Vain people are self conscious, but I'm not convinced self conscious people are vain. Remember Father was talking about the motive, what is that I WANT? People who are vain want attention for themselves and don't give regard to others. Anyways, that's my psychoanalytic interpretation of vanity and self consciousness. I see no sin in being self conscious purely on its own, but then again I'm just some guy. Peace!
@@alexsiryj You're right! Being self-conscious in a positive way is being self-aware. That's why I said it "can" be a form of vanity. We need to be self-aware, to "Know Thyself" but always in relation and subordination to God.
Litany of humility is a beautiful prayer that if practiced daily helps us become more aware of our vanity & pride. Thank you Fr C for guiding us with a sense of humour 😂
My achilles heel! I was so vain about my intellect and physical/athletic prowess as a teenager and young woman, but working with people who had intellectual and physical disabilities cured me of that! It was like learning to love humanity as God loves us, and it was very confronting. This is one of your best, Father. Great stuff.
Not to inflate your pride, Father, but you are the best spiritual advisor! Every time I have a big question rattling around in my brain, there you are with the answer!
Thank you Fr Columba. I had to stop myself from ruminating on my hurt and angry feelings so I prayed to Jesus about it then I meditated a bit and during that meditation I remembered you. So I took that as Jesus answering my request for his guidance. God knows I watch you on RU-vid and when I came on this video showed up. God knows me and I am so thankful for the grace he gives to me everyday. Thank God and Thank Jesus
I am insecure, so I often act out to get attention from others, so I am the center of attention. Being autistic, I don't have any "filters" and commit social blunders. Moreover, when corrected, I act out even more. This can be anything, from silliness to acting holy. Is there nothing I can do sincerely? Please please pray for me! I am trapped by insecurities..... I know this is wrong. I feel horrible, especially when I hurt someone I love by it!
God loves you, and so do I. this kind of situation is hard for many to understand, because they don't understand how hard it really is. And how much we don't wish to be that way. Even in the Bible Jesus and the Apostles were healing Mental Illness as much as Physical. People tend to over look that. I am not autistic, but I do have mental illness that I often feel shamed for. Honestly with all the trouble you seem to have. I think you are doing an amazing job trying to live up to what God asks. How easy is it to live as he asks with a clear head? They struggle too, but they don't have this cross. And if anyone tells you they don't have insecurities.. they are lying to themselves. We all have them.. people like you and I just can't hide it as well. I know I have a lot of short comings, and often don't say or do the right thing. I want to but it often comes out wrong. So I have made one promise to God, to Jesus.. that I still uphold to this day... The promise was.. to Not give up, no matter how many times I trip and fall... I will keep going. I will not stop trying. Even if I have to crawl... I will follow to the best of my abilities. I have also fallen into the practice, that if I have a bad day. I Thank God at the end of it for helping me get through this day, and Pray for a greater success on my next try. Don't forget... God is with you.. Always. Your Guardian Angel is always with you... always... to prove that... God Loves you and you are Precious. Don't give up. Give it to God. God Bless you!
Great vid Fr Columba! Keep me in prayer please - I almost died but am out of hospital and doing well on the mend. Ive got the prayer of the St Fidelis Friary here in London, please join in and intercede for me too! Pax! Max
Great Talk Fr! My Pride causes me to follow the one who cannot tell the truth but can only lie and to reject the one who cannot lie but can only tell the truth! 😩 It also makes me big and God small (if that were possible) 🙉 And Vanity …. Yikes Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, Have Mercy On Me a sinner 🙏 I need Humility…. Urgently!
Great job! Thanks be to God! That pool that collects good things reflects images... poor Narcissus, he didn't have a chance. But we have been warned.😅 When we are in the flow of God's love, there is no need to have good things collect. We're giving it away just as it comes to us. Think manna in the desert.
Wow Father, when you described these imaginary tales we make up in our minds to feel good about ourselves, I felt so called out 🤣 But seriously vanity is a terrible vice of mine. The worst is when I do a good spiritual deed the first thing that comes to my mind is “oh wow you’re so holy”, or I constantly worry if people think I am a good Catholic or not. It’s terrible but I try to reject it as soon as it comes, the way I try to do with any other temptation. What you said about laughing of ourselves is a very good tip actually. When I catch myself having these vain daydreams, reminding myself I am a bit silly and really not that exceptional definitely helps. 😊
I loved this talk, your beard is glorious and ALL thanks be to God! Seriously, thank you Father, you've given me lots of meditate on ! May God bless you interiorly and give you His Peace.
As usual father Columba hits another home run thanks to God glory. Appreciate your work so much Father. By the way Jerry your plant in the background is doing great thanks to God for that as well. God bless you and you brothers and sisters
Thanks Fr you totally cracked me up. Should I be honored to have to accept pride and vanity, as a thorn in my side from God? I work to be humble and... pop, there goes a pride ride! It's almost full time. It just seems that the Lord has left this rotten vice in me to overcome and become His Glory. Meanwhile I plug away. God bless you and love you. T.
Very helpful, thank you, Father! (if your beard is ever a "stumbling block", just think about St. Maximillian Kolbe's beard - THAT is an awesome beard! 🤣)
I can see / absorb the lack of ego of this fellow & with it also the fulsome ness of personality. I spotted immediately - that’s what’s attractive . The attitude to the wonder of god, illuminates a person to wholeness.
Thank you very much for this one. In general I do OK with pride and giving the glory to God but with vanity, I really want others to like me and think I do well. This really helped
It *is* an amazing glorious beard - I used to have one a lot like it. Perhaps I ought to grow it again and give God glory for allowing me to grow such a fine thing! It seems as good a place as any to start, given the serious lapses, right across the board, in everything else I do. Something for me to think about. Thanks, Father Jordan.
St. Francis would say, make me a channel and of your peace. Oh Master grant that I may never seek so much to be consoled as to console, to be understood as to understand, to be loved as to love with all my soul. For it is in dying to ourselves that Christ is born in us. And in dying that we are born to eternal life.
All I can think about is Morgan looking at you sideways. Literally and figuratively. Probably laughing and thinking how blessed she is to work with you.
How much more will the Heavenly Angels rejoice on the wedding day of Christ and His Holy Church, His bride, if all the Heavens rejoice when one soul returns to The Lord . What a feast is that to behold, a celebration that lasts for eternity.
How timely of you. Of God. It's amazing how He can tend to His people in so many different ways. I appreciate your talks, they resonate with me. I love the idea of using humor when I catch myself tripping on "whatever" as opposed to kicking myself around because I'm yet again failing. We are a funny breed. And yes, you have a glorious beard, no harm in confirming that!
I sat on a dock and watch the expanse of the ocean and sat beneath Gods glorious sky and listen to your sermon. It added depth to your teaching and I was able to reflect on my often vain and prideful nature and be honest all while being inspired by the work of our father, who art in Heaven. Thank you, sir.
Whew did I need this one. Sometimes I feel insecure about one thing and I’ll try to boost my own confidence about something else to balance things out. All the while forgetting that without Christ at the center of the fulcrum, I seesaw between self deprecation and self glorification. When I just focus on Christ, I stop worrying about myself so much and balance is achieved. Father, your advice about “acknowledging what you’re good at, remember who gets the credit and move on” is the most sound advice I’ve heard in a long time. I imagine my solution to the self depreciation problem is probably to take the same relative advice.
🙏🏻🕊❤️🔥Yes! May we always remember that all good things come from God alone! ❤️🔥🕊🙏🏻 yes dear Father, vanity and pride is my main fault…i have a good laugh about my silly vain thoughts….it’s good to talk to Jesus about our weakness, to laugh about it and to thank Him for the kind reminder…that we are not and He is. joyfully, gratefully and prayerfully yours +in JMJ+ 🙏🏻🕊❤️🔥🕊🙏🏻
Aw, those siblings. Talk about taking the fun out of dysfunctional! Thankfully, the Lord has always been able to show me clearly how un-great I am, lol. Once I opened the door, I knew only that I deserved Hell. A sobering thought indeed. I'm still trying to find the good, something I do well. Apart from Him i can do nothing. All of the Glory belongs to God, of course, and the thanksgiving and praise. I'm still trying to learn humility though. Because I hear that my anger issue is a form of pride. ? Help.
I think I’m called to marriage and struggle with vanity and envy, and being self conscious. How can women approach their appearances modestly in this regard? I often want to exercise in order to become better looking so that when we get married, the man I marry won’t be disappointed. That’s something I struggle with, but it feels like a damned if I do, damned if I don’t type of thing. I don’t want to hurt myself by feeding into vanity or the idea that I’m not enough unless I look a certain way, but I know men are visual and I have such an internal dread of that potential face of disappointment on my husband on our wedding night. Please help and pray for us.
Vanity can be the opposite too. Thinking so much about what others think and being so self conscious... Thinking you are the worst, that you are all these negative things. I know... it's one of my constant struggles. It leads to unhealthy fears and anxieties that just disturb the peace, as one might say. ... Not everyone is born "beautiful" by human standards. So it can be very hard. Because the world is cruel about it. But remembering that its what God thinks that is most important helps you come back from that kind of suffocating vanity/pride. P.S. the sin of Envy Loves people like this.. that jerk eats us for lunch I tell you. Envy is not always AT the other person... it can also go inward towards yourself (suicided thinking everyone is better off without you... is an outcome of this). So.. yeah.. God Help us from our own selves against these jerks! Thank you! Amen. I really love all your messages... Thank you!
@@ctmcatholic I feel glad that we are here as a community of believers complete with humility and pride alike! I am now just watching that the first time here during the Easter season. So, yes, I plan to notice pride, and I think I will make myself watch this video a second time now because I do not think I took it all in the 1st time...
Yep, your beard is glorious. But more... thank you Fr Columba for communicating so clearly. I needed to hear what you had to say, through your heart. I am one of those lost sheep who heard didn't hear God in the church I grew up in, Unitarian Universalism, and so left Christianity entirely to wander through yoga and Zen, where I began to hear God. Where I first heard Jesus calling to me. God, working through Fr Columba and those who you support through your work here--I am looking for support, for a church, for a teacher. Do you have an idea of where I might go to find help in Catholic Bible study, prayer, and maybe somehow, some day, the true conversion I seek?
Dear Andrew, it is wonderful to hear from you, and we would love to help you in any way we can. Of course there are lots of online resources we can point you to, such as Fr Mike Schmitz’s podcast “Bible in a Year”, you might enjoy the shallow app for prayer, we have covered prayer a lot on this channel, etc. As for in person help and guidance, are there any Catholic religious communities or churches near you? Do you want to let us know where you are based and we can have a quick look? Bless you, Friend.
Prayer and fasting, Jesus said, is what is needed for the most difficult demons. Ghandi practiced one day a week, only drinking water with lemon and an all day meditation on Mondays.
I am so greatful to God for for letting me find you! I would go on and on, but hey, that would be counter productive to the topic! I would however love to see that beard in a viking braid..... just sayin `. 😂
I'm guilty with Vanity coz my reason is God is Beautiful so we should also be beautiful. This sometimes bring me problems coz they say what you are inside, mirrors your outside😂.....But not always...coz Satan is a liar. He always baits me regarding this...coz he knows my weakness😂
The Catechism teaches us that we as the Church are the bride of Christ. According to the USCCB website, we, who pray The Divine Office pray the prayers of His bride, His beloved. Whether that means that we are wedded or whether it means we are betrothed or engaged might depend on each one's stage of surrendering one's self individually. Maybe the Holy Saints wear their invisible wedding ring and maybe the rest are wearing an invisible engagement ring. He has made us for Himself and our hearts remain restless until they rest in Him, so, maybe we are betrothed until our hearts rest completely, perfectly and permanently in Him.
Sometimes while I'm putting on my makeup, I recall a female speaker on EWTN discussing the merits we can gain on Divine Mercy Sunday. She said,"Wearing makeup is an act of mercy for others"😊 I agree!!
@@elliedaisy1799 I would say that sin doesn't come into it. But botux seems a bit more vain, and is likely to become more ingrained as it needs to be repeated fairly regularly.
I don't know if those who had an especially critical childhood, deprived of affection and love from parents, that may be a cause (my personal feelings) why some people desperately cling to the praise and positive attention of others, in order to satisfy a need for self-worth and love. All praise and thanksgiving be to God alone Who is good!
Plenty to contemplate here for a musician. I hope you will do more videos on personal success and failures. It’s a deep topic that can lead to “paralysis by analysis “. Thank you Fr. God Bless You.
