How to manage being upset (my worker made a mistake) 

Agreed😊

Thank you for noticing. I would say that I am practicing out loud and getting back to myself in that regard. I appreciate you watching and noticing 💛🙏🏽🙌🏾💛

I agree! Got to love is humility. He reminds me of my son.

Thank you. I appreciate you letting me know and for understanding the situation. These comments help a bit in analyzing my own behavior afterwards🙌🏾🙏🏽💛

Thank you for seeing it that way. If you can recognize that there are lessons in this, then you likely already know most, if not all of these already. Thank you for watching 🙏🏽

I try to deal with the spiritual side rather than the person. Tue person was I considerate and selfish but the spirit was passive aggressive. Some try to create a scenario where you act out of character to prove some strange thought they had about you being a rude person despite there actions being the cause. Some people live in an almost incomprehensible world apart from the one I live in. I cannot always see it, but when I do, I do.

@@markmeetsafrica yes indeed it’s always better to deal with things spiritually, watch out for the passive aggressiveness I have dealt with that in “Africa” and I know how to manage myself with it now. Where I am now they are in your face which I prefer, I know what I’m dealing with. Yes that acting out of character is to get angry, upset,jealousy etc. But our true characteristics are of Peace, Love, Happiness etc. You handled the situation with grace and dignity, but yet still letting the soul know it was not appropriate to act without consent. I have been described as an “anomaly” (worlds apart from the one I live in). I will happily play that role.👍🏾😉😊

Thank you for making a comment like this. I try to be neutral in these situations so as not to break the person. Even when people make a mistake, many still find a way to make it your fault. Neutrality allows me to become e a mirror for them to look at themselves without going to their level. Sone do it intentionally and it is a passive aggressive tactic used to get you to act out of character. It goes soo much deeper than the action and moves into the real of intentions. That is the spiritual side of it.

@ The most high Elohim made him this way. It’s just in him. How he was designed/created to be.

I hope to maintain the good charicteristics I have and challenge the not so good while growing all around. I am lucky to be able to think the way I do and I am learning that everyday. Thank you for the affirmation, hearing this helps me to grow even more 🙏🏽🙌🏾💛

In my opinion, you are off base in this scenario. No one referred to this man as ignorant. And it’s irresponsible on this platform to suggest that he is. Mark only spoke of how he didn’t believe he was being malicious (bc he knows him) and thought he was being helpful but made assumptions that he shouldn’t have. This man would definitely have done this with mzungus of any race or nationality. I have never seen a Tanzanian man be quiet, subservient or kowtow to a mzungu in any situation. Being a manager is one thing, being a brother is a whole different perspective. Mark is endeavoring to impart knowledge and wisdom as he builds. “Managing” the situation as is done in the west is not always what uplifts the community. It was out of place to disparage this man, especially after hearing Mark’s account.

@@NikkijBerrymanWell said.

This is a not so common thing. On a spiritual level, he was being passive aggressive because he likely wanted to see me act out of character. On a basic level, he wanted to get the work done quickly because he was being paid for the amount of work he did per day. He needed materials to get the work done faster to be paid faster so his logic said that the only way to speed it up is to get it done himself. Though his logic was not complete, it was HIS logic.

@@markmeetsafrica okay, thank you for clearing that up. Caused that move really pissed me off. Peace and love

Yes, he is no longer with us on the site but this is what I told him.

@@markmeetsafrica Did he leave?

Yes, I have used them enough times to the point where they know I know the price. This was someone who wanted to get the work quickly because he was being paid per finished unit

Thank you. There was a time where I did not know who that was but I can now take that as a complement. Of course I am my own unique person, in some ways, I carry his and others legacy. We all do in various areas. Whether we want to or not. I'd like to believe that is a form of the ancestors that we can always be with. Characteristics passed down in some way or another. That's all it is.

That could be a good option but at this point there is no need as we are basically finished.

They sure do. Luckily I needed that wood and it was what he needed to finish the work. It was also at the sane price I normally pay and it got there early in the day so it saved time.

@@markmeetsafrica Is your project goal for repat to stay? My goal is to retire in The Gambia one day but not anytime soon. Hopefully, my retirement life will be on the beach with a small solo business.

That is a great addition to a good analogy. Thank you for that😆💛🙏🏽🙌🏾

You're right. This kinda stuff is done, unfortunately. But hopefully it has nothing to do with that Nigerian dude saying the people there cause havoc... Mark repeated it like he agreed and though it was probably innocent, he could've offended someone. Or something in the universe heard and used this as an occasion to be mischievous.... I wouldn't even have put this video up. Mark needs to be careful of what he posts.

@@maclivingston9268 I will agree that what we focus on expands. We have to be very careful with what we say and dwell upon. As far as Mark posting this, I believe it’s a lesson for everyone bc these sorts of things happen all over the world. People make assumptions, try to get over, test your patience, resolve and strength. Mark could have handled this in so many ways and he was showing all of us who haven’t mastered responding over reacting how you can master your emotions in the moment. It was a great thing to share. Tanzanians are beautiful people with big hearts. We all are learning together!

@@NikkijBerrymanyou are intelligent

Yes, it was done passive aggressively. Unfortunately that is not uncommon but on the basic level, he wanted to finish quickly. He was being paid for how much work he did per day and had every desire to get the material as quickly as he could. I paid normal price for it but on the spirit level, he wanted an uncharacteristic respons out of me so he could feel like the victim for his own actions. I let him go for other reasons not too long after. I said it in another comment but the greed bug is an obvious one. Or at least it's effects.

@@markmeetsafrica I definitely trust your instinct and judgment. Great job!

It is not a mistake at all . Its how they operatallIt is worse in the markets if you watch videos how they force things to the customers that is not a mistake .

@ Everything Beautiful Always… and those who TRY to take ppl kindness for weakness will lose in the long run. 1st time shame on you 2nd time shame on me. You won’t get a 3rd time. I’m sure they’ve seen both sides of Mark and that will bring respect towards each other if not….Sayonara

@@ladyleo6457 ❤️

Fortunately I paid the normal price I paid for the wood. He likely wanted to finish the work quickly. His daily pay was dependant on how much work he got done and he needed materials to get the work done.

Thank you 🙏🏽💛💛💛💛💛🙏🏽 that means a lot hearing

And you would be right based on principle. Lucky for him it was the supplies he needed to complete the job and I would have had to buy it later anyways. He is not with me anymore for another reason but he did good work while he lasted.

Yep.

Its coming. Later on, all workers will sign it bit for now it's just the standard "dealing with fundi" sort of things

It turns out it was the material he needed to get the job done. I paid the regular price I pay and my only issue was him not asking. I would have had to order it regardless.

He knows. He was being passive aggressive in some ways. I believe at the basic level, he wanted to finish quickly because I paid him each time he finished a certain amount of work. He needed materials to do the rest of the work

Perfectly put.

I will have to disagree a bit here. I think you are spot on with me being a bit on the agreeable side, but when it comes down to sales, I am a firm no man. This is a trait I have always had. If I do not want or need something, I will say no. The good thing in this scenario is that I needed the wood and it was the material the man needed to complete the job. He got what he needed I later found out but it was to finish building. I said yes because I would have had to order it anyways. You are right, we are who we are but you can be a mix of a few things 😆😁

@@markmeetsafrica oh this was not directed at you at all my man. I didn't see you like that at all. I'm just thinking of the type of people who would concede to this most of the time. You seem very fair and balanced in your thinking and how you deal with the people that work for you.

Fortunately we are just about done. But in the future this will be what is done. Many workers like these do not understand contracts or agreements, they may not do what it says regardless.

I am glad to hear that everything worked out for the best and you are almost done. It seems your journey was a learning experience but we are glad you are safe and keep making your wonderful videos..SHALOM!

I would love to when I am in a more established place and I have done a few more things. I would love to just sit somewhere and meditate on my life and write down what comes out. Thank you for the suggestion🙌🏾🙏🏽💛

I let him go soon after for other reasons but I did end up paying the normal price I pay for rhe wood that I would have had to eventually buy anyways. My issue was the principle in asking. He wanted to rush because he was being paid for the amount of work he did.

@@markmeetsafrica Exactly! It was the principle. That is why I would have issued him a penalty fee. One must learn to follow rules and regulations of the job.

You are forgetting that someone has to pay. A soldier cannot go rogue doing his own thing, that can cause lives.

2 good points. That is where the lesson lies and I hope he learned it. Not to far in one direction but right in-between what you are both saying

@@vicferrmat4492 you trying to correlate the topic with a rogue soldier makes zero sense, I was making a comment to mark about the topic cause I know their mentality and how things work in TZ again am speaking from my TIA experience but you on other hand I don’t have a clue about that so stay in your lane

The good thing is I paid online and it was the normal price I pay.

​@@markmeetsafricaI was indicating directly from the seller

Thank you for watching 🙏🏽 💛

The more time that goes by, the more what you are saying makes sense. I am happy to be seen as a leader now. Before, I would push the complement aside as someone trying to make me feel good bit now I accept it as the truth because it has manifested in real time. I appreciate you relating and I will walk in that title as time goes by🙏🏽🙌🏾💛

You said it 😆

You make a good point. Luckily it this scenario it was what he needed to finish the job and it just so happened to be right at the normal price. I would know because I have priced everything beforehand and bought enough times myself to know what fair is. He wanted to make his money quicker because he was being paid by the amount of work he got done.

@@markmeetsafrica That's well and good. However, for accountability purposes. You can demand a purchasing policy that works for you...

@@johnsonedgar333 you make a good point yet again. Unfortunately here, thos is the normal. Where can we find a perfect person? We just need to work with the weaknesses that aren't as bad. He likely wouldn't even know what that purchasing policy was and it wouldn't be worth explaining it to him. I have let him go for a different reason but he had the greed bug and was very passive aggressive as many people are. He was on the basic level, trying to get his work done quickly to make money quickly, though selfish, not evil. On the spirit level, he wanted a reaction that was uncharacteristic. He desired to sew me upset. A form of demonic control in which he wanted to MAKE me feel bad. Neutrality negates and makes a mirror that he must look into. He did that and apologized to save face. I am looking at both sides and neither is worth my energy being wasted on reacting strongly to silliness and changing my plan for him.

@@markmeetsafrica he did not want to see you upset its how they force business into you. You need Firm people by your side like cate to speak to them properly. I doubt your swahili is that clear to them. More likely they will get your English more than your swahili. The more you speak English to them the more command you will have. There is a reason why business people hire English speakers as the Manager. More trusted .and there is expectation that will be met by just that. It works . Its up to you .

He does not have a phone

I believe he was attempting to finish the work quickly because he was being paid for the amount of work he did in the day so he wanted to get it done faster and needed materials to do it and likely did not want to wait around

Thank you for breaking down the scenario qnd what you felt I did right. I am happy to say that staying calm feels a lot better than getting upset. Though both are effective tools to deal with people, one leaves me feeling bad after. Both have there place and I am learning the value of neutrality or neutral negativity to deal with people. Also, I told another fundi inside, he said he understood. I mainly asked him to put himself in my position.

You make a very good point.

Fortunately for me, it was the normal price I pay. He was in a rush to do the work because I pay him for the amount of work he completes each day.

😂 . Its not even funny. People appears Agressive in making quick bucks. Not even informing Mark first. it is A Bigger insult than being called Mzungu.

Hey👋🏽

She does not work for me and is doing something else. I do have 2 receptionist I will sometimes ask to do such things but usually, the fundis as they call them, understand what needs to be done and when they are wrong.

@@markmeetsafrica yes also you can use receptionist to go to the shop ask for prices before you show up.🤣🤣

Thank you for watching. I learned by watching and I am still learning 😁

Mark, you have also learned the Swahili language by embracing the local people and immersing yourself in their culture. You keep an open mind and you're always willing to learn. Pole sana from Kampala Uganda ❤

I can't follow what you mean. You seem to be implying that Logic is an emotional personal flavour of thinking. I think logic is universal. Logic is a branch of thought which underpins mathematics. That is what makes mathematics and science universal. I think a fundamental logical argument is universally true for everyone in the known universe.

Some people logice is different. Each person has a different thought process that leads them through their decision making. It makes sense in their head but sometimes it dosnt make sense in reality. But some people do not live based in reality.

Soon enough 🙏🏽

Not to this day

And the sad reality is ots done over here in a different way. People will find ways to produce the same or very similar scenarios regardless of where they are. And it's our job to protect ourselves from the behavior. Many of them do not think they have done wrong by doing such things because they have found ways to rationalize their own immoral actions

I am in dar es salaam on whitesands road

This will be standard in the future. For now, they may not understand.

@@markmeetsafrica well it’s time

That's a healthy way to see it. More people need to understand that power of "sometimes" in this case he wanted to get the work done quickly because he was being paid for the amount of work he completed.

That could be the case

And keep one eye on that worker cause he could possibly be in on it......

That is cruelty.

When in Rome do as the Romans... It's either that or continue to rcv unorder products and eventually ruining your reputation for being a bad business man who order and don't pay. The game is ice cold especially when you don't see it coming. When you are the Mzungu they come at you from all angles.

That is a bit harsh for me. Don't break the man while trying to address the spirit (behavior) he did this passive aggressively and he doesn't fully understand why. On the spirit level, he wanted to get a reaction that was out of character despite it being his actions that would have likely caused it. Some people live in a very strange world.

My dear brothers and sisters, it is a travesty that we must endure such staggering obstacles just to return to the land from which we were forcefully taken. We were torn away from our families and our identity, yet no one came to retrieve us or even remember our abduction. And now, as we finally return to our rightful home, we are met with resistance and hostility. Other groups have ravaged and plundered this earth, exploiting its natural resources and leaving it empty and depleted. Yet they turn a blind eye to the diaspora who only seek to find their way back home. The British, Chinese, and Indians come bearing gifts of development and prosperity, but we must be vigilant and aware. They seek to rob us of our fortune, seducing us with shiny objects and luring us with false promises. We must read the fine print and understand the terms of their gifts. Let us not be swayed by their words or blinded by their greed. We must stand together as a united people, proud of our heritage and steadfast in our commitment to build a better future for ourselves and those who come after us. As I always said, "A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots." Let us remember our roots and claim our rightful place in this world.

That may be an option but even having it open with night security is safe

Yes😆🤣💛🙌🏾🙏🏽💛💛💛

What an odd thing to have to look out for when you step back and look at it. People truly are something. You make a very good point. I am happy to report that he did not do that, but it is a very real scenario for someone to do such a thing😆

Some do, most do t need to because of the type of work they do. In the future, all will.

Yes, this is a vert real thing. All I know is that I paid the normal price I pay for the wood and he got the material he needed to finish.

Yes. The DJ/ producer/ all that other stuff. Considerate was not on his list of talents and I have let him go for other reasons. The greed bug is a nasty one but a simple one to see because it give a person the itch for money and manifest in a way they cannot always hide long or even sort term. It's an easy one to see and deal with. I paid Normal price for the wood and it was material needed to finish the job. He was being paid per finished unit so he wanted to hurry. No fault there.

Are you puertorican ? You look like Jewel on the run facial features

@@princessprincess7708 I’m black American.

@@lonnirenee7645 but you don't have black colour.

@@lonnirenee7645 black Americans are not African Americans.

@@princessprincess7708 I’m black 🤣🤣🤣 My grandma and her parents were dark at the bottom of my shoe. My great grandmother on my mother side was Cherokee Indian. I saw a picture of her.

The purpose for the video was to express my thoughts and give insight into a possible scenario many coming may encounter. Additionally it was to walk my audience through my thought process and make myself more understood. This to me is my intention, and that is why I made the video. If it is not the content you enjoy, please do not look at this particular video, though I am glad you did, I am not going to feel bad for doing what I did. I hope it helped someone qnd if that someone was not you, then it wasn't for you. But this is a common scene that I feel people should know about. There is a tone of passive aggressiveness as well. That is how most issues start with people, in the spirit then though the actions but definitely a halfway point between the head and hands to be passive aggressive. This is something to look out for.

@@markmeetsafrica You seem to be a nice young man who deserves lots of love and respect having the courage to step out of the "comfort zone" in America and right into the "Natural Wilderness" of Africa 🌍...particularly at such an early age...Kudos! However... my commentary is not to discourage you in any way, mean or fashion but to help you focus on "Key Issues" rather than being "Petty"...!!! You made your point in less than two (2) minutes in a video that lasted twenty minutes...!!! You kept on going round and round in "Redundancy"! Try not to be petulant and simply accept constructive criticism. All said in... "True One Love"

That's what I'm doing. Just because its harsh does not mean it's ineffective. Remember that people become vindictive when treated harshly. Deal with the problem, not the person

@@markmeetsafrica Keep pushing, You are an exceptional Young King, You should chop it up with Bomeni or DIY and Farm.

Something is coming. Keep up the faith. The answer will come right in the nick of time and you will know it when you see it.

@@markmeetsafrica Thank You so much for the encouragement🙂. I will continue to fast and pray for us and others. John 3:16, Romans 10:9-14. You are right something is coming and most people aren't prepared....

@@markmeetsafrica Mark, what do you think is coming? Global reset... Digital currency? Global Digital social credit system??

@@deborahtucker4900 that one is a hard one but if I had to say, I'd say that they are all the same thing. And attempt to take more of your control away from you and give more of your decision making power to the system that we feed through our economic activity and reliance. We should just get away from the system all together. There is no winning that game for most people so the best bet is to stop playing.

@@markmeetsafrica I understand that many African countries are moving towards a digital currency right now in real time.

I am on whitesands road😁

Thank you. I am just doing my thing. Hearing these sorts of comments is extremely reassuring that what I an doing is right. Even though I do what I do because I feel it is right, you still never truly know how others perceive what you are doing. And though it doesn't always matter, it really does. I appreciate you letting me know. I am learning to accept praise better than before🙏🏽💛💛💛💛💛