I'm listening to you and I suddenly start to cry when you talked about being kicked out of the tribe. I had a traumatic event happen to me which kicked me out of the tribe; my family and what they deemed worthy. I felt from that point on, when I was moving in my life's purpose, that I would be annihilated. I always jump to the worse case scenario, as tho it were true. But you just put it together for me by talking about the fear of death. Thank you so much. (I am enjoying your evolution here on RU-vid. You are a gem.)
I watched Richard Schwartz give a demonstration... And as I have been over 40years on the path of self discovery ... I tried a session by myself today and I reconnected with my child in a deeper way... Thank you and to Richard Schwartz for his demonstrations
That’s very interesting. The end of your video sounds like a puzzle piece I felt was missing for a while. It sounds like the process is more about acceptance-going to the place that the part fears most and then letting go and knowing you’ll be ok even if that thing happens. Is that on target with what you’re conveying? Awesome video.
From my most scared part, I really want to thank you! The point you made about not taking it too literal was comforting enough so that I could feel curious enough to give my parts a chance to really be and feel.
I like this exercise, and the idea of letting a scared part fully tell the story of its fear isn't something I've seen in other IFS material. It actually reminds me of CBT Worry Exposure exercises for generalized anxiety, though the thought of leaning into the scary story via parts work seems more engaging to me.
I get IFS, and I can resonate somewhat with the concept. However, I am missing something in trying to apply it. I'm not sure what it is, but I fo feel uncomfortable asking myself questions in my head as if I am talking to a different person. Ok, I feel silly. Maybe that's it, or I'm not smart enough to understand this modality.😊
This was incredibly helpful! Thank you! Plus I liked your philosophy & approach to IFS. I’ve subscribed to your channel & look forward to learning more from you.
Thank you .. very well presented... Fear of rejection has been my companion all my life... It disrupted life.. I wrote a book on fear 17 years ago .. but it is stubbornly there... Accepting fear with no resistance works but often resistance springs up and that is where ifs helps because it addresses the traumatized child within to feel safer and accepting through the ifs model of meeting the child making peace with it in and in my case embrace it... However this is a process that needs reinforcing by repetition... This where I seem to fail because I get distracted from revisiting the inner child and connect to it again.... Ifs is something I came across recently... Thank you
I like this. Sometimes I do IFS in the more standard protocol and sometimes I just stay present for a part/s or the whole system, just noticing them in the body and holding them. Both are good
You are so right. We need to treat our parts conceptually and not as concrete entities. This also makes it easier to introduce this approach to integrating fear.
Thank you for this. I fear losing control while driving so I don’t anymore. I suffer with cPTSD and chronic Lyme disease. My life is very restricted because of this. I love ifs unfortunately my therapist just left me hanging after her office didn’t take my insurance anymore. I really appreciate the free content. I’m so tired of fear running my life.
Thank you this was very helpful! Do you know how to heal shame or attachment issues or being rejected over and over and how not to turn to ash because of it
Wow! Thank you. Much appreciated. I'm learning how to metabolize pain and following fear is important. I have been practicing worst-case my whole life. It's valuable.
You are awsome buddy. Your knowledge and especially PRACTICAL knowledge on IFS is fantastic ! Please carry on your service to the world... btw do you do therapy online ? Many thanks.
wow, i just came upon your video. I feel an excitement about feeling empowered in my own integration journey! Thank you for this share. :) When c0vid happened my pelvis went into lockdown which made and continues to make walking very challenging. I have explored body work and looked at what is trapped in this part of my body. Asking myself how i can feel more empowered in my body. i am still curious as i continue to navigate the pain i feel in my pelvis. This pain is affecting me moving forward with ease. The pain affecting the choices i am making in relationship to the work i desire to do.
Hello! Last night I did this exercise for the first time and I spent almost an hour. I let myself be carried away by fear and ended up accepting it. Everything was going well but when I opened my eyes, I had a panic attack. It was terrifying. I don't know what could have happened and I don't know how I could try it again in a safer way so that I don't have this feeling or if I shouldn't try it again because it is too much for me at the moment. Thank you in advance!
Your clarity and insight into IFS is amazing and incredibly helpful, Conor. I’m just beginning my self therapy journey with IFS and your videos started popping up (because of viewing other IFS videos) and discovering your approach is a total godsend! I’m so grateful for all that you’re sharing on your RU-vid channel and for how truly gifted you are as a communicator and caring IFS expert. I have no doubt you are making a difference for so many people, myself included. Thank you!
