How Today Kids Are Being Raised 

They called the wrong parents.

That's a parenting issue they have been coddled since birth.

As a teacher, I would never call home about this. Wtf. Apparently that school doesn’t have enough to worry about!

A mom from the opposing team came over and fussed at my son for being "unkind" last week. I asked him what he said and apparently her kid said "we won" and mine replied with "no you didn't. Your team lost." The other kid confirmed that was what was said. Once she heard that she started tripping all over herself and all she could muster was "Don't be unkind." I told my kid to not listen to anyone who has a problem with the truth.

The first mistake they made was calling the wrong parent

The crying kid showed poor sportsmanship...

I got a call from a teacher once. Problem was there was a child that kept "disrespecting" the teacher by cracking jokes, and MY child, and some other kids in the class, GIGGLED. The teacher wanted me to do something about my child for giggling because the other child's parents were "uncooperative" when it came to stopping the other child's behavior.

People said participation trophies were the beginning of the end and nobody listened. Now we have this. Good job

I'd play stupid and say "I'm sorry, I don't feel comfortable discussing other parents' failures. You should probably call them"!

One of the most important lessons that i ever learned was that I was NOT GOOD at everything. It made me realize my humanity and have compassion for others.

Ohhhh I feel her. Im going through "she hurt my feelings" 💩 with my daughters class mate. She didn't call her names, nothing! Just because my kid said " I cant forgive her right now because she doesn't listen! I asked her multiple times to stop doing (whatever she was doing) and she would not. Now my kid is in trouble because she said no, im done, i don't wanna play with you anymore unless you stop.

Kids and people are allowed to get upset Kids and people are allowed to complain But no one is allowed to be punished for doing something that someone else can't do

Preach mother. It starts at home

The saying, "it sucks to suck," comes to mind. I'd have been beyond livid about a phone call over some crap like that. I 100% agree with this mom.

Hell. My parents weren’t ever called. I was nearly killed by my bully on several occasions. I just got up and fought back. That’s it. Teachers didn’t like it. But then again. Better than nearly dying

Meanwhile a 10 year old committed su1cide recently because he was so bullied by his classmates and doesn’t matter how many times their parents complained to the school principal they did nothing about it.

This is EXACTLY what happened to my daughter when she got on the soccer field! The coach from the opposite team was so beside himself that his team couldn’t score goals, he threw a hissy fit and lied and said she was pushing his players when NO ONE SAW THAT! Not the members on our team or the opposite team! He was such a wimp that he wouldn’t hi five my daughter after the game because she scored two goals back to back 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ so I agree with her! What is this world coming to????

She's right ! I feel the same way as a parent ..when i'm at work dont call me about some bs

She is 100 percent right. Calling a parent over a sore loser is a complete waste of them

Yep!! Amen girl! I remember when my son was in baseball and the end of season they were giving kids medals. I looked at his dad and said “wait they’re in first place?” He said “no they give everyone a participation medal” I lost it.

She's Right 💯 My kid gets in trouble for doing what??... Scoring goals during a game?. Yeah, I would be so upset too. Absolutely ridiculous 😒

I can verify that schools are THIS ridiculous 💯 You think she's exaggerating? I PROMISE she is not.

So..... what.....? Did they call her with the intention on asking her to tell her child to fail intentionally to make another child feel better about themselves? Is that where we're at now? That we have to make kids who are naturally good at something, feel bad about it so the ones who aren't, don't have to accept the fact that they're don't excel in all categories?

Some people are so fixated on preventing people's feelings from getting hurt that it literally doesn't occur to them that there are other values and objectives in life. Let alone that hurt feelings are sometimes an unavoidable necessity. Harm reduction alone cannot be the only social value of a functional society.

Mom is 💯 on everything she just said.

I just had a college student that would call me rude when I would bluntly tell him that he needed to read the directions again before he asks me anything. He had admitted to me he “reads directions when he decides he needs to but not most of the time”.

Told a girl in middle school I didn't want to be friends anymore because it made me uncomfortable. I got found out and screamed at by the vice principal who then gave me ISS... totally didn't scar me into giving up my boundaries later in life lol

Yes! Our school administration is out of control!!! They have ridiculous rules that make school like a prison.

I got a call that my son was bullying a girl in his class. he had told the girl to shut up because he was trying to do his work. It was the middle of the class and because he said shut up they said he was bullying her. Heaven forbid the girl actually do her school work when she is supposed to. The girl kept saying she was afraid to come to school because of it. We agreed to just have them sit apart. I told my son if it bothered him to not say anything to her just report it to the teacher. Her father even admitted she talks a lot. Her mom was pissed about it. SMH

My Haitian A$$ got a call from my daughter 5th grade teacher because my daughter refuses to be friend with one of her classmates I was at work at the time I told her please don’t call me about stupid shit because I didn’t send her to school to be her every classmate friends it’s ridiculous at this point

100% momma. She is saying nothing but facts !!!

Meanwhile, at North Middle in Grants Pass Oregon, they punish you for getting lit on fire by other students outside of school grounds by suspending you.

Learning how to deal with failure and losing at things is an important part of growing up. I’m a competitive person so I don’t like losing either but when I do I feel about ten seconds of frustration and then move on hoping to pull off the win next time.

Sucks to suck.

My youngest son was being bullied in 3rd grade, because my kids were the "new kids". We'd returned to the states after my hubs got out of the Army. They'd been in the DoD school near kaiserslautern, germany. I'd called the school, i'd been to the school...nothing changed. I turned to my son and said next time hit back. That fighting isn't the best solution to a problem, however sometimes it's the only solution. 3 days later the school called, he hit the kid once. The kid ran crying to a teacher. My son got a 3 days suspension. We stopped at mickey dee's on the way home.

Yup!!.. i had to deal w/ bullshit like this too when my kids were in school...lets just say,that i expressed my opinions....face to face w/ their VP and from that point on the school cop( a real police officer not "security guard") had to escort me to AND from the VP's office EVERYTIME AFTER THAT NO MATTER WHAT I WAS THERE FOR... telling "official personnel " " you're gonna "yank their ass across their desk!"😊😊😊😊yeah,they dont like that,lol.... they chose to mostly call or just send the info.home w/ my sons in a letter!😊😊😊😊😊😊

I've been in this situation but with the POV of the teacher. He came up to me crying because he was losing. I calming explained that sometimes we lose but keep practicing. He kept crying. I said either go play or have a seat. He cleaned his face and went back to play. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Calling my parents during school was like writing my death warrant right before my very own eyes

Had that in the 90's. Was having a water fight on a Saturday, words were said. I went to primary school on Monday and got grilled. Alone, when the teacher knew my parents wouldn't be picking me up.

A former classmate of mine has incredible stage fright and refused to go forward to recount what we did last lesson even though it was her turn. I stepped up for her but never has any of us or the teachers called the parents. Just a few friends reassuring everything’s fine, though the teacher did get a bit of backlash for pressuring her to tears despite her fears.

I would have laughed loudly, hung up the phone then after school I would have picked up my son (still laughing) and took him out for a treat. I would also explain he did nothing wrong and don’t let anyone stop him from being great at whatever he does

My son was crying about losing in hockey. I told him to shut up and practice with me more and get better. Other parents looked at me like they couldn't believe I said that. My son doesn't cry anymore and plays better

Yeah… I know parents that constantly think any disagreement amongst kids is “bullying” and their kids are constantly upset and convinced the world is out to get them

What makes it worse is during school hours, most parents are at work. So she was basically called out of work to go there and hear that some kid was whining about being bad at something

A sort of similar event happened with our son. He was in 2nd grade. For physical fitness the teacher took the class outside to play soccer. She assigned my son to play goalie. He'd never played soccer before, but wanted to learn. I got called from work a half hour away due to trouble. Here's what I learned from the Principal and 3 other adults when I got there. Another boy had been playing soccer in the local child league since he was 4. He felt that he was more experienced so should be the goalie. So he was trying to bully my son to give up the position. My son told him that the teacher had told them what positions to play and he was going to stay where he was. As witnessed by the Principal, the teacher and 2 Aides, the other boy started kicking my son in the legs. As the adults headed over to stop this, my son had had enough. While the other boy was playing soccer, my son had been learning Karate. When the count of kicks from the other boy was about 5 or 6, my son used his karate knowledge to apply a front thrust kick to the other boy's chest. According to yhe adults his kick was powerful enough to lift the other boy off his feet and land him flat on his back while he turned and walked away to the other side of the goal, leaving the boy crying on the ground. Then the adults arrived. They told me my son was not in trouble as he had defended himself then walked away. The other boy was suspended. That's how it should work. But t Hen the next day the school called me to tell me the other parents were claiming their son had lost an $800 diamond stud torn out of his ear in the scuffle and demanded that my wife and I pay for it. Yep, ear was torn. Ummmm... 1st off: School dress code forbade ANY jewelry on ANY student. 2: Our son, by all accounts, had not scuffled with the other boy and had never come anywhere NEAR the boy's ear. Kick to his chest. Landed flat on his back. No contact with his ear. 3: Your son started the fight. Our son defended himself only after he was struck several times. 4: This is not a well-to-do little town. Why would you spend a month's mortgage payment on a diamond ear stud for a 7 year old boy? 5: Prove that he lost the ear stud in the fight with our son and not when you smacked him at home for losing the fight. We refused to pay and never did. Throughout elementary other kids told me that other boy continued to antagonize our son. Our son never spoke of it to us. When the boys were in high school, my son's friends told me that other boy had been trying real hard to be friends with my son. But was rejected with the reported words, "Tell me why I would WANT to be friends with you."

I got not only a call but a ticket because my son was "truant" while at school!!!

It’s giving “that’s not what actually happened and my kids are bullies, but I need to get online and spin this to suit me and my kids”

The "feelings" kid will soon be talked about throughout the school and everyone will distance themselves accordingly.

Agreed! That principle didn’t have the guts to call it the way it is!

Big facts! Weak people make weak kids.

That is absolutely wild. Not because of bullying a fight just because your kid better at playing a sport

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼a brown momma would've literally said "I know you didn't call me for this bullshit, way to go son we're proud of you and don't you dare apologize for being better than someone else!!!"

Miss , THANK GOD THERE ARE MOMS LIKE YOU.

When I was a kid, if someone cried over stupid things and had a tantrum, they were called a crybaby and told to suck it up.

As a teacher, there are phone calls I don’t make. I wouldn’t have made this one UNLESS my principal told me to. If my principal told me to call, then I would have to follow those instructions but I would protest the WHOLE way. I had a situation where a student put the middle finger up. I didn’t want to call. I was told to call. The mom was upset with me but I had to let her know that I was TOLD to call. If my principal says call, I’m going to call. Point blank. I even said I didn’t want to make the call. Sometimes we have a choice and sometimes we don’t.

I'm so fucking happy I grew up in the 90's and never had to deal with shit like that.

That's absolutely crazy! My Dad was no mercy whether it was sports or video games. We had to learn. But when we finally beat him it felt so good! Edit: And he was happy when we beat him!

Some parents are really busy, my mom used to work a lot of hours and was really busy, i can't imagine what would she have done if she got called over something like this

If the school called me the response would be "Unless my child was verbally teasing this other kid for being bad, or causing them physical injury on purpose, you have no reason to contact me. Not being good at something is not my child's fault."

Mean while they turn a blind eye when people are actually being bullied.😑

I hate when people call me about stupid things.

Thats fallout from the whole every kid getting a trophy nonsense! They've started thinking it's other people's responsibility to play at their level!

This also happens when "EVERYONE" gets an award. Why? Just because a child exists doesn't mean they get an acknowledgement.

Whenever my daughter has a meltdown about losing, I just simply tell her “You win some, you lose some. Now get up and try again. Practice makes perfect!” Then she’s all good again and wants to play. Some kids just needs to cry it out then get back in the game.

I remember the first time I cried about not being able to win a game….. I was 4. And my parents said “get over it, life only gets harder”

Absolutely agree i remember having to talk with my nieces teacher when i picked her up from school after she got into a fight turns out some kid thought it would be funny to pull her hair and she punched him in the face for it my only response was "damn straight she learned that s**t from me" the principal realized she wasnt getting anywhere with me either ... She got suspended for a week while he didnt get s**t

That call would only have happened once when I was in school. They would have been terrified to call my mom or dad unless I was SERIOUSLY injured.

I can tell who in the comments were the SAME kind of WINEY kids, and they're reliving their childhood trauma because of this story 😂.

She’s day drinking, she ain’t trying to hear about yo soft kid lol

I got called recently because my son took a chicken nugget off another kids plate then put it back.. From the principal... What are we even doing now people?!?!

That all started back when "parents" insisted that all the players "deserve" a trophy at the end of each game, no matter which team really won.

As a teacher (who taught in both middle and currently elementary) I have to deal with this EVERYDAY. It’s sad really. Because if I had acted this way…my parents would’ve had my hide. Most days I wanna pull my hair out because I’m so confused by the attitudes of our children. We can do better parents. I know we can.

This woman is my new friend She keeping it real while she got the glass of wine in the hand that speaks volumes right there....

Nuff said! I'm with her 100%.

It’s not a parenting issue, just kids being immature. This happened at my elementary school several times with several kids. Except the teachers talked us through our frustration instead of punishing others.

Thank that "everyone wins a metal" crowd. Some kids don't know the feeling of losing

Exactly. I taught my nieces and nephews, nothing gives anyone on this planet any right to put their hands on you, if anyone does run to an adult or call 911 immediately and report them. My sister called me at work and said I had to go with her to my youngest nieces school because something I said got her in trouble, on the way there I was nervous because I said a lot of things. When we get there are two sets of parents, a security guard, a police officer and the principal, my niece another girl and a boy. The parents were for the other little girl and boy. The adults reported my niece and the other little girl jumped the boys, it seemed those parents were upset about it, yet my niece and the girl were the only ones crying. I thought the two bully the boy and were remorseful after getting caught but I asked. The other adults asked but weren’t accepting the girls answers. This is what happened. The girls gym had water damaged so they had to share the boys gym. The girls were playing volley ball the boys basket ball, that boy deliberately threw the basketball towards the girls, so he could get close, but ge kept doing it and each time his creepiness kept advancing, the other boys chuckled as he did this, then he did this again, the girls didn’t bother with the basketball, but as he reached for the ball between ny niece and the other girl he pinched their behind, my niece pushed him back as she kicked his legs, dropping him, then landed on him pinning his hands with his knee while the other girl held his legs. They both told the other girls to tell the coach, that’s when everyone were brought to the principal’s office ready to expel my niece and the other girl. But words are powerful, and I asked, “So, did you guys questioned all of the students that were present, found out, impartially that the boy sexually harassed fellow members of his student body?” That’s when everyone in the room interjected uncomfortably and why my niece and her friend weren’t punished and the boy was suspended for three days. But his parents eventually transferred him out of the school. School, get your shit together and know our rights.

I taught primary school for a couple of years. On playground duty on day, a boy comes up to me crying because some other kid had called him stupid. I replied well do you think you are stupid? He thought about it for a second and replied no. I then said, so if you don't think you are stupid why let it bother you. If you know you are not stupid, it shouldn't matter what he calls you, you know better. He was so happy, not because I told him he wasn't stupid, but that he realised it himself.

Oh my God this doesn't even surprised me I am not even shocked that somebody cried over this and they got in trouble! Good for you Mom for standing up and making a video and calling these people out this is nonsense! I agree with you if this happened to me as a father of three I would be absolutely livid I wouldn't get myself arrested but I would let them know that this is BS And I absolutely would make him understand why I think it's BS

I was sucker punched in high school but was able to fight back. Principal told my parents if i just wouldnt have fought back i wouldnt have also gotten in trouble. My dad cut him off an told him he raised his kids to protect themselves an the boy got lucky he wasnt in the hospital because he taught us if they do it once make sure they can never do it again. The look on the principal's face was priceless!

And I second her emotion🤷🏾‍♀️ Step It Up Champ

I have been stopped at nursery bcz my kid said he doesnt want to be friends with a boy

I learned real fast why not to throw a tantrum as a kid while my marine uncle was around......😅

My mom would not have put up with that! She worked too damn hard during the day so she could put food on the table in the evening. No time for stupid crap

Losing is a part of life. That teacher should have utilized it as a teachable moment for the upset child. "Sometimes, you can't win. That's okay. You can try again or let's go do something different."

My son is over 30 now but over the years I had teachers call me to tattle on stupid spit. So I would tell the teacher face to face if necessary:" You just say the word and I will whoop his azz! Just say yes and I'll do it, you can even listen in just say the word!" I never got a call from that teacher again. Worked every time.

Don't teach your children to cry about how good others are. Teach them to put in the work.

My mom said, only call me if someone is dead or dying!!!!😂😂😂

Born 1970 here, growing up if you sucked at sports the Coach had a clipboard and would yell out your name and say "Your cut from the team". Nobody cried, you just worked harder.

My school did stupid stuff like that too. They had this stupid room called "Back on Track" where they essentially made you sit at a conference style table with the back on track teacher and make you be friends with each other. Like how about teach people how to be civil with people they recognize they don't like???

I was called a few times because my kid fell... I asked, "Is she okay?" Teacher verified she was okay. Then I was like, "unless sick, seriously injured, or missing, do not call me midschool day. I have to sleep for my 14 hour shift tonight. If you think it's note worthy, write a note and we'll set up a meeting if it's needed."

That assistant principal would have gotten cussed tf out!

She forgot...we live in a time where EVERYONE gets a trophy! We even hand out 8th place ribbons!😂😂

I grew up with a kid like this. He was always coddled by his mom whenever the other kids wanted to play something that he didn't want to play. It became such a chore to play with him that no one wanted to anymore. I always wonder what became of him as an adult.

That’s absolutely ridiculous!

I hear nothing but facts that make common sense!!! 💯

That irks the hell out of me when they call for stupid stuff but when is something important they won’t do it

I am a behavior counselor at a middle school and I can tell you this I would NEVER call a parent about a situation like this. This is a situation where kids have to learn how to work stuff out on their own. Kids need to learn how to “fall down and get back up” on their own. This parent should be pissed

I remember when people use to get cut during tryouts in soccer I graduated in 2008 this generation has been pampered

Hw is that even possible? Chiiiiilllllleee if he ain't learning during childhood to be better than how is he gonna learn how to handle rejection from women later???? That's how you build mass shooters, rapists... Etc... He's not entitled to things he's got to work for it