How to Know You're Ready for Marriage (with Jeanette Clark) 

Im getting married in 2 days!! :D

That's true, you don't have to be all put together to marry someone but you need to make sure you and the other person want to grow in the same direction and reach the same kind of maturity

from book( To Save a Thousand Souls) Who Will You Bring With You Into Heaven? I once heard a priest tell his vocation story. I grew up in a very close, devout Catholic family with loving parents and we prayed together as a family every day. I attended a Catholic school with wonderful teaching Sisters and everything in my life revolved around the Church. I lived in a very Catholic culture. I was the number one altar server, the star student, and a leader in my class. Because of this, and the fact that I loved being around the parish, serving and helping out the priests, everyone would say the same thing, “You will be a priest when you grow up. Won’t you?” I heard this constantly from the other kids in my class, from the sisters who taught me, and from the two assistant priests, who were always visiting the classes and interacting with me around the church. But I never heard it from the pastor, which I appreciated. I got tired of people urging the priesthood on me, because I did not especially want to become a priest. I always wondered why the pastor, an elderly Monsignor, never asked me about priesthood as everyone else did, though he was always very kind to the altar servers. One day, as I was coming close to graduation from the parish school, I was assigned to serve the seven o’clock morning Mass and the elderly pastor was the celebrant. Only the two of us were in the sacristy and he vested in silence, mumbling the vesting prayers in Latin and preparing himself for Holy Mass. With just two minutes to go before the Mass began, the Monsignor suddenly turned and said, “John, what will you be doing when you grow up?” I thought to myself, “Oh boy, here it comes. Even from Monsignor.” But I replied, “Monsignor, I am still not certain but I am thinking about going into medicine. I would like to become a doctor.” And the pastor replied, “Good. Good. And what will you do after that?” I said, “Well, I suppose I will marry and have a family of my own.” The priest said, “Good, and what after that?” Not sure exactly where he was going with this line of questioning, I replied, “I guess I will grow old, practicing medicine, and eventually retire. And then I guess I will die and go to heaven.” The pastor nodded his head knowingly, thoughtfully, and he was quiet for a few seconds. Then he looked at me earnestly and said, “And who will you bring with you into heaven?” Immediately, he rang the sacristy bell and we walked out to begin the Mass. I thought to myself, “How clever you are, Monsignor. How clever you are.” I thought about that comment all during the Mass and many more times during my adolescent and young adult years. “And who will you bring with you into heaven?” It was asking myself that question repeatedly that really turned the tide and convinced me eventually that I should become a priest. Every vocation is about helping other people reach heaven. I tell this story not to minimize the greatness of the sacrament of marriage, because marriage serves the same purpose! I suppose the young man might have used the same comment made by the pastor to move him towards the vocation of marriage. But the story illustrates the critical point that a vocation is not primarily about self-fulfillment, but about being the instrument of God in saving others. “What will you do with your life? What are your plans? Have you ever thought of committing your existence totally to Christ? Do you think that there can be anything greater than to bring Jesus to people and people to Jesus?” Pope John Paul II

...Be matured enough to continue maturing. Amazing piece of advice from JPII.

Love this video! It's so easy to fall into the "I'm not ready..." trap. Instead, we should focus on being ready to be 'more' ready. One thing, the audio is a bit unbalanced between the music and voice. I think the voice could use a boost.

Im 47yrs old still waiting on the Lord for my future spouse.

People who are getting married should talk about whether they are prepared to have a baby that's deformed or disabled or not perfect. 🖤 Also teach your kids to be nice to disabled people that's their brother that's their sister that could be them that could be their child

I’m currently 18, a recent Catholic convert, and marriage has been one of the my most important goals right after getting closer to God. I not only believe Marriage is one of the greatest gifts from God but also a great way for each person within the marriage to help the other (and by effect their children) to grow closer to the almighty God. My goal right now is to be married and have children at least by the age of 24-25. But looking at my future ahead I know it’s going to be tough and definitely can see this view of having an early marriage problematic to my family who are not Catholic. I’m currently planning on becoming a BSN and I practically already have my associates degree (I’m a senior this year) so I really only have four years of college to do, but by the time I’m done with all of that I’ll be at or nearly the age I want to get married. I don’t know if that is a good time to make such a large commitment when I probably won’t even have a job at that point. Would you suggest I get married and just live off the support of both parties families until a stable income can be made or should I just wait off till I feel my situation is stable enough? I most likely will be a single income family as I want and am ready to be the main provider for the family. Currently talking to one of the women who goes to my FSSP parish and I feel like if not her, many of the women there are great, loyal, and spiritually strong people, so I’ve never been more ready to set myself up with one of them. Also is it good to get engaged as soon as possible and just wait it out until the timing is right for marriage?

I'm ready. My man, what's taking you so long?

Take it easy heal and learned from the mistakes

Amen! Thanks again Christopher!

You have to be mature enough to continue maturing when you marry.

I’m getting married in January 🥰

I am so afraid I will say or do something stupid, then die. Or worse, deny God from fear of suffering great painful nightmarish torture then die. I know God will be with me in that moment, so it upsets me that I'm still adraid of it. I am afraid we don't have long and I have not understood what to prepare. Is my home going to be a sanctuary? If so, how do I get it ready? Am I to go somewhere else? If so, will I see the signs? Do I stillhave serious mortal sin in my past yet unconfessed? Forgotten? Am I committing serious sin now and am unaware of it. Have I judged someone, is there someone I haven't forgiven? Why is it becomming so hard to fast and pray? Why am I getting weaker and not stronger? Am I being deceived? How would I possibly know? I think I am doing right, but if I'm deceived then all is lost, right? How do I keep from being mislead straight into etermal damnation? I can't live without God. I couldn't bare to be without Him and Our Mother and all the Saints whom I've come to depend on... Eternally??? I have so many questions and no one to answer them. It's a scary time.

God bless

He said a lot in this lil 4 minutes!

F*£& Yes

I mean if you can just get a divorce, What is the purpose of marriage?

NFP when it plans in thought, word, and deed to exclusively have recourse to the infertile period in order to avoid having children is a mortal sin because it tries to separate in thought, word or deed the primary purpose of the conjugal act and marriage which is the procreation and education of children for God’s glory. The whole “Christopher West, Janet Smith” era of the promotion and interpretations of Karl Wojtyla’s “Theology the Body” was an era which seriously, and still does, thwart the primary purpose of marriage through NFP and it continues to be a scandalous disaster to the sacrament of marriage as was instituted by Our Lord Jesus Christ. Lord have mercy on us.

Young men and fools getting remarried. Not only are you not ready for marriage, You're definitely not ready for the legal process. That will hover over you your entire life if you have children's ones you're divorced. Odds are you we'll get divorced and at legal process is predatory to men. The marriage contract is a legally binding contract which will have you in disadvantage.