How you feel when your child leaves the nest | Fridays with Tab and Chance 

I love how Chance just let Tab have this moment to freely express her feelings. Beautiful ♥️

When they are little they are on your lap and when they big they are on your heart.❤

I enjoyed Chance’s point of view and it is great for Choyce to know her dad will be there in a flash.

I’m 42, married with 2 kids but if I’m going out of town I always tell my mom when I leave, get to my destination and when I get home because I know she will worry.

I admire Choyce for striking out on her own at 22 years old and her parents allowing her to do so.

Parenting is not for the weak!! I have 3! One is getting married on Sunday, the next one is moving to Massachusetts for a job opportunity, and the Baby will be heading off to college next year! It’s stressful, but we just have to trust we’ve done what we needed to while they were growing up! But, Tab, I feel the same daggone way!😂

Bless Choyce Lord keep her covered with your blood give Tab and Chance the peace to know everything will be alright 🙏🏾

Chance, as a single parent, that is my mindset. I tell my kids all the time the best gift you can give me is to show me you can survive this world and let me die in peace ❤

This is such a great topic! I left home at 18 to come to Calif9rnia to attend college and I never moved back home. This was before cell phones too. My mother wrote me letters and we talked over the phone.y father told me that my mother cried so much when I left..but I am a 2nd child and my two sisters stayed home. My oldest and youngest sister continued to live with my parents until my older sister married. To this day it was the best decision I made. I was raised in a very secure and wonderful home but it was time for me to discover my own life and even though both of my parents are dead..I know they are proud of me and glad I am living my own life.

Tab's smile lights up the room.

I felt this on so many levels! I don’t have babies but my brother became mine when our mommy was murdered in 2019. I live with anxiety sometimes because he’s in Florida and I’m in Georgia. But I pray daily for his safety and his ability to make good decisions. I trust in God always. But I’m human. Kudos to all the parents living through this empty nesting syndrome. ❤

I purchased my "starter" home (not my dream home) when my children were very young. I decided after much thought how I would move out one day and they could stay; my oldest is almost 21 years old and i just moved out last week so now I'm renting that home to him and a roommate. It feels good!! We both are blessed; Glory to God 😊

Chance, when you said “ I will Show up and I will Show out!!” I was so full and the tears flowed, I felt that 💯💯💯, our daughter just graduated from high school and although she has not moved out I want her to always know , we will Show up and show out because that is what true parents do!!! Love this ❤️❤️🙏🏿🙏🏿 Show OUT!!! Job well done

I needed this.. My daughter just left for college two weeks ago and I've been a whole mess 😭

Wooo Wee!!! This one was right on time and I am grandma. My granddaughter left to do one academic semester in Japan, initially I was trying to talk her out of it but I had to let go…. So now I am just in prayer for her earnestly 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾. My granddaughter wanted to go but was also a little afraid as well. Not to mention she cried at the airport as well as her sisters and father…. We’re all good now thank God for face time 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Tab there is heaviness in your eyes. Sending hugs💕

Awwww! Tab really miss her baby. The look on her face say it all. Bless it!

As a mother of 5 grown adults I hear you loud and clear and even the things that weren’t spoken. Lord take control take control ❤

I knew this topic was coming for you all. I have a 38 year old son who lives in South Korea (Jesus take the wheel) 😂 and a 36 year old who is in Durham, NC where I live. I am happy for them but I will always miss them. We will pray for each other. ❤

Black Family Love. I love that you discuss it all: hurts, pain, joy, glory, and shame. It's all life. Thank you for "normalizing" human emotions and the power and beauty of reflection. ❤💛💚🖤

When our daughter left home I felt like I was going to just die, like I literally couldn’t breathe. I’m glad somebody else gets it🙏🏾💝😢

Chance is hilarious 😂. The way he looked at her when she said “Your mama lived with us a couple times.” 😂😂😂😂

Chance has a lot of wisdom to be a young man that’s in his forties 👍🏾

Chance said he can always Show up and Show out if needed 🤣Tab didn't want to let go and i feel her as a mother🤣Love this ❤

Going through this right now. It’s hard when you spent their whole life pouring into them and see the mistakes. Pray our strength. 🙏🏾❤️

It means the world to know you have parents who support you. I had a Daddy just like Chance. RIP, DADDY. A good Daddy is a Blessing. Choyce knows you will "show up and show out" and it is so important to know you are loved unconditionally!

Gotta love Chance.”I’m showing up and if need be showing out”Great Father sentiment!Daddy on deck and duty!❤😂

Wow…this is exactly what my husband and I are dealing with right now. Tab it’s a form of grief. I lost my mother soon to be two years ago, and my youngest daughter moving out a year ago felt and feels so similar. Chance I did indeed convert her room to a tv lounge within a week, because it was more than a notion to see that empty room. I’ll say this, the LORD has surely heard my cries and wiped my tears. My baby is on her journey, but we do talk often and JESUS is still in control 🙂

I so enjoyed this episode Tab & Chance. Thank you Tab for making it clear our children are not ours they have a purpose to live in life without us holding on. Chance, appreciate the sound support and from the eyes of a father 💯. You all Be Blessed 🙏🏽❤️

You all have raised an amazing young woman. My prayers are with Choyce. May she take wings and find her own unique place in life. May God bless, cover and keep her always.💜🙏🏽

I love a father like Chance. He don't need permission to show up and if he has to, he will show out. I wish I had a father like that

Donna got ready for the wrong show when this was recorded. Donna thought it was Tab Time. 🗣Donna! You look good girl.

I feel both pride and devastation everyday! my daughter attends school in California. It’s a been a few weeks and we talk everyday, but I still cry on and off. Like you, I am so proud of my daughter and I miss her like crazy.

When your children are babies they are on your lap but then they become adults they are on your heart ❤😊

"Daddy gone always show up.....and if I have to, I'm showing out!" Ok somebody! I love it!

33:47-34:02 😂🤣😂🤣🤣 yal just as young as me talkin like dat yo ROFL 😅😅😅😅😅😅

Wonderful episode! Appreciate the heartfelt discussion. Reminded me of the following poem: “Your children are not your children. They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth....." - Khalil Gibran

I went through 4 moving out! But I wasn’t prepared for my 22 year old granddaughter ( senior at local college) told me she was going to South Korea for 9 months to study!! She flew out Monday the 28 of August!! What helps me is that her mom raised her to be independent, strong and God fearing! I shed a few tears and I’m ok now!! We let them go when they are good kids who make right choices!!!

My youngest daughter of three moved out about 3 hours away for her first job with benefits after college but I had so much peace and I enjoyed going to visit her. We talked or texted at least weekly. I was so proud of her! She bought her girst car and had it delivered! She showed us she was ready.❤

The way I hollered at the reflective look and “I don’t know what I’ma do wit his room.”

She is smart. She knows how much y’all love her. She did what y’all did for her. She gave you that peace, you needed.

They had normal and sound circumstances. Their love keeps them together. ❤

May God continue to bless, protect and elevate Choyce in Jesus name Amen 🙏🏽♥️

I understand and agree with you both. When my younger son left for University, I cried myself to sleep for a couple of weeks, and he only moved 4 hours away.😂 Now, my older son moved across the country, and I text and call every other day. You are absolutely right, I gave both of them a solid foundation to build their homes and im proud of the men they are evolving in to. Thanks for this episode, as it resonated with me. Blessings

I commend Choyce for venturing out on her own. She could have easily lived off her parents a lot of celebrity kids do. Excellent parenting.

"I'm showing up and if I need to I'm showing out" I know that's right! 😅 same here.

Tab, I heard you say that in an interview that our children don't belong to us, and that resonated with me. I miss my children, especially my daughter, we're very close, and although we're in the same state, I miss her being close by to go out, to eat shopping etc. Also, it's hard to let go but we have to give them back to God. My daughter is living for the Lord, and it was something I prayed for, so I feel much better about it

You got this Chyoce! Live your truth little mamas. Don’t let one of us see somebody trynna mess with her. We might get em before Chance have a chance. ❤

"I was so focused on wanting to live my life my way." Whew! As a girl who lost her momma (someone who had also become my best friend), this hit home. I remember those teenage and early twenty years -- and though it was appropriate from a developmental standpoint -- I still look back and think, "damn, I should have bought those tickets for Frankie Beverly" or "she should have spent the night over more." But I will say, the good times comfort me and outweigh those regrets.

Tab I feel you I cried when we drove our son, my baby, to college and he was only 30 mins from home 😂😂😂. I cried like we took him to another planet 😅

9:15 I’m just sitting here looking at you Aunt Tab, and you’re just sooooo beautiful 😍 God did what he needed to do with you!!! ❤

Thank you both for this conversation! There HAS to be a certain level of detachment that has to happen… “Let go of having to know everything…“Adult sons/daughters that have moved out must have their own business and you can’t be in it. Their happiness isn’t your business.” Have conversations about the things that truly matter. This is a much needed, real and very true conversation about the necessary transition of parenting dependent children versus adult sons/daughters. 🙏🏾Blessings to Choyce! I’m praying for Quest ahead of him moving out!! 😂😂

Amen. Stay out your child's business! I feel my sons came out the womb independent. The more I tried to hold their hands as adults, the more their spirits fought to lovingly pull away from me: stress. When I let go & let God, I started to live more abundantly.

I have twins and they have a sister who is 18 months older. One twin just got married and the other two are about to move out. All within 1 month...I'm sad, but looking forward to how life will be living by myself for the first time in my life! 😭🥺☹️🙁😌😊

No kids yet but this is really beautiful 🫶🏾

When chance said …. I dont know what I’m going to do with his room….. I hollered!!!

“When they’re young, they’re on your mind but when they get older, they’re on your heart.” In the words of my grand mother in law (if that’s a thing lol)

Thank you for this episode. My daughter is only 15 but she is my only child I’m a single mother she is my world. She says she’s not leaving but I know she will eventually and I’ll have to let her go. I love her with my whole soul she is my whole world. Thank you for sharing this conversation with us, I’m praying for protection, love,peace, comfort, joy, fun & laughter on Choyce’s new journey. 🤎

I'm not even done watching and Chance got me all emotional and teary-eyed! 😢 Another great episode, you two! ❤

Parenting is not easy but continue to trust God that she is protected 🙏🏾

I’ve been so looking forward to my children leaving the nest. This is putting things into a different perspective. I hadn’t thought about how much I’m going to MISS them being here all the time. I’ll cherish these moments more right now. Soak it all in.

Donna is Donna-ing! 😀😀😀

I know ya'll are right! ...lol. when my son moves out I'm turning his room into a all white bedroom ....there will be a white carpet as well ....

MY daughter is 23 and has moved out. I felt when Tab said "You have to let them have their own business," because you truly do. I also told my son I'm moving in with him when he leaves lol. SN: Tab and Chance truly love their supporters, cause not you STOPPED THE PLANE!! 😂😂

I have a 28 year old living in Alabama with his family, and I get nervous every time he calls until I hear his voice. It never gets easy. My 26 year old is 20 minutes away, and my heart beats fast, hoping he is safe in the city.

From personal experience, I had to come to a place where I understood that the same God that I was introduced to as a young child, grew up with and raised my daughter up on..............is the same God that will, does and do travel with her. There is no city that my child can live in where God is not already there. Oooh God.....I thank you 😂💖😂💖😂💖😂💖😂

Love watching yall... That fro on point today sista Tab!!

My grown kids are getting on my nerves, ready to be an empty nester. When they are gone in a few months, I am sending the dogs with them! Too many grown folks in one house. I might be a little sad when they are gone, but I will get over it! But I will always have their backs, they will always be my babies.

This was on point. How I raised my child to think outside of the box and explore what life has to offer.

I love y’all so much! I cried so many days in just spurts when my son moved to NY, we’re in Maryland. But just like Chance said, there wasn’t a darn thing in the world that could keep me from him if he needed me! It was funny though, he didn’t necessarily need me there, just access to me to run things by me for guidance. ❤ That meant, he really did listen for all those years and learn the lessons I taught him growing up! To God be the Glory! You got this Tab, you’re going to glow as she starts making her moves as a young adult! We’re praying for you Choyce! You have a village around you that your Momma and Daddy have built to ensure you flourish into the beautiful woman you’re destined to be! I can’t wait to see you spread your wings and fly. ❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

I love this conversation and will be praying for The Brown family as they watch Choyce live her life. Blessings to them ❤

I felt the same way with each of my children, our oldest daughter was 18 when she moved out of state. The only people was sad about her moving, was my twins and I, It was hard at first, but my daughter didn’t want to follow our rules, soooo she had to do what she had to do. This was after high school, and she moved in with her aunt. The next daughter moved to NY, and she’s been there for 8 years I was sad at first, but she has traveled to Israel, South Africa, etc , the 3rd daughter moved to South Korea for 3 years, I literally cried when she left. Our last 2 are home, but eventually they probably will move out. Prayers, and Thank God for protecting us wherever we are!!

Yay Choyce! She's going to do well. I moved from Texas to Oregon at 46 and my mom said THE SAME THING Tab said about getting to Choyce. It's not that she can't, but the TIME frame it takes, especially in an emergency or if I'm sick. I'm at MINIMUM, a 4 hrs plane ride away. BUT God. I'm covered by the blood and so is Choyce. TRUST that the things you taught her and the talks you've had will come to mind as she goes about her life and makes decisions.❤

Was the only one who was HAPPY AS CAN BE when each of my 3 children left home. No tears, no drama. I am STILL happy as a pig in slop. 2 live out of state and far away. Good. One lives 7 minutes from me. Good.

Our daughter now 29 has a hubby , 2 little boys and a home owner.......she was living an hour and a half away from us when we moved to a rural part of the state. We moved in 2021. Less than a year later they moved 25 minutes away in a small town in Indiana. I am very happy she is close. I GET to see her and my grandsons. Might not be like that all the time but I am glad she is still close!!!!!

this was ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL with heartfelt moments! fun and REAL! but when Chance, said, "wonder what imma do with Quest' room?" I FELL OUT!!!!! LOLLLLLLL 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 baaaa'BAE it is ALREADY in the making in his mind! Truth be told is children go from pampers to proms in almost a FLASH, so raise them the BEST THAT YOU CAN!! Train them up in the Word of God, give them ALLLLLL of the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE you can! and then clip their wings!! let them experience, "THEIR" God given purpose! keep them covered in prayer and go from there 🤎...THANK GOD she has SUCH a LOVING set of parents and extended fam, to do life with! 🤎🤎🤎🤎🖤

It's so beautiful to see Black families that look like me, Black parents and daughters like me to share their raw feelings about their daughter. Having love for their children and expressing so healthy. This feels my soul!

Show up and show out, Amen, Chance

I’m so proud of y’all , because y’all are young black parents, and did a beautiful job In Raising your child very good example on parenting

Aww this topic came at the right time. Our 24yr old babygirl moved to her apartment and I cried for a few days alone. I even sent her a photo of us together, maybe so she won't forget me lol I don't know. Smiles on the outside but mixed emotions inside of me. Thank you Tab and Chance.

Chance and Tab sound like my Mom and Dad when I left. I literally moved to the other side of the country and did not come back. But they knew they had prepared me and that I was going to be fine. Now we not gone talk bout how they eventually followed me though and moved 30 minutes from the new city I was living in....🤣🤣🤣

I have just experienced this with my 20 year old son moving to an entirely different state (not even close to me). The enemy attacked me on so many fronts before he left, but when God started to minister to my spirit the worry began to melt away. As Believers, we're clearly told not to worry; however, I know this can be hard. Before my daddy passed, he told me that the way you continue to raise your adult children is by praying for them. You really do get peace that passes all understanding so worry can't last. My Bible study group is about to start back up and we are reading "The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children". I know it's no coincidence that God has us reading this after my son has recently left home. If we've raised our children to be light then we have to be ok with letting them go into a world that needs the light in them. May God be with the parents who have had to let go and with the children that are learning to spread their own wings and fly. I sensed the Holy Spirit tell me "Moms need to learn to let their children go so they can live in God's flow!" Chance I have started updating the nest. Great advice.🦋🦋🦋

It will be 4 years at the end of this month my daughter not only moved out but she moved 5.5 hours away from home. I CRIED myself sick. She is my only daughter & the thought of having to let her go into This world broke me down. She was no longer under our physical protection & the way her father & I had to parent was a major transition I wasn’t ready for. It took me about 2 years to adjust. God has been & remains to be faithful.

We’ve watched Choyce grow up into a beautiful young woman. A parents job is to prepare your children to become productive, Independent adults. Well done Tab and Chance❣️ Tab those earrings are 🔥 😊

Empty nesting is tough...You just have to pray for safety and that they keep in touch😢 I knew someone that had a scheduled date to go see her parents every Wed. And nothing came between her priority to her parents..not because they asked but because She wanted that. Wouldn't that be awesome if many considered it? Someday if its in the proper order...your parents will go first.. make at least 4 days a month...theirs.

TRUST YOUR RAISING! Its hard to let them go.

It’s hard to see them move out and be on their own. That’s our job to raise them to be independent responsible adults.

My momma would sleep in bed right after work when my older sister left the house...that's her way of dealing with her heartbreak. Idc what anyone says, raising independent daughters is sorrow and our holidays won't ever really be the same...I mourn now even though we are all living our own lives. ❤

I relocated from my native hometown at the age of 27 years old. Although, I moved out on my own at 25 years old. I gained my life experiences by being receptive of my new environment.

I love love how guys give a glimpse of your parenting and your different prospective of let letting her make her own decisions you guys are surely great parents

She will be fine. When I moved out of my mother's house. The first day in my own place. I left my keys hanging in the door handle. My next door neighbor knocked on my door to let me know. I was scared to death. I'm like who is knocking on my door. Nobody knows me here. I later laughed about it. But I will keep her in my prayers to be safe. She is very smart.

Seeing your daughters go is like losing your best friend. Them sons NAAAAWWWW. THEY LEAVE YOU.

❤You are so right! My kids are 21 and 22 and I tell these young moms who complain about their toddlers and grade school-age kids that you don't know stress until you get a call after midnight from a twenty-one-year-old who's moved out of the house. 😮

My 18 year old move away and I cry for weeks. In the other hand my husband is just like Chance cool like a cucumber. He also knows we always here for hi, and support him 100%> I know we did a great job and he is a fine young man with many goals to achieve.

Y’all looking good Dang black love looks Amazing

The look Chance gave Tab when she said, "your momma lived with us.".🤣🤣

Great discussion as usual! I feel this 1000%! On one hand, there is nowhere in the world that I can’t be if I need to for my 2 sons. On the other hand, they are roommates and wherever they are they need to have enough room for me🤣🤣❤❤❤ Choyce has an amazing support system. Blessings to all🙏🏾💖✨

The regret you mentioned regarding your mom, I have the same regrets about my dad. Your statement really resonated with me. I never had anybody say "me too" when I expressed that regret. Thank you!❤

Just imagine being from New Orleans, and your only daughter gets a full scholarship to St John's Law school in Queens, New York. We went to visit the campus, and it was beautiful. The staff there may me feel extremely comfortable. However, she's still my ONLY CHILD. I was losing it. Of course, I let her go soar like the eagle she is. Baby, I CRIED ON THAT CURB AT THE AIRPORT when I had to leave her. Chile, I cried so much security came to see if I was OK. Then, the pandemic happened. That's a whole new story. I know this feeling, y'all. The hardest thing now 4 years later is her checking in. I need to know you're ok. I need to see your face to know you LOOK OK!!! If only I can get her to understand this.

Tab, THIS AIN’T NOTHING!!! As a Mom of a daughter and son, when that boy leaves….JESUS!!! I love them both equally, but that Mother/Son bond is a lot. You’ve fully equipped them both with right, wrong, and SURVIVAL skills. As many Auntie’s and Uncles that Choyce has around the world…SHE GOOD!!!❤❤❤ Chase Chance around the house!!! AND …when they call there’s something in their voice that says Ma, I NEED YOU, and once you hear that peace in their voice, you’re OK!!! SN ..parenting starts at 18