Visit TheRightEulogy.com for more information on this step.
This is the last step - step six - in this six part series.
This series is based on the ebook "How To Write And Deliver A Great Eulogy in Six Simple Steps", available at
therighteulogy.com/how-to-writ...
Everything you've worked for the past few days now leads to this point, the actual delivery of the eulogy on
the day of the service.
If you have a fear of public speaking, visit this page here :-
therighteulogy.com/index.php/b...
(Hint:- the fear of public speaking stems from childhood, when you were not listened to. So the fear is a
listening problem, rather than a strictly speaking one.)
Here's a checklist for the day :-
1. Allow plenty of time to get there early;
2. bring two copies of the eulogy with you (one you can later entrust to a helper);
3. bring a pen, a bottle of water and tissue paper;
4. allow time for yourself to relax and center, preferably in a secluded environment, no matter how short a
time you have;
5. connect with your higher power and/or say a prayer, if within your belief system.
I added a section on slowing down the delivery of the eulogy after viewing a video of a speaker reading too
fast (it can be found at therighteulogy.com/index.php/l... ).
Most of us are not professional speakers! It can be scary for some to speak in public, and because of nerves,
we may talk faster. Resist the temptation. Slow it down if you speed up. You do this by listening to your
own words as you speak them. And feeling them. Just doing this will automatically slow you down to a good
reading pace.
To help set the stage for this, the very first thing you must do when you step before the podium, or stand
before the audience, is to make eye contact with them. Acknowledge them; engage them with your eyes. Listen to
the audience. It's not an ordinary hearing, but an almost spiritual listening. Be with one with them. Then
take a deep breath or two and start your eulogy.
If you don't do this, and just dive in right at the start of your speech, you may feel disconnected from the
audience, and nerves that emerge will cause you to go into flight or fight mode, you lose some thinking power
and you may speed up the delivery of the speech.
On the other hand, if you have a connection with the audience from the start, you can carry them along with you
as you read the speech. And it will act as a natural brake on the delivery speed, and it will feel much more
enjoyable too!
If you feel overwhelmed by emotion at some stage during the reading, as the words you speak stir up memories,
allow yourself to break. Don't feel you are compelled to keep reading all the time. Take a pause. Feel the
emotions, don't fight it, but let it pass, and take another breath. And pick up from where you last stopped.
If anyone signals they'll take over from you, signal back that you're OK. Just find your place and continue.
Everyone in the audience will understand. As you work through your emotions in front of the audience, you'll
help them work through theirs.
And once the emotions are cleared, you may even find space for laughter. Laughter and tears are two sides of
the same coin. You can flip from one to the other during the reading of the eulogy.
However, don't try to use laughter to mask or cover over pent up strong emotions. If you try to "laugh it
off", it'll backfire. People need to grieve. And if they're not allowed to, and the tears are held back,
they'll be left with a very unsatisfied feeling at the end.
The eulogy would not have served one of it's main purpose - to comfort the grieving.
So, in conclusion, feel the words of the eulogy as you speak them. Your audience will thank you for it.
Congratulations on your eulogy. I commend you. I applaud you for your courage and love. Your eulogy will be
read and refered to by future generations to come, and will have an effect more than you can imagine.
If you liked this video series, then you may find the accompanying eguide of help. Please find it at :-
therighteulogy.com/how-to-writ...
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