I don't know how this video doesn't have more likes. To see someone fearlessly express what many of us quietly go through on a daily is just mindblowing.
I actually always felt exactly the same, i felt i only was worthy of love and attention only if i was "pretty enough", only if my art was "good enough" , but i always felt ashamed just for existing, and that i was never enough. I'm trying really hard not to think like that, but I can't do it all the time. It feels like a constant battle between me and my mind, but my question is are these two separate?Am i my mind or is my mind me? Or am i me and my mind is just my mind? I'm trying very hard to feel good and just let myself enjoy life, without feeling shame for just being a human. I loved your video, it made me feel better, i hope we can love ourselves with all of our hearts :)
i think about this too often as well. but i don’t our thoughts are us. esp the intrusive ones. i think repetitive thoughts shape us (identity and self) hence if we can change our thoughts we can become anyone tbh which is pretty cool. again tysm for watching ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I genuinely needed and feel every aspect of this video. Right now I'm 27 years old, been unemployed for over a year now as I live at home with family that doesn't really care for my feelings, and have spent a long time grinding out art/creations and applying for jobs from early in the morning until late at night when it hurts my head to ready the same questions over and over. and I spent so long feeling ashamed and terrible about myself because none of these efforts seemed to produce anything and I felt like with each passing day, time was running out. And then I hit that similar moment of your video of "Why?" Like of course I'd like some things to work out but even if they don't, why does it matter. I get to be here, feeling a nice breeze, looking at a sky every morning, and still making art that makes me happy to make in the first place. I'm right on that path with you of finding that self worth. So far, I'm just thankful to be alive and be able to make things. I'm so happy to have found this video and I wish you the best of luck on your journey as well. Hopefully we'll reach about where we're not made to feel guilty about laying in the sun, whether that guilty comes from ourselves or the capitalistic product based society that kills us.
Similar situation as you and just happened upon this video/comment thread as well! This is too real, I'm 26 and I've been in the healing process for a while now. It's painfully difficult to get to that daily realization that is okay to be me/do what i want. But it gets better with time! As long as you realize it "which is why you clicked on the video" and work towards not giving two shits or comparing yourself, you are golden.
I know it is a hard time for all of us. We have the same journey to know thyself. I just recently learned a new perspective for me, I'm 26, I've been living in my body for 26 years of my life, I've been living in my mind for that long, I've been doing everything with myself for 26 years. But unfortunately, I let someone outside just seeing me for a minute, and let them determine who I can and can not be At the end of the day, I know myself because I've been me through ups and downs. We know ourselves more than anybody else, than our friends, our parents even Last words, even though we are in the dark times, we are exactly where we are supposed to be right now
Loving myself means that I stand up for myself when someone tries to violate my boundaries, forgive myself for my mistakes, value my body and my time, accept the fact that some days will be bad days and I will question my life purpose but that doesn't mean I'm flawed.
Your video has encapsulated every feeling I’ve been feeling the bouts of crying, the outburst, the constant comparisons the pressures the worthlessness , and struggling with overthinking and a negative mindset to the point that it in emotionally and physically tiring . I’m glad I saw this and I’m working on healing and reminding myself that the goals I want to achieve can be achieved just as well if not better with happiness instead of defaulting to anxiety and a toxic do or die mentality.
i REALLY needed to hear these words. i know i have self worth even though i am not succesfull enough but i never felt worthy of anything because i felt like it was a coping mecanism to think that i have self worth with empty hands.however hearing you saying it made me relieve my worries about my self worth. also i feel so relieved that i am not the only one who feels this way. thank you so much please keep doing these type of vids
i’m just so happy to be able to relieve your worries in any way. this is something i constantly i need to tell myself so i wanna tell u guys as well ♥️♥️♥️ and yes yes i will make more ilysm
Never had been pretty or such in my life and people mostly complimenting my drawings. It's the first time i understand why my self worth is so connected to drawing, you explained this feeling of validation and sensitivity to negative feelings so well 😭
As a high school student in an Asian family, it is quite hard to define my self worth, because I always feel like I need to relate it with my academic success. Thus, it is often hard to see my true self worth, and I can only feel it when I am alone with myself. I am really glad to discover ur yt channel, it is like a blessed heaven which really does helps me to accept the true me💗
Grades do not define your life, that's what I don't like about parents, they live in this bubble where they think that a successful person means they do good in school, have good grades, get those top "jobs". That way of thinking just degrades you,and it doesn't help you with yourself, instead it's just a torture to yourself. Personally I stopped caring about grades and success that this modern world tells us. I'm kinda the rebellious one, I do things at my own level.
Thanks a lot for saying this I really needed to hear it from someone I was actually a really good student even a year ago but now idk what happened my grades are falling miserably and no matter how much harder I try things never work out i have never felt this much worthless in my entire life and to top everything up teachers and parents have this huge expectations from me which makes me feel literally more useless and stupid and today a teacher of mine literally told me on my face that i have become stupid and bad at studies and my so called friends thought it was funny so they kept laughing:) life is just too much unfair at this point sorry for writing this huge ass paragraph I just wanted to vent @@javierpacheco8234
3:59 (i wrote this comment at this point) my first instinct is to think whoever compliments me is lying, or “just being nice”, or it just doesn’t register in my head. i feel like they are lying to me, they’re just saying that to make me feel better. i’m not very sure why. a similar thing happens when someone say something like “that’s sad” or “i hope you get better”, “i hope your okay” etc. , to me there’s an odd feeling. i feel like they’re looking down on me, i feel like they’re ’underestimating’ me, i don’t know why that well either. i’ve been bullied quite a bit and have had people look down on me in a passive aggressive sense, or a rude one. i believe which causes me to put up my defense. i feel like that’s not a good thing or that i’m being irrational because the person saying this is probably just looking out for me. i think i need to really work on this part of me. ya that’s about it thanks for reading
Watching this at 2:22 am. I’m currently 17 and I can relate to this on a personal level but related to love. I wanted to find my soulmate when my parents did and since it hasn’t happened and since guys rarely talk to me or approach me, something’s wrong with me and I’ll never find love.
I'm gonna be honest... sometimes we may never find that 'soulmate' ,but why wait for someone to love us when we can honestly do it by ourselves, sure it can feel pretty lonely sometimes but we came to this earth separately and we sure can love ourselves by ourselves. But if you do find that type of love then I think it's best to work on self identity and independence before going down that path because in reality its not always a happily ever after and... if stuff do go wrong we have to be able to survive that on our own. I'm 17 too and I relate to what you said but most times I just say to myself it's not ok to think like this, if love comes great if it doesn't then I'm just going to love me for me and be my own soulmate
i cried a ton watching this. you articulated a lot of things that ive been dealing with my whole life and with such honesty and vulnerability. thank you so much for making me feel less alone
i feel this so much as someone who is also alone, feels like a total zero grappling with the concept of "being enough" and "self love", and creates products where it's my identity. think the guilt of wasting time and enjoyment are tied to capitalism too. so many feelings and factors in play with how we were shaped. i guess it's a journey. =/ thank you for sharing and your vulnerability. your videos are so well done! + was also inspired to get a pair of airpods max. omfg. =)
I have got exactly the same feelings for almost a year now and i thought i was going crazy. Then I saw your video and i completly stopped overthinking for 13 minutes so THANK YOU FOR EXISTING
Thank you for sharing!! You just inspired me to pick up my journal and start writing. I have the same worries and when I get too stressed out about things, I just freeze and lay in bed. I normally don't comment on RU-vid but, this was beautiful and inspiring. I wish you the best in all you do
THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing this. I don't know why but see someone else has the same feeling that i have makes me feel validated someway (sorry bad English). No, I'm not happy with your suffer, but it's like I'm not alone. And, so, you're not alone too. This will pass for us. ❤ lots of love, darling
Yesterday and this morning I was struck with depression and anxiety and all i did was stayed holed up in bed and cried. I found this video while trying to search for anything to try and distract me. This video helped me out so much, it is what got me to finally get out of bed and shower. I've been dealing with a lot of things mainly my one sided crush on a friend who has been sending mixed signals all the while telling me he doesnt want to get into a relationship and it has been FUCKING ME UP. I realize I need to work on my self worth. I need to not make him my everything and remember that there are others out there better than him (as much as I love him as he is right now). I need to stop measuring my self worth with how people see me and love myself. I will come back to this video every time I forget this and try and get myelf back up again. Thank you❤
What's admiring about you, as stupid as it may sounds, is you're going out and learning and creating. You are reading, taking walks, going to cafes, writing in a journal, and even making full edited videos! That's already a big step and I'm sure it'll help you in the long run because you're probably learning about yourself doing so. Keep doing this, even if it's a video that are shared with us, I'm sure it benefits you as much, if not more:) I don't comment much, but I always enjoy watching what you create because it really feels authentic, and I'm sure it is. Keep it up:) 🌹
you have no idea how happy i am reading this comment. thank you for saying this. it truly means a lot you have no idea. i’ve been journaling a lot how i’ve became better in some aspects. but hearing another person say it feels very validating. thank you for saying this. i appreciate you so so much♥️♥️♥️♥️
@@via.ilyouu I'm very happy to hear you say this! It definitely made my week, thank you! I'm sure you will continue to grow seeing how much effort you are putting into it! Continue what you are doing and I'll see you in the next video:)
this is amazing. thank you so much for this video, this made me feel so seen. for me, it's comforting to be reminded that I am in this together with many others. thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing this.
I stopped not accepting compliments because of the fear of being narcissistic when I realised not accepting them is egocentrical too; I'm focused on my bad parts only, but still on myself. And, not accepting compliments made me plummet into a negative pit of self hatred and the amount of time people had to dedicate me to get out of it surpassed by far the "narcissistic moment of being complimented".
I was brilliant when I was younger and participated in various competitions. But since 13 (I'm 15), I have achieved nothing compared to my younger days. I have no leadership role, am incredibly unsocial, win no awards, and participate in no events. Honestly, I find myself wondering about my purpose. I feel like a person that is just...living. I dreamed of going up on stage like in my younger days and becoming reputable. I see many people my age creating an impact on those around them but for me? I have done absolutely *nothing* , just sitting down and wasting my days with a pen and paper. So yeah, you could say I feel worthless. What I relate: - when you start saying 'what about the ugly?' that second-guessing has become a part of me A LOT - questioning about wasting time REALLY RESONATED WITH ME I started tearing up when you said, "You have worth in you. You just need to accept it."
i literally just found your journal entries not on a purpose while I was on a subway and they resonated my current issues on self worth, especially about feeling outcasted for my entire life. I've been accpet any chances to having great relationships with others while also embracing my self with no creation. Your brilliant messages get me to sharpen my not-articulated thinking. You deserve the best. I'll keep watching a few videos a day bcuz each of your journals gives me a lot of thinking.
i loved this so much, made me cry towards the end bc yr realizations made me confront a pain ive been avoiding, i definitely relate entirely on this, for me its always been abt my external appearance more than anything, i feel like if im not pretty anough, im nothing,, and lately im rly starting to see how living like this affects my entire life and any relationship i can maintain in spite of it, when i constantly question my worth and feel that my existence is unstable or insecure, i become desperate for external validation and unsatiable, ive been experiencing feeling lack in all of my relationships and every single situation i am in life, doesnt matter what desire i come up w and i manifest, the baseline feeling of not enough is ever persistent, lately its been rly affecting my relationship w my partner and some close friends and even my coworkers, i literally cant be present bc my mind is so occupied w tryin to measure myself against everyone else and tryna figure out what i can “do” to be worthy, to feel worthy and secure and ultimately, loved. im so terrified that ill push away the people whose connection i crave the most but i keep doin it, my constant state of mind of feeling worthless renders me in a dissociative state where i jus stare blankly, barely move and cant even formulate words, it is so. frustrating. because deep down, if im being totally real, i just wanna shout and express myself and just be, but ive groomed myself into shutting down bc others cant deal w how much i cant deal w myself,,,, idk where im going w this i just felt like i wanted to share my current experience w this subject, and i rly appreciate this video honestly, it has helped me feel less alone in all this, to know im not the only one who struggles w this bc in those states of shutting down i kid myself into believing im lonely and alone, n that no one understands me, please keep expressing and creating yourself fully and openly u r literally creating magic in this world❤✨
It really helps when someone you respect shows you that its okay to fail and feel down, consistently assuring you and providing alternative views, that way they influence and shift your inner critic and promoting yourself from being too harsh on yourself esp silently where no one can see. Its true you're your own worst enemy, everyones fighting silently, unknowingly, so it means alot to be kind to one another and build each other up. Its okay to fall down, that way we can see the sky a view outside of our usual view, a new perspective. Just slowly get up at your own pace and go at your own pace and learn more about yourself that way youll know what works and doesnt works for you and youll know what to expect and youll challenge yourself within what to expect and youll find respect within your strength and youll learn to love yourself more. Lifes a journey, a painful yet full of growth and beauty, if you so willing to see. Youre not alone might be one of the best comfort you can seek in terrible times. Stay strong. Though silence and unknown externally, youve fought well this far, youve overcome so much, you deserve respect and rest.
this is so real, i feel like only people who know me like my family can tell me that im beautiful and that my business ideas are great ideas, but when i go into the real world, it all seems not true.
Fr.. we really are humans just like eachother.. I'm feeling the exact same experience. Thank you for inspiring me to keep working on my self love and self worth ♡
i’ve rewatched this video so many times that it now became a subconscious thing. this video it the main reason i see more potential in myself when i begin to feel like i’m not worthy enough for anything/one. thank you for this video.
Hey just wanted to say that I see myself a lot through you. I feel like the more older I get the same issues and trauma that I kept in the back my head are coming back. I am learning to face them heads on this time. I think the best person who can give advice on these things is someone who actually struggled through them and can move forward. I am learning to take care of myself and will await for more videos from you. Whats crazy is how we almost exactly think the same and struggle with the same things. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there so I really applaud you for uploading these videos. Looking forward to more content soon and best wishes!💖✨
via, i feel so much like you. self worth has always been a huuuge struggle for me. your words are so beautiful. thank you for this video, it's nice to see someone thinking the way i think.
thank you so much for sharing this 🧡 I really struggle with constantly feeling like i'm imposing on others or taking up too much space, but i'm beginning to feel more confident in doing things thanks to you :)) Your videos always make me stop and appreciate the little things in my life, and to take time out of my day to do even just a little thing that makes me happy. ✨✨
oh my god i am so happy to hear this. yes please always appreciate the little things in life because they truly can make you so so happy. ilysm♥️♥️♥️♥️
This vlog will help a lot of people in the same mindset as yourself! 7:47 hit me , as you nailed this feeling I have a LOT! And I am sure lots of others do too. You do such a wonderful job expressing yourself. Thank you!
'...I can take up space...' this words made me catch my breath cause I'm really ashamed of taking too much space in public places or stopping in the street somewere not on the crosswalk
TYSM for this video i have been going thru sm this hoped a lot I really want you to know u are an incredible these words may not truly effect you as a person but I hope one day you will love yourself to the fullest bc u really do have faith ❤️
You just described the human condition so accurately and I think very human should hear this message and can relate whether they realize it or not. Most people really are running around trying to prove their worth in one way or another
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us Via! I am grateful for you because you’ve created a community where people find comfort. Also, love the video❤
It's through letting your true authentic self shine to the surface and stop rejecting it by being ashamed of it.💔 One of the ways that worked with me is doing something your true self love. Do something to make your true self happy >> and your self will start flowing in your body and you would realize how is this self so beatiful. How kind hearted is this soul of yours. It's like when you remember one of your deeply-loved ones, like your mother, and then you feel how much do they mean to you in your heart, and that you would do anything to make them happy and you feel like you want to love them deeply and take care of them.😢 Just as they are with no condition of success. Once you feel the same way about yourself when remember who you are and how important, beatiful from the inside you are >> you would know that you deserve the absloute best and finally you will realize your worth.
Via, honestly you wrote me like a story book in every line you said like wow😮. I would never have been able to pinpoint and identify exactly like you did in this video why I feel the way I do. Thank you for helping to bring clarity to what I also experience on the daily but would not have been able to put into words like this, wishing us both luck on this journey 😢 God bless and thank you!
for me self love is less judgement I can’t entirely not judge myself because that’s how I learn and grow. and that’s how I keep my integrity and values. But the amount of judging I do can never be healthy. So whenever I feel like I’m off my path, I remember to judge myself less
Love from a family based on achievement - really sucks for sure. I actually moved away from my family to a different state, basically cut ties with them, because they were so cruel and uncaring. All that mattered was who has the best education and best job, etc.
Still working on it, but part of it is: removing the negative inner commentary, being less critical of other people, thinking kinder thoughts about yourself. I have improved from where I started. Making choices that align more with what makes you happy, the kind of environment you want to work in. I left my PhD and Academia behind me. I thought it would feel like a failure, it was liberating.😊
The part where you asked why should I have a purpose to be able to exist? Exactly that is what made me feel worthless. My existence is a waste of resources and air. For the people that work hard to provide that for me to exist I add absolutely nothing to society with my mere lousy existence. I have no purpose so I am worthless. My existence on this rock that we all live in is in fact a waste of space. I’d be better off turning into sand. At least that way I could be used in construction or something.
I want to make a video like this. I tried some videos like journaling,like a vlog but making videos like this was honestly tiring.it's also fun,though. I respect your videos and their quality. good video🎉
wow you have really good voice. its like a friend talking to you when you are feeling down. you really made my day with this video, i wish i could hug you rn. i really needed this tbh.
encontrei seu video na minha página inicial, não sou de comentar em nada mas juro, já me identifiquei com muitas pessoas mas nunca me identifiquei tão profundamente quanto nos seus vídeos, e por muito tempo rodo o youtube procurando por um vídeo assim, que por mais que não tenha uma resposta, solução, nem fórmula, me entende e traz conforto. obrigada por compartilhar isso 💗
even with no purpose - is excellently put . yes ! because that is everyone actually. we all like to pretend we are "ahead of someone" and feel like it when we have a validation source...but actually we all are not special or above anyone. the ultimate equalizer is age. everyone will be 30 , 50, 80, and then we see all we are , are how we behaved and what memories we made. I honestly believe this.
2:48 that transition though..seamless. but i totally relate. i (humbly) am often told i’m pretty/beautiful and that i look like a model by many people but i struggle with bdd and don’t see myself the way people perceive me as all the time. often times i see the ugly. but i’m really trying to create a positive image of myself day by day. and i’m hoping not stay inside all these months as i am today.
cannot stress this enough but you're so real for this, been going through the same thing as you and it's so kind and powerful of you to share this, loving your channel and this journal, wish you the best fr wish you peace
felt like my inner mind was talking. idk the words to say how grateful i am for this video thank you via! i really really like you I'm growing up in an emotionally abusive asian household... i'm hoping that i will achieve my happiness once i get out of here... but i'm scared if i won't be able to because my older sister is still living here
Before I start I just want to say that I'm very impressed with your editing skills because these clips are pretty good 😄 Now back to the video at hand right now I'm having a problem with self worth, but it's not in the way you think. Just myself as a person, how do you love yourself? What does that mean? What does that look like? I'm still trying to answer those questions but I guess it's a long road from here like you :) Another part about what you said about linking your self worth with your achievements, I never thought about linking them together, that sounds like a completely different thing. It's also sounds very draining and I'm sorry you when through that, but at least it sounds like you're out of the rough of it now and that's good 😊❤ I'm really happy you showed your real and authentic self to us, it's nice ☺️ Lots of love! 😁❤❤❤
I don't know how to say this but even as a man the feeling ,emotions and worries you shared in this video are extremely relatable . I love watching your video I finally feel like there is someone exactly like me, I feel validated that I not alone thinking this way or there is something wrong with me . Which it might be but thanks for making these video. You are great .🥰
I called in sick today. I still have anxiety from 2 days ago when I felt left out and didn't know what to do. I tried chiming in for conversations but it stopped abruptly so I just sat on my seat waiting for pizza with my step dad and step brother. Thank you for uploading this video. I hope your other videos help me out like this one.
As an individual diagnosed with type 1 bipolarity, chronical GAD, your video just came in at probably the best time as can be, your words about self worth are quite refreshing, specially when loneliness is the biggest feeling I am having most of the time. Thank you
Hii, I found you just now and I love your content. You're sincere and open with what you share (at least I feel that from you), what's so rare from people who create videos. I feel like I can relate with you in some way and what you're talking about makes to think, thank you for what are you doing, creating and sharing!
I feel like other people are much better than me and it is all rooted when I was a child. I am the only girl in the family and my father is always so worried about me so he commands my brothers to monitor my movements always. For them, that was protection, but for me, it showed how weak I was. It showed how incapable I am of protecting myself so when I'm alone, I fear a lot of things. I doubted myself. On the other side, I asked my mom for help when I was bullied in school but all she did was mock me and just left me emotionally abandoned which made me feel that I am not enough. I am not worthy. I always yearned for love, affection, validation, and approval from others because of what happened that led me to become a doormat. I was a people pleaser. I struggled with those beliefs for many years and just recently, when I turned 25 years old, I discovered where all my traumas came from and it is rooted in my childhood. Happy Healing everyone!
"Being fully vulnerable to another human being" if there's a fear there's a desire underneath, right? Who doesn’t care about something doesn’t fear. I had the same big fear as you. What I realised is a person doesn’t have the power to destoy you, until you give them the power to. You can open up without letting their reaction tie to your self worth, as you said. The biggest fear and step is being fully vulnerable to yourself, I think, seeing your good and bad parts, good days and bad days, good and bad decision and accepting them without defense mechanisms or protective lies to cover up.
I broke relationship with my bsf yesterday because of many reasons and also my mental health and they told me that am not even worthy of being m their enemy.. haha that really hurts as an INFJ also and HSP it hit me like a truck but now am friendless and tbh I want it this way I always felt like an outcast everywhere and no one understands me I hate it here ..
I love you.. you're like a friend & big sis to me... thank you so much for making these videos.. i can connect to this particular eps personally... you're helping me to be alive and survive.. once again thank u so much ❤
Whatever you have mentioned in this video is exactly how i feel all the time atleast most of the times and damn its accurate asf but trying to learn how and what my self love should be like. I love this video 🤍
Because it deels like we need to leave something, we need to imoact the world in order to have lived a successful life. What most don't realize but later, is, living a happy and stress free life is living a blueprint, a great mark for the next people to follow.
I'm rewatching this as I'm again going through mental breakdown lol...this is again making me feel alot better 💕thank u via u are the elder sister I never had lots of love
This is so intimate, thank you for sharing, i guess other people feel the same and i do to. I really like the topic of this video and the way it looks like « visual podcast 😂 » is really original and easy to watch 🤭🫶🏽 💕
omg i never thought of it being a visual podcast wow. that’s so interesting. i’m so glad it was easy to watch coz i really wanted it to come off that way ♥️♥️
@@via.ilyouu 💕💕 did you already decide of the next topic of you journal series? Will talk about relationship with friends or love relationship ? Cause it’s something am struggling with and i want to hear your opinions about it :)
@@via.ilyouu ohh it’s so nice, good choice of topic, so excited for it!! 🤭🫶🏽 Good luck on the writing process and the filming and the video montage!!!!💕 ( just an + idea it’s up to if you find this interesting or not, but you could ask on Instagram questions that you ask yourself about dating, relationship, commitment and react to the similitude (or not) of what people say, but still idk if it’s good idea and if it’s what you wanna create 😂😂)
When I die, whisper to my ear "Via Li newest video is out". If I don't get up, fetch the nearest cellphone and start watching it means I'm really gone ⚰️💀
@jessicaj9743 thank you so much maybe I needed that,thank you for being kind making the world a better place to live thank you so much and please take care of yourself and if you're struggling share your problems with someone trustworthy and close to you and thanks for existing 💗🫂
