Vanessa, when I want to attract the ladies, I just put on a really nice pair of speedos and go to the supermarket and shop for produce. I used to be to shy to wear my speedos shopping, but now, thanks to all your great videos, I can finally wear them with bold confidence. Thanks Vanessa for changing my life.
@@angelus_solus As Vanessa's videos have taught me, if shopping in speedos is wrong, well then, I certainly don't want to be right. Thanks so much for the support. Keep rocking!
I am the type of guy that does NOT assume a woman likes me and probably miss a lot of the signals. Thank you for helping to see these. I never like to read women wrong and be "that guy".
Don't believe this, I'm a female and there is this very handsome guy at the grocery store that always greets me with the biggest smile (I think that's just his personality) and I immediately brake eye contact and look away and say good morning in my uninterested voice he probably thinks I'm rude, but that's just my anxiety taking over, and I know a lot of women who suffer from anxiety so I know I'm not the only one.
Well I am fascinated by how many men say they don’t find “high maintenance” attractive and they end up with them every. single. time. This also applies to the “crazy/stalker” types who men also claim to want nothing to do with. Have you done research on that ? I would be so interested because most of the ladies I know who are normal, well adjusted, charming, approachable are standing around wondering why all the guys are with the women who criticize, stalk, etc, etc.....
I must say that you are really good on it. I am practicing what I have learned while I was watching your videos, I did help me in a lots of ways. thanks
I am never lying about wealth, power or anything. People hate me for my honesty, they think I am just rude. I don’t even do it when it would benefit me, that’s why I failed a lot of job interviews. I tell the truth, about 90 percent of the time. I feel horrible when I do not. Also my face is not expressive among strangers, it’s just a slightly bored or annoyed look
fascinating that in the first minute the man already starts mirroring Vannessa's body language...which is often what we do when we are attracted to someone. At 0:36 his hands are folded like hers and his legs move into the exact same position hers are in.
It takes men 3 to 4 times to notice a women is interested by body language? May be because women always complain about how being nice isn't flirting, but when you're expecting someone to practically read your mind and body to make out how you feel it's going to take a couple of interactions just so you don't make a mistake, which is why telling a man how you really feel is a lot easier. If men are practically expected to pursue and engage the women, then women should be expected to at least be straight forward and honest about how they feel. I don't think that's too much to ask. Oh, and I love that blonde ladies response and facial expression at 1:15 "Or, just hand him your phone number.."
Jonathan Jones lolz, have you ever had a girlfriend ?? All we talk about is our feelings, I thought it was a guys fantasy to get us to shut up about them😉😆 When was 18, my father (retired USMC) told me, "You know what a guy is thinking when a woman looks at him? She wants me." Straight up seriousness, I didn't believe him, THEN, definitely do now. Cute video
somewhere over the rainbow we do believe that but there are somethings that i like in a women to show me before i say it is a done deal where i actually take it further. One i want them to constantly show me they are interested. If they show they are interested in another man at the same time showing me that interest i lose attraction right away for the girl and she becomes a lower rank female with little self respect who is looking for attention. Those girls IMO are more likely to cheat when problems happen in a relationship. I also look for them to do cute things that i don't see other women do very often and it can be even in the way they flirt and the attraction for them goes up big time.
yeah everybody knows about body language nowadays. i think its more about psychological ques. women notice when ive more confident, wearing right fit clothes because most of us wear size or two to big.money usually doesnt play a big role but you need to have a money to pay for few drinks. who ever understand a women psychology i think would say its way to complicated to explain. growing up with a sister and having few female friends with constant curiosity for human behavior hepls
i can't speak for everybody obviously but i know for many men it's not that they MISS the signals it's that they IGNORE them because so many women are forever fucking with guy's heads and half the time they're "flirting" with you they have no interest at all except in establishing that somebody finds them attractive to say nothing of the fact very very often they only want you as long as they can't have you the minute you reciprocate any interest (assuming it ever existed in the first place) it's game over.
Rhyme and Reason that whole less parts of the brain being highlighted thing, I think that's just because we don't over analyze it as much. We often down play it to ourselves I've observed.
no, but when women do flirt, they expect to be paid attention to. Men, occasionally, deliberately parry your signals to put you back in place. We're not "missing" the signals. We know what you're doing and what your trying to accomplish.
I understand this is about decoding men but I think being able to read some body language at least helps win some people over you just do more of the things they like. Like if your in a new job and you want to make some friends if you can pick up the subtal signs especially in the eyebrows and around the lips you know when they're impressed disgusted and you learn to adapt your behaviour to get more approving likes and nods and various other things they'd like to see, hear, because if you didn't how do you know if they will class you as someone they like to hang around with, e.g, like introverts if your showy and theatrical around them they know instantly your not going to be in their inner circle they can trust, they may talk to you, find you sweet and cute but introverts prefer people who have more like minded qualities so sometimes only like minded people group together, if they can't find simularities in your behaviour then they can't relate to you. I know I'll get accused of it's not healthy and considered inauthentic but when you match your energy with theirs there's more chance they have of liking you and you show different people different sides, you're not going to joke around with someone who doesn't have the same sense of humour as you do, it's what makes people think, hm, I thought she was alright. You are yourself but you show different aspects of your personality to different people. If you know someone isn't going to judge you can be more of your authentic self. You might like to let loose on the weekends with your fella but in the week in your job you act a little more reserved because you want to seem professional
The scientific use of the word 'Theory' means 'as close to a fact as possible' (till new information might disprove it) I'm guessing you think she meant hypothesis. So, no, she didn't contradict herself by saying it like that.
So it has nothing to do with using different parts as it does with in America, a vast amount of men are lambasted down to a state of insecurity so they need more signals and indicators of interest before feeling secure that she is indeed interested in him. Distrust and/or devalue or falling I f respect of females also play a BIG role in it. It's more to it than Vanessa is leading.
"Men don't pick up on the queues as well as women do" Yeah, that's why I'm on these videos. For me reading people in general can be tough, so with women....Christ I dread to think how many girls I've missed by not noticing.
I've got what some people would call a bubble butt (I'm a runner), and it's got me a little attention from women, but I can't say I've ever been able to take a lady to bed on that alone.
randomuser1105, all women of fertile age are sexual, and their biggest fears are being perceived as a slut. And looks alone is nothing for sex appeal without strong body language of an emotionally secure man.
I had a girl that was always staring at me when I wasn't looking when I was looking the laughing at everything that I said and talking to me so I thought well I asked her out and she said no LOL
For me it’s not the butt at allll. I don’t care about butts. I actually do notice arms more than butts. Arm muscles are attractive. Not that looks matter that much but if we’re talking about it…I actually care about butts the least.
mike roshaft said: "ok men don't necessarily miss courtship signals, they just have trouble determining if the signals are genuine or not" - Exactly what I was going to say. Many women - and especially married women - like to test their attractiveness on a regular basis. First, some of us cannot tell if they are genuinely interested or just playing. Second some men don't care and just go for it Some of us might want to see if it is genuine interest, but are not really interested in her, OR we think we might be interested, but then start wondering what kind of nut-case we are going to have to deal with.
wendeln92 Same with women, we want to know which head is being used. Are you looking for a bimbo or a woman with a heart and brains. Never could stomach the game.
It’s usually pretty simple. We gawk a lot. 😆 I can tell you what I do when a woman signals interest. I’ll usually straighten up my back, speak less, make wittier comments when I do, half-smile, and check back regularly to watch for more eye contact.
I think all women notice the chest back and shoulders the most. Those are the traits when displayed correctly will display a Alpha male is in front of them. It is what the animal kingdom has always noticed in any male who knows how to display that trait and shows when a mans interested in a girl. Normally i believe that the female will mirror his actions if she is interested and if he notices it will drive him crazy inside and naturally the flirty courtship will happen.
I do that with girls, the neck, the arms, shoulders and the waist are the most attractive places for me. But yeah, on the face, the jawline is another that I always look at, plus the nose.
+imakefoodhappen HUH? I definitely look at a man's ass. The legs and butt are of first importance. Also, height. If a guy is short, I am NOT interetsted, I don't care what they look like. Never understood why guys work out their arms when it just makes them look out of proportion. Like a big upper body on teeny little legs. YUK.
+imakefoodhappen Just out of curiosity.. How tall are you? And about the butt thing, well... most women in the streets and clubs get in love with my face, then they check me out for my body as im a builded man... but it´s not that one is always walking around like some fuckin baywatch or whatever, so i would say you women love pretty faces and of course, STYLE!!!
+The Bolt Thrower Yeah, i think it's mostly the face. I'm not usually attracted to skinny guys, most i like seem to be bigger, chubby men, but skinny wouldn't be a deal breaker either. I just don't care much about body type.
it has nothing to do with insecurity, men are told daily that women are interested and theyre just being nice and yet the two are severely similar to women. A woman will be extra nice when interested in a guy and will be nice to avoid being a bitch to ones she finds ugly. This causes many problems because it leads guys to think shes just being hard to get and causes him to chase harder and it causes guys shes interested in to ignore them because theyre not direct enough.
kishon8 if a guy likes you he'll keep the conversation going its literally that simple the exception is(female bestie+close female friend)we aren't like girl who like to string alomg guys
Roshes aii TRUTH. I'll stop caring about the conversation like 3 minutes in if I decide I don't like the girl. But then be entertaining for like 15 minutes with a girl who I like (personality and face)
Women's favorite subject is themselves. I dated one woman for 6 months and she told me I was the best boyfriend she ever had when I dumped her. All we talked about was her. She knew nothing about me. lol
+TheColaGoodfellow thats bullshit, ik someone who is working with the government and they tell me that 90% of the time humans indicate those same body language
I know. I cross my arms all the time and it's not because I am uncomfortable or want to seem unapproachable. Sometimes when I am just standing around talking it is just comfortable to cross my arms. I guess subconsciously I am probably a little uncomfortable because I AM a little bit introverted and when I try to change it I don't know what to do with my arms. Then I start to feel akward. Lol.
Vanessa, can you please post one on the subject this claims to be about? Maybe as one of your individual videos, which are much better? I don't want to be mean, but the hosts detract more than they add, especially one of them. Your information is generally spot on, but this is completely about women, not men.
You know what sucks? When you're encouraged to smile and be helpful/friendly to customers but they take it as meaning you're interested. So you think "am I being too friendly" so then you dial back on the friendliness but it doesn't seem to help regardless of what you do. Hell even when I don't smile I get "the look". Like...out of the blue intense gaze, hardly blinking or kind of unfocused. One time I was helping someone I barely even looked at. I was so busy frowning at the computer due to a glitch. I looked up to apologize for the issue only to be shocked by the look on this guy's face. I instinctively leaned back a bit. I wanted to ask if he was okay. Dude was trying to peer into my soul. There's _no_ reason to look at someone you don't really know *_that_* intimately. Another example. My colleague helping a male customer set up an account. I hear her voice, then his. Shrug, business as usual. Happened to glance over...this dude...had his body completely turned towards me, just looking at me as if I had been talking to him. Confused, thinking maybe my colleague had called me for help or something I look at her. She's just typing away on her computer, entering information...so what in the actual...fucc?! I've noticed that when some, not all, dudes come up to my work and have to take identification out of their wallet or pocket, they will maintain eye contact from under their brow as the dig for their info. ??? Why are you looking at me?! Look at your wallet. Male body language cues from personal experience: intense or hazy gaze, squaring shoulders, tilting up the chin, leaning a bit forward into personal space at times, staring at the mouth, turning their body towards you. Perhaps in a different setting these would be more welcome but I've learned the heard way how to not be overly friendly and too helpful at work. I lower the pitch of my voice, make brief eye contact before focusing on an eyebrow, glancing away towards my computer screen for a moment. Brief small smile at the beginning along with a basic "hello how may I help", then back to neutral face. Sitting up straight and not leaning over. Among other things. Amazingly it still doesn't work!🤔
I can decode this for you easily. It's because most guys have sex on the brain and every woman they see as a potential person to get into bed in one week, be married and to of had a kid within a year.
I guess I'm your typical male bc I tuned out half of what you said in this post but you know what? You're right. Now I'm going to see what's in the fridge.
"What's woman's favourite male body part"? I thought butt! Lol I'm a clairvoyant 😂😂😂😂 true. Actually I like a good butt, broad shoulders and salient veins 😍😍😍😍
this is why I miss the cues. Subtle hints I don't get.....obvious hints I don't get.........just talk to me and express some words that show an interest. Something like after talking for a bit......"hey, would you like to meet up tomorrow for lunch?" No hints....just direct to the point. Then I can say no, you are a hussy for trying to captivate me with your pheromones
Altho some of this is true. I can assure you, at least 70% of it isn't. People are just different. There are no rules. What Sophia shows as a clear sign of interest, is the "Get the F away from me" signal when it comes to Susie. Anyone who pretends to know what certain behavioral characteristics mean, and attach that to "most" people are at the minimum, lying to themselves.
Tell em why her tongue is pierced, ask even some gay guy (no offense). Vanessa got great advice, looks great but in less than a day I'm done. Go for your alpha male , I live for myself and answer to no one ! Bye W
I prefer faces over butts, but jimin has a nice face and butt and he's my bias so what do I know maybe it's both? But I think probably faces more, unless its jimin then its both
I am a salsa and kizomba dancer. We often have many discussions on who gets chosen to get asked to dance and why we choose people to ask to dance - it’s not always about attractiveness or dancing ability. I would love your input on this - have you done any studies on this?
I have advice for all men. Just build your body evenly and possibly work on your back and legs 2 times more then any other body part and doesn't matter what body part you have the females will have a favorite body part of the male on you.
This is a masterpiece. I recently read a similar book, and it was a masterpiece in its own right. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
"Women don't lie"-audience of the speaker (psychologist) laughs. "No, really. They will at first convince their own selves what they are saying is the truth. Then, they will try to convince others"
This gentleman is so funny every time he says something it's funnier than the last! I could so easily get along with this guy I've never seen in my life, but he is freaking hilarious! I got to figure out who the hell this guy is oh my God but seriously it's amazing how one channel has about 500 videos on this and it's the robot giving you bad advice as always. So much contradictory information on RU-vid it's absolutely insane.
Hi Vanessa! Great videos. Vanessa, I was recently in a deli ordering a roast beef sandwich. While placing my order I noticed that the clerk behind the counter kept scratching his balls. Vanessa, what was his body language trying to convey? Please respond as you rarely answer my comments.
If I don't find a woman physically attractive and don't see a connection, I could give a damn what kind of body language she's sending or not sending of if she's available or not. If I like what I see, THEN I'll inquire about her availability and if we have common connections and touchstones and then move from there. I think body language is an inexact science and can often be misleading.
I like - No makeup - Not fucking fat - Isn't on her phone 24/7 - Won't wear baby clothes in public when dating. - Short - Clean face - Clean teeth - Isn't a jerk or rude.
i mainly notice a guy’s eyes, smile/teeth, & chest/arms. imo, the shape of a guy’s butt & legs are the most trivial & unimportant part of his body. even with long-term ex-partners, i honestly can’t recall ever paying any attention to legs & butt. i’m completely baffled how those ever make the top answers on womens’ surveys.
Vanessa. question. why the butt been the feature that the woman loves most???? you did not give enough info.. by the way will you be offering certification programs??
‘Men use 5 parts of brain and women use 15 parts to read cues.’ A lot of people see this as men being stupid but I see it as women trying too hard lmfao.
^ ^ Have never seen such a load of old bolloks in my life! Human courtship is an instictive behaviiour which is programmed in your Dna .....some people get it wrong ..thats all! VVxx
The main reason they didn't decode any male body language is because it's pretty easy to tell what we want and how we feel, we don't really give off hints.
