She is right, because in my experience this is true. I grew up in a dysfunctional home without my original parent. I never had healthy people in my life especially. I met my healthy responsible husband and I decided to get help with therapy, A.A., ACA, and a lot of inner work. I had to stop allowing toxic people and also cut out toxic family members. You are what you surround yourself around. It’s been 10 years and I have grown into someone I thought would never be possible. First, a person must become self aware of the behaviors, perspectives and attitudes to fix them! Thankfully, my husband never gave up! I’m so grateful! Change is hard, but achievable! ❤
@@hmfogptditf It doesn’t matter what she says my husband knew where my heart was, when u truly love some one and he saw that I did get help instead of living in denial, I was taking action that’s a different situation…
I. Have. Not. Ever. Gone. Back. To. Chaos. I grew up in & had that as a young adult. I'm used to ( if that's the way to word it, beauty & grace, finding that in chaos , being still & calm amidst chaos. Others around me that grew up stable have fallen, they fall apart when hard times arrive. When we find the light the light drives us. Always.
Coming from a chaos home I tried to be with men whom I thought were stable. Turned out they were more chaotic than me. It's not that I purposely do it. It's that they come across one way but are the opposite once you get to know them.
Me too. No matter where I go always come across the same type of guys. I really feel like it's not written in my fate (yet?). I'm not crossing paths with the one that I want. Whoever he is.
Could it be that your interpretation of stable is skewed having come from a chaotic home...there are levels of chaos...maybe you are still attracted by a lower form of chaos, but chaos nonetheless?..just a thought
@@daker1941 honestly many of us have been looking for the complete opposite and it's nowhere to be found. The wrong types always seem to be close and near, or even recommended by family/friends. Sometimes it really is fate or life being unfair. Believe me I'm 35 years old and have physically trying to find the opposite for years now.
It may hurt to hear that but it makes total sense. If you have had 3-4 step parents you are used to the idea that if it does not work there is another wedding on the corner. You really need a lot of focus to focus on 1 relation to really believe in it.
I think you can also embrace your chaos. I come from chaos and honestly I dont think I will be 100% stable someday. But I found a way to deal with it in my 15 years relationship, I found a job that is so human and challenging that it doesnt annoy or bore me, I allow me or i got used to switch between some hobbies and goals in live. Stability isnt my main value, I rather try to manage to be loyal and to fulfill the responsiblities that I chose
Thats my fear. I had to endure so much trauma in childhood and marriage. Now that I'm single I'm afraid I will destroy a new relationship because of what Ive been use to even though I hated it.
NO. I've been working on myself for 10 years - still going on. And i can't imagine going back to crazy. I'm a mother now. I'm vary self-aware and own work my partner.
All women need to work on themselves all the time. The women who expect men to change are projecting. Women need to practice self-control. As to men who haven’t become great.
I get that, but… you gotta have hope in people. You can’t give up so easily. The can change. It won’t be easy. It’s up to them. But they can change for better.
I have been having mental health issues for 5 years concerning my relationship with God with Jesus and with my brothers and sisters. Your messages has helped me to feel better.
Yes but also one can't understand a woman's past in 5 or 10 minutes in a rushed conversation. Men should actually take a woman out and date them get to know who they are and their values over time... many men nowadays ask the deepest of questions out of selfishness, demand answers, and retraumatize.
@@sedna-vesta I talked with my girlfriend for 3 months before we went out. I wanted to make sure what I was getting into. Both men and women need to take accountability for not Vetting properly. You never hear a woman say it was her fault.
@@jasonaragon2766Fair enough, both sides should vet... and well done that you took the time. My comment is regarding "people" that want to know everything about one's history right away... sometimes before even going on a date, whether guy or gal (but I think women experience this a lot more). There are and will always be people feigning emotional intimacy to only seek something short-lived.
I mean how does she speak like she knows every woman in this world.? Psychology is not science. And also alot depends on values of people in their life.
This isn't true, my entire family grew up in chaos and we're breaking the cycles. My husband's family was awful and he's not really done work, but I know the flags of chaos and help us avoid it.
Sadia grew up in poor parents Sadia didn’t know her worth She had opened her legs too many to the wrong man who were trying to play There this and this and this man try to play her, she opened and left alone She is so broken for what happened in her past. Now she is wanting to break all the relationships with gossip about love.
After seeing her in my feed for months talking like she’s the foremost expert on all things relationships, I just checked her background to see where her experience comes from. Come to find out she’s just a Pakistani Angelina Jolie . An actress. Sounds like just the person to take life changing relationship advice from.
She refuses w do the work needed 2 effect change & discontinue this toxic behavior. Knowing this & what she said & did behind My back. I know this will never work because of her toxic & chaotic learned behavior
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