How to manifest INSTANTLY even when you're in limerence! *BIG topic!* 

This is a big part of the manifestation process anyway..bc this is LETTING GO.the final piece. Know they aren’t going ANYWHERE and refocus on yourself..think about it..they focus on themselves and you’re obsessing..focus on yourself and see what happens! Turn them tables.

Crappy Childhood Fairy talks a lot about limerence. It is characteristic to people who have been abused as kids. From experience, the person you're trying to manifest who is your limerent object will NOT give you anything valuable; that person is a construct of your imagination and you have made them up in your mind to 'escape' the pain of abuse. Heal that depression and so you can heal the limerence. My limerence 'healed' after discovering that my 'ex' SP was a bully. In my mind he was flawless and God-like, in reality, he treated people terribly and was arrogant. Thanks for talking about this topic! It's a good one.

I’m glad you’re addressing this. I never focus on SP manifesting because it always feels like limerance to focus on any individual rather than whoever is best.

I've never fuckin ever seen a healthier manifestation coach. I hate the 3d psychology statements abt limerence cause I feel literally humilated for my feelings. But I don't think that the limerence I've been through (and I'm still kinda getting over it) was a healthy thing. I love the way you talk about this, you're speaking facts and don't make ppl feel like they're crazy bitches who belongs to the psych ward. Thank you so much for this video!

The main problem when you're in Limerence is you're usually being "breadcrumbed" (even by "signs"), and each breadcrumb feels AMAZING. And two breadcrumbs feel even better. So your logical mind convinces you that more and more will feel amazing, like a drug. BUT that is the OPPOSITE. If they did give you more, the Limerence actually collapses, and the boosts don't happen. It's sad part of dopamine (i think) that you only get the hit when it's being withheld. More actually gives you less, but your mind doesnt see that. Your mind keeps you obessed because you are CONVINCED more will make you feel amazing.

I cured my limerence by really seeing that person as a human with flaws instead of a fantasy.

Limerance is also a common consequence of an abusive upbringing. I have personally noticed that I tend to experience it on people when I am trying to avoid something else in my life. That being said, I have always manifested all the people I was limerant on, with disastrous consequences because in the end I didn’t really “want them”, so the moment they came in I would drop them.

I realized the root of limerence is toxic shame. My toddler inner child still wants attention from his mom. Reading the book Homecoming by John Bradshaw is helping me relate and understand to the needs “little me” still craves. Unwinding this bio energetically and somatically through active grief work is challenging yet so rewarding to process. Practice, practice, is key!!! Reassuring little me that I am here for you! I won’t leave you..

“in some cases the manifestation made us limerent.” SOMEONE needed to say that. holy shit. i needed to hear thay

"Find fulfilment in other areas of your life." PERIODT! The best tip honestly. Getting a dog helped me a LOT. Also some male friends who I felt connected to without it being a romantic relationship thing. Those connections were quite fulfilling. And focusing on my passions.

What’s insane is the channel came around just I started asking this questions and asking the universe for an answer

The way I understand this in law attraction terms... when in limerence/depression, you are focusing on what you dont have... so the more you focus on what you dont have, the more you get of not having.

My goodness, this has been me my whole life! I'm so detached from myself and always trying to run away from myself and I find people to attach to, people I see as so much better than me and I create this fantasy...and I noticed that I don't actually want the relationship because it bursts the fantasy and i have to snap into the reality of being me with that person as a human and I then realize that I don't like them. I've been single for over the years and previously only had a couple of relationships. I've been learning about manifesting for the last few years and it has made it way worse and I've basically had zero guys show any interest in me since I started manifesting but my fantasy/imagining has gotten way more intense. I'm definitely using it to escape 😢 I've never heard any other coach speak about this, even on the od time I paid for private coaching, no one even picked up on this

Limerance is terrible. Especially in a situationship and you work with that person. Its so hard

This helped me realize how far I’ve come… I used to be totally obsessed and I don’t really feel like I’m in limerence anymore. Or at least not to the extent I used to be. I haven’t spoken to him in over a year cause he wasn’t showing up how I wanted (third party situation). I do enjoy thinking about him but I wouldn’t say it’s in an obsessive way anymore and I feel fulfilled in my life without him showing up ❤ happy to say that

Thank you so much for this. It's life saving. I have been living like this for years. Obsessing from person to person.The torture is crippling and I cannot live my life without feeling something missing 24/7 and the loa knowledge has indeed made it worse. Because before I could say it's the other person and nothing I can do but now I know they reflect me and that it's my fault and I keep being drawn to the same torture again trying to manifest them and change things. To the point I wished I never felt anything for anyone and be at peace instead of panic attacks and constant chasing and fear. I will focus only on my healing from now on.

I agree that obsession and putting someone else on a pedestal is not good. But I have to take slight issue with some of what you're saying. If someone is currently in an unhappy relationship (marriage) and they are quite certain from their intuition that being with a certain SP instantly makes their life better, they should go with that gut feeling. It doesn't matter how many extracurricular activities they're doing, meditation, etc... one knows that if they're with this other person, it will inspire them to be the best version of themselves they can be. And who knows, hopefully they do the same for the other person. If you're not with the person you want to be with, that leaves a big hole in your heart, and no amount of self work is going to really make that portion of your life better.

This is truly one of the most pivotal videos Ive seen on he topic. I had an emotionally distant care giver. I have been limerent about almost everyone Ive dated-- and they will date me and love me in exactly the way I hope for ...and it still hasnt been enough. Finally im at a place where Im ok stopping manifesting and have been focusing on myself for a few months. Him and I do have a deep and wonderful connection but there is also a piece of validation that I get from him being with me-- sort of like arm candy. I have been a show off in the past to make me feel validated. Not sure how to then not do that with him bc the qualities that made him that way wont change...

I know I’ve been in limerence, but I know I truly love my SP and my SP loves me too. I find fulfillment with myself and other things outside of her. I don’t need her to fill up my cup in my life to make me happy all the time. I’m already fulfilled and she challenges me to be a better person and inspire me to do incredible things. That’s what true love is. Acceptance of one another and not having to worry what one is doing in each other’s lives. I trust her and she trust me. I trust we are faithful to each other and I don’t have to force anything to happen. I don’t have to think about her all the time. I’ve been obsessed, but less now.

Limerence is not a form of depression, limerence is an attempt to escape it. When we dont want to face depression that comes from far beyond than this person- thats when we run into fantasies that its because of that person. But there is much deeper grief thats causing depression that is not being adressed thanks to focus on this person. Its an escape.

Thank you for being gentle about this. My higher self has been telling me that I need to face myself in order to grow.

This video is absolute gold. I don't think enough people understand how important these points are to practice

Omg! I was not limerent...in my relationship until I discovered manifesting. When I discovered it, and saw some "changes" with surface level techniques I became limerent. I sort of became hyper-vigilant with everything happening in the 3D; so when i saw anything which I didnt like, imagine me squeezing my eyes thinking - " Ignore the 3D. I am the operant power. I am going to change it." it became worse n worse over time...Until, I came across Gen's channel, I did her SC course and watched all her videos - this has stablised me so much, my life has become better overall... I also see my person in a totally different light now!

Massively helpful observation Genevieve! After my last situationship I learned about limerance and really started to get to the root cause of that pattern. Now the thought of a specific person doesn't really seem satisfying whatsoever. It's much much much more fulfilling to be self fulfilled.

I am going to share your channel with my Pathfinders group from Soulful Revolution.

OMG Genevieve I'm so happy you covered this topic, limerence is something that I've had since my very childhood and recently I've developed these feelings towards a person I've known for a few years and then all of a sudden limerence struck me and my emotional and mental state was a huge mess a couple of months ago and felt like hell, although I know a lot about this condition and can intellectually grasp what's going on. I've been trying to cope with it on my own, using manifestation and self concept work. I strongly agree that this condition has deep roots in our psychological wounds and it makes us focus so hard on SPs whereas the focus should be on ourselves, BUT it's so hard to do when this person seems to be the only thing that's on your mind 24/7. I also watched some psychologists' videos and was confused and upset because they tend to view limerence as some kind of an awful disease that you need to run away from people, which really doesn't make a lot of sense to me 'cause it basically means running away from people, maybe wonderful and great people, all your life - as limerence can strike you at any moment? I believe we need to deal with ourselves mainly and figure out what's causing limerence and addiction, and I really hope and believe that we are able to manifest those people we are limerent towards.

you are just so brilliant! We think so much of the same! conscience manifesting can indeed put you in a state of limerance if we aren’t careful! often times, people wouldn’t be limerant if they weren’t manifesting the person! sometimes a simple trigger will do it and the whole time they are in a state of limerance, they so desperately want to get out of it bc they know it’s not how they really are but they are so triggered they can’t stop. a simple crush turns into mental turmoil. happens to the best of us. and it’s so true, things normally are “easier” in this sense when the person has their sp bc they see their flaws and how normal they are! great video as always

This. Is. Pure. Gold.

I needed this. I never actually knew what exactly limerance was until now. Thank you 😊 🙏🏻

Yes yes yes. I've been waiting for this video. I finally manifested it 😉. Thank you for explaining it from the manifestation perspective. This is a video I will save and share with others.

I AGREE WITH THIS VIDEO 1000%!!! And I’m so glad smo is finally bringing it up. For some time I was really upset with manifestation because it felt like it made me even more attached to smo who I would normally drop like a hot potato cause he was an asshole. But the idea that I manifested him to be that way so I can’t really blame him in combination with the strong attraction I felt created a story in my brain that I have to manifest him in order to move forward with my life. Like it’s meant to be or smt. Which put the person on a huge pedestal and the whole practice of manifesting just kept messing with my mental health as he was showing signs of borderline abusive behaviour and I still forced myself to forgive him and see him in a good way. Awful. Self damaging. 10/10 wouldn’t recommend 😂

Ok i love you. I sent you a note on Limerence and i said, she may not even read it and here we are on Limerence! It is gripping, seems so normal to include “them” in every single thing you do in a day and yu are constantly in a tug of war, let go but how to let go.

Thank you Genevieve, you somehow always release videos that are on-topic of where I'm at mentally. I'm not exactly limerant right now, but I have been plenty of times in the past, and the way I've been feeling about my manifestations is very similar to it. Fun fact for those that feel like your limerant object returning your feelings will solve your problems; It won't. For most of my life, almost every person I've been attracted to, I was in limerance over. I got to the point where I was sick of the people I was interested in never having the same level of interest in me. Then, as if in answer to my prayers, I ended up in a relationship where we were both VERY limerant over each other. It was the best time of my life for a few weeks or so, but the thing about limerance, is that it's temporary. When it ended, I went through a terrible period of insecurity and self-loathing, and experienced one of the worst emotional crises of my life when we broke up. Don't neglect getting emotionally healthy y'all. I know you're hurting, but a relationship will only serve to magnify what you're already struggling with internally.

This video is extremely helpful. Thank you for this. Several cuts above what info is out there. In trying to manifest an SP I realized I was making my limerence worse and was creating more misery within myself. This video addressed so many important points and actually provided solutions. Thank you again.

Im so happy im not alone. This whole thing took me by surprise. It's embarrassing for me I'm usually not like that quiet the opposite. How tf did she sneak in on me. 😅 Thank you for this video. Much love to all!

You are a breath of fresh air in this community. Thank you.

I can't put my gratitude into words for this video, thank you.

Thank you thank you thank you. This was so concise and well worded, and really opened my eyes to what what going on and how I can move forward. Side note I almost feel as if I manifested you making this video and having it pop up in my feed so I could get past this and move forward in my life. Thank you for reminding me that they’re just a flawed human like everyone else and that I have many reasons to feel fulfilled in life and to focus on fixing my image of myself and so forth lol

Full chills. I've been asking my guide to show me anything that will help me with thus EXACT topic although I had never heard of this ,so I didn't know what I was looking for but I knew something good had to come from this situation 🙏😊

I've been focusing on manifesting my beloved back for a whole year since we separated, and I ended up in such a limerant state that now I am on antidepressant medication with lots of side effects until the benefit of the meds kicks in. Our mental health is the most important thing, and there's a grey area where manifestation may turn into obession and depression, without realizing it. Let's take care of ourselves first, and do psychotherapy as well, when manifesting!

Just found your channel in the last couple weeks and have been thoroughly enjoying your videos. This is my first comment because I just found this video and really wanted to say thank you because limerence has been a repeating cycle in my life. This was super helpful and what I needed to hear at exactly the right time. Have a great weekend, Gen

Brilliant ❤. There is very traumatised parts of us ,stuck in trauma and pain that are activated by this person and is super painful to face and hold this parts. But it is the way to fell good and overcome limerance. Because this person is a trigger to bring us to our true self and be more whole embrancing all parts of ourselves. I sarted a very wonderful therapie to embrace this parts and i can say that since the first session i fell so much ligther and peaceful. Thanks so much for adressing this topic in such a kind wise way.

Omg this is exactly what I had to hear right now thank you so much. You have no idea how much you just helped me, I already feel much better and different! 🙏🏻❤️❤️

Not completing the co creation process and letting go is hard and detaching is hard. But once you cultivate your faith and have seen the results and know this is how our reality works.

this is honestly the best approach to dealing with limerence that ive ever seen

You resemble Alanis Morissette! ❤Thanks for the great video.

you read my mind!!! i've been struggling with this and wondering what to do thank you genevieve you are truly an angel

You are amazing, thank you. I am actually going through limerence and this resonate so much

This was such an excellent video! This totally happened to me while trying to manifest a move to Hawaii, only to end up just feeling terrible, and unworthy of the move. Thank you!

It can be really difficult to detach from an SP manifestation! Doing intense mental health work got me to feeling like I still want a romantic relationship with my SP, but I'd also be okay without it. We're best friends and it's great, plus single life with cats sounds very peaceful! 😆

POWERFUL ❤

Omgosh I am soo glad you made this video! I asked about limerance in the comments on another video because so many in the healing community made me think maybe manifesting this person was actually wrong & I didn’t want to be doing it from a wounded place. Also, this video has helped me realize how far I’ve come and how I actually do put my own emotional needs first in my life. I feel healthier than ever before, so I will not “assume” (lol!) the implications from these other people who shout “limerance”. Not that I don’t have any more growth to do- I DO! And I am taking some time for myself as you have suggested- to focus on processing whatever vestige of energy “devoted” in any unhealthy attached way. It’s like I am bringing my energy back. All other areas in my life have been raising about the same time in the way of fulfilling me. And I am always sure to check in emotionally with myself to see if I need to feel the feelings I used to suppress. And now it’s like my SP *might* manifest as the one who meets the list of the ways I want to feel in a relationship, and he might not. Thank you so much for making all this helpful & targeted content!!

My god, your video just come on time when I need this. I have been wondering why I am suddenly feeling energy drained but I just can't cut off from manifesting my sp.

Honestly the best discussion about Limerence I have heard. Thank you 🙏

I'm so fulfilled and settled in my life, at peace

Speaking from experience, but limerence is basically an addiction, and manifesting only helps feed that addiction with a "what if". It's hard to face reality but you have be clear with that person and if they don't reciprocate you move on. Manifesting after you got a rejection is being in a state of denial and will take all of your precious energy into something that isn't real. If you experience limerence I really recommend you get mental health support, so you can be free and find a love that truly chooses you.

I just know so many people were triggered by the title of this video 😅 lol very well said. First off Genevieve, your accent and voice is so soothing to listen to :) I feel like it makes it easier to digest the sometimes hard hitting messages you share. I have been so scared I was dealing with limerance. And I feel like I am in a healthier place now where I am FULLY ok with putting the SP on pause and focusing on me and I think this is a childhood wound from emotional neglect, that my parents were and still are unfit to be parents. But they did their best. I am trying to heal that now and be aware of the manifestation of limerance. I definitely feel the difference between being in the state to get the manifestation I want - when In that state, but when I am out of it it can be so subtle and the obsessive thinking starts. And the irony is I am also aware and I get the movement I want WHEN I am in that state, and yet when it shows up and things go my way I feel the shift change and again it's subtle but it goes from "oh I don't need anything, they are just a person and I know they love me, and everyone loves me, and I just want all of us to succeed", manifestation shows up and movement happens and thoughts go to "omg they are here and they love me and I hope they lovee and omg I should do X y z because then that will attract them and omg I should text back in X time so they don't think y" blah blah blah and then the movement stops obviously because my dominant presence is from a place of "not being good enough" And I know this too. Or at least I am recognising it. So what I wanna know is, maintaining the states I want to be in. And recognising the shift change and tips to maintain that state and even if you have a momentary lapse, is it still okay? Or will it start a new cycle? 😅

Thank you for helping me how to approach from a healthier way!

Wow. Just wow. Thanks for this discussion and being positive about it! This is so important to know before manifesting. ❤

Great topic! I’ve recently come to the conclusion that this is what I’ve been doing for almost a year. I just didn’t know that this is what it was called.

Well, Idk who he is, what he looks like and I don't wanna "create" him like some coaches say i e. his eye color, body type, skin tone etc. I want him to be exactly WHO he chooses to be! And no matter how long this is taken and how many karmic abusers I've experienced, I still have faith that the real One for me...he will match my energy in ways I have never seen before. If hes anything like me, after all I've survived then he's one tough damn cookie. I Love him already, no matter what he looks like.

I cannot believe what I am hearing! I always thought I am fine. I would forget about my SP for hours during the day, I manifested my perfect workplace and I laugh the whole day but if I am completely honest with myself I still hope and think too much about my person… 😮

thank you for talking about this, been struggling with this half my life

If possible I would love to see a video about best ways to go about manifesting a better, more emotionally fulfilling life experience in general....because I am one of those people who tends to get limerent and focus on work to the detriment of my entire life, and I've gotten to the point where I feel burned out and even frankly dead inside. So, limerence and workaholism has defined my life thus far. I'm taking actionable baby steps toward setting more boundaries and congratulating myself when I stick with those boundaries.

I love genevieve's take on realistic manifestation, other RU-vid coaches seem to have a perspective that only further perpetuates limerence

During the January challenge my second and not so emotional choice was a piece of cake. Came in the second week and 3xs the amount of money I wanted. The more important one (sp) actually set me back. Nothing happened. It was very discouraging. Thank you for this video as it has made me aware I slipped back into old habits over her.

This is very helpful … I’ve experienced limerence several times in my life … especially as a severely depressed teenager and young adult. These limerent fantasies were all I had to look “forward” to. Now as an adult I’m struggling again with limerence, after the unexpected death of my husband. I slowly developed limerence for someone and didn’t even realize it. It got really bad. I know it’s cause of the loss … my mind is once again trying to find “happiness”. I’m working at trying to identify and heal the trauma from the past. Those wounds are the driving force with limerence.

Finally found someone who can explain my situation and give me hope

the student was ready for this teacher. beautiful stuff.

I want to manifest Genevieve. :) She is adorable

Thanks Genevieve. You're incredibly helpful and I feel like I can relate to you. You're got a very organic, natural demeanour. 😊

I’ve needed you..and honey they say when the student is ready the teacher appears and I asked my guides for you. ❤ thank you.

These are interesting videos, and I appreciate you sharing them. I think many people have experienced Emotional neglect as children/growing up, some people have learned from those experiences, and heal themselves. Six months ago I started thinking about a friend who I liked a lot, that was 40 years ago. I moved on with my life, this doesn’t seem like limerance, there definitely seems to be a “push pull” affect. I feel secure within myself. So I’m a little confused as to what is happening. The person who, I ‘m trying not to think about, this person feels like the so called, other half of me, nothing glamorous about it, I sense this persons strengths and weaknesses, I love this person very much, but I don’t want to be thinking about them all the time. I ‘m so done thinking about it. (From my, experience this seems way off, from limerance.) Carrying on.

This video found me at the perfect time.

UGH THANK YOU.

This is sooo needed

i was not going to watch it because i saw on the title the word limerance. BUT i am glad that i did. thank you for sharing this. It really really helped. 🎉❤

This was so good! Im so glad this was on my feed. You talked about friendships and creating more emotionally fulfilling relationships annnnd there’s a block within me of receiving that. So right ! I’m about to watch again. Thank You so much for creating different manifestation content !

Glad you brought up this topic. Such an important topic.

Thank you I’m going through it in my life at the moment with my children family. No home, financial is a thing right now. We don’t need money. Money, chases us abundance follows us. This is a great reminder. Thank you ❤

I am one of the few people this applies to not in terms of a human being, but a thing. I have an limerent attachement style to my music career. I know I have a lot of other passions (herbalism, dancing, writing, etc) but feel like I can never be happy without being a sucessful musician/song writer/ music educator. It drives me crazy. I recently started a full social media break (plus VERY limited YT watch time) and can already feel how I shift from doing things for me instead for other people. I will also sit with the questions you asked in the video. Thank you so much Genevieve!

I'm so happy to have someone like you on RU-vid, you really are a life saver, thank you

Wow this is such an interesting topic.. feel like I went through this for a while until I worked on myself.. so easy to become obsessed and put them on a pedestal. This was such a helpful video for me today. Thank you for sharing.. you are wiser than the therapist I used!

This video is pure gold. I had limerence several times when I was a teenager and limerence came back in my life in 2021 after Covid crisis. I spent 2 years healing myself and moved on several months ago. Now I'm working only on my self concept with men

I'm a twin flame coach and this is exactly what i recommend. Many of my clients absolutely move on. I love when i see them traveling, thriving, and happy with their lives. Focusing on your life manifesting a life absolutely without them is the key to overcome this.

Amazing ❤ definitely will try it. Thank you

Omg, Genevieve! I was thinking about limerence YESTERDAY, and in the last few days! This is probably the 3rd or 4th time this is happening with you. World is crazy!

Thank you so much for this 🙏

Your hair looks so healthy and vibrant!

The dark serves a purpose and needs to be recognized as needed or else we wouldn’t be able to experience ourselves. The dark provides contrast, without contrast we would have no drive no growth no passion..love the dark.

This is very important and powerful video❤❤❤❤🎉 thank youuu

I didn't realize you could be limerant about objects too... now I see my patterns with money and future career are also limerant....

Thank you for making this video; it really helped me a lot!

I needed this video in 2022

yeah crappy childhood fairy at one point years ago came up on my feed so you mentioning 3D psychologist was so real and needed. thank you for the clarification!

Video was amazing, thank you! 👸🏻❤

Thank you Genevieve! I know your info, advice can be applied to all topics but I'd love a video on topics other than SP for example body changes, health, I'd love to hear your take on that.

Different perspective I’ve never considered before. Great insight.

Thank you so much for this information!

Thanks, needed to hear this. I like this perspective. ❤