How To Overcome Shame - Teal Swan 

I have two degrees from Boston University and spent over ten years in therapy, yet I feel like I have learned more about myself in this short video than from all of my schooling and reflection. I felt like this woman looked into my soul and spoke directly to me and my struggles. Thank you, Teal. You are a spiritual teacher and I am so excited and happy that I stumbled on you!

I️ don’t speak up due to fear of being shamed, and I’m ashamed for not speaking enough. 🙃

It's very interesting. After I started to shame myself less, I started judging people less.

Approval is magic, I've always been bullied by my family for being complex and thinking too much, once my colleagues said to me: wow you are very reflexive. It changed my life in a second, I've never felt bad again for speaking my complex mind. wishing you all get at least a magic moment like that ♥

There is not one word which I didn't resonate with, she just goes straight to the point without fluffing around, doesn't condemn anyone. A rational look at a devastating irrational emotion. Shame when used to control entire cultures is hard to go through, but with incredible messages like this, it can be done. Thank you.

I was ashamed of how I left a job during my depression and self medicating. Now, I feel no shame at all because it was meant to be. It could have happened and may have happened to someone else. Life isn't perfect but it is great.

I would venture forth to say what she meant about shame causing disease is that shame can manifest a weakened immune system because it may on some level cause the person to believe they are not worthy of surviving (living), therefore it begins to manifest self destruction through weakening the immune system.

When you're too shameful to watch this video incase someone will hear it...lol.

My shame runs deep and I mean deep. I was molested by the guy who was supposed to be my father. Then when I got older around 8 he started raping me and my so called mother called me the other woman. Then their oldest son started molesting me. If that wasn't happening to me I was ignored and beaten. As long as I can remember I was told by both parents that I wasn't supposed to be born a girl. They told me every time something went wrong it was because I chose to ruin everything by being born a girl. As I got older things got worse. They started telling my children how I ruin everything. I do not have any contact with any of them anymore. I have been trying so hard to heal myself but I always seem to pick out the counselors who are abusive and make me feel worse. I withdrew from life for 2 years and then in my desperation to find some kind of help I found Teal looking for help because I was suicidal and I meant it this time. There is one counselor that I would love to see behind bars though. Thank you Teal for what you do and give to people. I couldn't do this without you. I just want to say that I saw some of those videos slamming this amzing woman you should be ashamed of yourselves if it wasn't for this woman I wouldn't be here. I have some cousins that I refuse to speak to also because they took his side and told me that I should apologize to him the thing that raped me my entire childhood!! They are one of these so positive thinking people!! Why should I apologize to any of them? I didn't do anything wrong. They said with that smile it will set you free. Im sorry but she's lucky we were on the phone. And if I never found Teal Swan I'd be dead and thats positive!! I love Teal because she says it like it is and speaks the truth. I love you and one day I hope to meet you and talk with you. I wish!! 💓

This is amazing, I feel shame from having an abortion in my early 20s, having a toxic and unhealthy relationship as my first love experience, daddy issues, mommy issues, failed friendships, living with cervical cancer. Just so much for so long but now I am processing it and healing from having it out in the open.

I once asked Abraham Maslow, "What do you mean when you say self-actualization?" He said, "There are just two things to remember: One is to learn to become independent of the good opinion of other people, and the second is to master the art of being detached from the fruits of your labors." Shame only occurs when you actually care about the opinion of other people, when you stop caring about the good opinion of other people, shame vanishes

Anyone else be opening a Teal Swan video and giving it an instant Thumbs Up? They are all so brilliant, she really is a beacon of light and reason as well as containment for me these days

wow! I've been on the edge lately of losing it.. I watch Teals videos and resonate with so many of them and also there seemed to be like an endless amount of shadow work needed to be done, I've felt so lost in all of that information that I know and things that I've done, but still feeling like crap. This video just explains it all. This is what I need to focus on right now and I can finally be confident in what I pursue in order to move to the next level. Thanks Teal, you're a miracle!

I realized a couple months ago that shame is my negative imprint, so thank you for this video Teal!

Hi Teal thanks for this video! I consider myself an intelligent person but when left unchecked, I can experience shame around being gay which causes problems in my life and behaviour. By examining my beliefs I can take back control, and like you said, make a decision around what I value and what I do not and think for myself! Super helpful thank you!

Let's hear it for Teal. Let's support her authenticity movement, by being your naturally kind self, to someone who may have forgotten this aspect of themselves...

I cried at the end

I grew up in a family who demonized me, and I lived in fear, and terror of it, as well as being careful not to 'upset' the parents who when afraid, would demonize you,....as I got older, I secretively lived with this shame inside of me that haunted me for years, how I was being treated at home, was a secret, for I was 'not to tell' about the 'episodes' of 'out of control' punishing parents that did nothing but demonize their children, in the name of 'setting them straight'....I am able to see in the world today how people are demonized and so quickly, without anyone knowing the person or what truly happened in an 'incident'...I realize that the shame I had been living with about being demonized myself, was a true disconnect from my true self, for I don't believe in demonizing people, but always hold a space for people to be their true authentic selves. Once I acknowledged this disconnect from my parents beliefs, how quick they are to demonize people, from my own, how I care to hold a space for authenticity, the shame melted and am able to see the higher self perspective, and am able to see others who struggle in the world being demonized for one reason or another....together, with Teal, lets hold the space for authenticity, and see this issue in the world as an opportunity to heal with the authenticity movement Teal mentions...

It’s helpful to feel that I wasn’t meant to fit into the socialization process; or the right/wrong thinking. Thank you Teal! Have LOVED your work for years!! 💙🙏🏼

I have my shame but I'm not ashamed of it. I have my regrets but I don't regret them.

Teal you have saved my life honestly. Thank you for being here and being so brave to show yourself

This video brought me to tears when you spoke about people who feel shame are good people who would never intentionally hurt others and have strong morals and conscience. "There is an innate yearning in people to CONNECT, to be SEEN, to be HEARD, to be FELT, to be UNDERSTOOD, to BELONG, Feeling shame means that these things in life you haven't tasted yet. " Those words just opened the floodgates for me. You really touched my heart in ways I can't begin to explain. hearing you say it out loud caused me to feel all of the things I quoted above. THANKS, I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU 🙏 ❤

I must say before I say anything at all, I am fairly new to Teal Swan, I am a bit of a skeptic, cynical, critical etc a lot of the time, I think my famous last words will be ''I don't freakin' BUY IT! You wanna try this with me again?" BUT.....this particular video made a lot of sense to me because well, I was shamed to some very deep degree's growing up, I am 30 years old now, not doing as good as I could, growing up my mother killed herself when I Was just a year old, then 20 years later my dad was shot to death in an altercation with the police, my life was chaotic until 21 years old, then things started to slow down, but inside, I feel dark, I feel broken, I feel ashamed, I hate myself, some days I don't want to live or I just want to disappear, but one comment that was made in this video really poked at my heart of hearts which was finding the child who was hurt, I think I have been protecting that child by coming off as a mean and scarey person.

I love the music at the end and how Teal says "Have a good week". I always look forward to this part because somehow it makes me happy and gives me strength and motivation.

While watching this video I made a few "traumas" conscious. I've always had a lot of shame, even if I had never putted words on it, it was unconscious.But I was always looking for external approval, and was always told to be good in order to have it. Of course I developed social anxiety, eating disorders, depression and skin problems, but know I know the cause. Thank you for all. Much love Teal

I love you, Earth need more people like you.

I was shamed alors for being so ignorant and naïve. Healing m'y inner child.

Wow I am in tears! I have so much work ahead of me to work with my shame. Thank you SO much, Teal

This really hit home

super super helpful - thank you thank you Teal 💞

I'm so grateful for you Teal. Raw life mechanics, for me no bs. I really admire how you think!

You are speaking directly to my soul ❤❤❤❤❤

I've start to cry after the last word... Thank you so much for your light and clear consciousness, channelized with such beauty and generosity... I think this is where I should start my healing process... Shame is the most low vibrational frequency we can experience in our physical body... Let's heal it in ourselves and heal it in the world... Infinite gratitude for this video... I will watch the others that you've suggested Teal! You are such a light being... a bean of deep light...

i really need this to know all about shame............ it will be a great breakthrough for me to heal from shame,.... thanks . too much love and respect teal swan

Omg! Teal Swan your video came right on time after a painful experience I started to reflect and the result was shame. Mahalo For your insight and sharing it with all of us. 🙏

Wow. I'm new to Teal but this speaks volumes.

No self help videos ever resonate with me more than Teal’s

This. Is . Simply . Brilliant. You are a gifted intellect and voice of detailed description and caster of light. Your words penetrate the lies of darkness and bring clarity to the topics of personal suffering. Thank you for being you, please keep being you.. Sincerely, Cody

Free advice that has value WOW ain't the interweb great

Teal, this is one of the nicest videos you've made. Love them all, but this one stud up to me.

Teal is so smart! She makes me examine and question all my false beliefs about myself and others.

Thank you so much. This put tears in my eyes ❤

you must be a being incarnate from another planet. I understood this at the end when you said "maybe you didn't come here to fit into those standards (social) in the first place....if you had fit into those standards, our society would have no hope of evolving at all". this statement actually helped me tremendously to see the bigger picture. why? because it showed me that I have a reason (greater) for being here even though being here on earth (for me) often feels painful and I've rarely felt like I've fit in. I am a person who is really aware, has a spiritual conscience and am very much affected when other say or do hurtful things to me. those people who do most of the hurtful stuff are in my family, which makes it very challenging. I'm taking steps to stand up and not be abused by them anymore which is one of the most difficult things I've had to do in this lifetime. thanks for helping me learn and find the courage to do that more. anyway, I appreciate your videos immensely and so glad I found you here on youtube! you are a real angel, no doubt. I feel lifted and not so alone.

The last few days I really devoured the Completion Process and the Anatomy of loneliness.. There were so many insightful approaches one after the other. I really started to dig deep into the root of my issues, which is why I appreciate this video so much. I feel like your outro from back then gives me a certain type of feeling I have yet no words for - I would love to put it into words, since I started crying when I finally found the full version. I feel a profound sense of comfort. Feeling understood, encouraged, simultaneously incredibly sad. A sense that all darkness possesses the quality of transformation.

Great point about narcissism and shame-bound inviduals...Jonathan Bradshaw used to use that term. Facebook must be a shame magnent.

Your clarity at the beginning is astonishing. You made it simple for me to understand what Shame is. I got an aha! moment, thank you💯😍

I really appreciate this. At 45 I feel ashamed that my money situation is pathetic compared to others my age; I feel ashamed if I gain any weight as an athlete, or I don't perform well or don't work hard enough, I am selfish, don't give enough, haven't achieved enough, have debt.....there is always some reason. Teal is right, its all from socialization, subjective and I don't think I've really experienced being loved and loving unconditionally except with animals. So now what? I don't have the $ to afford therapy; really I probably need to find a community of people in Ventura/Santa Barbara CA that seeks to live authentically, have fun, live according to created values and have fun.

you are a lightworker, is amazing the light you are shining into the childhoods and traumas and belives of people who unconditionally love those who conditionally love them.

You’re saving lives. Thank you, I appreciate you.

Teal your knowledge of humanity is immense , much appreciated and you shine and i shine with you .

Wow. That helped me so much in mylife. No no one has been able to clear this up for me. Thank you. 🙂

Teal is the Best! please don't ever stop making videos.. You could change the world.. You are changing the world..God Bless you ALL!

Shocked by last few sentences ......

Priceless content, much appreciated 💚💚🌹🌹

YES! The video I've been waiting for!!!!

This is much needed education that is often given for obvious while simultaneously ignored. Thank u

Thank you for all the work/videos you do. They have helped me immensely.

I love you so much Teal. I had to quit my job and had hip surgery and I've been feeling the most horrible shame of my life. I've been a big introvert and idealist and the one time I didn't share my feelings with someone right away they called HR and told a bunh of lies. I am truly grateful for that experience but I feel like I can't get back to my old self and I'm struggling with emptiness, hollowness, wrongness, self-blame. I am very disconnected from my feelings now and have a lot of confusion. Anyway, thank you so much. I love your channel and love the wisdom you get to share through social media!

Dear Teal, huuuuuuue....yes I had been feeling ashame over 30 years through, since I conciously worked out my childhoodpast of sexual abuse. Especialy shameful it went to me through religion and the old state of minds and fears of the family I grew up in with. I always thought I am unable to manage my life alone; like being not good enough ect...in many directions and ways, stumbled over a great love where I did judgie myself over , so the love I did recieve I couldn´t give answer to, but a lot damage and running away from myself. Now since I do live alone since 10 years now I do slowly get back to my inner strength and believes. Thank you Teal that you did talk about shame. God bless...hearty regards Mina***

Thank you Teal ❤ can’t even express how helpful your work is !

My shame is my acne. I'm 42 and still have it. I'm wayyyyy better than I use to be. That's because other people accept me for who I am despite what my face looks like. I am learning to live myself finally. Listening to Teal helps a ton.

Thank you our free therapist 🥺❤️

❤️ To start this topic I want to have myself know that it will be ok now. As I watched all these videos and I knew the order of which one to watch first, and if I hadn’t done that, I don’t think I would have come as far as I got now. I’m forever grateful to Teal Swan and all these people she works with in interviews and workshops have also helped me to come to this point. For what I believe that should be thought early on, instead we, I almost left it out, have kids and screw them up as we where, I know now why I didn’t want to have kids, how can I teach a kid to be happy if I never learned that properly. A lot of my fears are based on shame and I feel ashamed about that too. Now, I know how to get through it, I need to learn to accept this situation.❤️

She looks so good here. Orange, the sacral shakra color really fits her. And brown hair fits her better than black.

This advice is gold Teal, thank you.

VERY glad to find this awesome video with an awesome woman in it !! ! i search for it! not really in fact i was searching "how to act shame" like "how to best express the feeling of shame"

I've been waiting for this video.. Thank you so much Teal!

I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you! Especially during a world pandemic where so many people have lost so much! It's an amazing thing to have the right knowledge but to actually back that up and reinforce it by offering your acquired wealth back to those who simply ask for it, I think is the true measure of an actualized healer. Thank you Teal!

Great video Teal! Thank you ♡

She is gorgeous both inside and out. Her content has taught me and also affirmed a lot of things I’ve always thought. This world is lucky to have her level of consciousness

I was being shamed of an accuse of my parents toward me. they accused me of an incident that i never did and spread it to my whole family, community, friends, school teachers and mates and they and everyone else has literally turned against me and abandoned me for two years on a row and on total 4 years. nobody ever spoke to me nobody was wanting to be with me at all. nobody listened to me and evryone every single one grown ups was looking at me with so much judging and were shaming me for being me. other grown ups told their children never to play with or talk to me. i was even punished from coming to the table for meals with my family and they told me i deserve this treatment. right now it is the absolute hardship and difficulty to open up to anyone. im trying to heal my inner child but the pain in unbearable yet i wanna do it for my own inner child she deserves nothing but love and safety. Thank you SOOOOO much Teal for always guiding me through these processes of healing and awareness

Hit me right in the heart 💜 been working with this concept of shame for years now and I'm trying to forgive myself for the things I've done and allowed. Thank you Teal for breaking down such a complex feeling.

Wow, I was thinking throughout the whole video whether I was feeling shame or guilt, so the video didn't make me cry, and then I saw the comments and realized some people are absolutely drowning in shame! :( Good luck, everyone!!! 💞You are all good. Also, does anyone know what the song at the end is called?

This video covers so much of the topic, it's actually gold!

She came to me in the sleeping hours And she sang to me in the moonlight: "Where did you dance when you baffled our chance, And when did the motley bells chime?" I summoned a verse from a chorus of blame, But it drowned in the ghost of her song. He came to me in the sleeping hours And he called to me in the moonlight: "Why does the fold now weep to behold, And how does it feel to be free?" I tendered the words from the tears of the same, But they dried as the dawn came upon. They came to me in the sleeping hours And they whispered to me in the moonlight: "What did you reap when you floated the keep, And whom did you trust with the key?" I buried my head in a cushion of shame - And I woke to find them all gone.

This is probably one of the most important videos that Teal has made..

Thank you , Teal for sharing with us.

Teal, i like it how you state to questioning everything and also to think outside the Box.

I think it's as simple as this: we all have the capability to do evil. If a man thinks his truth is to do terrible things, he SHOULD be ashamed. However, I agree that shame can be a negative thing. In the end, every man, woman and child has rights, and those rights must be protected. People who live to be evil, who love doing evil things and consider this completely acceptable should be ashamed, permanently. They are human waste. Man has free will. If he has a desire to be good and live his life so that he respects the rights of others, he can correct his flaws and live his life in such a way. Shame CAN certainly be a product of cognitive distortions. However, it can also be a helpful (although painful) emotion that can help guide a man off the road of wickedness and onto the path toward goodness and morality.

powerful. Thank you for sharing.

"I Bless you all- who read this with favor and encouragement.

As one can notice, this is my second comment and the reason for that is because, having re-visited this video again I truly believe it is one of the best videos on Shame on the Internet. Thanks, Teal.

Teal-I have watched you for a while and like what you do, you are informative and keep a real world perspective in mind in terms of some common sense tips. There is one I don't think you have covered but I would like to hear what you have to say about the topic of "Forgiveness" as this is something I am having some trouble with right now. I would appreciate hearing something from you on this subject. Thanks and regards, Randy

This video is so beautiful, powerful and important. this kind of videos should be taught in schools. All humans need to see this in order to live a better life and create a better society.

Holy shit. Thank you for this.

She's just oozing with beautiful feminine energy! So wise, healing, and nurturing

What a great analysis of the problem of shame. Thanks for uploading such a great video. God bless you

Teal Swan, The Spiritual Catalyst aww i was soo sure their we're going to be bloopers. ...i waited till the very end.

I can't express it often enough: YOU ARE THE BEST !!!!!!! Thank you so very much.

Until recently, I was ashamed of desiring women and wanting to have sex with them and I'm a 27 male. Because, well, catholicism + my society always told me it was bad to see women as objects of desire, that it's not respectful. So I've always tried to hide it, which was really hypocritical, and made me narcissic and looking for approval indeed. So thanks Teal, and as weird as it may sound, I really understand a lot more LGBTs now.

People are still listening!! Love your truth!!

Hi. Can shame cause me to be introvert too?

I'm amazed at my good fortune to stumble upon, a precious gift for the world named Teal Swan. Amazed! Thank you for sharing. This was my intro.

I tend to lack shame, so this video helped me understand why people act crazy. These crazy people were very busy deflecting their shame on me, while I felt that was completely crazy and unreasonable. I've also seen many pathetic people who thinks they are better than others because they think they're more ethical. I don't get those standards and I don't have those censors for myself because I know it restrains me. Also I grew up in an environment where I realized being scolded was entirely based on my parents mood, so I realized at an early age that there are no standards for good and bad from the start, and ergo, I don't have shame.

That last segment had such a beautiful underlying message: we are here to create a new earth. Such a lovely video thank you for this I needed it deeply. I’m so grateful to you for going through the shaman process and sharing the wisdom you’ve come across as a result of your own suffering. Thank you, the world’s better for having you in it Teal 🙏🏼👁🙌🏼🤗

Thank you so much...!

You are...profound. Thank you so much. If only I could express my astonishment more.

13:48 - 15:42!! Thank you, I needed to hear that. But what do you do when you're aware of this shame and you live with people who continuously perpetuate the cycle of shame, while you are simultaneously trying to heal?

Thank you Teal, for all that you do. You are so kind and you are helping me to change my life day by day. I have no words to express how grateful I am for you and other people like you.

thank u