How To Stop Judging People 

I judge people in a way that is all about protecting myself. I'm constantly judging people's goodness vs badness because I'm scared they'll harm me psychologically. Manipulate me. Throw me away. This means I've ended up villifying a lot ofthose who've come close to me. It's pretty harsh. But I really do see danger in them. I never thought to imagine myself as the villain.

Noah is just a gift sent from heaven

I was just coming to this conclusion about myself when I saw your video. It explains a lot and I know where my judgements have come from. I’m hoping that at 60 years of age that there is time to make me a nicer person. Seriously, thank you very much Noah. I needed some help.

Noah, you are an incredible human being. I follow you for a long long time, and you helped me in so many ways. I just want to say Thank you. Thank you so much.

Noah, I love you. I cried, I knew that i judged but I didn`t know why. I thought that I was better, because I made the ''good'' decisions, that it made me a better person, I was judging my ex fiancee because I thought she was bad because she made the wrong judgment. Thank you for this amazing gift, thank you. Love you.

What I usually found myself doing is judging my coworkers based on how “efficient” they can be while doing a task, and with this video you really have open my eyes to the truth I kinda unconsciously wanted to hide, you have made me realize that my worth is not about how “efficient” I can be. And it really got me thinking, really hard about choices I’ve made. Thank you so much for this video. And it’s kinda funny because I was meditating a few hours ago and I was thinking about judgement, and why do we judge and now here I am watching this video.

Thank you Noah Please don’t leave us for along time All love for you❤️ ❤️❤️

I judge people who I feel are mean or unkind. This makes a lot of sense because I do get my sense of worth from being nice and kind to people. I act nice even if I don't feel like it and sometimes I'm overly nice. I also harshly judge judgmental people. There's a conundrum. :)

Watched this at least 5 times so far, very therapeutic and insightful!

Wow that's powerful well said brother thank you. Our worth is based on Love and we are all Love.

This hit home for me. All this time I’ve be been trying to train myself not to care what people think about me because I felt gossiped about, made fun of, or felt unworthy because of my finances. This really flips everything thing for me because little did I know that I was judging people, and making my interpretation of people. The end result feeling judged by the people I’m labeling categorizing or generalizing about. Thank you for this new perspective.

Thank you Noah. I will be coming back to this video multiple times.

Glad you're back bro, your videos helped me a lot back then and they're still on point today!

This is exactly what I'm looking for. I honestly hate being human sometimes because of how much I judge. Every-time I go out somewhere, I see someone and judge them, and I immediately correct myself. I'm always angry that I do it and I just with I could escape it.

Thanks for this… years later, but it is still so on point!

THANK YOU. I have always been judged heavily. Judge my kids and others all the time. Just trying to obtain self love. This is very helpful.

I judge and hate many people, at work, home, where ever I am I feel that I will hate someone before I'll like them, then I realized who is the person I hate the most,.....ME!

sometimes i judge people to not be compassionate enough, or accountable enough, and i realise it's actually projection, that i'm basing my worth on that. i went to a very strict school that drilled these 'core values' into me as a kid, and i put too much weight on the outcome, not the intention of others.

Hi Noah. I smiled really wide when you mentioned the 'special' little identity that I perceive it as The Victim :)). It's like everyone can be happy except me because of my difficulties and I judge myself for not having the ability to feel happy. What a confused child! I can take care of it now :) Thank you.

Didn't think I needed this video. It was a mind opener. With a few funny moments that I kinda enjoyed.

Thank you Noah! I always find surprises in your vids

It's complex to include in a single brief comment, how much impact your discoveries have been helping me throughout the last four years. I know I need to work out more to just be, but your enlightening smart message was crucial, because it's so incredibly powerful and liberating

I MISSED YOUR VIDEOS SOOOOO MUCH!!!!

This video helped me the most amongst your videos. Thank you

so grateful I found your channel

I've known far too many judgemental people who were actually just toxic people. I appreciate nice people.

I loved it. thanks. It clarifies a lot of why I am doing it.

Love this! Thanks a lot for sharing your words

What an amazing video, you are very wise! Thank you!

Another wonderful video. Thank you so much for sharing. 🙏🏻

Amazing stuff! Thanks for pouring from the heart!

Mastered the mind. Brilliant 👍

So I think based on this, the axis on which I primarily judge people on is based on whether I precieve them as kind/unkind, selfless/selfish, tolerant/intolerant etc. which to me seems like a good axis to judge people on ie. the content of your character. the problem of course is that no one is perfect and it is impossible to be 100% loving and giving all the time, so it is unrealistic to expect it of myself and unrealistic to expect it of others. But at the same time it is prudent to protect myself from people who would hurt me, and as a result I feel unsafe around people I deem to be intolerant of me as I don't know if they will hurt me or not. It would be very hard to love someone who wanted me dead, for example. But where is the line? if I draw the line too close, I miss out on potential productive relationships, and it becomes impossible. But if I draw the line too far, I might let people in I shouldn't and put myself in emotional or even physical danger. And it is true that the idea of me hurting someone else, of me being selfish/unloving etc. is itself a terrifying idea as I want to see myself as a good person. I genuinely try to be empathetic to other people's needs but ultimately that sometimes leaves me ignoring my own. I don't have any clear solutions here, these are just the things I thought about when listening to this video.

I think I'm going to judge people for their good traits instead of bad. Seems easier than trying to put myself in their shoes.

Something that changed my judging of people was recognizing that people aren't the actions they perform. They aren't the anger or the annoyance or the evil or whatever bad things you make them out to be. That's just their ego and they can't help it. They are trying their best. Its not their fault. Forgive them for they know not what they do. This applies to more than just murderers - it applies to everyone in every situation.

I just realized that the reason why my mom always put me down in front of her friends was because she wanted to feel worthy, loveable and safe. And now I can completely forgive her. Thank you 💕

Been waiting for so long. It is awesome you are back.

Thank you so much! 🙏🏻💗

Thanks I needed this

You are kinda underated. I love your vids

thank you so much! i almost cried sometimes

i want to commit to trying this out for a solid week, just to see what will happen, thank you so much for your videos

Long live ray stevens because everything is beautiful

Noah, I hear truth in what you are saying. At the same time, the belief that kindness makes a person worthy of love has so much pull. How do I stop judging others and really myself for being insufficiently kind (ranging from thoughtless to violence)?

ill work at it. thankn you

Thank you so much ❤

The thing with me is that I do not think that they deserve less love I just wish that the idea wouldn't pop in my head so often. That it would just press on and not deviate from thought process path.

That took a different turn but I agree

You seem very happy Noah.👍

This is a beautiful message and I pray it helps our hearts grow and love each other more! In the name of Jesus I pray!

Love your work Noah. Thank you.

your videos are always interesting. Good common sense knowledge. You look so cute. You smile makes me happy .

Noah we LOVE U:) thanks for your help with my issues:)

Thank you again for sharing your insight.

I love all your videos and this one is particularly wonderful and useful

Noah you should put this audios in Spotify :) you're amazing

Can I ask. What if I’m always judging myself and never really judge manny people? X

Thankyou so much for this insight.

That was great! Needed a path to try Mahalo 😊

Wow this is so on point. Thank you friend.

If we stop judging others is that also giving up our intuition too? Say for instance you meet a person and you study them and you know something is not to be trusted about someone, should we neglect that? Cause most would consider that judgmental, but really we're just feeling a person out and later on come to know it to be true.

Judgement is such a basic survival instinct, the murderer i might behave non judgmentally towards might kill me, in fact I was much less judgemental in my youth but I would also say I was naive, and later became more assertive and less abused by ppl. I can see that a non ego state can abandon judgement ie not seeing anyone or situation as good or bad. It is the neutrality that is a oneness state, but as an ego or individual it is impossible not to judge, and this cannot be achieved artificially by trying or application, this state can only arise as a byproduct of self abandonment.

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I have a question. Is it considered judgmental (and maybe even prejudiced) to immediately assume the person around you who acts weird, silly, or unfiltered must have ASD? See, whenever someone make a bad impression on me, and I think they're immature or obnoxious or odd, I immediately assume "must have ASD." Is that wrong? And you know...superficial and stupid?

I have another opinion..First, the child has not matured yet, so we do not judge him. Secondly, we have to take responsibility for our actions that affect us and others..Therefore, there are rehabilitation centers, prisons, and psychological and physical hospitals, but it is up to us to bear responsibility for what happened to us in the first place, from our parents beating us to bullying. Or brainwashing, etc.. Finally, you are an adult, and if you suffer from mental problems that may harm us, you must treat them or find someone to treat them, but it is your first responsibility as an adult.

thank youuuu!

Noah, i do really love you :)

I judge people as being fake, untruthful and more beautiful than me atst. And it hurts me bc they actually r. 4 yrs ago I awakened (you were one of the reasons) and got hacked by someone who makes videos like you and uses all of me, so I don't create bc all I create will b stolen and I am not awake anymore bc of it. How I deal with this? I live in isolation now, lost everyone bc they think I'm a mentally ill person and delusional (they don't believe I'm hacked). The police laughs at me and tells me they can't do sh*'t for me. How do I deal with this Noah?

You have to come out of your head and give people the benefit of the doubt

Cool video brother ♥️♥️

you r back to your previous content :)

I love you

I dont why I judge by how they look

Can we just appreciate for a second how damn good looking this guy is. Damn boyyyy. Not gay though, just observing haha

I almost judged that dog.

Enjoyin walks in the park Noah? :)

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Please dont cry on camera, it scares my ears lol

Stop judging people... and start eating them. #rawhumanitarian

Noah you are incredible,i love you from my heart,you changed my perspective about life and people and myself,i feel peace ❤️

I came to find ways to stop judging others, and I got one of the most intensive therapy sessions of my life. It took me about an hour to complete the video, it really did, because I had to press pause every 30 seconds to really think about what you said. And what you said is 100 percent true for me. It really hit me deep. Now I also understand why I feel this constant pressure and anxiety in my life. After lots of crying in the past hour, I finally feel a sense of calm. I feel like I understand myself better now. And I also know what I want to work on. So thank you, Noah, for this incredibly insightful video. You really are helping a lot of people!

Hey Noah! I love u man.

Ah timely message once again! Also, I appreciated the exercise..imaging being the opposite. I’ve been learning about evolutionary psychology and it’s fascinating just how fast our brains can compute the stimulus around us..making judgements upon judgements for any and all things in both our immediate and imagined environment. This part of our mind - our ego mind being primarily a survival computing device. And because we are tribal/social creatures, our brains are particularly skilled at assessing what its tribe would deem valuable or not - for the prime objective of thus increasing our chances of survival. Eckhart Tolle describes the ego that so desperately wants to make itself more solid/more real/more safe by energizing itself through any means possible i.e. feeling superior/inferior, judgement, acquisition of objects, titles, knowledge etc. I’d say that anything that is eternal would not feel such insecurity by comparison. This to us may be a sort of proof that the ego in fact is NOT “real”. I believe that is what is described in A Course in Miracles when it says “nothing real can be threatened and nothing unreal exists” Sorry for the meandering rant. Great video!

I’m really enjoying your new content! Evolving and change is what it’s all about . Thank you!

I'm with you,, great perspective 🙏

I feel like I say this everytime you post a video, but seriously, that's so helpful. Thank you so much.

Thank you for your videos man they have been really helpful in my journey. At some point I would love if you made a video about feeling safe. With the state of our world, health complications, etc, I just don't feel safe a lot and its a really bad feeling.

My God you are fantastic such a profound analysis

Noah, thank U 4 another tool that I can add 2 my arsenal 2 become a better human being. I have been judging a certain person 4 something that they did, and I can see the wrong that I'm committing by holding them 2 a lower standard. Nobody deserves 2 be treated with such disrespect. I love U brother, do not stop your mission, the world needs more human beings like U.

I dont judge people negatively. I just judge people like they are better than me, and therefore have all right to look down on me and hurt me. Better be alone and never get out of my little box. =/

Don't try to stop judging by force, instead try to understand why we do it 1. Acknowledge what are we trying to get from judging people Mostly because we want to to feel better about ourselves. When we judge people, at the same time we also unconsciously judge that we are better than others. 2. Find out what specific themes we are judging people on. When we judge others, subconsciously we make that judgement as a measure of someone's worth. Ourselves' worth. Ex : if we judge people to be stupid or attractive, then we measure someone's worth from their cleverness or beauty. "How much love I get is based on how smart or attractive I am" 3. Feel the pain of the opposite When we judge people to be stupid or lazy or unattractive, we are terrified to feel and believe we are not smart or lazy or unattractive Close your eyes and imagine yourself in those positions you judge others on. Feel the pain and hurt, let that pain course through you and leave you.

What happens when you judge someone for judging people..

What a beautiful, enlightened video. Thank you

Hey Noah could you do an episode on addiction/emotional eating please. I thanks you for all your video's

This is the best video on how to stop judging I ever heard. Just watching your unconditional love is healing.

It is the first time I say this on RU-vid: THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED.

Love your point on finding self worth in effectively vanity metrics, such as how thin you are. Substance comes from values, not focusing on how people look or act, but focusing on yourself, ensuring you live life according to your beliefs and way of being

I love you . Deep

It's not about being "less worthy of love", but rather *"less likely to experience love"* because I'm not as attractive as others. There are scientific studies that show attractive people have life easier. Should I ignore scientific facts?