4. Add real value. If you want people to respect you, it's important to add value to their lives. That means being the kind of person who makes things better, not worse. It means being helpful and supportive instead of destructive and negative. It means always looking for ways to improve the situation and make things easier for others. This is not the same as being a people pleaser, because you are not doing things that you don't want to do. You are just being helpful. If you can be the type of person who adds real value to others' lives, they'll start respecting you pretty quickly. . . hope you enjoy the Video!