Thank you for this! ❤ I’m 12 and helping my 7 year old brother how to speak. He doesn’t know how to make noise to talk and my mom would scold him using his name. This helped me realize a lot of things. Thank you again!!
Mam your helping nature hats-off , every mom whose child has developmental disorder needs supportive videos like yours, everyone outside instead feeling pity on our situation they are commercial, in ten visits we find one fruitful visit, your video really boosts up, hard to find a person like you .we are poor , everything become commercial mam, I'm really bothered about my son mam, no-one is like you because you only know the pain😞
I've been using your strategy with success since 2007! Your book has been my go-to resource with my clients since it was published. Keep up the good work
@@marybarbera plz help me. My baby is 2•5years old n he has mild autism. We came to know that jst 2weeks before his 2nd birthday. Then we started his behavioral counseling for 8th session which had ended on February 2021. But now a days I can't find any improvement of my baby. Plz tell me what to do? I'm very much worried about it.
My nephew is most likely autistic. He hasn’t received a proper diagnosis yet due to the backlog and Covid but he displays many symptoms and this is one. Thank you for these videos ❤️. They are so helpful
1. Stop using the name as much 2. Tap the shoulder, do an action like “tap (name) juice” 3. Say same when happy 4. Keep doing it through the day 5. Work on going further away from him. Less exaggerated
Me and my younger brother were both diagnosed with autism. He was diagnosed at two while I was diagnosed at 13. He’s 1and1/2 years younger than me so we’re quite close. He is higher functioning socially but lower functioning academically, while I’m the opposite higher functioning academically but lower functioning socially. Most people think of autism as a spectrum that goes from very severe to ‘you’re not that autistic’. When it’s not like that we all share different strengths and weaknesses. What really annoys me though is my religious parents think that changing my younger brother’s name will ‘help him talk’ and ‘fix him’ when that IS NOT how it works. They already tried to ‘fix’ both of us last time when we were younger and ‘didn’t work’. I really don’t want them to change his name and it really upsets me when they think that’ll help when all they need to do is spend more time at home with him, especially my dad. He was never home. It was always work 6 days a week, then cricket 3 times a week, badminton 2 or 3 times a week. When cricket isn’t in season, he goes to my uncle’s house and plays cards every Friday and Saturday now, leaving at 10pm and coming at 3am or 4am. This results him to wake up around 1pm or 2pm. When my younger brother tries to wake him up he’s tired and pushes him away. I just really hate my parents rn.
I can feel your every word in my heart dear. Being a mother already i do believe parents should give their time to kids and that's the best thing from them to kids. I wish you the best in your life ahead. You seems very sensible to me so hopefully you wil take care of yourself and your brother as well. May God bless both of you .
My son has autism, he is 4. The way you have articulated yourself gives me hope that my son will have a fulfilling life. Some times men do not have the tools, every generation must do better. My dad is a workaholic as well. He didn’t have the tools because he was never given the love that he needed. You understand what you need, because you are much more in step with yourself. Make sure you hand those tools down to your kids! Stay strong, work out, it’s a huge self esteem builder.
This is very helpful... my son likely has it, he stopped talking at 17months he no longer saids any words other than eat he doesn’t even say mama... he takes awhile to come to when I say his name and so I figured he might have it he also flicks his fingers a lot when he’s crying or upset
Thanks for the video. My boy is showing early signs at 20 months old and I've already been making the mistake of overuse of his name. Going to put your advice to practice
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Thanks for the advice. I’ve been in denial and I’ve been a real pick to everyone (docs, family) as I’m very protective over my boys and I’m really bad at dealing with stuff. My youngest boy is 2 and recently been diagnosed with level 3 autism. I need to learn as much as I can to make sure he has the best opportunity in life. I find it amazing that I have two kids (one with autism) and they both have such different abilities that amaze me everyday and make me proud. I really do think Autism is not a disability, but a different ability. Need to stop saying his name all the time and replace it only when pairing something positive. Let ya know how I go Doc
Thank you very much for creating and still posting updates in your channel Dr. Barbera. My younger son (2y7m) has symptoms of autism and also doesn't respond to his name. We have been calling his name whenever we require his attention (whether positive or negative). We will commit to being more intentional and conscious with pairing his name to positive reinforcements and the like from now on. What I've noticed is that he picks up better from observational and behavioural learning. We are trying to pair these to words and phrases although there are inconsistencies in his responses and initiations. Anyway, thanks again. From a concerned father of a young child with autistic symptoms.
That will be good to only say his name when things are positive!! I do have a new book coming out that may help www.turnautismaround.com and I have online courses that can help.
@@andrewaupositivepsychology hi there, is your little one diagnosed now? And are things going well ? Is there anything you can teach me as far as name responding , thank you
@@mssophia978 Hi, he is still being followed up by a clinical psychologist and attending speech and occupational therapies weekly. Things are not going well as expected as we have been told that he will not be able to follow the school's academic curriculum. He's 3y7m now anyway, so we are trying our best to help him along the way. In terms of name responding, we pair his name with usual activities that he likes. For example, , go for walk, which means going to the playground. Other than that, we always go to his level (e.g., kneeling, bending or sitting down whilst looking at him) and call him. He may not respond the first time but usually do in the 2nd or 3rd time we say his name. After responding, there will be a hug, cheer, clap, or getting him to do what we are asking him to (e.g., wear clothes, bathe, brush teeth, etc.) - Reinforcement. Over this past year until more recently, he has begun to have more eye contact and even initiates play with us while looking at us in the eye. Although his still lacking in speech, we are trying to use these bids or attention to capture his interest and "plant" useful words for him to take in.
@@andrewaupositivepsychology thank you for your reply, I’m glad he has improve in eye contact and replying to his name , speech will come I have noticed with boys their speech is more delay than girls so he will get there
google mary barbera "yes/no" for a video on this topic. For more about how to teach all these skills take a free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops
Thank you I'm a new subscriber her I'm so upset of my daughter she is 19 months old and she's not responding when i call her name no eye contact I haven't seen a pediatric because of this pandemic.. 😭😭😭😭
I have a almost three year old with Autism if anyone needs to talk. Don’t be sad it is not a death sentence. It is scary but they will learn! Stay strong. It will be ok!
Thank you so much for this information. I'm a father of 26 month daughter. Initially due to lack of time, we had to give her an ipad to watch videos. Now she recites all rhymes but doesn't respond to her name and has a very short attention span. Do you have any videos on how as parents should we more approach practical practices. We haven't diagnosed her yet, it is my worry. Thanks!
Thank you so much for these videos. My son is likely to get diagnosed to be in the spectrum soon. He is 18 m old. Started reading your book just yesterday.Need guidance on courses please. TIA
That is wonderful you found my book. I actually wrote a new one designed for parents just like you . You can preorder at www.turnautismaround.com and you can learn more about my online courses by going to www.marybarbera.com/workshops
Thank you so much! I am an RBT, I want to ask, when we are working on responding on name, when he/she is not responding and we use reinforcer to make her/him to look at us. what would be the prompt in this case? independenr responding would be when we call and he looks, but if we use reinforcer what kind of prompt that would be?
Hi doctor....thank u for your videos....I have question for you...some of my relative 5 years child is unable to speak...when child was three years old ,he used to call mama...dad...etc but. Now he is just quite and do not say a word at all....they consult different doctors and psychologists but all in Vail...please do you know what is the reason behind his silence...child only use his hands when he need food or water but child didnt say a word.
Hallo I'm from Indonesia, thanks you so much for this videos, my daughter is 3yo and still not talking yet ... very sad when she try to talk to me and i dont understand what she said. ..
Hi. Our 2nd child (a boy) is 20 months and unresponsive to his name. It's a strange one. He seems to tick all the other boxes. If you show him a toy and hide it, he'll go and fish it out. He likes closing doors and wants to climb on me and share a hug when I'm playing with his sister (jealousy) etc... but my wife mentioned today, why isn't he responding to his name? He's starting to recite his ABCs and can say mama, baba, oy, yes, oh, but he can't really form adjectives yet like TV, teddy. People questioned our daughter who didn't walk till she was 20 months and was bashing her head on the floor during tantrums. Our son started walking 13 months and running around freely. I will use your technique but it's 5am in the UK and I'm here watching videos, worried about our son.
That sounds challenging! For both your children, I do have a new book that can help kids and families regardless of diagnosis. Check it out here www.turnautismaround.com
Thank you so much..ur book and video vlogs are very useful for my son.i want to know your view about bio medical interventions.specially detoxing.i hope you know and have all the knowledge about autism and recovery.pls help me with what u kneo
It depends on the child and many factors. It is best to work closely with a doctor. You can google mary barbera supplements for some ideas on the topic.
I hope this works for my 20 month old. Aside from rarely responding to her name, she is not using words. She knows the word but not using it. She does not call me mama or even her papa. She understands and follows commands though. I am getting worried.
I'd certainly look into my new book Turn Autism Around as we want to start acting right away on any delays as we can do the same things to help "just" a delay as autism.
My 16 months old daughter doesn’t respond to her name at all. I have taken her to the doctor twice but he said I’m worrying for nothing. She has about 15 - 20 words at the moment, she points at things that interests her and does joint attention with me but doesn’t call me Mama or her Dad, Dada. I’m very worried about her not responding to her name at all no matter how much I shout. Can you please advice me on what to do?
Is your son doing good now? Since my son born with more challenges in 26 weeks, now he is 2 year old and not responding to his name and not started talk, walk and less eye contact. We are waiting Autism evaluation appointment, it will help to reduce our fear if your son doing good now.
My son is still quite affected by autism but i know many who were diagnosed at 2 and aren;t. Watch my free workshop for lots of great stories. www.marybarbera.com/workshops
My son responds to his name sometimes. He knows all his letters, counts to 20, colors, quite a bit of animals and some shapes. I never thought about autism. But the older he gets the more I see certain things in him. (Hes 2 and a half) He still loves letters, numbers, shapes etc but he makes funny faces, he spins a lot and he doesn’t really care to say other things besides what interests him. I’ve been crying a whole lot these days thinking it might be autism. Just so scared. Do you think it can be autism?
@@marybarbera he will ask for water most times and sometimes will ask me for food. He doesn’t really make eye contact and doesn’t care to play with others. Also he daydreams a lot! For the evaluation would I just take him to his primary care Dr? Or is there a diff place to go to? So sorry for the questions.
@@arizbeth891 did your son get diagnosed as my son does the same he he say words but not directly to me and also doesn't show much eye contact im so worried
My son is two years old.. But he can not talking except dada, mamma, kaka.. But he response to his name, he is playful, he plays a lot.. Is it speech delay or something else??
It is hard to say without knowing more but the good news is we can take the same steps to help him talk as if it was more than a delay. Check out my new book and it will help www.turnautismaround.com
My son is 18mo he doesn’t turns only for his name. He can turn for my voice or any other sounds. So it my mistake. I have been using his name to call him only when is making a mistake. 😟😢
My son is 13 months old but is 11 months adjusted since he was a premature child. He doesn’t respond to his name yet. But he does point and walk and play regularly with all his toys, he babbles a little not very much. Should I be worried?
I have a 15 month old sometimes he responds to his name He had a speech therapist and she wants him to see an OT is he still too young what can I do I’m so upset if someone sees this can I get some advice? Please first time scared mom
He isn;t too young. Early intervention is great! I also have online courses so you can learn how to help him at home. check out www.marybarbera.com/workshops for a free workshop
My son is already 4 yrs old and he has no meaningful words.aside from singing abc and count 1 to 10..but he has difficulty constructing worts or utter words. He has no interest in anything like having new toy I mean no reaction. But I am convinced that my son has autism though. Is it to for him to be evaluated and undergo speech therapy?
Yes. You will need to contact your pediatrician and request a full evaluation. While you wait you can check out my free workshops www.marybarbera.com/workshops
Hi, my girls has all the signs but not diagnosed yet, appointments are delayed and it's a way long process here in London. Get him started with the whole process, because it's a long wait and very long process but we'll get through this ❤
Hlw mam, me from Nepal . My son is 22 months and I'm worried abt this autism.. hw can we will be able to make him completely able to recover from this autism. He tease with me n while we r playing peek a boo he contact his eyes with me but unable to pronounce any words. Is this autism ? Please help me 🙏
I cannot say if it is autism or not but I do have an online course that will teach you how to help him right away! go to www.marybarbera.com/workshops for a free workshop
Hey i m from nepal my son he is 15 running bt he does not point doesnot respond to his name doesnot wave have strong eye contact though laughs and giggles though babbles lil bit and has not been able to understanding things should i be worried is it autism his motor skills are quite good bt fine motors skills are not good doesnot play a peek aboo
How do you adjust your comments (e.g., "Johnny push") and language in general for older (elementary) students without adding too much complexity? I'm an over-thinker, but I think it's an important nuance to consider that I don't seem to see a clear answer for. I've seen research to suggest that using complete sentences is better than short phrases (when modeling AAC, using sentences but only pressing buttons for key words), but I've also seen other research stating that using telegraphic utterances is effective. Your thoughts?
It can depend on the learner but I like using pivotal phrases (verb/noun combos) and for kids with low receptive language we want to make it clear what part of speech they should attend to. Watch this video ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-R_nv_7q28WA.html
@@marybarbera Thanks for the reply! Sounds similar to an article I read about the use of parentese with babies and toddlers in general, where they said the same thing about it's like learning a foreign language, and it's important to help them parse out when a new word ends and begins.
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Hi Mary, my son is 2 yrs 6 months old. Even now he is not responding to his name. I will try the tips you suggested in this video.do you have any book for parents to help the kid to come out of autism
hlw can i be sure that my child is really receiving intensive ABA therapy? i don't know im paying here kn Mexico, but are already 2 months with 15 hours at week and i just dont see any improvements... my child is almost 3 years old
It can be frustrating to finally get a spot for your child in ABA therapy and not see progress. My online toddler course can help you teach him/her at home with just a few affordable materials. For more information, join a free workshop here: www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
That can be difficult, but my online courses can help you learn to engage your child for much longer periods of time. If you're interested, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
My 2year old only turns around to his name when he hasn’t heard my voice for long like when I step out for a while and get back home. He turns immediately he’s called
thats cause its your voice!! when i leave and come back and then he hears me call he comes running, but throughout the day i can say it a million times and he will ignore me.... and its hard to get his attention off what he is focused on especially electronics, i didn't realize he was delayed and i gave him the ipad as much as he wanted very young and i think i made it worse...i can barely get him to focus on me talking or showing him toys and how to play cause he always whining looking for the remote phone or tablet and wont stop til its found... ill distract him for a minute and he is right back trying to find it, like he is having electronic withdrawals or something.... i wish i never gave it to him cause now idk how to take it away.... he plays with toys but barely for a minute cause he always wants the screen time....he can understand games how to play matching colors and shapes and pictures.... and ive been trying to get him to show me with his own hands and physical learning toys not just a screen....he understands wht he is shown and can think figure out and immitate but no speech or language.... well we just started gettin baba and mama when he really want me cuz he upset lol
Hi mam my child is 2 year 3 months old ..she is not responding to her name ..I used to shout at her with the name she doesn’t respond ..she started to sit at 7 month and walk at 13 months ..she doesn’t look at me but follow me whr ever I go and she wan to be cuddled always .she plays alone and she speak only few words might b less than 10 and never said dada and seldomly says mommy ..but shows and point outs wat ever she needs .she responds to rhymes and sounds more especially while eating she needs rhymes..could you help out does she has any autism signs
my son is now 1yr and 5months im worried becouse most of the time he is not responding when i called his name and he cant talk just mammy hibi sometimes no.. but some things he know where to use it like comb tooth brush. sometimes he pointed glass or biscuit he ask hes brother to give some food using his hand. he also play a picka boo some times i prentend i scold him then he is crying. he understands other things like if i ask give me some food hes eating he will gve me. sorry for my english i just want to ask if my son has a red flag or just late talker?
We don't want to call children for "work" if we need to get their attention, having something fun in that area can help. Saying "we are going here" without using their name. If you stop them with their name for demands , they will attend to their name less.
Hello maam, i have a nephew with autism he keeps hitting himself when he wants something and you will not give it to him. What should we do to stop that habit of him?
My online courses can help you address problem behaviors like this. If you're interested, join me for a free online workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
My 15 month old grandson does not respond to his name, point or talk. He does babble all the time and plays with his folks but he really does not pretend play with his toys. His Dr. will not even recomend him for evaluation till he is 18 months old. Am i just over reacting or do I have reason for concern? I will definitely share this video with my daughter though so she can work with him. Thanks so very much for your videos, they are extremely helpful.
It is tough at 15 months to know. But there are lots of things you can start now. Check out www.marybarbera.com/workshops to get started with my online courses.
Same thing, my son is 16 months and his pediatrician wants me to wait till 18 months. (Which is very disappointing)It’s difficult that’s why I am trying to research and start doing something on my own
My son is 15 months he doesn’t point sometimes responds to his name he uses a fork if I hand it to him with the food on it and he likes to play alone the speech therapist wants him to see an OT I’m so upset about this
My son is 23 months old and he doesnt respond to his name, has no words, cannot perform simple commands, and struggles with plying with other children (except his beother). After reading these comments im afraid hes on the more severe end ofnthe spectrum. Ive already made the mistake of using his name too much and im just feeling wothless and helpless. Anyone have a baby like this who did a complete turnaround with therapy and work at home?
First, I want to say you are absolutely NOT worthless and there is SO MUCH hope for the future--the fact that you're here is a testament to what a great mother you are
Hello Ms./Mrs. Mary. I had a question my son will almost be 3 years old. The doctor told me this looks like autism. My son snaps his fingers while watching something he likes including videos. And he will walk around in circles snapping his fingers. How can I help him to stop snapping his fingers. Please and answer me.
My baby is 3.5 Years old. Sometimes he shows hyperactivity & can't response to me that I learnt him previously. I am going to ST & OT for the baby. Is punishment harmful for the baby? How can I handle him when he didn't response. After punishment he start speaking & response.
I would steer far away from punishment...we want our children responding to us because they WANT to not because they're afraid of punishment. I would highly recommend looking into my No More Time Out mini course on how to tackle undesirable behaviors effectively without punishments. marybarbera.com/no-more-time-out-mini-course/
So if I give Tommy a treat he won’t accept just one. How would I deal with the tantrums caused by offering a chocolate button say when I used his name and only giving the one?? Also I made up a song when Tommy was just days old and at 17 months it’s sung constantly but has made no difference at all
@@mayuribhattacharya1014 hi my son also don't response his name but all over he is good.i m also tense now he is 15 month old,but he response when I shout
@@priyaKumari-to2fb overall my son also play , laugh and like pika boo games. Still response to name is less . Sometimes he listen something not ...may be busy in his own world
@@mayuribhattacharya1014 Kya wo doosre bachho ke saath khelta hai,mera beta is Cheej ko chor kr baki sab normal bachhe ki trh kerta hai but stil I m worried
my daughter just got evaluated today. she is 31 months. I don't know where she is on the spectrum. Since March my daughter has been with me. I work from home & her daycare closed indefinitely. She hasn't been around noone but really me. in the summer I was taking her to the park but the kids were like 5 and up. I try to make her play dates noone wants to come to my home since covid. I feel terrible.
Hello Ms. Mary my 23 months son dont want to point what he want and “sometimes” doesnt respond to his name but he can follow instructions when we ask him to get or do something.. is that a sign of Autism? please I need your answer im very worried parent.
I have 34 months toddler, he points to objects he wanted with raising arms towards it. If I call his name he responds by following instructions but not look at my face and he is using single words alone to communicate his needs. Please let me know how to see our face ..
My son 3 yrs old is not talking yet he is nearly 4 yrs old.. I want him to bring to pediatric but it's so far from our town.& We don't have resources to it😥😥😥 Hope you can make him assess..Tru online pls to find out what his condition.. I'm from Philippines
Hi Dr. Mary I'm from Philippines. How can I control being aggressive of my 2yr old son. Because whenever he is mad like he is watching on phone and got commercial, he always snaps me or punch me or someone else he see.
I was diagnosed with autism and that didn’t help with my primary school as they didn’t care about me at all like I could be doing my own thing and I would get hit on the ground by a kid and they wouldn’t do anything but as soon as I retaliate back they come after me like a 5 star wanted level in gta and it also doesn’t hope the headteacher wanted me to go to a special school and constantly tried to get me expelled and out of all the teachers like 50 ish probbaly less only 5-6 acctualy liked me and wanted to understand and help me now I wanted to kill myself by the time I was in year 6 as that’s when things started to get worse I barely finished my SATS I was put on a separate desk away from everyone the desk was tiny and the chair was big I got bullied about 1-2 times a week and the headteacher told my mum I am a failure and out of all that all I got from primary was the trauma of my past and a mental scar in my brain almost killing my self 1-2 years ago with my mates (I’m 15 now) as all they kept doing to me was calling me autistic and just generally being nasty and it doesn’t help that hardly anyone listens to me anymore my friend I knew since primary doesn’t talk to me anymore I sit my lunches alone on the floor outside and break is the same thing but next to some familiar faces and I don’t even care at this point if they dont want me there I just at least want one time every 24 hours to speak to someone or just be near someone
Hi TheExpertGamer, your journey through primary school is very interesting to me. My son is turning 5 soon and will start pre primary next year. He is already teased for 'not talking properly' at the playground and it used to happen at kindy at the start of this year. Luckily it's only 2 days a week but next year is 5 days and its a regular state school that his 2 brothers go to (they are in year 2 and 3 now). I am so glad you are here because your story is very important and you articulate yourself very well. How are you going now? I hope you are finding enjoyment in life and its good you want to reach out to others. May you have positive experiences along the way 🤗
Brother never lose hope. These battles may seem large but you can overcome and you will see life from a greater point of view! I wish I could be your friend and I know you can do it!!!
I'm so sorry you're going through all that. As awful as it is, I promise these years will seem so miniscule in the grand scheme of things as you get older. It's not ok howthey treat you, and you deserve to be heard and validated. But I know even for myself. When you're in the midst of the storm it feels like it will last forever, but nothing lasts forever. Truly hope you can search out people who have your best interests at heart, maybe a support group in your local town? Either way I am sorry again you're going through all that and I hope you find peace and love
That is great he has some words. I have online courses that can help you continue to teach him as yes, most individuals with autism do talk but every child is different www.marybarbera.com/workshops
Thank you for watching! If you're concerned about any other communication/speech delays, my toddler course could really help you :) If you're interested, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
Thank u so much Dr., I have 1 question only hope u'll read this, my son is autistic and the challenge is, I can't control his behaviors he always want to climb, go upstairs, run with no direction can u give me an idea how to teach him or how to approach him in a way that he could understand me.. thank u so much I've been watching your videos... Thank you and Godbless.. I do want to buy book of yours but it seems that it's not available here in the Philippines ❤️
I do have online courses that can help you in the philippines! www.marybarbera.com/workshops for a free workshop. We want to find ways to prevent his problem behavior. Look at times when he doesn't climb and try to increase those types of activities.
As a special education teacher I use red light green light. And made up songs. Walking walking walking walking now let’s stop now let’s stop. Practice large open space then smaller. House. Front yard then street corner
My daughter is 18 months and she only looks at her name if I sign it to her .. even if I’m whispering as long as I’m doing it in that tune she will look ? I’ve been seeing little signs she may have autism but this is her biggest sign & not making eye contact much.
Another question. What can I do to help my son/toddler so he wont he scared of other toddlers when they want to play with him. He gets scared and runs away or throws himself to the floor. Please tell me.
