love the way you think i love you problems i love your solutions i love how you support i love you when you're in pain i love you when you're hurt i love your promises i love your secrets i love your attitude i love you sass i love your creativity i love your voice (or lack thereof) i love you hand gestures i love your stories i love your wounds i love your scars i love your face i love your past i love your future i love your present i love your outfits i love your style i love your art i love your honesty i love you when you lie i love you when you're tired i love you when you're energetic i love how you look i love how you cook i love you when you're adventurous i love you when you're scared i love your imperfections i love your perfections i love you when you worry i love you when you talk (or communicate) i love your opinions i love you when you have a headache i love you when you have a stomach ache i love you when you help others i love you when you need help i love you when you're mature i love you when you're immature i love you in the hard times i love you in the easy times i love you when life is meh i love you when you're responsible i love you when you're irresponsible i love you when you fight i love you in your darkest moments i love you in your brightest moments i love your heart i love you in the day i love you in the night i love you at midnight i love you at 3 am i love you at all times i love you at your best i love you at your worst i love the little things you do i love all of you i love you when you're you i love 𝙮𝙤𝙪. From the stranger on the internet who loves you :) (this is for anyone who needs it like i do a lot of the time and i hope it helped)
if you need help go talk to your friend and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
@@jeffreydarmisco7088 I appreciate your reply. Not to be a debbie downer but many people are uncomfortable when you lay out your true dark feelings. I had to cancel health ins because I can't afford it but with or without I've gone to several psychologists/psychiatrists. Every advice and tip they have given me has only given me temporary happiness. It's not helping that I've been forced to live in a hotel for the last few months and will be here for 2 more. All the staff compliment me all the time for being the most pleasant and friendliest guest they ever had. I do things for all of them and with a smile on my face but underneath it all is pure sadness. I'm an empath who feels/feeds off of others emotions. I try to heal and fix others but can't help or heal myself. I journal, exercise, mediate, eat healthy, do hobbies. Even in times of extreme sadness I have been known to say yes anytime someone wants to do something but here I am still sad.
never say “think about what i would feel” or “think about what your family would feel”. because that’s guilt tripping and selfish. someone’s pain is more important than your own happiness.
Imma be honest with you Sometimes it is the only thing you can do to keep them alive in that moment Its like reminding them theres people there that care, that will hurt if they die It depends on the wording for sure, but it may be the only thing to get that person through the day
@@laddumb698 hmmm it depends, but on bad suicidal cases, they won’t really care anymore, because of the pain, nothing really matters anymore. i know that bc i was suicidal before too. what you can do tho, is be there for them. instead of saying those insensitive things, you can say “i may not fully understand what you are going through, but i will be with you all the way” trust me it helps
@@stier7587 i know that It just varies from person to person i guess I mean when im at my worst, i talk myself out of it by saying how upset other people would be Im sure im not the only one like me so😅 But yes i understand what you mean It all comes down to the individual person
@@coral1234 in most cases of toxic parents, they keep giving you so much pressure to fulfil their unrealistic expectations, and most of the time, gaslighting. they gaslight you and gaslight you until you just keep bottling up your emotions and end up breaking in the long run. if ever any of you have toxic parents, i am so sorry for that kind of treatment. no child deserves to grow up in a toxic environment.
Me: Tells my friend I have depression and am suicidal My friend: *dissappears and decides that we are nor friends anymore* (This was kinda sad because we were bestes for years)
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My brother helped me tremendously when I was suicidal. He never guilted me, whereas my parents did. He had this one thing he would say, "Describe how you feel with as many words as you need."
i should add that immediately recommending they call a suicidal hotline is a horrible idea. (speaking from experience) it makes them feel like you dont want to deal with them. like you dont care enough about them to even try. especially when they specifically went to you to talk about it because they trust you and enjoy your company. its just very dismissive. plus, talking to strangers doesnt work for everyone. some people really need a friend or close family member for their comfort to mean anything.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help...
@@matheodaniel1364 Eh, I beg to differ, while I have no knowledge or experience of it, others may have "Temporary Problems", but I know from my 4 year experience of dealing with suicidal thoughts and going to therapy that some problems are cronic, life isn't something you just snap your fingers and everything is ok, but then again, maybe you're right, idk, at this point I'm just so lost in life that the word hope doesn't even seem to exist, it seems as if I know absolutely nothing yet the world has got everything figured out and leaving me in the dust
@@matheodaniel1364 I am sorry that this was the experience you had with suicide hotline. Sadly though, not everyone have people among family or friends they can trust and talk about such sensitive matter. A few times, my city's hotline helped me and they were the only ones I really could turn to because of my family's judgemental attitude and the fact that I was lonely with no friends.😔
I'm suicidal and have been since 10 it's getting way worse as life goes on. I am not very old and have not had it for long cause I'm in middle school yet. If your reading this, I just want to let you know that you matter. It may not be easy but your getting through it so keep it up as long as you can. If I can battle through it, I know you can and it makes me happy to know that there are people my age going through the same thing (not saying any of you reading are my age I mean you might be but that's not the point) the point I you matter and I and lots of others feel and experience what your going through and look at where we are now. Alive. I hope I made at least one persons day and this made my night alot better. It can be hard to tell someone what your going through an I also have trouble with that. Your not alone and I and everyone else care for you. Keep it up your doing great and NEVER GIVE UP! peace ❤✌🏻
You too! Never give up! You are an amazing person! Love yourself always💝 You are so strong! Sending you a lot of strength to go ahead! 💖🌌 Live happily forever💙
thank you. im in the seventh grade and I have been suicidal since i was also ten. i plan to end my life today but after reading this comment im contemplating whether i should or not
what a huge lie. people die all the time and no one ever cares. just tell them to do a flip when they end it. If you gotta go at least make it noteworthy.
my boyfriend is suicidal. he's too young to go to a therapist alone, and i can't help either because we share the same age, and basically mental health are taboo in indonesia so her mother never concider his mental health a serious case. this video really helps because sometimes i just don't know how to support him. thank you so much
@@omorilistensmusic3188 same, it feels difficult to speak that with someone you don't have the trust of all time, to tell... maybe the worst and hardest that is the deepest inside of you. Try doing it, it is never to late, if you wish... you can. Hope you feel better
When we were teens me and my sister told each other everything, including all our depressive, self harming, suicidal thoughts and actions. Neither of us had a support system outside of each other. One night after a particular nasty fight with mom I could just tell that something was off with my sister. She went and locked herself in her room, and I immediately ran after her, and spent almost an hour outside her door just talking to her, and telling her that I loved her and how much fun I have when we talk and how she's the only one who gets me, and just begging for her to let me in or just say something to me. After a while she finally let's me in. She's sobbing, and says that whole time she was standing there with the samurai knife that's usually mounted on the wall in her hands, prepared to plunge it into her stomach but couldn't bring herself to do it with me listening so she waited for me to leave, but the longer I stayed the less conviction she had to die. Things could have ended much worse if I hadn't recognized the potential crisis she was in, and I'm so thankful that she's still here with me 💓🙏
i am not suicidal anymore but i were 3 to 4 years ago. however, just knowing that some people are heartless enough to make someone suffer to the point where they want death still scares me
(sorry for my bad english 😅 i normally speak french, and i learn english and german at the same time so i still have a lot of progress to do in languages)
Je comprends. Cela me brise le cœur qu'il y ait des gens qui sont si cruels partout dans le monde. Des gens malades que personne n'arrête. Je pense que le suicide serait moins si la cruauté était moins acceptable. J'ai du mal à vivre avec l'abus que j'ai survécu
@@ProximaCentauri-vy2po how you felt writing that: OMG THIS IS GONNA BE SO FUNNY BRO and it turned out that you are a scumbag who binge watches quandale memes
I was at the beach late one night writing when I met a man who was on his way to the top of the condo beside us to leap off. I asked him why he wanted to do that and we talked for hours, he ended up writing me a song that night about meeting an angel on the beach that saved his life. Afterwards he went home to his sister's house, and did not jump, at least not that night. He just needed someone to care, and to listen even a stranger. I didn't know him, but I always hoped he went for help like we talked about. People are afraid of those who have 'mental issues'. My boyfriend told me his issues after we met. He thought I would be afraid to love him. I am not. Personally I have always been hurt by those who have mental issues but don't realize it. I would much rather be with someone who does know and is actively seeking counseling and help.
@@Ace_03years ago I used to be too. But then I realized, I didn't know them so what do I care if they don't want to talk? I did what I felt was right by offering, and that was what was important to me. Always listen to your gut, if you feel it isn't safe then don't, but what my teacher taught me years ago was that you don't have to do anything except show up and be willing. All I ask people sometimes 'are you ok?' If they want help, they will talk. If the say go away, ok no problem. Sometimes people just need someone to listen to them and a stranger is easier to talk to sometimes. At least they know someone cared enough to ask. Sometimes they talk, sometimes they don't. I went from horribly shy to my profession (20+ years as a natural healing practitioner, life coach and massage therapist) that helped me. Now I am used to asking the right questions to get them to talk, if that is what they want.
I am suicidal, but i have a suicidal friend, and we made a bet. Whoever lives longer, dont have to go to therapy. He becomes less and less suicidal each day, and I'm here to support him, he's here to support me. It's so good to have someone who really knows what I'm going throught
Some ppl really do this as a manipulative thing tho. .. So, u prob gotta forgive humans in general bc ppl dont always know what to look out for? Ppl rnt all the same. My ahhh, its complicated. My fiance... hes got tons of issues. I've gone through every route I could think of on my own. And I tried turning to yt. And I also told him he needs help. Actual professional help. Hes trying to stay clean, & he's taking something for his anxiety, so, 🤷♀️ that is pretty monumental for him. Its just easy to get frustrated w/ him. I think anyone outside prob has all the answers in the world but they also don't know what its like dealing w/ him so much. Honestly sometimes I lowkey hate his fam. Bc I know they have a huge part in his horrible personality :/. I def put him through some obstacles. But if I mean sh. to him, then he needs to simma the hell down. Its pitiful how they've raised a "man" into this world. I know his mom has come back around and she's trying. She has a breakdown pretty much everytime we see her. So, u can tell she has lots of remorse. But I can tell, shes fd up his vision of what loves supposed to be like. All the dad does is depend on ppl like a child, still continues to f up, & then blame the mom for not being there. But hes only there bc he doesn't stop depending on ppl. I mean that man's like a hunded :/ stays at his s.dads from time to time. If not there, is w/ his ex wife's dad. So, its always been way more convenient for him to run his mouth... same thing goes for his grandkid. In short,short, thinks the world revolves around him.. just like the son... & just like the son, hes "suicidal." Just like the moms mentioned... As a female, I feel a little ashamed to ask for help. So I always thought it was way more of a macho thing to be like that even worse, for males. Full of pride. But nope, not his dad. Dude has no shame whatsoever. Like let alone, less of a man, does he not feel less of a person. You don't actually get to have all the excuses in the world, lame ass. I've def told his dad to grow up to his face. But anyways, yes, I completely think he does things for attention. It can be excessive. Also, not gonna even lie. I completely tell him its selfish. And if im manipulative... then dont think I wont get creative w/ my words. Bc if he truly wuved me, then he wouldn't off himself. And other crazy puzzling weird things like that. 🤷♀️ I mean... apparently it works!
I don’t know if this is just me but I never like to talk about my mental health with friends or family. Even though deep down I would really need to have a conversation about my suicidal thoughts with them, the last thing I want to do is burden them with my problems. I also feel kind of ashamed for having these thoughts. Idk why but it’s kinda like a feeling of embarrassment ig? It’s hard to explain but yeah. Thanks for reading this if u did.
This makes sense. I imagine you love and care about them and this is why you don't want to "burden" them. I don't know your friends or family, so I don't know how they are, but I believe at least some of them are completely willing to help you however they can. And this is another idea. If you feel embarrassed or concerned about telling them everything, maybe you can ask them to simply help you find a therapist or to give you a ride there, without having to disclose everything at once. Then later you can decide what they need to know, and they realize that you are also getting help from a professional. They will feel more at ease knowing someone else is also helping you, and knowing specific ways they can help. Speaking from my experience, at least. You can decide what you prefer. My best wishes for you, Irene!
I too, dislike telling my problems to the people whom I know and love. I thought that it would cause them more trouble. There were times where I needed to calm myself down and a personal diary is very helpful for that. I still have my diary with me although it’s full of negative vents but that doesn’t matter, what mattered is that it had helped me through my struggles despite having no one to talk to. It’s completely normal to feel this way and you don’t have to be ashamed about it. Mental health is a growing problem nowadays and shouldn’t be ignored. If possible, you may want to consider a therapist to help in aiding you or maybe a diary could help as well. 😅 Everyone has a different approach in tackling their own problems so please do what you think is best for you. 👍
Yeah. Recently I opened up a bit to a friend and "no one cares if you need therapy ju" so that's outta the way. I dont wanna burden my other friend, my best friend, because she's moving to another country and I'm honestly ashamed of having these thoughts but not being able to actually harm myself. I keep telling myself that I should get help and stop believing I'm just going through some edgy phase, like the friend who told me nobody cared I needed therapy said I didn't have therapy 2 years ago. And I had no way of knowing if I actually did have depression or not since I barely looked at the symptoms. So I like to believe these past 2 years are just some weird edgy phase that I won't need my parents to discover about in order to get better..
For anyone struggling, I offer you a hug, my softest blanket and whatever your comfort food is. I love you all and hope you know you do matter, you are amazing and you deserve all the good things.
I’ve thought about suicide as an idea, but I never thought about actually doing it. I have a small case of depression and a HUGE case of anxiety, so your channel really helps me. I have a cousin who used to have suicidal thoughts. I was at a party at her house and walked by her room. I saw her curled up on her bed, telling herself that she was a bad person. My heart dropped when I witnessed this. I ran outside to tell my aunt about it, and they talked. A couple of days later, she found out that I saw her. She thanked me for telling her mom and now she doesn’t think about that stuff anymore. I’m really glad that she’s ok. And for anyone who is having these thoughts, you have a purpose. You deserve to live. If you die, you’ll miss out on amazing opportunities. I hope you all have a good day/night! ❤️
Same, I’m not exactly depressed and all that but I’m just disappointed with my life In General and 90% of me is just anxiety and loneliness, hoping itl go away later in life but lol idk
I have ADD anxiety and depression and only one teacher has taken time to actually understand ADD she helped me through some shit and ... I have wanted to kill myself for as long as I can remember my past thoughts I have never told anyone about it until this comment the thoughts about my family falling apart without me alive has kept me alive thank you for listening.
My life just feels like it's fall apart. My family is mad at me, my grades are going down, and I'm beginning to hate my only friends. im really struggling because of my severe autism... why continue life when it's only struggles and it's not changing whatever I do it never is not now, not later, I am becoming more suicidal every week. I want to drink alcolhol to forget it forger my struggles and just pois3n myselfes .
One time when I had someone step in when I was suicidal was when I was couch-surfing in Denmark. I was feeling very lonely, to the point where I was considering jumping from the balcony of the apartment I was house-sitting at. On the worst day of my ordeal, one of my friends called me up and asked if I wanted to come over. During the visit it came out just how bad of a state I was in. He didn't feel right leaving me alone, so arrangements were made for someone else to take over house-sitting, and I stayed for a few days with my friend. He took very good care of me during that time, and made sure that I knew that I wasn't alone and that I mattered. What he did is why I'm still alive today.
As a former suicidal, I can confirm those signs are on point. Self-deprecating humor is also a sign that someone is considering killing themselves. I didn't have anyone with me when I was on the verge of killing myself. The only reason I didn't go through with it was because I didn't have the guts to do it. Today I'm alright, just a little depressed, but I'll be okay on my own.
hi ik it may be working for u but it kinda sounds like ur shoving those feeling down yk? ik this may sound repetitive but if u haven’t it truly helps to talk to sumbody abt it
@Felipe Azevado I hope you are ok now. God cares about you. My only hope is in Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who came to die for our sins so we could be free. Otherwise I don't have any hope here. I wish you all the best.
Ive helped 3 people.. im referring to this because im struggling under the stress of dealing with it based only on my own suicidal experiences. Thank you for making this for me and many others like me, or those i have helped.
I would negotiate with myself by saying that I wouldn’t do it right now, I would wait for a few months, and if it didn’t get better, THEN I would do it. I did that over and over and over again, and it’s been 2 years and I’m finally happy again :)
I did the same , but the idea of suicide is still freeing to me . Whenever I felt stuck , with no way out no help no light i would tell myself that if things didn't get better then I will free myself . That always brought me some comfort that I wouldn't have to be trapped for years , in a few days things would get better and i would gain sanity back .
If you're dependent on different circumstances to be happy, you would never find true happiness. You start to be truly happy when you enjoy even just the smallest things in life.
As a person who thinks about suicide, the only tip I have for anyone who is in this situation is: never force anyone to talk to you at all times, especially people with depression. One of the reasons I got worse over time was the psychological pressure I have to answer my friends
But when i want to try and understand how they feel to be able to help them, how do i approach the questions without pressuring them? Thank you for sharing what you have for everyone and stay strong
@@warqaanizar2527 "How are you doing today\this week? Maybe I could do [Thing], if not, that's totally okay, and remember I'll always be here for you, even if you just want a hug." Idk if this is any good
@@confusedghost9320 So what I need to do is act like I don't know they have suicide so that they wouldn't feel stressed about someone knowing,right? And then,say something like "How are you today?", "I hope you are having a nice day!", right? If they show a sign that means they don't want to talk to me,do I leave them alone for the entire day or do something about it?
This video left out several important things which I have learned from hard experience. 1. It assumed that the suicidal person is in good, or at least tolerable, physical health. If someone has a terminal disease that is going to make them suffer before they die, and there is no medical hope, whet then? Do you demand they keep living with physical pain that you yourself do not feel? 2. The WORST thing you can do when someone may be suicidal is pretend to care when you clearly don’t. If the only reason you are paying attention to someone who is suicidal is to make you feel important about yourself, you are not helping them. 3. Don’t assume that drugs will solve things. This is lazy, and all too common. So, if you or someone you know is in danger of suicide, please get help. You are more important than you may think.
my coworker/friend just told me she can't handle life anymore. She has an history of suicide attempts, she has a kid with special needs who has to go under a very deadly surgery next year, also we are studying nurses and she already saw so much, it's hard dealing with people dying left and right and trying to keep it up...the whole pressure is drowning her. I am so worried cause this is the first time she mentioned this to me. I am suicidal too, and i know how hard is to negotiate with someone who wants to die. I just want her to feel safe with me...
hi! I’m here to remind you that there are good people in this world who do care, even those who are hurt may still have a lot of care in them, so please continue to have faith and go through the day :)) You are a great person for doing this and feeling this way, remember that your feelings and thoughts are valid but do not let them take over you. Good luck ❤️🩹
@@cedovisnjic1286 although it’s true, I don’t think this is definitely going to be effective, because for one it may make her feel sadder and break her. As the video said, we should try to let the suicidal person see the more positive side and make them feel joy first, rather than making them feel worse with our logical solutions, even though they may be true. If the original commenter is seeing this: I suggest you remind her that there is a chance that the kid’s surgery is successful, and not all hope is lost yet. Reassure her by validating her feelings using what was said in the video, and remind her that not all hope in the world is lost. Good luck ❤️🩹
Reach out if you can. Though I understand if it's too heavy. You're only human too friend. She's going through a lot. I really hope her kid pulls through and she can too :(
I had a friend who was a victim of suicide. They always bottled up their emotions and i was too stupid to notice the signs, i miss them so much. I wish I could've helped them with their struggles. Thank you so much for this video, suicide needs more awareness.
hey I can relate to that feeling you know you wish you could have done more but honestly I failed to save my friend and I feel awful cause it was my fault
its not your resposibility to make them feel better, nor was it your fault. if you feel bad about not noticing then take this as a learning experience and try to pay attention more in the future.
@@lukecohen9833 its not your 'job' to save someone, it was their decision to end it all. dont feel bad about it please even if i dont know everything behind the scenes. :)
I’m still a kid, but aspire to be a therapist, not for the money, not for the common job, not for the rep, or anything crazy. Psychology, and seeing someone grow… it’s my purpose in this world.
Same, I think it's a really amazingly interesting subject, plus I could help people, may it be strangers or my friends and family. And I wanna understand depression more, so that I can help my brother who struggles with it
As someone who has a lot of depressed friends, i almost started crying multiple times during this video because it reminds me of so many of my friends. I'm glad i found that channel so i can learn how to help them
There are some benefits to not having friends. One of them is, I know nobody depressed, save myself. Depressed people should not be around one another, regardless of what group therapists say. Depression feeds upon itself. With more depressed people together, they will never feel relief. With an ever growing multitude of depressed people, there are more depressed people than those not depressed, due to the current condition of society. Thus, I chose not to risk meeting anybody else depressed. To assure this, I simply deleted the social aspect of my life. This does not help my depression. However, it assures it does not get worse. Social isolation is probably the best thing a depressed person can do. It also build self-reliance, strong independence, resourcefulness, and resiliency. Since the depression does not get worse, using my method, I quit the antidepressant drugs. The withdrawal and detoxification was brutal. But it was not making me any less depressed anyway. Today, there are no drugs flowing through me, not even caffeine. The depression is manageable. But if I let anybody into my life, that barely manageable depression could collapse into crippling depression. Thus, I maked sure I will not make friends with anybody.
Don’t throw away your life dude, talk to a mental doctor When someone commits suicide, other people around her/him may end up getting depressed and end up wanting do it too😕
No one actually helps beyond the suicidal episode and that's the problem; You're not a hero for helping someone during *one* episode. You're only a hero if you stay and actually do something and are willing to pay the money or life forwards or to show you have faith in them. Once you've been suicidally depressed long enough, people stop caring.
That’s not even remotely true no doubt the people who don’t care yeah they’ll stop caring but the people who are always constantly in your life care about you and they never stop
I’ve been there myself there are people who care but the people who don’t you don’t have to engage with them you can cut them out of your life if you want to
I have been suicidally depressed ever since I was 11 years old. People stop caring after you've tried to kill yourself multiple times because they think you're just acting out or causing a scene. I personally won't stop trying to commit suicide until I am successful. Life is lonely and full of negativity and negative people, who love to mistreat others. Especially when they are depressed.
I have struggled with depression since 6th grade and just recently started to take pills and go to therapy. About 7 months ago, I had a knife to my chest at almost 2am. My mom has dealt with depression so I called her on messenger and she was downstairs within maybe a minute. We cuddled on the kitchen floor as I cried and afterward to cheer me up she turned on disney movies and made me my favorite food, best mom ever! 😊
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for helP
you need to believe my friend. God said.... It is He who sent down tranquillity into the hearts of the believers that they would increase in faith along with their [present] faith. And to Allah belong the soldiers of the heavens and the earth, and ever is Allah Knowing and Wise
I don't mean to ruin the mood, but I wanna share that my mom is the reason I cant recover :( she makes me feel like I'm a failure even if I'm trying so hard.. But your mini story time was so sweet
@@shizuu9710 same, she's the reason why I am depressed, she is toxic and never compromises with me, also I told her that I am lgbtq+ but she replied me with "INTERNET HAS SPOILED YOU, DON'T TOUCH THAT DAMN PHONE EVER AGAIN" in fact, internet is the only place where I feel valid, worthy and secure and also I sometimes tell her to compromise a bit but she says "don't argue,(taunting) you're gonna make us famous and everybody's gonna gonna use you as an example" (she meant that children should be respectful) I am just waiting to die
This sound cliche but the thought of failing to save others is a terrible feeling for me. I never want to let my friends/family succumb to suicide so this vide helps me to help prevent that.
I can understand you homie... It really does feel terrible if you fail to save someone from such circumstances... But if you tried your best, then you're never the one to be blamed yk... ♡
You do the best you can, but you are probably not a professional and can't be expected to know exactly the right things to say or do. Even if you do everything you can based on the best practices, it may not work to prevent a suicide. I would watch the video several times, but keep in mind it's never your fault.
My brother just died 2 days ago.. And all of the signs you've discuss in this video is accurate... Thank you for this video, now I know how to talk to people who shows these signs.. However it's too late for my brother.....
Hey, I'm sorry and I know your brother loves you a lot. You are still connected with him. He's with you. His soul is with you. I just want you to know that he loves you and don't worry he is out there somewhere, maybe next to you. You just can't see him. His soul will love and remember you forever and he will forever be alive in your heart.
My sincerest condolences. I know that there's nothing I can say that will stop the pain instantaneously but know that you are not alone in your pain and you, yourself, have much to offer. Hoping the days get easier for you
2:08 Recognise the signs 3:01 Ask them how they are 3:21 Ask specifically about suicide 3:55 Stay with them 5:07 Keep them safe & remove harmful items 5:40 Acknowledge their feelings are legitimate 6:06 Repeat their words back to them in your own way 6:33 Empathise with them 6:43 Encourage them to focus on getting through today 7:16 Identify a Hook 8:05 Offer Support & Hope 8:50 Don't minimise their problems or Say anything judgemental 9:13 Help them develop a safety plan 10:31 Follow-up
I wish I could have known these sooner. When I was in secondary school, there was a friend suffering family troubles so she wanted to kill herself to end this pain forever. At that time, I thought that she was crazy. Years later, when I experienced more pains in life, I realized that if we have never been in that situation, we would never understand how painful it must feel. So it is important to acknowledge and respect their feelings before we want to do st to help. I also realize that there are more people thinking about suicide than we think. They may not tell you that but there can be some signals. If there is anything you can help, just do it. Even when all you can do is to stay with them, keep an eye on them, listen to them... Because you might be the ONLY one who does
"If there is anything you can help, just do it. Even when all you can do is to stay with them, keep an eye on them, listen to them... Because you might be the ONLY one who does" _And..._ no one still does it. Ever. No one cares.
There is a friend of mine i actually saved from a really possible suicide, he was so stressed and sad with his life to the point where he cut his arm 3 times, gladly the wounds weren't too deep or lethal, so i got him to treat them, then stayed and listen to anything he had to say while comforting him. 2 weeks later there was barely any signs of suicide and started to see hope of finding someone to love, i told him there would be someone soon and precisely it happened the next month, he found a beautiful girl that understood and made him show his emotions, making him cry for the first time. Nowadays they both are a happy couple(and just a tiny bit active if u get what i mean) that makes each other happy.
Thank you for being there for him. There are so many people like that that are lost to the world forever because nobody was there for them. Nothing makes me happier than seeing a broken soul find happiness. You are a true hero.
this video helped me so much, i watched it before and now i could help my friend who is suffering. i hope that she will get better soon. she’s very strong and i believe in her
i have to say huge thanks to you psych2go, your video helped me a lot while my wife (and me) was suicidal. now with your help (thank you very much once again) she managed to move forward and she feels a lot better. even if she’s not done with depression and me neither, we want to live now and that’s a huge step forward. thank you so much psych2go for this video, you probably saved many lives. and once again, thank you so much.
Not a soul, including my family and genuinely close friends took any chance at comforting me in my worst times. A few times in my life I had to take conscious decision to not cause any harm. Worst part is, I can't blame anyone, as I know my friends and family are genuine and ready to help with whenever, just not this topic as it seems to be surreal for everyday life. In this case you can only man up if you want to get through, I really hope to meet empathic people later in my life, but also I am very bad at meeting people so I am probably fcked anyway. Sorry I talked about myself too much here, it may be cringe but I had to get this off my chest
Hey if you want anyone to talk to I am here also if you have discord you can vent to me there. And I can understand with your family. I will say maybe try to talk to people on the internet as you commented now. For me at least I find it easier to talk to people online and not have to mask my emotions. But if you still don’t want to it’s fine take time to try stuff that you enjoy.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
I used to feel the same way, I am finally trying to mend the Social part into my Life. I started smiling at myself in the mirror and talking to myself for fun and thinking about funny stuff or things that amused me that i could try for laughs or my imagination. If that does not work for you i recommend weed edibles when you are of age, But don’t make it a habit. Try to use it as a crutch or gradually get off it when you are comfortable or to save it for tough time moods occasionally.
I’ve saved about 3 people from committing suicide and I’ve helped someone save another. I had no idea what I was doing and I was lucky that none of them ended up going through with it. This video helped out a lot. Thank you.
My friend and I saved another friend from committing before, now I wish we could save him from SWEARING LITERALLY EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY LIKE HOLY CRAP
I've helped 3(?) people as well, but it was over text because we live so far apart. I broke like 3 of the rules because I never knew them before now, but thank God it still worked. I just told them how much they meant to me, that I cared a lot for them, that they could do it, etc etc. Its hard to support somebody when it emotionally crushes you as well, but I'm glad I was able to help somebody in need. I'm still great friends with one of them, and we hang out and talk about random shit all the time 😂
As a suicidal person, a huge factor to wanting to commit is just because it doesn't feel like there's meaning to life. A tip to help people in a similar situation (if they are NOT religious), is explaining French-Algerian philosopher/author, Albert Camus' theory. His idea was that in order to live life the happiest, you need to live life with no meaning. That means to live your life not worrying about the "true meaning" or what will come after death. His theory also said that religion and such are "absurd", as they are trying to find meaning in a meaningless thing. He said to "embrace absurdity scornfully, to revolt against it." He used (his interpretation of) the story of Sisyphus (an ancient Greek story) as an example. In the story, Sisyphus basically annoyed a bunch of gods and was punished by having to push a boulder up a mountain, but every time he got it to the top it would fall back down. Now, instead of praying, trying to find meaning, or even killing himself to make it end, he was happy about it, and therefor accepted it- but scornfully. I hope this helped somebody else as much as it's helped me :)
3 Quotes to Live By: 1) "Don't compare yourself to someone else, compare yourself to your yesterday's self." 2) “You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending” 3) "Once you decide your lifes purpose, you will only have to pack one thing: "Your Heart." Love from a small channel💙
@Jennifer Smith I can understand your point, but goal isn't to shut them in mental hospital, but to help them see life is worth living. For people with depression there is therapy and medicine. If they still want to die after this all, I get it. You want to give'em choice, but it's very important to make sure they understand everything in both options. I hope you understand what I mean and also sorry for all mistakes in my writing. If you want you can give me some feedback what do you think now.
I’m being 100% straight here. Few suicidal people have somebody who cares about them enough to stick by their side, watch them and care for them. If there is someone that will actually do that for them, that is wonderful! What WILL happen? Well, a concerned person or a therapist will call emergency services to get the suicidal person “Help”. I am a medical professional. What help? It is just a perpetuated fantasy to make people feel like there’s something that can be done. Now, if somebody has something like schizophrenia or another chemical imbalance and they need to be medicated and observed, then hospitalisation can absolutely work! But, for people who have been traumatised and have logically decided that they do not want to exist anymore, there is only more suffering when being shunted off to the psych hospital. Even if you go in voluntarily, you will be put in the hospital where you will be treated like a criminal; a bunch of low paid techs, who’ve had three months training will be both indifferent and rude. Possibly even abusive. you will have your belongings taken away and won’t even be able to use a pen. You will be on a ward with junkies and people who may actually hurt you, Security is pretty loose when it comes to your safety there. You might get a 20 minute session in with bored doctor whom you may never see again. They’ll be five hours late for the one appointment you have. On the day you’re supposed to leave, they won’t turn up on time and you’ll have to stay an extra day. You will be sedated with antihistamines, even if they make you feel sic. Some neurotic nurse practitioner will snap at you if you ask if you can just not take those pills and will write that you are “non-compliant“ in your notes. Notes that no one will ever read anyway. Then, after a few days, you will be sent home and told to “follow up with your doctor“ and given a psychologist appointment in a couple of weeks. It actually does NOTHING good. You just realise to keep your mouth shut so that you don’t get punished with the hospital again. It hammers home that nobody actually cares. They will make you feel much much worse about yourself. I would go as far as to say, if you care for somebody who is suicidal enough to stay with them, hold them and comfort them, then do so! If you don’t and you’re just going to call emergency services because you want to be responsible, Understand that you’re probably not helping them. It’s not like calling an ambulance for somebody who is sick or hurt. I’m sorry, but the state of psychological services in the US, UK and Canada (all countries where I have worked) sucks.(especially in the US) And those are countries with good medical care.
I'm sorry if this is triggering, but this is my experience.... I've made up my mind a while back that I don't want to live anymore. I've made up my mind that I've "checked out". 2022 was an especially rough year for me where, in my opinion, between my diagnosed disorderes and multiple life stresses it was a perfect storm. I breath to check a box at this point, even now as I write this I feel this is still (mostly) true. I get told on the regular (even from my therapist and psychologist, and friends) I don't see you as depressive/this person you paint. It's defeating to say the least. What helps me "stay here" is the fact that there's always tomorrow (to commit to this act). What helps me stay here is the fact that at least ONE person in my life, no matter how significant or insignificant (could be someone I've touched or helped motivate to seek more from life) would feel they have to update me with things I've missed (had I committed). I'll be blunt I'm 30 and I'm not sure if I'll see 31 or 35, but I'm still breathing as I type this. I write this in hopes to whomever reads this that you're not alone, I get it. Those who sympathize with me get it. You're not alone.
Also a sign if someone is suicidal is when you ask them if they are suicidal and they just stand there not saying anything like looking away or taking a really long time to say "no" (This may happen when the suicidal person is really close friends with you and doesn't wanna let you know they wanna commit suicide) (EDIT: This doesn't 100% mean they are suicidal they might have just not heard you clearly or just wants to be alone)
I 100% relate to this. Every time I've opened up about depression and suicide I've been shot down and criticized, so that definitely contributes to feeling like you need to hide/deny your suicidal feelings. One of the scariest things in the world to me is opening up to someone about serious stuff like this because I've only ever had bad experiences with being vulnerable.
I relate. I occasionally have suicidal or self-damaging thoughts. I never go through with it, because I am a Christian who believes God cares about me. I also like trying to succeed regardless, I love writing stories, I love playing video games, and I have too many things amd people I care about. Either way, it's hard to escape these thoughts because I am waaay too much of a perfectionist. If something doesn't go as planned, I get worried and upset. A lot of times my parents don't even want to talk to me about this, and I am not close enough to my friends to say anything of the sort. It's tough but I've been improving.
My first ever girlfriend died to suicide. For the past 4 years I've done nothing but blame myself. Anyone considering suicide, just know. I'd rather see a post of you making it through the day then see a post of your funeral.
14: Don't be disappointed by a lack of immediate results. If you've invested in a person, it can feel disappointing to not see them turn around towards health quickly. Just remember, it took a lot of beating down for them to reach this point, so it will likely take a lot of support and/or time to come back. A flower doesn't grow immediately no matter how much it's watered, especially one that's withered; but with proper attention and care, every flower will be able to bloom on its own. Just, please, please don't give up on it while waiting.
Bro my mom always say focus on your health and study but when i got worse or average result she always told me about things like i have very much depreesed thisnis not but in my health she always tolds that plzzz recover your body before someone joke on your face and no one is yours okkk.... Only that i cant regret myself but yesss i try to work hard daily for that but sometimes i study and and more focus on my face but my mom always say you are bieng bad by your face and watever she says this affect in my brain heart and nowww on straight today i regreteddd all my parents doing for me i need sucideeeeee😭😭😭but this video....tolddd meee bro
As someone who aspires to become a therapist friend but also needs one, this comment is comforting. I already knew that, but somehow I just now actually realized that there's still hope. I'll think about this whenever I feel down, thanks!
I like the rose thorns around the hand. It's a good representation that people helping the suicidal have lots of weight on there shoulders and will probably be scarred in some way after all is said and done
@@iamsorry.7241 So glad to hear you're doing better now, I belive in you, you can get through this tough time. Keep going and please don't ever lose hope for today, tomorrow or any other day. Remember about the people you love, they're here for you. Sending best wishes :)
Well, I'm hoping that the pain is worth it anyway, you know...? Hell, I kind of hate it when people say that normal people that don't have depression don't owe the depressed person anything... I mean, yeah, I guess I kind of get it if the depressed person is needy and demanding of them, forcing themselves on to them, but I mean, when they put it like that, I can't help but feel like their saying that they don't care about people even if they might be depressed enough to want to die, because they got all these other... negative traits beyond just their depression, and well... that kind of really hurts to hear... It's not always easy to be less than just depressed... It's easy to have it make you feel other negative things too... I wish I had someone care about me even with my inner demons... Haven't found anyone like that though, I just ended up scaring everyone off and having myself be called the monster... Heh... funny... Sigh, bastards... ... At least I tried...
@@indigowendigo8165 Most people are willing to help in their own way, the problem is that most of them don’t know how. As someone who constantly helps people with their mental issues, it can be really draining and worrying sometimes, but honestly, I feel it’s worth it. You shouldn’t be afraid of seeking help, there’s probably someone you trust that can offer support and love, but as far as it goes, I’d advice to seek professional help too, since there’s so much a person without education can do, and a doctor will know of things your friend don’t. (I’m sorry if it’s hard to understand, English isn’t my first language lol)
2:08 1 recognize the signs 3:03 2 ask them how they are 3:20 3 ask specifically about suicide 3:55 4 stay with them 5:06 5 keep them safe; remove harmful items 5:40 6 acknowledge their feelings are legitimate 6:03 7 repeat the words back to them in your own way 6:21 8 empathize with them 6:42 9 encourage them to focus on getting through 'today' 7:14 10 identify a hook 8:05 11 offer support and hope 8:49 12 don't minimize their problems 9:14 13 help develop a safety plan 10:32 14 follow up 11:17 outro
I know I’m late but the only reason I’m alive today is because I made a pact with another suicidal friend of mine. We both agreed that neither one of us is allowed to hurt or kill ourselves until the other died, and the determination to keep each other safe ultimately protected us. We each sought help and found ways to cope because despite all that was weighing on us we cared enough about each other to hold on for each other’s sakes. Now a few years later my suicidal thoughts are almost completely gone, I’ve begun to transition to my true gender and I have the strength and experience to support others when they struggle with mental health. And as for my friend, they’re still with me and they’re in a much better spot than they had ever thought possible. It really does something when you have someone you can lean on and when you have someone you want to stick around for.
hey I wish that could that could happen but my best friend killed herself and now I don't want to live I'm glad that you and your friend are in a better place quick question what are your pronouns?
I have this same kind of built in pact with my mom. We both are suicidal but we are each others will to live. Honestly with out her I don’t have a reason to work or do anything. Life is just so pointless to both of us so everything we do is for the other person. And it’s not toxic we don’t like threaten each other, we just understand the reality of how we feel about living in general
I have had a few friends with suicidal thoughts and what I find interesting here is that a lot of this advice are stuff I've done subconsciously without realising it. I've never really been completely suicidal myself but depression is something I've had to deal with ever since my early teens. A lot of the time I just say what I would want others to tell me when I'm at my worst,I'm ironically really bad at reaching out for help but helping those people sometimes helps me ground my own self in figuring out what to do. I just suck at taking my own advice :/
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
@@draglide2912 Please keep going, you're strong and I believe you can get through this. Remember that no matter what might be going on right now, everything may always change for the better. Reach out to people you trust if you ever feel the need to talk to someone, and if you need it we're all here for you ready to listen. sending support your way! *support incoming* :)
Very inform video and thank you for mentioning the psychological first aid course. I’m a nursing student wanting to work in the emergency department and this will really help
As someone who has talked several people off the ledge, sometimes you just gotta hear them out. None of the cheesy cliches work in that moment. Just hear them out, remind them of why you love them, and tell them you’re here and listening.
Storytime: I have a best friend. When we meet by Twitter, she was so happy and full of joy, when we got closer, she talked me about her problems. I tried to undertsand and try to help her because I love her and I don't want her to be sad everyday. One day, she told me that she was to kill herself, it literally break my heart, I was so deseperated trying to convince her that night to not do that, I didn't want to lose her, and the next day I woke up early and talk to her, try to convince her one last time and she finally give up, like, she doesn't want to commit suicide. That memory still hurts but I'm still with my best friend that I fucking love and trying to help her with everything
At the beginning of 2021 I met an amazing girl online, I was so lonely and had no good friends before, but after meeting her everything changed. We became best friends and everything was good until we both started opening up about our mental health issues. I myself have considered and thought about suicide so many times, but I always knew that I'm too weak to actually harm myself and I was scared that if I survived, I would regret the consequences. Personally, I have so many reasons to live, but at the time when I'm facing a hard situation, I feel like living is not worth it anymore. Sometimes I think that I have depression, but later I just make myself think that I'm being too dramatic and overreact. My friend also became a big reason for me to live, but the problem is that we both live too far away. When we got closer, she opened up about her depression and how much she's struggling with it. Just a few months ago a really bad day happened. We were both having a hard day and she wanted to talk out with me, but I was too busy. Later when I texted her again, she told me that she's trying to commit suicide. Back then I realized how useless I was because I wasn't there for her physically. I was so scared to lose her and I knew that I would never forgive myself. I kept trying to call her, talk with her and stop her. That was one of the worst days of my life. Somehow I managed to stop her and now we're both alive... Having a long-distance friendship is honestly so bad, especially when you're so close and you need each other physically. I wanted to hug her and tell her that she always has me and that I'll be with her no matter what happens. I knew that if only she didn't live on the other side of the world, it all would be different. Blaming distance also isn't a solution, but I wish I knew more ways to help her while being so far away. Whenever we talk now, I always ask how she is, let her know that I'm there for her, that she's not alone and has me. We got so close that she often says that I'm her only reason to live and I'm willing to do anything to help her. I hope no other person gets to experience a situation like this. Everyone be safe and just know that you're not alone, there are so many reasons to live and if you don't want to live for yourself, live for someone else, someone who is precious to you. And even if you don't have a person like that in your life now, you can never know, maybe you'll meet that person very soon and it'll change your life. :) My reason to live : -My family -My best friend -BTS, Stray Kids, Enhypen, TXT, Ateez, Seventeen, Astro.
I know exactly how you feel..long distance sucks! and I hate it so much it makes me feel helpless>< You are a good friend and don't forget to take care of yourself
It's scary how we had almost the same experience. I also met a online friend, back in summer last year. Compared to my current mental state, I wasn't really struggling much mentally back then. When I started to talking him, we quickly became friends and even a few days into our friendship, we were already opening up to each other about our own mental issues and past experiences. We supported each other all the time. Partly because he was a gamer, he didn't take care of himself enough so I often reminded him to get some sleep, eat, and drunk. For me, he helped me mend my friendship with my ex, a relationship that I felt guilty of ending but knew that it wasn't working for me. As the months passed, my online friend and I became even closer. We would call each other the light in our darkness and cheered the other up when we mentally break down. I even stopped him from harming himself again. Admittedly, he was the person I became the closest to, including my family and friends. We deeply cared for each other but our story did not end well as yours did. We started to become distant, mostly because of me. I could say that the start of school was the only reason I became distant with him but I would be lying. I'm not exactly sure of the reasons why we were becoming distant but we eventually became distant to the point of talking only 2 or 3 times in a week. One very late school night, at 3 AM, which i was fortunately awake at the time,he messaged me out of nowhere, saying goodbye and he was going to commit suicide afterwards. I quickly went on and begged him to not do it, to not waste the life that changed me. But no matter how much I begged in text, no matter how much I cried, he still decided to go through it. He stopped texting me but eventually came back on, saying that he let an online coin flip generator decide whether he should commit suicide or not. Thankfully, it landed on the side to not do it but, just like you, I felt helpless.I had no power to stop him from considering suicide or even from harming himself. Even until now, I wish I was with him irl. All that happened afterwards was that he told me that he was sent to a rehab center after he tried committing suicide and shortly after, all his social media accounts were deleted. I don't even know if he still is alive today. .. I couldn't help him at all. I felt like I abandoned him in the times he needed me the most. Until now, I blame myself for not doing the best I could to help him. I can't deny that I'm jealous that both of you are still good friends after everything that happened. I still continue to wish that we would still be friends... To you and those reading this, cherish your dear friends and don't let them go. You'll never when they will leave you or if they are on the verge of leaving . Always check up on your friends. Don't become distant like I did. I can't genuinely say to live for someone else because there are people like me who abandons friends. However, the feeling of supporting someone and being supported definitely made me feel lighter. I know I rambled a lot, but the point is: Find the right people to be by your side for a long time, if not forever. If u can't find anyone, be that person who will stay by someone's side. Your world will definitely change. Taking care of yourself including leaning on others :) (TWT I don't even know if I'm making sense anymore )
@@montolia1118 Hey Jasmine, first of all i’m not that good in English but I hope you can understand me. I wanted to tell you that you shouldn't feel guilty at all, I know it's hard for you to stop blaming yourself but it's not your fault. I have been through something similar and I blamed myself a LOT but the truth is that we are humans and our capabilities are limited we can't be the superheroes we wanted to be for our beloved ones they should be willing to help themselves by their own we can only offer the support. And sometimes we need a break for ourselves after spending so much energy with someone especially if we weren't aware that we are overwhelming ourselves we distance ourselves from them AND THAT'S OKAY we need that. This situation could be tricky.. Suddenly you might find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed..so don’t forget to take care of yourself, always remember that you can only give him your love and support and that's it you can’t save him and it’s not your responsibility. Do the things you like more often such as drawing, singing, meditation or whatever it helps and it gives you the energy you need for this situations. I hope your friend could get better soon, and take care of yourself first if you wanna help💗
Helping my current girlfriend when she was just a suicidal person I reached out for a long time ago got us where we are today My mom told me I was stupid for staying up late preventing her from committing suicide and said that people who want to commit suicide just do it instead of saying it I'm taking notes to not be like my mother
Something that stayed with me as I was suicidal was something a friend said”you deserve to be happy too” I always regretted saying I was suicidal to friends because I noticed how bad they were taking it. I reached for help then. The thing is it never really went away, it is like in the back of my mind in bad days. Well finally I’m too weak to follow through so I guess we have to live with this state ^^
Recently I saved my best friend - who attempted committing suicide many times - from trying to commit suicide again. My best friend told me that they will avoid doing it just to keep me happy. I also somehow did it without this video :) (but it's really helpful, so please watch it whole, guys!) Some tips that worked for me: - give them freedom of opinion. They may be very sad because they never got to say what they think about certain things. - tell them to "stay safe" every time you say goodbye. Every time I did this (which was a lot), they said that they'll try to stay safe as best as they can. - give hugs if you're comfortable! (Even virtual hugs, they really help) - tell them that they can talk to you or text you whenever they want to. It really helps with stress. - send/show them pictures of cute things, like animals or plushies! It really makes them happy. - try to stay positive! And don't be too serious over things like old scars, some people don't like that and invading their privacy, or ruining their mood. And don't be too silly when things really get serious! It may be sometimes annoying to them. Hope you stay safe, guys! :3
was planning to do it at 14 when i was 13, told myself ill do anything that might make me feel alive even if a short moment, I'll give life a chance.. I turned 19 last month, things still feel hard but atleast I'm still here.
try to practice sports, physical activities, it will give joy and pleasure to always be well. read more, avoid violent or depressing things. things will work out little by little, the important thing is to believe and never give up.
