One thing about your husband, he didn't pretend to be what he is not, he doesn't pretend that I'll go overseas with you when he knows he won't. I love this honesty and I just learnt actually how women are willing to take whatever risk as long as "I'm with you" and men are the exact opposite. Until a min ago when I had this revelation I used to think that maybe a man doesn't care so much, but i realise that I don't have to provide but he does, and if he follows me and I "make it" and ge doesn't it's a bigger issue than when the roles are reversed. It's one thing to support a temporary situation but some temporary situations last longer than others. Now imagine 10 years of me as a woman having uprooted my family nna ke gola while nothing happens for my husband, that's honestly more than a bruise in ego because one thing about women PHETO we are not humble 😂😂😂our Humility is very unstable and one thing about men they thrive of being needed, and it's not an ego thing, but a creation thing. How we behave has a lot to do with the order and purpose for which men and women were created...
What phetola did is exactly what I am going through, I've put my interest aside to focus on my hubby's career . Unfortunately on my side hubby does not support my dreams as much as I do with his. I'm actually drained at this stage. In 2021 im doing me, I've already lost soooo much. Thank you again for good content
Another very good episode. I watched it together with my wife. We really appreciate your courage in tackling these difficult issues in marriage. We are learning and are encouraged. This channel is gonna grow.
BONANG!!! I feel like I'm with honest and cool big sis and big brother!!! Schooling me here!!!! Ke le RATA GORE!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! I know Jesus loves me, for REALSZ!
I actually agree with Mr Makhetha, women need to stop feeling guilty about putting themselves first. Everything good begins at the end of fetching yourself and your life. You cannot give from a well of nothing
Two things that stood out for me 1. Very important that I do me. Failure to do so breeds a lot of bitterness when our partners choose themselves and their dreams without thinking twice. As women, we are never ready to have ideas of our identities that are singular i.e., not tied to the people we love. And then we get the shock of our lives when men do. On loudspeaker: Ladies, men are not our projects to manage. Let’s love our partners, know the limits, and please let them be. 2. As men and women, we are socially not ready for women who earn more than men. As women we have beautiful conversations about not being in relationships for money. But we forget that it does something to our partners to be (un)able to provide. There is a lot of tension that grows because someone feels less than. Ideas around provision (I think) are bigger and deeper than our lovely kumbaya conversations Thanks to the two of you for being so honest and vulnerable. We don’t take it for granted. More blessings
Absolutely loved this, I'm definitely like Pheto and I'm not even married yet, I'm always pushing my partner to reach his fullest potential with the fear of provision in our future household. I will definitely look into investing in myself as well while being his cheerleader ♥️
As soon as I came across you (AMAAAAAAAAZIIIIIIINNNNNNG couple) I am hooked and wow, everything you share is so so invaluable. I now sit with a notebook to take notes, because when the Mr shows up, home girl will be ready😎☺️😁🙃🤗💃🏾. Loads of love, best of wishes and abundant blessings upon abundant blessings from 🇩🇪 . You two are the realest👌🏾. P.s I am shamelessly going to copy paste this until I get a shout out😂😂
Being single, being whole, being distinct, unique living in your fullness. Thank you Makhs family for over emphasing the singleness. More often than not we mistakenly think singleness has to do with being alone. While one must be single in his/her marriage. Otherwise an individual that's not single in a marriage needs to be validated now and again needs to be baby-seated yhuuwi
Being in a relationship is not an achievement. Learn yourself first! Y'all better say that!! I'm so glad that I found your channel. You two are amazing and are a breath of fresh air!
What an amazing installment yet again. I loved the idea of checking in with self with therapy something that alot of us should normalize. We are learning and growing together with you guys. We appreciate this platform. Thank you for your obedience.
Noma yini boza yam 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Enjoyed this episode a lot! As a future wifey I’m learning a lot! Can’t wait to be found by my whole partner, not here for di half half. Come here o feletse 😄 Thank you for the content that’s consistent ❤️🙌🏾 Love you guys
This was soulful and so enriching to my own development and maturity as a single person trusting GOD for a purposeful and godly marriage. So much wisdom and insights were shared and unpacked about marriage and relating to one another as a couple in this episode. Very empowering and inspirational 🙏🏿🙇🏾♀️❤️ Thank you 🙏🏿 thank you 🙏🏿 thank you 🙏🏿
Bona mollo o is just too much. Yall going in on it is so flamey, yall are flames, holy ghost fire all over the place. Love it maaaan. This is one of my own personal fears in marriage. 🔥🔥🔥 Yoh Jesu o motle.
My 2nd favorite installment. Hate to admit it it but this is what my husband has always said. And I finally understand why now. LOVE what you guys have started. 🙌🏽❤️
Such a deep conversation brought in a lighter manner. This was amazing. Honestly, it takes maturity and sound emotional intelligence for marriage to work
Thank you so much for your kind words, and for watching❤️. We couldn’t agree with you more, we look at how far we have come and thank God for growth and maturity❤️❤️
Guys the content of your videos is woooow. I have just discovered your channel but the things I have learnt is super amazing...thank you so much for what you doing. You are NOT wasting my time and data. I really look forward to your installments. The way you have Christ as the centre does it for me. YOU ARE THE BEST!!!❤❤
The authenticity in your conversations. So full of wisdom and love too. I am so so glad I get to learn from you while I am still young and not married yet. God bless you.
We are so grateful for this feedback. This journey has also been incredible for our growth and we are so blessed to have people that are cheering us on❤️. We are truly appreciative🙏🏾
Very educative installment as usual. I also love to just withdraw to my space and rejuvenate, my partner use to think he offended me but I had to explain that’s it’s my way of recharging and will come back better😀😀. Also, when you said you know each other’s strength and can compliment each other, I remembered what The Makhs Senior said “If you are the same then one person is unnecessary”. Thank you for the authenticity always. With love from your Nigerian subscriber.
Lmao its Phetola saying she isnt sure shell be humble if she has machankura amantsi lmao hoaaaaaaaaa chille that statement hit home lmao. Its the honesty for me lmao noooooooo maaaaan goooo-funny
Wow your topics are so factual. I feel whoever follow this blog has to come out with positive thoughts and definitely learn to do things differently. Love, love u guys
Your content is beyond incredible 🙏🏾 . I have been learning and growing by your notable wisdom. I’m from Jamaica 🇯🇲 btw and I have to say from the very beginning I came across your first video it has been in alignment to a similar journey that I’ve encountered. I look forward to your upcoming videos. Keep up the good work 👏🏾
I came in contact with you guys on Sunday and I'm happy I did. I have learnt so much when it comes to a relationship. Although I'm single, nevertheless when that time comes I'll be wise enough to face the challenges of a relationship
New subbie. Really appreciate this detailed actual "marriage trailers" you are giving us... I also love that there is a male perspective which is very important...may the Lord continue blessing you with more wisdom. Love from Namibia
Yooh!when Phetola said the 'fergusons' part though ;) lol thank you guys for yet another eye opening conversation.love the consistency and the valuable content.
i just love you guys. i feel the genuine connection between you guys and its so refreshing. each you say goodbye i find it unreal how much time has passed cause its like you just started talking🥰🥰😅 #WeLoveTheMakhs
With no offense intended, you guys remind me so much of Pastor Tourè Roberts & Sarah Jakes-Robers..Two whole individuals doing this life thing so beautifully together. Thank you for your wisdom & inviting us into your lives😊😊
You don’t understand how much this made Phetola’s day🤣. She is crazy about Sarah Jakes!! That woman is a force! Thank you. We take that as a compliment❤️. Thank you for journeying with us❤️
Thank you guys for opening up your marriage and yourselves to guide us. Your words of wisdom are easily relateable because le age group you know. Love Love Love yous!
Thank you so much Aobakwe for this lovely message! We appreciate you watching and giving us honest feedback. We are so glad that people can relate to us and our journey❤️
Your content is absolutely fulfilling and the knowledge I've acquired from your videos will guide me through as it is challenging when dating in your early 20s
Real talk, some marriages work, some dont know matter how hard you try. You take care of your man. you honor him, you do the work and the marriage fail. Sometimes two horrible people get together and the marriage work. Go figure! I'm tired of people that act like they have the solutions! Nobody knows !
