How Your Anxiety May Lead to Depression 

To me social anxiety is the primary "engine" of the anxiety/depression duo. I get depressed because of the limitations my anxiety causes in my life, by avoiding so many "dangerous" situations. It's just depressing to feel "wrong" a lot of the time.

I wish you were my therapist. You are just so sweet and friendly. I wouldnt feel like I'm being judged! It's tough finding a good fit. It's worth the wait though. Thanks girl!

Kati when you described agitated depression you literally described me. I have every single symptom and situation you talked about and mentioned. That's insane. I'm currently taking Prozac but I really don't feel like it's helping. Im 26 years old and I've tried about 5 anti depressives and 5 anxiety meds. It's so frustrating. I can't hold down a job, a girlfriend a healthy relationship with my family or with myself. What do you recommend? Whoever reads this please like my comment so Kati sees it.

Having both Anxiety and Depression is like feeling everything at once but then feeling paralyzingly numb. It's a struggle but I've gotten better thanks to my doctors and family

Oh man, I never thought about it like that, but yes! It's all about avoidance! And even though I know I need to just face the issue and get it delt with, a lot of days I just can't get myself to that point.

I find my anxiety/depression is a cycle switching every few months - when my depression is bad my anxiety is fine it's like I don't even care about the things that normally would make me anxious. When I'm not feeling depressed my anxiety gets worse and I'm back to worrying about everything and everyone. I don't know why this happens

Having anxiety and depression myself, this was VERY helpful. Thank you

Came just at the right time. Thank you as always Kati :)

I got diagnosed with anxiety at the beginning of the year, I panic about 'pointless' things and I'm always tired, at night though I can fall asleep easily but can't stay asleep as I wake up several times . I have been told by other people I'm quite depressive which I know isn't good and been asked if I ever smile but CBT helped me a lot

Talk about perfect timing. Grieving the loss of my Dad and I'm a mess. I just don't wanna feel anymore.

I started getting mental help just a couple days ago, and I have severe depression and high anxiety... Thank you Kati!!

I want to thank you so much Katie. You came into my life at the right time. I was on a waiting list To see my therapist. When I started watching your videos a couple weeks ago I decided to make a stand and keep calling them until they got me in . I now go every Thursday to see my therapist. I am 41 years old and Have been through a horrific past. My anxiety And panic attacks stops me From living any kind of normal life.. In over 20 years of having panic attacks your the only person who Help me understand what's going on Within my mind, again I thank you so much. You are a wonderful therapist..

Thanks Kati for this. I’m a middle aged man in England and though we will never meet I owe you a lot. Having kind, thoughtful people like you in the world is a help to many.

I am SO happy I found your channel your videos always are so informative yet understandable. I just recently started counseling for my anxiety/depression/childhood trauma and your videos always make me feel better. So thank you for sharing and making the world a better place! 💞

Wish you were my therapist :' ( I have anxiety in general and social anxiety and depression and also IBS, and I also pluck my nails, which is recipe for a long lasting disaster, feeling numb and agitated at the same time is really terrible like you switch between them in milliseconds, so fast, not knowing which is which, how you feel and try to reason or fight back with your thoughts, I wish there was someone I could talk to without getting judged or feel even worse, I tried with a few people, they caused my anxiety level to go even higher that it was ever was before, its a vicious cycle, anxiety then IBS flares up then depression kicks in, I feel like I feel alive between these like mabe 2-3 days in a month if i'm lucky. I'm so glad I found your channel Kati, even listening to you I feel like I have friend that understands me and cares about me, Thank you.

Kati, thank you for doing what you do. I hate that so many people are blaming you for all of the backlash to Shane's series, but I wanted you to know that I only found your channel because of that series. I'm sure I'm not even close to the only one. Your work has already done so much for me realizing that it's okay to accept that the way I'm feeling isn't normal. I was raised in one of those households that claimed therapy "puts ideas in your head" and that all you really need is to suck it up. So for decades I've internalized all of the symptoms of my poor mental health as being just a part of my shitty personality. Through your videos, I've already realized at least a few of my issues aren't permanent and I don't have to live with them. I'm crying tears of relief as I type this just from knowing I can do something about it. I can't afford therapy now, but it's at least nice to know I can do something about it one day, and in the meantime I have a few resources to start coping today. So thank you for putting yourself out there, and please don't think it was a mistake to help Shane with that series. I know there have to be more people like me who found you that way.

Having depression and being suicidal since 10 years old has really taken a toll on me as a person, but I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos helping me get through it all!❤❤❤

This is such a good break down of the two and how they are different, but correlate as well. My therapist described it to me as depression is the mind living in the past and anxiety is the mind living in the future. Now we’re working on finding common ground- a place in the present

Who else felt this couldnt have come at a better time?? Great video thankyou

Thank you Kati! I hope that I'll be able to afford your book soon. You made this video and I didn't even know that I needed it. I've had anxiety coloring my depression for some time, and some times my depression can go and the anxiety stays. I didn't really know about bridge statements before but that is so much easier than trying to convince myself I'm the bee's knees. Have a good day!

When you described a person who always rethinks conversations and always focuses on what you did/say wrong or could've/should've done better.. thats basically me. Anxiety and depression have been controlling my life for years now and I feel like I'm beyond the point where it's still treatable. In my head I'm pretty much non stop trash talking to myself, how I'm not good enough, a burden to everyone, too ugly, too weak.. I'm starting to feel more and more ashamed of just being alive. I can't remember the last day withouth suicidal thoughts but I'm pretty sure it must be over a year ago. The only thing I can say about myself that I'm good at is hiding emotions. That's the way I've dealth with these issues all this time.. by keeping it to myself. If anyone cared enough to keep reading up to this sentence, thanks for your interest and I hope you have a great day!

My life has been almost completely dominated by anxiety and depression. The anxiety gets me depressed because it constricts my activity so much. But I've gotten to where I can keep myself entertained pretty well being completely alone. I do a little reading. Right now I'm reading "Anna Karinina". My niece sent it to me. I'm hoping to do more in time. I also dabble in writing. My imagination keeps me happy, but it also draws me away from other people. I live in an assisted living center for the mentally ill. It's a forgiving environment. It supplies me with enough company and activity. Life isn't bad.

Self talk is huge. When I notice my thoughts getting really negative I have to force myself to find something positive to focus on and consciously push away the negative self talk.

These videos are actually helping me and my fiancé understand how my anxiety and depression are linked. THANK YOU!

Could not have paused the video fast enough to preorder that book! So excited to read it, you’re always super helpful. Tough not being able to afford the therapist you used to see because of a hurricane screwing up your work schedule and not getting paid. So hopefully things will get better soon. Always an inspiration, Kati! Appreciate it❤️

Latelly my mind goes wild and nonstop the most in the mornings, just before going to work. And what I've found that helps me to quiet down those racing thoughts is putting on my headphones, and listening to my favorite music ABBA and sing along while listening.

hi miss kati,im not diagnosed of anxiety and depression,but listening at your youtube sessions gives me a realization that i may have that illness. i opened up with my parents about it but they dont take it seriously, i was unemployed for a year and it bothers me enough to take over my whole life. some people i know told me that im too lazy but my mind is freaking me out. im afraid to seek help. thank you for having that video. it really helps me alot.

I'm diagnosed with Clinical Depression with Anxiety. My mind races at night. I avoid stuff. Thank goodness for my therapist. Cognatibve therapy has been a big help. CBT and DBT are great tools. Thanks, Katy for sharing this video.

I’m depressed and have been depressed for three months and now I’m feeling anxiety. Thank you for your video!

Hi Kati , That was another great video !! Before I was battling Complicated Grief Syndrome , I too was fight the endless loop of anxiety / depression , for years. My depression would make me anxious / my anxiety would make me depressed. I have many outlets , I play music , I write , I enjoy helping others and offering what ever personal advice I can , but that does nothing to alleviate my distress. My physical symptoms and issues are IBS / C - Arthritis -Skin Disorders , all of which my therapist believes are related to my low self esteem / fear , ( although I have never been home bound ) and being constantly worried about tomorrow. When I first entered therapy , my therapist asked me to write down 10 things I like about myself , I said “ that is going to be hard , because I really don`t like myself very much at all “ however she asked me to try. To make a long story short , I started the assignment with “ What I like about myself “ and the first paragraph stated “ I really don`t like my self at all , but …” I ended up handing her a 4 page essay on ten things I appreciated about me , however I reiterated that I still don`t like myself very much. I only hope that someday I can do for me what comes naturally in helping others , maybe someday I can like myself. I am trying. Thanks Kati for always believing in me , although we are 3K miles away , I feel like you have help so much , sadly much more is needed , hopefully on Dec. 11th , more to my road to wellness will be noted , or as I mentioned to my therapist , “I designed this perfect bridge , the stress and load factors are perfect , the bridge could last for a thousand years. On the other side there are people that are happy and enjoying life , while I am to fearful if I even try to cross my prefect bridge because I am afraid my “perfect bridge” would collapse. Sorry for the “War & Peace” reply , I just thought you might like to understand me more . Thanks again for making this terrific video and I know Sean helped so please thank him for me. Take care , Gary 

I've tried for so long to make myself better. You finally get to a point where you know nothing you do will help...

WELL SPOKEN and we all find ourselves on strange highways from time to time. STAY STRONG everyone!!!

You are so inspiring to see our mental health as something that can constantly be improved! Love your work Kati!! I have been following you for a few years now and I was so happy to see you on Shane’s channel as well, allowing your gifts to reach even more people. Bless you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

My husband has anxiety connected to depression. He felt such strong dread that he wasn't able to drive to work or even call in sick. He would come back home and be depressed for not being able to work. He has been taking medication and seeing a therapist since May and I'm so grateful to see that he's feeling better; it's been a difficult journey for both of us, but it is so worth it. I'm cautiously optimistic that he will continue to feel better as treatment continues.

This video hit me so hard, it is scary how accurate your videos are for me sometimes

I just started watching and now I’m watching everyday. Even videos from 3-4 years ago. Thank you for theses videos.

Thank you for your videos, helpful and informative. I was diagnosed with both anexity and depression and currently on medications. For me, general anexity come first then depression with panic attacks occasionally. I was trapped in deep negative thoughts and felt suicidal. What helped me was that during negative episodes, I tried to find solutions, to start over and try new ways to feel better. One of these solutions was to seek a psychatrist help and it was worth it. Now i am feeling better and enjoying my life. My advice to you out there is keep a light during the darkness, and try and break the cycle even slowly but steadly things can be better in the future. Love and support from me to all of you, and stay positive😃.

I just got diagnosed with anxiety and depression and this is super helpful. Your videos inspired me to go get a diagnosis in the first place!

Two things you said in this video made so much sense and just sort of clicked things into place for me. Like oh, that’s why I do that. And you followed up right away with techniques, real things I can incorporate into my life to help. ❤️

These videos are a life saver. So many people might have anxiety , depression or both and not know it .

✅This stuff (depression & anxiety) really sucks but it doesn't have to take over your life. My avoidance was the use of drugs and alcohol for almost 20 years. Finally I found something worth fighting for (my beautiful family) and even though its an everyday battle, I stay on my medication and I am always trying to improve myself through therapy. Therapy comes in many forms; reading, writing, hobbies, exercise, sports, counselling, groups, psychiatrist (the most important). I couldn't agree with Kati more on this one, meds & dr. 🆗

Thanks for talking about this Katie. I was so confused about my own mental health as I though if I'm depressed then I'm not anxious, not realising that they go hand in hand. Now I know that I'm a person who has anxiety, and when it's spirals it can develop into 'agitated' depression whete at my worst I have no energy but cant sleep and have multiple panic attacks because I'm so tense/anxious all day! Thank you 💕

A wonderful video, I recently spent 4 months working through CBT with my therapist for anxiety and depression and it has really helped. So much of what you talk about mirrors how I felt. Periods of self loathing, not enjoying what I used to and being on edge all the time. At nights I used to go through all the ways my life was a series of terrible stupid mistakes. It took 2 years for me to realise that I had a problem and even longer to build up the courage to seek help. As I progressed through therapy my main regret was not doing it sooner.

Katiiii!!!!! I needed a reminder on that safe place resource you referred to. I’ve been having problems with sleep & mind flipping out in one of my alters. There was intense fear. But on the note of connection, where I live I have NEVER ran into anyone who either doesn’t have anxiety and depression together or one of them with another illness. So I’d wager they are are totally connected. I have both. Well I forgot what else I was going to say. Cheers & ty for another resourceful video. Keep up the great work!

I have generalized anxiety disorder, I saw 4 separate therapists and the first one kept trying to throw anti depressants at me saying my depression came from my anxiety it felt like NO one was listening to me it was so so so frustrating. I was trying to get help for the past 4 years. Nothing worked, finally this year I cracked and went on anti anxiety medication and it has helped SO much. I really didnt want to take medication but it seemed like there was no other option I could take. All the therapists I saw had waitlists over 2 months. So I couldnt even get a one hour app with the same therapist i saw the first time. I hate california tbh.

It took me 20 years to recognize (through finding the right therapist) that my thoughts have massive effects on my anxiety/depressive symptoms and that ultimately unchecked anxiety leads to depressive episodes. The tools you learn in CBT are life changing. Meds, exercise and meditation help too! All the best to my fellow sufferers- you can improve! ✌️

You are the answer to my problems. 🖤

Channels like yours give me hope that I can one day overcome my depression and anxiety. Subscribed!

Thank you so much for the work you do it means a lot to me. I have Depression and Axiety and I take medication and I am in Therapy. Thank you for bringing awareness to Mental Illness.

I'm a socially anxious dude. On the mild to moderate side. Talk therapy has done worlds for me. I live my therapist and all her input. I'm sure she's used some CBT on me, but I say that not knowing exactly. I describe depression and anxiety as two sides of the same coin. I've been anxious all my life, and depression creeps in and out with life circumstances. But with talk therapy, whatever comes my way, I know I'll be able to conquer it!

Bridge statements are really helpful. Convincing myself “they’re actually probably not talking about how ugly I am” moved to “maybe sometimes I look fine” to once in a blue moon “hey just in this moment, I’m kinda cute”. I still don’t like myself. But bridge statements are just one way to start easing yourself away from the blinding self hatred space.

Positive self talk needs to make a comeback!!! You rock ♡

I’m currently going through a really bad depression, started by the anxiety of being a graduate. I currently feel like I’m not good enough because I’m unemployed. I’m really glad you shared your info on bridging statements, people try to tell me I’m fantastic but I just don’t believe them. I personally believe I’m useless, but maybe now I can find that bridge to get me there! Thanks Kati! ❤️

I have been diagnosed with mixed anxiety-depressive disorder, and this has been very helpful. Thanks, Kati ❤️

you're the first person I've ever heard describe "anxious depression" which is so accurate for me! I feel like it's very common for these to be co-morbid. was actually surprised to see others' perceive them as conflicting, tbh

I swear Kati is watching us through our windows or something. PERFECT TIMING. Thank you Kati!!!

Thanks Kati for all the support and tips! I've struggled with both for majority of my life. I defintely relate feeling tired and lethargic during the day and non stop over thinking at night. Omg like I JUST want to sleep... but it all gets so much worse during the colder months and especially around holidays. Having both is l hell... you either care too much or not at all. I'm so glad you made this video. Positive vibes! 💕💕

I deeply feel that my anxiety and depression are related, but it was helpful to see the difference. And they each affect my mental state. And outlooks life, as well as myself. I’ll save this video for reference. And focus on getting a proper diagnosis. Thank you so much for everything! ❤️

I've got an irritating cocktail of mental health difficulties, and often times the overly positive, and optimistic "fake it till you make it" advice has left me feeling very demoralized and helpless because having had to deal with both, among other things make such strong statements very nearly impossible. Having had to mostly figure out how to do what you called "bridging statements" myself, I reeeeeeeeally, reeeealllly appreciate you making a point to talk about how sometimes you absolutely need to take it gradually; because it was SO HARD for literal years to bridge the gap between loathing myself, to even just accepting myself (which is basically where I am now)... and that's because just that gap, let alone to something as weird and uncomfortable as "loving myself" was simply too big, and like you said too overwhelming. Thank you so much for your excellent and helpful and uplifting channel! I am so glad I found yoooooooooou :B

Man she’s speaking right from my soul.. all the symptoms 🤒. Crazy once i started therapy i realized just how deep i was. I’ll be making an appointment with psychiatrist

Thank you. Finding your channel was such a watershed in my life

I'm new to this channel. Great video! I'm in therapy myself. Trying to deal with some difficult stuff. I Just wanted to say. I have watched a few of your videos and enjoyed every last one of them!!

She sounds so happy in this video!🌈

This is exactly what I needed today. I suffer with GAD and I really appreciate your videos on these topics. Thank you, Kati!

This is how my whole family is we all have depression and GAD and some of us lucky ones including me have panic disorder. But this video really helped me understand it all more. I am on medication and my depression pretty much is gone but my GAD is still present and I need to work on it everyday so this really makes me understand why that is. Thank you 😊

Your channel has a lot of useful information that is otherwise difficult to find on youtube. Thanks a lot on doing such videos there are very few therapists on youtube who can guide us correctly on what mental health looks like.

Thank you!!!!! I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Not fun. I have tried talk therapy and am struggling to open up at the moment. This video was good to hear that what I feel is normal for me. Thank you !! XXX

The timing of this video is perfect. The last several weeks I have been dealing with both. Appreciated the info on agitated depression.

This has quickly become my favorite channel to watch ❤

i'm honestly struggling with my mental health and i spoke to my mom about it, thinking she'll bring me to get some help. instead, she made me feel so guilty because she brought up how people elsewhere are struggling more and now i tend to get even more angry at myself every time i feel depressed because i feel like i'm just being ungrateful. she told me to just 'get over it', but if i could, i definitely would have by now.

TYSM for this video Kati

Thank you for discussing the importance of medicine and talk therapy in combination! I so appreciate the way you frame this issue - while not every person struggling with anxiety and/or depression will need medication, many do need that help to reduce symptoms to a point at which they are able to implement the tools and techniques they learn in therapy. In this way we are able to learn, practice, and internalize new ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Then, when we are ready to wean off the medicine, we have a stronger support system in place to help us develop and maintain a higher quality of life. So much research shows a huge benefit when therapy and medicine are combined!

root of the root self confidence. Awesome. Thank you, Kati!

Great timing Kati ♥

Just pre-ordered your book! I found your videos last month and they have helped me so much. Thank you.

I just found your videos and they are super helpful. Thank you! I’m really struggling with depression and self harm. Had quit for a long time but just recently started again and I’m not really sure why honestly. I feel like my brain is just an empty vessel that can’t be filled with any kind of thought process or anything and not sure how I can. Any sort of communication seems impossible. I’m sure I’ll figure it out at some point, but I wanted to let you know I appreciate what your doing 💕

Thank you so much for this! I’m excited for your book! 😊 I have both anxiety and depression (with anxiety being more dominant of the two) and I often feel like my anxiety, which I’ve experienced all of my life, has led to a sense of learned helplessness. Because it’s been going on for so long, I lose hope that I can get better, which is where the depression sneaks in! I’m getting there though 💪🏻

I’ve had depression and anxiety for 10 years. This was a great video, I’m really happy I found your channel ❤️

Thank you Kati, this swirling mix of anxiety and depression can be so difficult to sort out. I realize now that I've actually been using bridging statements. I've not heard it called that and nobody suggested that to me. But for the reason you mentioned, it made more sense that maybe I could strike a compromise with that negative voice and then begin to sneak in stronger and stronger positive statements. I might have to start chipping away at the wall with a small chisel, but just wait till I get stronger and can use a jackhammer. :)

This video came out at a great time. I’m finally going to see my family doctor on Wednesday to discuss the anxiety and depression that I have been battling for a long time. Thanks Kati for the video.

Really loving the breakdown and how you show the differentiation between the types of depression. Very helpful!

Wow, wow, wow, wow....this hit the nail on the head. The validation I feel is immense but at the same time I feel a bit dejected knowing it's a vicious cycle.

I really need you as my doctor ma'am. I cannot handle much more of life like it is.

Thank u so much Kati, you are an angel and Godsend 👼 😇

I do that same thing with the day's conversations, reviewing and analyzing them over and over .

Yes! I definitely feel like anxiety and depression are different ends of the same spectrum. I used to be overly aware and sensitive of everything. It was so difficult to process that I developed a handful of somatic symptoms (to the point where I would immediately become nauseous and get sick when conflicts arose in my relationship). Over time, it kind of felt like it was too exhausting to keep being anxious. I was still unsettled, but I eventually just began internalizing it all more and more to the point where it felt like my mind and body adapted and protected itself from anxiety by developing depression. I went from feeling too much, too strongly, all of the time to feeling nothing and feeling like I wasn’t even worth worrying about things going well in the first place. It’s been a process of breaking down those internalizations, but I’m getting there. ❤️

You're so flipping precious Kati

Proud patron, just like always. In your coping mechanism video, I had commented that a targeted swear jar could be a tool to monitor self talk. I really like your idea of bridge statements, and I'll be trying them.

Wow. You hit the nail on the head for me!! I suffer with GAD. Thank you!

I come here because u seen to care❤You don"t think we are all crazy...Thank u so much🙏❤✌

You saved my life. Thank you.

Thank you for this video Katie, this has finally given me the confidence to reach out for help; I am 100 percent experiencing agitated depression as a result of childhood trauma and hopefully getting closure on that trauma (and reaching out to a doctor in the meantime) will help lift this depression - then I can thrive rather than survive!!

For me it's like mild anxiety is my baseline, and then stressors occur which send me into an anxious spin, leading to a panic attack, or I give up and get depressed and don't want to do anything anymore. It's also about the direction of my thoughts. My anxiety increases when I'm thinking about the future and I'm worried about it, depression increases when I think about the past and my mistakes or traumatic experiences, and then it's a horrible feeling of despair and fear when I start to use past experiences to predict what the future will be like. I've been told that I need to practice grounding myself in the here and now and practice living in the moment more. When I've been able to do that, it does help, but it takes a lot of practice. My panic attacks are much shorter now, but they still happen. It takes a lot of practice and self awareness to recognise when I'm starting to spiral, and implementing grounding techniques before it gets to panic or explosion mode.

Found you through Shane’s videos and I’ve been bingeing your videos since. I love your channel. You make things seem so clear!

I found you from Shane's channel and I really love your content. You're a wonderful person and using your expertise to help others in this way is incredible. This video really helped me, as I have both of these diagnoses and sometimes I feel so confused because I definitely have agitated depression and I had no idea it was linked in this way. Thanks for the enlightenment 😊

I’m happy to subscribe and start watching your videos. This one in particular is relevant to me and I found it very helpful. The timing is a little ironic as well. I hate to admit it but I never seen your content until I saw you on Shane’s series and after your video with Jason and Trisha but The world works in mysterious ways. Im glad I found your channel. Thank you

I also think it’s so important to switch therapists if you feel like maybe your diagnosis is not right or they are not looking at the whole picture. First I was diagnosed with anxiety then I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder then I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder which I feel is the most accurate. Thank you so much for being a champion for mental health awareness because I did not know any of this when I was in school. My anxiety and depression was so severe in college that I was suicidal and it caused me to have to drop out. I wish so much that I could turn things around and get help at that time to prevent me from basically ruining my career path. I would avoid classes like the plague and even after I dropped out I had nightmares for years. But, I’m on a new path now. And things are great.

I was against medication for a long time because it doesn't address underlying issues. But I've come to realize how much I'm missing out on because of my anxiety--and how much feeling like I'm constantly under attack is affecting me. It may not fix things, but I'm hoping it'll help me slow down the negative feedback loop of anxiety->avoidance->punishment->anxiety enough so I can keep fixing things. I've gotten better but it's still hard. Thanks for the video, Kati :)

So freaking clarifying! I'd never clearly realized that the root cause could be a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence, this is a game changer for me. Thank you so much!

Great video Kati, thanks for helping people