My main photo is 9.9 score, all the photos are 9.5+ however none of them are with a rip body or making an adventure/telling a story. So i still get scraps on tinder and bumble. Dating apps are very competitive nowadays.
Actually - here's an intersteing thing - if all yoru photos are TOO immaculate it destroys trust and can often lead you to lose a lot of matches - if you 'look like you're too arrogant or self-centered or too focussed on how good you look, you'll get left swiped a lot. You don't HAVE to have adventure shots just to get good matches, but yeah - getting the profile right as a guy, isn't about filling it with all 'hot shots' - that doesn't work how we hope it would.
If you are a 6, and you show only photos where you look like a 9, that will give you matches, but these will only result in very awkward dates. Is that not only a waste of time, and a risk for your self confidence (..as well as immoral)? I can understand choosing pics where you look *a little* better than in real life, but (on a Photofeeler scale), not more than, say, 1 point.
Ahh so I actually never advise people to ONLY use money-shots - but you have to have your first 1 or 2 photos where you look great.. Then the supporting images can look more real - but you still can't have suppurting images that make you look bad either. The problem with online dating right now is this... A woman get's matched with a LOT of guys - she really can't tell much about them from a profile and a quick chat... some are easily removed because they say dumb stuff (maybe half) - but from the others, there's not a lot to diffrentiate them, so we use what we have access to - attractivenss If other men constnatly look as attractive as possible, even it it's unrealistic, then you'll get overlooked unless you do it too. .. But women just expect it now - a bit like when you order a burger at hungry jacks and it looks NOTHING like the advertisement - so long as there was no lying about actual ingredients and its clearly the same burger, just less ideal ooking, you don't think to complain as it's part of the fast food system. So in short, for men or women UNLESS you're more attractive in your photos than real life, you are likely being outcompeted and overlooked by the algorithm and by women... it's a terrible system but it's the reality of how things are right now.
@@SchoolOfAttraction Good point, I guess it also goes along with the fact that the first 1-2 pics should catch a person's attention long enough to make them check our other pictures and read your profile. Even more so on Tinder where the swiping is really fast. I watched most of your videos, and they did help, though I think the best tip you gave has been the "niching". Especially for a nerd like me, who even if decent looking, wants to appeal not to just to random woman, but to women I can connect with, which are probably coming from a few niches: nerdy/geek, academia, tech, alt culture, etc... I will experiment with putting my "9" pic as my first pic, instead than my "7 but nerdy" pic as a first :) "a bit like when you order a burger at hungry jacks and it looks NOTHING like the advertisement" ahahaha I like this one :D
As a bald guy I'd recommend you to shave your head, you'd like pretty good. Trying to hide the fact that you're balding be moving a few hairs to the side like you're doing looks terrible :)
Haha what's making it look tererible is actually that my girlfirend tried putting prodcut in it to keep it in place perfectly - and she rubbish at it, and it caused my hair to clump together at the sides, it doesn't normally have that same effect - at least not yet. I will have to shave my head one day - but no it doesn't look good on me at all, I've already done it for a while (period of 6 months).
