How to Say No to Your Boss RESPECTFULLY (5 Ways to blow them away with this!)

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How to Say No to Your Boss RESPECTFULLY (Blow them away with this!)
How to say no to your boss respectfully, politely, and gracefully is a tough task. In this video, I explain how to say no to your manager and navigate tough conversations with your manager by signalling and setting healthy boundaries with your boss. The best way to do this is learning how to say no to your boss without actually saying no. As a result, you learn how to stop being a pushover by being too nice and feeling bullied at work.
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Timestamps:
3:05 #1: Always say yes
4:08 #2: Seek to understand
5:16 #3: Be direct about your current workload
6:03 #4: Ask to postpone
6:47 #5: Calmly ask your boss on how to do it all
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@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Which of these will work best with your boss? Let me know below!

@ohnobo14 3 года назад

My boss doesn’t seem to care that I have too many projects going on at once so they throw more at me. I am the only one that can do what I do at the company with xray technology and I just want to find out how to say no more. This is enough and you will hurt my quality if you push me more. I have been fearful because it feels like a I’m just a number environment.

@littlewarcovers 2 года назад

what if your boss always makes it look like the new project is super simple and you will have all the support but then everyone else is busy to help you as promised

@YourBFFMegan 4 года назад

This is so hard to do!!! I made myself a doormat for years at my previous jobs because I said yes to everyone and everything. GREAT video, Dr. Jon!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thanks for watching!

@AdrianaGirdler 4 года назад

Self care and setting boundaries for you physical and mental health is vital. Great tips on how to say no in a respectful way. Cheers!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thanks Adriana 😃

@KoiAcademy 4 года назад

i really like how you said from your boss's point of view "you don't think I don't know whats already on your plate" I never saw it from that angle. mind blown

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

It's so important to understand multiple perspectives. Thanks for stopping by!

@dontbefooledbyjumla7869 3 года назад

Some of them don't care..

@TiidiiLivingwithSabrina 4 года назад

Yes to setting boundaries. It is difficult the first few times but you then find that you start getting more respect and it makes life easier

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Tiidii Living with Sabrina totally!

@LeoLandaverde 4 года назад

This can be a very intimidating thing to do, but so essential to know how to do. Great content!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

It really is!

@Premiuminvesting 4 года назад

This was fantastic Jon. I'm a HR Advisor over in the UK and this was spot on. It's essential that people learn how to say no in a respectful way - building rapport with your boss is an essential foundation. Have subbed pal, would love your support too 😄 p.s. what is the green thing in the background? 😂

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad you liked it. The green thing in the back is called a Haro, it's a droid mascot in the Gundam mecha universe (kinda like the Japanese Transformers, something I loved as a kid). Keep up the good work!

@VinceLymburn 4 года назад

Really appreciate your tips in this video. Setting your boundaries is so key because your boss doesn't know how much you can handle! Thanks for making this!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad it was helpful!

@terryfriend16 2 года назад

Bosses don't have enough to do. They delegate. The word "No" is a word.

@KoryoJK 7 месяцев назад

Depending on your level within the org, asking boss to reprioritize for you does not bode well. Instead, take the initiative to reprioritize for them with supporting rationale, and then present. At that point it makes it a bit easier for the manager to agree and also demonstrates your proactiveness. A win win.

@DrJonTam Месяц назад

That’s a great point. Agreed that the level definitely matters. The conversation at higher levels would be understanding the manager’s pain point and proactively prioritizing and solving for them.

@BasiaRichard 4 года назад

This was great. I have never had a boss, but I like how you explain all the steps you have to take before you say no!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Lucky you!

@ajicoua 4 года назад

Having your boss spell out what the work entails is such a great idea!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Totally! It's amazing after they spell it out they may realize they're overwhelming you

@LegaC_ 2 года назад

I’ve been working in this warehouse for about a 2 weeks and we are allowed to say no to anything we don’t feel comfortable doing. This week I was asked if I would be interested in forklifting. I said idk which was leaning more towards no yet they’re being very persistent in getting me to do it. I’m allowed to say no but I have problems saying no at the same time. I’m very comfortable with the position I’m currently in and I don’t know how to say no respectfully and reasonably.

@TheWiggyWoman 4 года назад

This is one of the most difficult, but arguably most important things to master. Thank you so much for this video!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

You're very welcome!

@BrianaBorten 4 года назад

So great and important to create boundaries. Love this!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

It really is!

@TrentKennelly 4 года назад

I always appreciate how you use subtle ways of making the other reflect.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thank you! And thanks for stopping by!

@YesToTech 4 года назад

Amazing advice on how to say no to your boss! I always had a hard time doing this!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad you liked it!

@StephanieKremic 4 года назад

This is a good one! I'm a boss and good to see it from a different perspective

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@tanyaannn 4 года назад

Communicating about your current workload is such a great idea! Great video Jon!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thanks so much!

@ThinkYourHealth 4 года назад

Being honest about your work load is important. Adds to transparency.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Totally!

@CelinaBelizan345 4 года назад

Such great info! Thanks for making this video - will help a lot of people get out of their own way.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad it was helpful!

@Karma_Institute 4 года назад

Killer video!!! This is so important to reflect on and its so important to be willing to be confrontational in today's society!! New sub here

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thanks!

@TheRealEstateInformant 4 года назад

This is a great video and will help many people especially during these uncertain times. Great job!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thank you so much!

@phillygyrl34 4 месяца назад

I say no all the time. One of the ways I do so in a work setting is, "I am not going to be able to get to this done today and/or at this moment, however, I can have this to you by this date. Please let me know if this presents as an issue." OR, If it is a time sensitive issue, "I can handle this for you today, do you mind if we bring in "John- another team member" to assist me with project A to ensure we stay on deadline for this project?"

@imethan-youtubetips1770 4 года назад

Saying NO is so underrated. Great tips man. I'm also a small tuber 😅

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Appreciate it! Keep up the work 👍

@debbiethompsoncoaching 4 года назад

Love that you teach us how to say yes first but really say no! That is brilliant - thank you!!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

You are so welcome!

@TrishLee 4 года назад

This video was great! Thanks for the lovely tips! Definitely can’t wait to check your next video!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

You are so welcome!

@TrishLee 4 года назад

Thank you! Have a great day ahead!

@grapers6701 Месяц назад

Nah for me I’ve been working hard doing by myself with stuff when it would be nice for my coworkers to help me out. My manager asking me to stay more hours but I want to say no to her cuz why should I stay longer if I’m putting more work for myself while everyone else stays on their phone and our managers would just sit around in the office.

@DrJonTam Месяц назад

That sounds really tough

@ShawnBell 4 года назад

As an owner of a company this is great advise. The more we can communicate and all be on the same page, the better. Great video!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad it was on point from your experience!

@centralflife891 Год назад

Lol I do this already 😅 glad to hear it works for others

@StephanieWeeks 4 года назад

Great video Jon! Yes, it's important to communicate boundaries with others because they can't read your mind! 👏👏👏

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Absolutely!

@Rawsomehealthy 4 года назад

Saying No is so difficult, and say it to the Boss is twice difficult. Thank you for the tips on doing it respectfully.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

No problem!

@JRockYoga 4 года назад

GREAT tips thank you so much!!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad it was helpful!

@Cmacoach 4 года назад

haha great approach! Not what I thought you'd say but it makes total sense.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Glad you liked it! What did you think I'd say?

@thelongevityproject 4 года назад

Awesome video! I just came across your channel and subscribed. Looking forward to more videos from you!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thanks for the sub!

@JesusSaves77799 Год назад

I have worked for some ruthless attorneys who would be like, “Well, just get it all done”, so I’m not sure this video is very empowering for me! Bully bosses are a problem because they don’t care about your issues - they will just leave it all in your lap! I am a conscientious and helpful person, but I don’t know what being agreeable has to do with this issue or why we have to take a test about that? I mean, what are we supposed to do in the situation? I think this could happen to any type of personality?

@DrJonTam Год назад

It’s got everything to do with the it. People who are disagreeable have a much easier time saying no to anyone, including their bosses. If the boss say “just get it all done”, then they’ll negotiate and get something out of it. They’ll also be able to tell their bosses straight-faced “It won’t get done, or won’t get done well. Get someone else or drop something off my plate.” If the boss forces it, they’ll just ignore them and tell them “see, I told you.” If they get penalized or fired, it’s a lawsuit headed the boss’ direction. No boss wants to deal with that.

@JesusSaves77799 Год назад

@@DrJonTam Ah great! Thank you for that explanation. I didn’t see that explanation in the video so I was confused. So do you think that being disagreeable at times is good? Also, I don’t think in the US we can sue a boss if we get fired unless it’s due to a civil rights violation of protected classes or another gross violation because we are “At Will” employees often (unless in a Union, for example)? Also, suing a boss takes a lot of money and time I would think? Are there any other strategies than an employee can use for leverage would you say? Threatening to leave a negative (but true) Google review? (Those can really hurt a company). Or calling the health department on them if the boss threatens to fire them without good cause? Are there good, hard core ways to fight back if getting abused? Thank you very much!! 🙏

@ElizabethSampson 4 года назад

This is amazing advice and very informative!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Elizabeth Sampson thanks!

@RachelSmets 4 года назад

LOVE this! I actually QUIT my corporate cause I hated working for a boss and want to be my own boss! LOVING IT!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Agreed! I can't go back to working a 9-5 after working on my PhD for 6 years and realizing how important it is to determine your own priorities

@ShishirKhadka 4 года назад

Thanks for sharing fantastic advice

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

You are so welcome!

@JamieRiene 4 года назад

This is really great advice and as a manager, I would totally respect this approach.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

The last one might not come across so well for all managers, but I'm glad you think it's okay!

@JamieRiene 4 года назад

Dr. Jon Tam - Career Change Coach absolutely. I tend to be very direct and appreciate directness but obviously you have to know your audience. 👍🏻

@semantixsigns6657 3 года назад

First you have to say yes then at the end if you always say yes you are too agreeable? You have to be able to negotiate that’s what your talking about. To negotiate you have to be able to walk away! How? You have to have an option in your back pocket!! Best advice I’ve ever heard. Beat advice I can ever give to my kids. Teach them that employment is a 2 way st. Easier said than done? The I wonder why they don’t learn this in school. Hmm. See Horace Mann!

@DrJonTam 3 года назад

A lot of this is mindset. Another part of this is willing to take control and responsibility of your own destiny. Meanwhile, public schools’ focus is to teach you ABCs and 123s and how to be a good citizen.

@aussierule 2 года назад

"Without getting in trouble" *Ego has entered the chat* Lol great video thank you, friend.

@SerErryk Год назад

This is a great video. However, many terrible bosses will respond to #5 with "You'll figure it out".

@TechAndStartups 4 года назад

Great tips! Liked and subscribed!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Thanks for the sub!

@mauriceoyanadel4170 3 года назад

Which video do you recommend if my boss lies to management

@DrJonTam 3 года назад

Sounds like a terrible situation to stay in. Maybe it's time to find something better?

@IntentionalMarriages 4 года назад

Haha, always say Yes! Great creative suggestions!

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

YES!

@contactsanders6064 2 года назад

I'm good at doing number two; need to work on number one saying "Yes".

@baldassarre256 4 года назад

Hello Dr Jon Tam! I seen you comment on Kati Morton's video. And I read your info. You are a highly educated person. I would like to hear your thoughts on Kati. When watching her videos have you noticed anything unethical about her? If you have not, please watch her video on self-diagnosis.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Hey there, I've only watched several of her videos in the past so I don't have enough information to comment on her ethics. I watched her video on self-diagnosis and she is right that the clinician and patient need to work together because, at the end of the day, only the patient knows what's going on inside. Also, if the patient disagrees with an external diagnosis, assuming it's nothing serious and they're not a risk to others and themselves, they can generally go find someone else until they get the diagnosis they want. Lots of people self-diagnose, and of the issues emerge such as the barnum-forer effect (you can do a quick google for clarification) when seeking confirmation bias. At the end of the day, working with people is difficult when the main source of data is from the patient themselves. It's not like in the medical sciences where you can run an MRI and retrieve physical samples to examine the problem. If you're suggesting she's self-promoting on a sensitive topic, at the end of the day, what she offers is free and while she may sell further services later, it's up to the individual whether they want to purchase anything or not.

@baldassarre256 4 года назад

Thank you Dr Jon Tam for your time, I really do appreciate it. I'm worried about how someone in a fragile mental state might interpret her statements. if you self-diagnose, what do you self diagnose yourself with, then what are the steps you take next. Unfortunately it's far too easy for a person to obtain pharmaceuticals online. Well I suppose you could see where I'm going with that. with that said I still have my concerns. once again let me thank you for replying. PostScript Actually I should apologize. Perhaps, unconsciously I was trying to get you to confirm my bias. the intersection of social media and mental health both fascinates and frightens me.

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

@@baldassarre256 No worries. I understand your concerns about mental health and social media. If you break down what she's saying, it's the fact that people are self-diagnosing anyways. If someone chooses to purchase meds on a self-diagnosis, they bear the responsibility. People are doing it on a daily basis already via approaches like homeopathy, naturopathy, alternative medicine, or even what supplements they take. They have the freedom to do so, but freedom can also be scary because that means bearing responsibility for your choices. If I'm to nitpick her video, I think she could have scripted it better rather than winging it.

@tueone5308 2 года назад

I have document record send it to the EEOC BOOM! LAWSUIT!!!$$$$

@StephenSiu 4 года назад

Nice iron man thumbnail haha :D !

@DrJonTam 4 года назад

Stephen Siu don’t have the photoshop skills to get myself into a mask 😂

@BrideofJesuChristo2 2 года назад

Can you get fired for looking out for your health setting a boundary

@DrJonTam 2 года назад

If you get fired for setting healthy boundaries, is it really a place worth staying at?

@BrideofJesuChristo2 2 года назад

@@DrJonTam well no but I have no back up plan financially

@DrJonTam 2 года назад

@@BrideofJesuChristo2 then what can you do?

@hiddengem4293 2 года назад

Matthew 5:37 - But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

@DrJonTam 2 года назад

That scripture is specifically referring to oaths... most bosses don't demand you to swear an oath 😂

@BGP369 2 года назад

No need to tiptoe around this issue. Just speak plainly. If they dont respect your boundaries, they are not worth your time. Your advice always say yes to your boss is DEFINITELY not good advice. Professionals should be able to handle this. If there are any big problems, document it all and take them to court if things go sour.

@javaman1570 2 года назад

I don't care who you are as a boss if you take advantage of me i will start by letting you know im uncomfortable he i get fired so be it than to work for someone who makes me miserable one mans trash is another man treasure.

@ChefUgolino 6 месяцев назад

Already halfway through this vid, so far he’s just vamping, restating the question, promising the title several ways. Dr. Oxford here clearly padding his vids to maximize his monetization, and he does it using disrespectfully obvious techniques familiar from vids by and for children. If he wants to improve watch time, maybe supply more content, and for god’s sake front load it, please. We are too busy for this bs.

@DrJonTam 5 месяцев назад

Sorry to disappoint!

@ninammarai2093 Год назад

U talk to long . Had to wait 4 minute to know ..

@DrJonTam Год назад

There are time stamps

@shahilagh Год назад

I work in academia. that is where people need stability to work on their research so I cant say okay I will leave. plus a manager who is unsupportive can make the place hell for the employee so they leave .. she will be happy for me to reprioroize- she will love I do less research and do the teaching admin part! but i work in a field where changing the priorities cost me. my progress and career. I remember I said no and she said you have no choice- I said I got the job to teach this topic not other topics and she said u have to do what I tell u too. I never forget her non humane look when she said. I feel alot of anxiety over it even 4 years later now.

@MassiveCadence Год назад

I have no shame in saying no to my boss its easy. I have never lost a job from saying no especially when it dont sit well with me. I was a Marine for 9 years, work is nothing new to me. Being in the civilian work force is sloppy.