How To Release Trauma Stored In The Body

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Trauma impacts us all differently, so recognising the coping mechanisms or behaviours you have developed in response to trauma can help support your healing journey. In this video, I share how you can begin to release trauma stored in the body so you can heal your stress, anxiety and pain.
It’s easy to think negatively about how you learnt to cope when subjected to childhood trauma. But the first part of healing is understanding that those coping strategies helped you survive at the time. By understanding that they once served a necessary purpose, we can begin to let them go from a place of love.
The gift of being an adult is we’re not dependent upon others to meet our core emotional needs. We have within us what we need to heal, but to access this we need to slow down, make space and learn to connect to the love within us.
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@AlexHowardTherapy Год назад

What helps you build inner safety? Let me know in the comments 👇🏼 👉🏼Pre-order my new book It's Not Your Fault: Why childhood trauma shapes you and how to break free www.alexhoward.com/its-not-your-fault Once you buy the book, don't forget to register your order number. I have 5 bonus gifts I’m giving to you for FREE to thank you for purchasing this book (including LIFETIME ACCESS to my very popular Decode Your Trauma, Decode Your Nervous System and Decode Your Fatigue 5 day series).

@RainbowLane Год назад

Staying away, as much as possible, from family members who have not evolved past the old family dynamic. It’s not ‘old’ for them, it’s still current. When you work to break the family dynamic, particularly if you were the scapegoat, other people still in the family ‘game’ who have not woken up will try very hard to keep you in the scapegoat position. No amount of explaining will stop them. So I heavily limit contact.

@jofox1186 10 месяцев назад

I find this "inner safety" part of the puzzle the hardest. I used to be able to do it with Tai Chi, walks in the countryside, caring for my son, but now I can't walk anymore, I have a chronic pain condition. I can't do Tai Chi anymore and it feels like my options are very limited. Even meditation gets more difficult because of the pain. My son is now grown up (so I care for a cat, but she is fairly independent). I really really need to be able to self regulate but I can't seem to get this piece in place. The only thing that really helps is finding some kind of co-regulation. I can't afford therapy so I call the Samaritans.

@Ceria3ella 8 месяцев назад

Your book “It’s Not Your Fault” is on my wish list on audible and will be purchased Jan 25, 2024. When I do, how and where do I register the order number? I look forward to listening to your book.

@lenorabarclay275 7 месяцев назад

If I buy this of my audible app do I still get the freebies please?

@Ceria3ella 7 месяцев назад

I have purchased the book on audible last month and, still unsure where to register my order number.

@sylvie060 Год назад

I started to pray. I was close to death through autoimmune, no friends family or doctors that would help me. I prayed out my feelings, unprocessed trauma, and I began to heal. After 20 yrs of accumalative trauma, now in 4 years of healing. God brought me to your Reset Program Alex, it has healed a lot. Thank you. Now I've picked up the Bible at this late stage in my life, and I now feel healed. Healing is possible. Trust you, trust God. It is possible.

@smuccilicious Год назад

Beautiful ❤

@marjn1030 Год назад

The doctors give us a pills but most diseases and sickness can come from our trapped emotions.

@lautjeee8582 9 месяцев назад

❤

@TheZoelorelei 9 месяцев назад

I been diagnosed with probably Ankylose spondalitis.. Yet i realized, and what triggered all this healing process, is to chose wrong partners...Actually..The right partner to trigger all my traumas. So i broke up. Of course, i can't let someone abuse me. But it pushed me into taking the step to heal...

@dawnatchison 9 месяцев назад

AMEN GLORY TO GOD

@DonnDenisse 3 месяца назад

I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@ErnestoHorner88 3 месяца назад

Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏

@Caroljoyce-mp8sk 3 месяца назад

YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@ElizabethMicheal-fu8xn 3 месяца назад

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

@AndrewLiam-lp5cj 3 месяца назад

Yes he's Dr.alishrooms.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.

@Iiisslogan-co6np 3 месяца назад

wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@polyglotmona 7 месяцев назад

What helps me first of all withdraw from toxic people, toxic companies, toxic situations, toxic places. Secondly, find peace, why are you sitting at a river or at the ocean as far away as possible from other people, or just be in the middle of a forest. Thirdly, reduce the cost of living so that I don’t have to work as much so that I have more freedom for myself. I could go on and on, I found a lot of helpful things since I started my new lifestyle. Thank you for thanks inspiring me and have a great week.

@simpleliving4205 7 месяцев назад

Thank you

@robertarmellini9286 4 месяца назад

Sounds to me that maybe you are just escaping the feelings more than facing them. Which definitely puts you in a situation of less stress but doesn't get rid of the trauma, because it would probably come up again as soon as you find yourself in a difficult situation. Could be wrong. But that is a short term solution for the problem. I like the say, "the only way is through".

@polyglotmona 4 месяца назад

@@robertarmellini9286 thank you for your answer. I’ve had therapy four times 25 hours and two stays in a psychiatric hospital, I studied psychology for 4 semesters and I’m constantly trying to return to the here and now because I find that thinking about the past is egocentric and therefore unhealthy.

@ClassesMANI 4 месяца назад

There are moments where you cannot avoid toxic people . 😢

@allythearts5439 4 месяца назад

Ignoring toxic people has helped. & Honestly meeting new people 👍🏽 has helped release trauma

@jenniferlowe5207 9 месяцев назад

For me, inner safety looks like speaking kind words to myself, being compassionate toward the parts of me that struggle. Additionally, setting boundaries with others.

@user-mj6qr2ky9d 7 месяцев назад

What exactly is meant by setting boundaries and how do u do it?

@andytutt7746 7 месяцев назад

Setting boundaries is difficult for me its hard for me to articulate my feelings.

@stanleymason-od4ls 3 месяца назад

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@linamoon-mi7wd 3 месяца назад

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

@stanleymason-od4ls 3 месяца назад

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@linamoon-mi7wd 3 месяца назад

Her name is Suzanne ann walters , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@stanleymason-od4ls 3 месяца назад

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@chase2853 3 месяца назад

don't worry man, only advice I can give you that will help is to not feed into those thoughts and try to look at the relationship as a lesson, reflect and see what you've learnt from that relationship as there is a lesson that can be found in any relationship or experience, my next piece of advice is to practice self love cuz only you can fill that void, wish u the best of luck on your healing journey.

@Dkayemiller9 8 месяцев назад

A relaxing environment that is safe with things that comfort like soft blankets and music.

@rayma66 9 месяцев назад

My trauma is stored in my stomach, I’m sure of it. I’ve been through a lot throughout my life and now I have a digestive disease (GERD/gastritis) caused by extreme anxiety and stress. It’s so difficult to begin my healing journey but I’m here trying. I can’t bring my stress down and it’s making my heartburn worse. I have so much work ahead of me. I’ve started with yoga and I journal sometimes. I need to regulate my nervous system somehow. I’m up all night, every night. I’m glad I found this video though. I think it will be very helpful. So thank you

@writer684 9 месяцев назад

Mine too, my digestive system doesen't work, making me to shut down after a meal , but the stress is making me hungry, the only way out is to get rid of the stress/ trauma I belive, and that is trougth the process of confronting the traumas, stay with it and realise it can't hurt you any more. You have to look at the trauma, feel it, don't run away, and then comfort yourself and say thats not relevant anymore, move on and live your life.

@rahuldwivedi9278 7 месяцев назад

You can use Vipassana meditation and tapping to release trauma.

@RiyaXlifestyle 7 месяцев назад

Mindfulness healed me a lot

@erinelle4310 7 месяцев назад

Look into fasting and cut out sugar especially. Ive had the same problems with stress, anxiety, trauma and digestive issues and I'll then eat junk food for months and feel worse for it. But when i cut out the crap, i immediately feel better and sleep better. You might go through the Herxheimer reaction when the bacteria die off which feels like being run down but afterwards, you'll feel much better and get back to good health.

@annawinek560 6 месяцев назад

@rayma66 you may want to lead about the vagus nerve stimulation. There are specific breathing exercises, humming and singing that may help you with it. Also, MAT (muscle activation technique) practitioner can ease your digestive issues.

@watchWorld100 Месяц назад

Aside from the things you mentioned, I moved away from my toxic family. I also spent much time with somebody who loved and trusted me. I did serious self-therapy: I asked myself "What happened?", Why do I feel this way?", "At that time, what should I have done?", "If it happens again now, what should I do?", etc. I also developed self-love, self-reliance, and self-esteem.

@etaokha4164 5 месяцев назад

What help me was walking in nature and spending hours outside with nature 😊

@msmith8818 9 месяцев назад

I'm 68 and in the past ten years, have started to deal with old trauma feelings. I feel that daily hiking and strength training have saved me from severe health issues. I'm trying to include meditation, but it's difficult because I have some type of ADHD. My parents are passed, but I have two much older siblings who were emotional abusers, until I went no contact with them. Therapists don't seem to understand how bad emotional and verbal abuse, and emotional neglect, can be. I don't have many childhood memories, but I remember my dad shooting my cat when I was around six, because it bit my mom, who stepped on its foot. I recently had a therapist tell me that my siblings just thought I was "different" and that was why they mistreated me. By and large, the counseling and therapy community is not helpful for survivors of family abuse.

@olivecahill7604 Месяц назад

Maybe try EFT

@aberdesign Год назад

Dear Alex, I build inner safety within nature, walks by the beach, listening to bird song and enjoying good food, and long chats with friends and family around me. Meditation every morning and positive affirmations. Just wanted to say that your videos have helped me greatly in trying to understand my engrained traumas. I love your therapeutic approach and methods. I believe they are paving the way to my healing. Thank you deeply for sharing. By far the best therapist on You Tube. ❤

@proudchristian77 8 месяцев назад

Gosh , foster kids don't have family, we have drugs !

@Ceria3ella 8 месяцев назад

The biggest and most helpful way that I began to build safety was to realize that safety first starts with me. No matter what is going on around me, no matter what people are saying and doing, and no matter what is going on in the world; I can work on making my inner and immediate world around me, a safe place. To work on inner peace -I will continue to work on trusting in God and building trust within myself, healing my inner child. Healing is like peeling an onion and I still have far to go, and that’s okay as long as I continue to have compassion, patience and keep learning how to be my own best friend. I will get there One peel at a time. I realize that being hard on myself doesn’t make a safe inner environment to allow for holding space for inner parts. Patience and compassion with self really is important. I have days I am just so fatigued by it all, but I do think it’s more stressful and tiring when avoiding, running from the emotions that want to be felt, validated, seen and heard. I have been on this healing journey for quite some time. Grief has a way of bringing up unhealed trauma, unaddressed grief and trauma that needs to be grieved. I realize I have to hold space for myself more often. It is said that in time we learn to grieve more in love than in pain when a loved one passes, perhaps the same can be said about trauma; as we grieve the trauma we can learn to love ourselves more in the process and little by little the pain of it all will become less and less over time. Much love and compassion to you all ❤

@birdienumnums1 3 месяца назад

I am struggling with GRIEF.

@Ceria3ella 2 месяца назад

@@birdienumnums1 hello, I am sending compassion your way. I hope one day you are able to walk lighter in grief with more love than pain. If you would like suggestions about a grief group or grief training group, please let me know and I will forward the information. I know grief all too well and walk with grief every day. Some days lighter than others. Sending love to all our loved ones and much love to you.

@birdienumnums1 2 месяца назад

@@Ceria3ella Yes kindly forward your suggestions. part of my trouble is my health is suffering now and I am on my own. thanks for your kind words. The hardest toughest cruelest experience I have dealt with.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 6 месяцев назад

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@elizabethwilliams6651 6 месяцев назад

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@Jennifer-bw7ku 6 месяцев назад

Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@elizabethwilliams6651 6 месяцев назад

Is he on instagram?

@Jennifer-bw7ku 6 месяцев назад

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

@steceymorgan814 6 месяцев назад

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

@paulypacker 8 месяцев назад

I wasn't able to build inner safety until I found a way to be compassionate to myself, and finally to LOVE myself. I started journaling consistently and honestly. It helped me be compassionate when I saw how hard my healing was in a concrete way. And I found it easier to feel compassion for that hurting person in my journal. It gave me some space to actually see how difficult this was for me and how hard I was working on it. I found that helped me to start trusting myself. I also use my journals for perspective. I look back to see how far I've come! THAT helps keep me going when it's hard to go on.

@mannoubouba9204 6 месяцев назад

thank you Doctor. I myself would add a last but very crucial step to that process of healing : being grateful to yourself and thanking yourself for the courage it had to take to get it through that process of releasing the trauma.

@philipparandall2910 Год назад

The things that make me feel safe are being with someone that loves and accepts me as I am where there is trust (mum), walks and sitting in nature, coffees and chats with friends, healing workships with other women, walks on the beach, yoga, Falun Gong, a belief system in something higher, kirtan, kindness from others even from relative strangers on a daily basis, patting a dog, affection, hugs, kind words, not having too many demands, being in beautiful places with good energy. Also, even doing something like knitting or crochet or stroking a cat where it is "time out" but the mind is preoccupied. Feeling financially secure. Frankly, a lot of jobs have not made me feel safe because there are so many demands, pressure and judgement with them. At present, am looking for a new job whilst wanting to sort through some of my issues and whilst jobs are important to feel valued with self esteem and financially secure, it is making me feel that I don't want to feel stressed or pressured as it is counter-intuitive to enjoyment of life, to feeling safe enough to work through issues which also contributes to more enjoyment of life.

@beckyf2991 Год назад

Tapping has helped me the most. It calms me and soothes me, and yet it assists me in bringing up and healing trauma. My therapist, who uses tapping throughout each session, has been invaluable.

@pmearsh 11 месяцев назад

I'm a life coach and I use tapping every day and recommend it to everyone. It's free, it's easy, can be used for any issue big or small and most importantly, it works 😀

@robertaswanson5633 10 месяцев назад

I agree that tapping is a wonderful way to safely bring up trauma and release it. I'm surprised that more people in this field don't mention it.

@sleepinggalaxy 10 месяцев назад

Do you mean EFT tapping?

@birdienumnums1 6 месяцев назад

IS this tapping all the meridian points?

@SuperMillhill 4 месяца назад

@@birdienumnums1 It's a placebo, it doesn't actually make a difference.

@evelinel.9827 Год назад

Exactly--my stored trauma (starting in childhood with emotional neglect) turned into fibromyalgia and CFS. Doing tons of somatic emotional work is one of the main things that has helped me get to close to recovery. (Kiloby Inquires/somatic self inquiry to get out emotional repression and limiting beliefs) (Also learning not to fight, flee or try to fix symptoms and learning how not to worry about them also). Thank you Dr. John Sarno!!!

@evelinel.9827 Год назад

TRE (trauma release exercises) and mediation is also great also!

@bonnie_nelms Год назад

Glad to read this. I too have fibromyalgia and cfs, and have been wondering about KI

@Rose-o5y7t 6 месяцев назад

Starting from THOSE OLD N HARMS STRATEGIES TO DO JUSTICE. PARTIA DE RACISTAS CASCARRABIAS CORRUPTONES LO Q SON.

@SB-ss5ih 5 месяцев назад

Try acupuncture for fibromyalgia and bouncing on a trampoline too. Cured someone I know ❤

@FAMA514 2 месяца назад

Dude same hereeee

@mashfield1846 Год назад

I am starting to build safety with a beautiful blanket! Back to the womb! When I was growing up my mother would often say "Pull yourself together". It became my motto after she died when I was 26. Now 69, it doesn't work anymore and I have a lot of alarm symptoms which need soothing and sorting. Thank you for your reassurance that there will be a way out. Bless you.

@fifiearthwanderer 8 месяцев назад

I also used the method of "keeping it all together" now I have chronic bracing and tension through my whole body.

@nastasiaa23 Год назад

Alex, this is the most comprehensive description about trauma healing journey and the steps one should be aware of when addressing trauma in their bodies.. I've listened to many lectures on the topic and most of them were just confusing and in the end people didn't know where and how to start. This one is short, exact, straight to the point and I am certain it will help a lot of people. Thank you ❤

@johnagiorg129 3 дня назад

Hello Alex! Earlier today I ordered your book "It's not your fault". I am 65 years old and after a long and painful journey I am now in processing my trauma and allowing myself to feel what I was afraid of. Sometimes my feelings are intimidating and as you said I feel as I am on the edge of an abyss and if I fell down I couldn't be able to go out. It was very useful for me your comment that when we start allowing our emotions getting out, we tend to push ourselves forward harshly. "Be gentle' was a valuable advice. When I am overwhelmed I search connection with my friends. It is dangerous for me to be alone with my unbearable emotions. Even this comment I am writing now has a positive impact on me. Reading is also a good way to find inner peace. Of course I read books that I am interested in. I also pray to God without forcing him to do what I want. I simply apply my requests. Thanks for your helpful videos.

@agnieszka.bekalarczyk 8 месяцев назад

When i feel discomfort and try to escape into conversations, social media and so on i go back to myself and i ask myself questions which helps to discover where is my trauma in my body and mind. Then i let myself cry and when i do it Hurts but then i feel sich a relief. When i stoped to runaway i just opened for emotions and im very loving for myself like a bestfriend i started to feel real calm and joy.

@salkashoura4928 10 месяцев назад

For me im working on self compassion. Really being compassionate to my self. Which can be in the form of write compassionate letters to my self, self compassion touch, connecting with my body, and writing down my feelings to express it. I also allow my self to release anger by shouting to the universe or punching my pillows. One thing i never did was express anger. I now know it is ok to express healthy anger in a healthy way. And it is ok to feel angry with things. That is what justice is. As long as we are not taking it out on our self or others.

@RezOz9916 6 месяцев назад

I've learnt a lot about my chronic complex trauma from Gabor Mate n Bassel Van der Kolk, but I have to say you prbly articulated it in the most clear, coherent, relatable way. "SLOW" is the key, rmbr that the first time you talk to a counsellor, it can be very re-traumatising, you lock up, enormous sadness n pain comes back n you feel what did I do that for. But slowly, gently n with compassion you learn to feel n think about those events/times without being triggered. It's a long journey that has taken me 10yrs to understand. It's something I'll have to work on everyday but it's worth it as I don't want to pass my trauma onto my kids, I want them to hve the life that I couldn't hve. All the power to all who read this and thank you Howard for trying to make a difference, it's working,-)

@emmaclaireisherwood Год назад

Taking time out, in the garden, the beach, peace and quiet, allowing the body to recallibrate, recognising when to do this is important, helps tremendously. Taking time out allows you to listen to your body and your inner self 💗

@pesthlm 10 месяцев назад

Hello Alex! So interesting to hear you talk about this topic. I am a very lucky person to have been cured of my psychosomatic ailments as I stuttered badly for 40 years and also had eczema all over my body. I just want to chime in with a parallel here to what you're saying. I was healed through liberating breathing ("rebirthing"). I found a fantastic therapist and here I want to directly emphasize the importance of finding a good therapist, who as you often say, safety is something important to think about. Trauma that is trapped in the body, when it is released, very strange body sensations can occur and then it is really important that you have a good therapist next to you as it can feel scary. The great thing about this method is that you as a client do not need to know anything about "why" your ailments are there, the method is very radical, in short; via the breathing technique, high-octane oxygen finds its way into the blockages (stored in tissues, muscles, etc.) and releases trapped energy. Very often then, memories can come to the surface and you get a clarity as to "why" the blockage arose. It is very common for blockages to arise in childhood, when one's own intellect was not developed to understand the source of the "trauma". In my case, I have carried with me trauma where I could not at all derive this to anything from my own life. I have been part of a fantastic journey and become 100% free from my ailments. Been completely healthy now for 17 years.

@stephanieknowles7586 5 месяцев назад

Is this technique related to holotropic breathing?

@JorgeGarcia-zu7cj 9 месяцев назад

Physical activities are extremely helpful

@KiowaWillshaw 12 дней назад

Yes I think finding peace within yourself is so important and being calm and don't let people rush you

@2joynow42 Год назад

Being aware of my thinking/self talk is very important to my feeling of safety. I aim to be consistent & to be my own best friend. 💖 this also includes tuning into my body, what is my body feeling? Stop take a breathe or rest & allow myself to do nothing. These things help me to notice the adrenaline & make a new choice ✨💖✨ Thank you Alex 🫶✨ so grateful for your work

@carriesmaticmccarthy2016 Год назад

Thank you for sharing this wisdom

@2joynow42 Год назад

@@carriesmaticmccarthy2016 🤗 wishing you a joyful journey 💖✨

@MaggieWirtanen 8 месяцев назад

What you said! Learning to listen to and acknowledge what’s happening in your body and re-narrating the internal dialogue from negative to supportive. We can learn to be our own bestie!

@2joynow42 8 месяцев назад

@@MaggieWirtanen ✨🤍🫶🤍✨ beautiful

@nonameneededd 6 месяцев назад

Beautifully explained. People go through trauma and think that it’s over and done with but trauma stored in the body has life long consequences. Trauma typically gets stored in the area of our our brain responsible for our emotions. Which then gets a response from our body whenever a similar situation occurs in one life which will remind you of your traumatic experiences and to live through it over again, which doesn’t end up leaving your body. When this happens over and over, your stress response increases leading to long term illnesses and can lead you to having an early stroke, dementia, heart attack etc. It’s so important to deal with trauma and heal from it once and for all. Because something is not seen and running in the background, does not mean it’s not effecting you in your everyday life.

@johnpatterson6448 7 месяцев назад

I get a lot of help listening to The Crappy Childhood Fairy and Heidi Priebe and, of course, Peter Levine. I am adding Alex Howard to my ‘team’. I like him a lot. Clear explanation and a good manner. And English. Subscribed.

@klyrebird 7 месяцев назад

I would like to suggest Eckhart Tolle to you. He has helped me a great deal. I just subscribed to this channel for the reasons you mentioned.

@alicegharibjanians1449 6 дней назад

E.T. Talks so slow, I can’t follow his teachings and I get stressed….

@positivevibe7684 2 месяца назад

Doing inner self work is the best gift you can give yourself ❤❤

@MargaretJEllis 7 месяцев назад

Limited time w/ narcissists.... I'm impacted physically.

@amandaford1278 Год назад

Thank you. Every time I get close to my feelings I feel like they're going to overwhelm me. It's helpful to have a reminder that they won't.

@jenniferlowe5207 9 месяцев назад

Same. I avoided my feelings at all costs. It terrified me to go there. Now I am realizing it was anxiety and that I will get through it if I go through the process of feeling

@parisaforpeace Год назад

Thanks for breaking this down. I also find that using the imagination to imagine safe, soothing spaces results in the feelings of calm and safety. Of course, it takes practice and may not be for everybody. I wonder, however, if all techniques and strategies need to be based on a sense of Self. Some people feel shattered and don't have a solid sense of self. Who am I? What is my worth? What do I stand for? What is my purpose? So perhaps applying techniques needs to go hand in hand with building inner wisdom or meaning.

@miguelherrera3387 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for this... I've been releasing & letting go a lot of shock cell trauma in my body,, spinal system, asthma, tension in chest,, joints, muscles, immune system, rage, everywhere! lol.. ALot of stubbornness, anger, rage, sadness, humiliation, betrayals, mistakes & bad deeds on my part & especially others connected to this life & many many past lives for the last 2 years.. Not fun,, but after it's said & done,,, What LOVE, Safety, Peace & Trust in Life, I Am Feeling More & More.. I Breathe A LOT, in & out constantly.. I want to be present, exist & deal with EVERYTHING that is present or presenting me in front of me & inside of me clearly... Oh Karma,, lol,, Good to know & feel that,, " Nothing But Good Come's Out Of ALL Situations" Absoultely! Correction & changing perceptions In Constant Forgiveness & Especially "LOVE", REALLY Works & Patience.. Thanks again for this

@selinan3077 22 дня назад

I'm in therapy for many years and I've watched 2 of your videos so far and they have both been sooo enlightening and REALLY do help to understand and get better!!

@yinchimoon 2 месяца назад

I have found sound healing and not pushing my body helpful. What you have said about the innate wisdom of our bodies initially to protect us but then to present the material/symptoms for healing/expression/completion when we are relaxed and from the body's perspective resourced, is something to trust. Because mostly we have been distant from that body wisdom and we don't understand it or trust it. ,, and this is about changing that so we can be free. Thank you so much for your accessibility Alex - it's allowing people who haven't been able to afford therapy to access help via the stories and experiences of others. Theres something very co regulating about your energy which transmits confidence.

@MorganLeeModelxo 5 месяцев назад

Omg. Every trauma video I see is so abstract and unclear, this video was so much easier to understand. Thank you so much

@JoshLooperMusic 4 месяца назад

I’ve been processing trauma for 44 years. If it hasn’t come out yet it ain’t never. I’ve tried it all.

@kevinburke-hv5ty 4 месяца назад

Me as well 50 years therapy, 12 steps, prayer I still suffer. I won't give up

@JoshLooperMusic 4 месяца назад

@@kevinburke-hv5ty me neither buddy. I’m starting new trauma therapy this week. Keep fighting

@michaelsuperstar606 4 месяца назад

try the gateway experience.

@ChocolateVodka9 3 месяца назад

What about shrooms

@JoshLooperMusic 3 месяца назад

@@ChocolateVodka9 tried them more than once. Helpful but not the cure.

@ioanacristinabratescumusca7412 Год назад

Anxiety can be body-anxiety, mind-anxiety and emotion-related anxiety. Awareñess of this and likewise action for building inner safety: body-safety (e.g.sleep, soft diet), mind-safety (e.g.non-judgemental about criticizing, I found helpful), emotional-safety (e.ģ.meditation walk, I consider to be interesting)...

@Trulyb_ 10 месяцев назад

Remembering gods love for me is helping me 🥹

@kimberlysteph3877 28 дней назад

I learned this along time ago. It's really never about us, ( the reason they abused us) Ignoring toxic people, places etc. Is isolating. NOT GOOD it's better to learn to cope, everyone can learn to cope, and in the process, you'll actually learn those toxic people, are actually just trying to get through everyday the only way they know how, and can be quite hilarious to observe through a moral compass.What i learned is perspective is key, and the world looks a certain way when putting on the right glasses, adopt a differnt approach mentality, life is trial, and error. Don't carry some elses bag of shit, just because they gave you that baggage. Have the power to put that bag of shit on their doorsteps, light it on fire, and watch as they try and stomp it out. Time to live life! It's a choice. The most powerful thing you can do is make the choice to no longer carry bagadge you thought you had to carry. Are you a theif? No, it's not yours it. Never was. Return it!

@cmere9141 27 дней назад

Somatic Exercises, TRE, Trauma Informed Yoga, Journaling and Therapy helped me.

@ak1t4hax0r8 3 месяца назад

27 years in hell with PTSD & trauma until Jesus come to my life, 7 years of battle & healing with his light & love, Thank you Lord. Blessings y'all

@jared3370 25 дней назад

For me, some of the more healthy ways I have learned to build inner safety is by talking out loud to myself (verbally process) and keep it realistically positive so as to give myself the validation and solution oriented perspective that I would typically try to seek from others. Another thing is music. I often listen to extreme and aggressive music because it gives me a sense of my own inner strength and it cultivates an attitude of firm resolve within my own energetic expressions. However I am still utilizing a couple things to cope that aren’t exactly healthy, but in the meantime I am watching videos like this and gathering the necessary data to be able to get to where I can discard the less healthy coping tools. It is a process and I have to remember to give myself the compassion and understanding that I always used to rely on others for. I used to rely on my support network to an unhealthy degree, but I realized that I can get all the help and validation from everyone else but until I start to cultivate my own sense of safety, comfort, and validation proactively, then I will not have the capacity to receive and internalize it for myself.

@robertaswanson5633 10 месяцев назад

Reading spiritual literature helps me to calm down and build a sense of inner safety. Current favorites are anything by Ernest Holmes.

@123fredv 8 месяцев назад

Hearing things that scare me and experiencing that nothing happened and I’m ok. Also being w my family and letting myself laugh and talk with them. Being with my cats and seeing how they are being with me without needing me to be in any other way than myself.

@susyahamed2906 6 месяцев назад

Meditation helps me a lot

@puffymuffin9064 5 месяцев назад

How does meditation help you

@susyahamed2906 5 месяцев назад

In more ways than I can say. I can just tell you that if I had the obligation to stop one thing, my job or meditating. I would choose my job.

@Maddie9185 Год назад

Wow! This was amazing. I was able to do this to a degree without realizing that this is what I was doing. I had an accident that left me traumatized which manifested with a lot of anxiety. Because I ended up in the hospital I started to experience a lot of health anxiety even thought all the tests came back negative (clean bill of health) I started to educate myself about anxiety the symptoms and I learned that hypochondriac is at the top of the many symptoms. Once I understood that there was nothing wrong with me I decided to accept the anxiety but learn to manage it. Deep breathing, meditation, having a wonderful supportive husband and slowing down and getting in touch with my feelings has been the key for me. My anxiety is pretty much gone but I will continue to meditate and I have slowly gone back to the gym.

@fatimah9202 3 месяца назад

As a Muslim, belief in one God, the Merciful and the Just. 5 times daily prayers, and praying and talking to God/Allah in prostration. Remembrance of God/hymming/ zikr and reciting and contemplating on the Qur'an, the words of Allah. Believing that fate and destiny is from God and that there is a wisdom in everything, and that there is also reward in this world and the hereafter for patience in suffering, and for everything that inflicts you. Disconnecting with toxic people and forgiving them. Accepting that this life is temporary and a test, and belief in life after death. Helping others in distress and need❤

@khansherani Месяц назад

that's true, but for some people trauma stored in their body need more body-based therapies, SE, mindfulness meditation, breathing meditation can help and then your imaan will definitely keep up and compliment your therapy. For some of us trauma survivors need of body-based therapy is must even though we are also a strong believer.

@Afrojoeful 25 дней назад

Sounds like me me me and probably everyone else toxic ? If its not me me who heals the toxic ? Why don't they have the ability to do same ? Were they created as less humans by God or Allah not to have the ability to think like you or is God and Allah you, that the others and toxic people have a responsibility to realise their Godness and not think there's a God somewhere bit that we are all God's and should rely on each other.

@deborahwalker1208 Год назад

Working with a really good therapist currently using a somatic method, inner child work also. I'm learning to get in touch with my emotions and feel them, allow self care practices. To survive, I had to deny and repress emotions. Finding my voice: setting boundaries with others and asking for what I need.

@carolmahoney2777 7 месяцев назад

What helps me is Theropy and meditation. Started chair yoga for seniors and podcasts like this one. They are all helpful tools and techniques and I’m still learning. 😊😊

@barry5265 7 месяцев назад

I found being in nature. Appreciating the small things .the kindness in others and the things that are positive like worshipping god help me get in touch with my emotions.denial can be a big.part. like this isnt going on but you know the body keeps the score and it catches up.

@michaelsuperstar606 4 месяца назад

It's a big job, but it is so worth the effort. Meditation helped me bunches.

@xPeej Месяц назад

This has to be the simplest way of explaining trauma stored in the body that I've ever heard with practical application. Well done Alex, legend!

@nickymatthews6953 Месяц назад

This and a previous video has helped me understand my need to be of constant help to my adult children (fawning). I’ve known it’s there for a long time and always feel unfulfilled because I’m too busy to give myself to those things which I would find personally fulfilling outside my kids and seven grandchildren. Though how I quite make this journey is an interesting question. Thanks Alex, you were instrumental in my dealing with chronic fatigue, your videos are a great help.

@user-gm4jh2wv3z 6 месяцев назад

Fantastic video. I continue to build safety. Most recently quiting a toxic job and asking my parents not to contact me. Meditation and spirituality has helped with internal safety. Knowing I am not my thoughts, my emotions or my body has really helped me to find a space that is safe and untouched by the physical world. With love and wishing you peace, J

@divinenurturerjanenecummin2020 7 месяцев назад

Working directly with the inner child has helped me feel the feels and bloom her into safety and confidence to express. Now we are delving more into finding safety in being more grounded in the body.... what a fascinating journey! Great video! Thank you.

@jeanniecampbell1374 Год назад

one of the Best video's I have seen ..inner safety ? for me counting to ten before I commit , say I will get back to you .( when I have thought it through ) having the same compassion for myself as I do for others ,and pulling away from people that make my stomach turn ( thats where I feel it ) and stop making excuses for people ..if it does not feel right its usually is not right ..built your wisdom and observations which finally will help you trust your instinct ...respect yourself and know you have value too .

@LeadersHQ-1 9 месяцев назад

Great Video.... I was traumatized as a child, and then proceeded to traumatize myself with workaholism... I was really ultra good at masking my feelings and deflecting... now, at 60, I want to undo all of that and start to feel and live... repairing a lifetime of trauma and addiction isn't easy, but it's doable! thanks for this!

@SuperMillhill 4 месяца назад

Did it work?

@LeadersHQ-1 4 месяца назад

@@SuperMillhill after a 2 hours of meditation per day for six months, i was able to repair alot of damage... it was work, and I had to be dedicated to learning hte techniques... but i am calm and at peace these days... it was well worth the time investment and labour... i recommend it

@jillychandler Год назад

Listening to your wonderful words of wisdom, I was put off with what sounded like background music ? Please, can we just have your talking without that? Having trauma myself, I am very sensitive to sounds. Thank you so much for all your videos, they are really helping me. xxx

@moscowcowboy_13 17 дней назад

This is why I still struggle with cortisol, inflammation, and terrible autoimmune disease after 43 years of bottling it up.

@ThePlatformSA-jq3lr 6 месяцев назад

What an amazing video. I didn’t know I had stored trauma till I watched. I knew something was “off” just didn’t know what it was. So Thank you for this✨

@derfliegendeflunder 7 месяцев назад

Thank you - RU-vid just recommended this video to me. For me the release of the trauma (in my case stored in in the belly & solar plexus-area) comes with a lot of anger or rage... which is not so easy to access gently it seems - at least not by myself outside of therapy... Also I'm getting in touch with some feeling of guilt for my confused ways to cope with this in the past - trying to get rid of this energy in sexuality for example... puuh, not so pretty to look at that, yet I didn't know better... I mean there was nothing going on which was not consensual... yet, it's not my proudest phase of the journey... I don't know... just felt like sharing myself here I guess... thanks for reading! ❤️‍🔥

@RenekLexa 6 месяцев назад

This is the most important and straight video about trauma releasing I have ever seen and heard. Important points in a few minutes. Lots of people put this informations in long podcasts. So thank you because this stage of my life let me release these emotions and this support helped a lot. Have a nice rest of a month! 🙏💎❤️

@farhadoveisi2248 2 месяца назад

Great video, it is unbelievable that majority of people suffer from one or another type of truma. They should start teaching this in middle school and higher up ... maybe thru rest of life ...

@AZUNTA200 24 дня назад

I grow and develop through fear, and I feel safe and strong in the process I understand that fear is the oldest human emotion

@VsgshshDhhdudu 17 дней назад

trust the wisdom of the process

@karenc.6144 6 месяцев назад

Thank you Alex. I have been dealing with anxiety on highways for years after having a panic attack while driving the day after 911. As a child I did not have a secure base to turn to for safety since my mother was a narcissist so I did not know how to self regulate my emotions. I distracted myself with alcohol, sex, eating, and drugs. I have been sober since 1988, but I did not how to calm myself when things seemed out of my control. I know I have CPSTD. What has helped me feel stable internally is my relationship with God. I read my Bible every morning, attend Bible study and continue to drive on the highway. Meditation is a daily practice along with stretching. I stay away from any drama from others and keep my focus on God and helping others without caretaking. Healing is a journey. I am thankful to people like you who create these videos for those suffering who need help. God bless you!

@rhondar4063 Месяц назад

Oh man I needed this video real bad I'm glad I've stumbled on it just now

@KiowaWillshaw 12 дней назад

Hi Alex l am finding your videos very helpful. I have bought your book and working with it realise that I have alot of stored trauma

@Gratitude.pjshetty 4 месяца назад

For the past two days, I have been looking for a video on healing traumas, and I stumbled upon your video today and it made so much sense. Thank you and gratitude 🙏

@Noran11290 8 месяцев назад

Thank you very much for this video. I have seen many videos and this summarises the matrer really well with an organised way that respects the listener . We should have this knowledge taught at school from an early age.

@godzillamanstreb524 2 месяца назад

Chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo really has helped regulate my nervous system…..great video!

@MelissaVRamos 6 месяцев назад

Thank you. A way is being mindful and developing a friendship with my inner child, adult self, parent myself, be a BFF by talking to myself as support. This is something I need to do for an inner safety rule.

@arjanblad416 9 месяцев назад

This is an awesome "sum it all up" And also the other one about how it is stored... The helicopter view is the first to disappear during emotional turmoil. At least in my case... This really helps to see the big picture again... Thanks so much... Blessings to you...

@bitesizedessentials 6 месяцев назад

I find this video very beneficial. I have a lot of stored trauma that manifests itself in panic, anxiety attacks, over-worrying, doomsday thinking and overly negative thinking. Accepting that I have not surfaced many of my stored trauma is the first step towards healing. Thank you for this video!

@nikol7951 5 месяцев назад

Excellent thank you. I've been reading your book, It's Not Your Fault, and then avoided (for a while) doing the first exercise in Chapter 3. I finally started the first exercise last night, and a whole bunch of stuff came up that surprised me, freaked me out, and made me uncomfortable; and I didn't sleep well. Now through this video I understand that I was using one of the defense mechanisms (avoiding the exercise) to avoid feeling the subsequent feelings. I feel better now after I watched the video, to continue the process, and be gentle with myself. I also know that as I remain courageous, I will provide the safe environment for my body to connect to its wisdom and heal its unresolved trauma.

@paulinaluck5623 6 месяцев назад

And what helps to build inner safety ..yoga self love hugs touching cat or dog learning sth new which give us confidence and pleasure and always remembering good moments in life and gratitude for these happy moments 💝 because whatever happens to us we should try to find sth nice and good in our life❤

@joseerollet8071 Год назад

Just listened to this online talk and want to thank you as l find so many people explain about the trauma and it’s response but few actually tell you have it can be transformed.lve listened to your videos explaining about the reset programme but l really felt l needed to work one to one. I have recently started my process with a somatic therapist and l really hope she can lead me to make the changes l so want to make. It feels like my whole lie,68 years have been dogged by fear, anxiety and dread of just living and Covid sent me right over the top. Slowly l hope to start to live……thank you again for all your online information and advice, it helped me see what l need to heal my wounds, Josée

@gabbadabba007 11 месяцев назад

It will be fine ❤direct yourself to God, it will help you 🎉

@brahmeshvaram2862 8 месяцев назад

Thanks you for you structured comments and contribution to global health and enlightenment. Responding to your invitation about what has helped me feel safe, it is primarily my practice of the Transcendental Meditation program, the largest systemized meditation technique in history, with 10 million people having learned, and 700 published scientific research studies showing benefits, half of which appeared in peer-reviewed journals. The second most helpful has been 15-20 minutes twice daily yoga postures. Third most important has been learning and practicing Ayurveda, the Indian system of natural health, the oldest and largest tradition of natural health in the world. Thank you again.

@SonyaTurner-rz8vp 8 месяцев назад

thank you for informing me about stored trauma.

@libe2431 7 месяцев назад

Thx for the video. My trauma got so bad that I developed a functional movement disorder. I was unable to stop having tremors like motions for a whole week. I was hospitalized unable to move properly. I was able to manage later on and I finished the school year a month later. I am a teacher. During the summer break, I found out a treatment at Mayo Clinic. In December a year ago, I started a great program. The main process was learning to do diaphragmatic breathing and other physical therapy training for a week. I am not 100% better but about 90%. So breathing and sleeping at least 7 hours a days, 9 hours are ideal make a huge difference for me. I can feel my body internally shake when I am stressed and anxious. I am afraid to let the emotions run free but this video might just have me convinced. Again, thank you.

@marilynoverton8142 8 месяцев назад

Thank you so much, Alex, for this wonderful content! What helps me create a feeling of safety is self-soothing stroking of my arms and hugging myself.

@leonchavarria2707 3 месяца назад

You said what happens...can come out in a different form. Is my sense of humor the form/damage caused by the meningitis and high fever that damaged the myelin sheath and disability I now have. This site explains in a clearer the form of the anxiety that is troubling me. I want to be more connected with this site...thank you.