Humble request to all girls, please don't try to be friends with the guy after he has proposed and you have turned down his proposal. Like you can't start loving him, exactly the same way he can't stop loving you. So please, let him be. If he is ignoring you, that's his coping mechanism. He can't do anything about it nor can you help him with it so don't try. Let him grieve, he will come out of it stronger but don't force your friendship on him cause that's not how things work with guys. Give him the time and space to process all the unexpressed feelings that he has for you. Before he has unloved you, you guys can't really be "just friends" and you'll be holding him back from moving on in a way. Just go make new friends and enjoy your life and so will he. Agar kishmat mein tum logon ka friends banna likha hoga toh ban jaoge. Patience people patience. Life won't stop for either of you. You will make other good friends in future, maybe even better than the last one trust me. But for now give yourself and them the mental space to think and reflect on what you want from your relationships. And boundaries are always important. If you can't love him and he is respecting your boundary, then you should do the same when he says, he can't be your friend. My friend, life is really very short so, stop wasting your time on unnecessary pursuits.
The line "wahi hua jo ek ladka aur ladki ki dosti mein kabhi hona nahi chahiye.." is so true...... True friendship is really precious and should stay as it is, if possible.. Cudos to Vanika dii for expressing the story and its message so beautifully
Right Same point " wahi hua jo ek ladka or ladki ki dosti me nhi hona chayie" is absolutely true .True friendship is really Special ❤️ & I wish stay as it is , if possible
Maine bhi ye galati ki , hum 3 friend ka triangle tha ( mai , prince and himanshi ) hum humesha jaha bhi jate the 1 hi scooty me jate the ,but jab maine apni feelings share ki usko , sb khatam ho gaya 😌 , ab vo dusre jagah shift ho gayi hai aur prince aur mai bs vahi hai , 1 mahine bad kal ( NEET KI EXAM KE BAD ) jab humne milne ka plane banaya to usne kaha 2 gadi me aana , usse ek aur ladki ko bula liya tha jo mere sath baithane vali thi , mere ko is bare me kuchh pata nahi tha , jab hum dono gadi lekar uske pg ke samne gye to vo bahar aayi aur prince se huge karke uske sath baith gayi , usne hand sake bhi nahi kiya mere sath even dekha bhi nahi , bahut bura laga 🙂 aisa lag raha tha ki mai pahle usse mila hi nahi hu vo prince ki friend hai aur mai uske pichhe pichhe aaya hu 😢, fir himanshi ke ghar se call aaya aur usne prince ko drop karne kaha , aur chali gayi , mai bahut jyada apne pe gussa hua maine achhi khasi dosti kharab kar di 🙂 , aur uski friend ko gadi de diya aur prince ko bina bataye bus se room aa gaya 😌❤️
@@princesinha4741bhai dekh tum dono apni jagah sahi the Aisi feelings control krna hamare bus me nhi hota..bas ho jata h!! Tumhari dost bhi glt nhi thi. Move on kro bhai life me aage bht kuch h krne ke liye 🫂
Bing a boy we can understand that what happened in SK's mind. And the fact is there is nothing wrong between you two, you are right form your side so as SK. after the age of 28 when we remembered this thing we can understand the situation more intuitively. That fact is that falling in love with a friend is never be a wrong thing but expecting the other person will love us the same way is wrong, we can't expect somebody to love us.
nothing remains same when any person starts feeling like that. No matter what. world need more people who can understand that friendship is one of the most beautiful relationships in the world and for any other feelings that comes later for that we must not let go the best friend.
If you really values your best friend then why not you accept their love.. Agar pyar k liye dosti ko todna glat h to dosti ko tootne se bachaane k liye pyar kyu accept nhi Kiya ja skta is duniya m. Log dosti k liye jaan bhi de dete h... Jaise karn ne mahabharat m duryodhan k liye kiya tha Or bhi kafi examples honge
@@devgupta1217 same gender friendship is entirely different from opposite gender in general. And best friendship doesn't mean both will experience same feelings for each other. Also, it doesn't mean if someone denies that he/she doesn't love you that doesn't mean he/she doesn't respect friendship. This kind of mentality must be changed. Speak whatever in your mind but don't expect answer YES always.
@@devgupta1217 can you love your mother like a lover - sunne me hi kitta ajeeb lgta h. Can you love your same gender frnds like a lover - you can't , can you love your sister like that . So how can you expect a friend of the opposite gender to love you like a lover. No doubt love hr relation me h. But nature to alg alg h na hr relation ka.
Coincidentally , I'm going through this same phase ❤️ I miss our friendship over his love ❤️ , now for him I'm just a villain who was just playing with his emotions but all I did just not to break his cold heart again .... He was my best friend ❤️
(Un)Fortunately I am brave enough to hold all my emotions.. I don't want to loose her.(I can Smell rejection Cz, IK her priorities, problems, comfort zone) Yup It hurts sometimes, carrying the mountain of feelings still *Hum dost hi theek hain*
Lossing a person to whom u loves the most was most painful one that only a person who has gone through it can realise....... every pain has its own values in the life of the person who bears it.....
@@taliquotesaccount5527 then u shouldn't console me,....Need of consolation is there where someone can't withstand after this, but we both withstand......
Same is the case with me. Our conversation started in a study group where we used to fight on every possible occasion then after some time suddenly i left the group. After 3,4 months he approached me to help him in his ppt and i said yes. We started sharing many things and secrets. I was so happy to have a friend like him as he was the only one with whom i can share my problems. But one day i noticed that there is something more than friendship from his side and i asked him directly. And he said yes he liked me and want to marry me. But i make it clear to him that I'm not ready for anything like that and he is just really good friend. He said ok but nothing is like before. I have to think twice before texting him. I can't share my problems with him the way i used to do. I really missed those old days.
I had gone through this situation last year but she made me clear on that very day that she has no feeling for me . On thatel day i really felt very bad but i apologized her but still there was something latent in some deep corners of my heart... And it was just a question "Why? "..and after listening this tale I got my answer ... i realized she was right. Thanku my jigar ki tukadi😙
You know what ,I started listening 🎧 this type of poetry because these stories are highly relatable and your voice are amazing ☺️ . your all story has deep meaning 👍. Thank you vanika ❤️❤️
Great Story Vanika. Every story you bring comes with great sense of thoughtfulness and reflects how deeply you would have thought about every minute thing which we usually dont pay heed to.. Also Yeah Its very hurting when you want to stay with a friend but you know he/she may dislike you if you pour your heart out.
in tears.. really can happen with anyone and its important to let the other person know what you feel and not feel pressured into saying smtg you dont feel
Great story by Vanika Every time in our life.There are alot of movement when we don't try hurt someone But Situation is made like that we don't say no to special person. Great respect to Vanika who present himself in such platform without any hesitation.
Ahhh....this is exactly my storyyy.... The guy was my friend...the best one....i could share anything...like anything with him...We enjoyed a lot...and after some time he proposed me....He had feelings for me...for abt 3 to 4 years... And at the fear of losing him forever'.... Breaking his heart... Making him friendzoned... I said yes...i love u too... Ahhh ....i tried...to love him...with all my heart... everything I had...i was actually on the way...but...alas that broke... completely.... He said....that one of my friend and i...we can have a relationship.. i mean he said my friend likes me...and i should stay away from him kinda things....ahhh .....he didn't trusted me...in a way I broke down so bad... I broke off the relationship...he tried to connnect the dots...i ignored.... Now he moved on...with a girl... And i am left completely alone... With a broken heart.... I was onlyyy trying to protect him.... But.... 💔
It's really hard to lose a friend who meant a lot to u...even my friend also started liking me but I said no clearly I started ignoreing him but I didn't also want to lose him so I tried my best to kept in touch.. He never forced me for relationship I felt really bad for him but I really dont have feelings so how can I say yes? but yes our frndship somehow destroyed we stop sharing things now we are just like normal frnds and it really hurts me that why we are not like before 🙂🙂
@@swatirath6139 Yess...i know this.....The pain .......U must have got hurt to great level....And i can't imagine...what he would have felt.....It's so strange...We wanted friendship forever...instead got hurt forever....those empty spaces that were earlier theirs...can't be shared now.....with anyone.....
There is a thing like we understood each other's perception feelings but still we don't try to accept that like in my case I know I am hurting him still I want him for the sake of our friendship then he also knew that I don't like him but he didn't want to accept that...we understand everything but showed like we don't. He always said he never want a bf gf relation our relationship is beyond that he didn't want to lose me so he wanted to accept him..everyone said I will regret it someday that I reject him but why no one thinking about my feelings... I really thinked about it but I could not felt anything from the start and even after thinking alot my answer was no I didn't want to give him fake hopes so I broke his heart with the truth
Beautifully written and the way she presented it was so real. I guess har kisi ki life me aisa ek moment to aata he hai jaha aap friendship ko bachane ke liye kuch jhoot bol dete hai and it hurts much jore after that..........
This was tooooo good! And very true. This happens often. But yes, we need to be honest with the person, even if you need to hurt them in the process. Sad truth of life 😔
You know same happens to me as well But luckily at the time of my friend's confession to me I honestly and truly tell him at that time - I would be better if we will be good friend forever. Thank god he understood me and I didn't lost my friend
After listening to you i think everything was going good and awesome.Actually people look for a partner who can also be a good friend. I think there was something that was not allowing you to accept that person as a partner, may be his financial stability or his thoughts towards career.I think in this story girl was actually having almost everything that a girl look for in a partner but there was something not that she was surely expecting in his partner.
sad to say but it's not true. I'm in a same situation as her, only difference is my friend never actually proposed me but his friend accidentally told me about his feelings. so I know he loves me and loves me hard. also, his actions speaks loudly. he's that person with whom I can share anything, literally anything. he's the one who knows almost everything about me, even my parents and siblings don't know me that much. he's a guy which every girl desires. he's sweet, he's handsome, he's caring, he's intelligent, he's literally everyone's dream guy. but he only loves me. he never looks at any girl like that. and he's my best friend. i trust him with whole heart. but I never felt anything romantically towards him. i know he's heartbroken cause he has already given up on me without proposing. he knows I can't accept him cuz I've seen him as my friend all my life. i cant see him in another light. it's not about "not having good career" or "not having good financial condition" or "not having same beliefs/opinions". it's just my heart wants him as a friend, not a boyfriend. as a friend I can be more free with him. but if we become couples I can't be that much free. it's all about heart, not any conditions or situation
Like I listened it from his side the same phase of my life .it gave a relief when she said "some deserves whole of our heart and so we must let them know the truth " It gave me wet eyes & a bit of relief .that it was meant to be this way .💐I really wants to just hug him by crying a lot to say I don't want to love you .let's be friends buddy ❤️.pls
Uske dil tutne 💔ki awaz mere bhi kaano tk ayi thi Thoda to mera dil bhi roya tha Kuch galat ho jane k dar se Maine bhi ek dost khoya tha🙂 Tried something for 1st time from my own experience ❤ Btw you are just awesome 🥰🥰
This is the only relationship I'd like to have with any female or basically anyone per say, female's just need to build up their courage and confidence, and men just need add some sense in their minds. This way existing kinda becomes a whole lot better with literally anyone or anything...!
Babe I tried. I friendzoned him 15 years ago telling we are just friends. Move on. But he is still there waiting. And I have still not fallen in love with him. I have to remind him on every interval that I don't have feelings for him and he just says ' kya maine tumse kuch kaha hain ' . It has been 15 years and no I don't think I will fall in love with him ( I love him as a human he is the nicest ) but not love love. And just because he is waiting ( god knows why) I won't be able to fall in love with anyone again ( because #guilt ) and just because he is in love with me doesn't mean I will have to fall for him ( yeh sochke mein bhi nahi parungi uske pyar mein ) so hashtag single forever.
When a person who is in friendship with you starts liking you and if it's one sided,things start getting complicated..We either push that person away or start ignoring them ...after confession everything changes.....
Ahhhaaa!🤗💝❤ She had written a part of it-"Some people deserve our whole and if by any chance we can't give them that,it is important to let them know"❤ You are an inspiration for me di:))💗 You have no idea how much freedom and warmth you have brought into my life!💌❤
i just felt like i was listening my story with your words but yeah it's hurt when we loose the important person, and our best friend for life time..... and that hurt more than the breakup.....
I did the exact same mistake in my schooling days. I proposed my best friend. She said yes because she don't want to hurt me. Then at the last day of 10th std she said "I didn't wanted to hurt you so I said yes, but there is nothing from my side" And as usual I replied like "I hate you". It's been 6 years now and I'm still finding it difficult to move on with any other girl. And now I just left the hope of making girlfriend, will do arrange marriage and till then I'll just enjoy flirting with every other girl 😅 Update : She married in Dec 2023. And I'm still at the same page. Dang, first love is difficult to forget.
Actually When u boys flirt with someone then most of the time we catch the feelings Isliye mat kiya karo😑 And ho sakto ho jisko flirt kar rahe ho vo tumhare liye 1st na ho par tum kisike liye 1st ho sakte ho.🥂
@@shiwanisinghsisodiya3070 Naah...!! Girls know that we're flirting with them. Because when you really love someone, it can be seen in the eyes. We start caring about them, we spare time and spend with them, etc. But in case of flirting we don't usually spare special time for them. It's just timepass which girls know it very well. But I do agree that sometimes girls fall for that. But it is how it is. We can't do anything.
@@rushabhlegion2560 healthy flirting is good only when the other party knows what you are doing. Just like how not all guys flirt, not all girls know. So, you are just leading people on as a result. So, you are accountable. You can't say this is how it is . Because you are choosing to do this, you aren't victim of a situation but you are prone in making someone a victim of yours. Well karma hits one way or other. Don't worry
@@UnknownUser-qh6rf Bruhh, most of my female friends know, I'm a big of flirt. So they mostly don't mind. And if I see someone is taking it seriously, I let her know the truth. And to be honest, after joining a job, I'm not having much time anyways. So chill.
@@rushabhlegion2560I can feel you bhai.. Your Update is painful for me too, & I'm happy that you moved on, vese b Job me bakchodi k liye samay nahi miltaa apne ko... That's bro code, Dil to sabka toota hai, but the Life must go on
Vanika Jiii what a way of story telling!! I like how tape a tale potrays the story of everyone!! Sbki hi story telling acchi h but Vanika jii jaisi baat nhi 😩🔥❤️ Pls Tape A Tale thoda jldi release kra kijiye 🔥🙂✌️
Felt it hard🍂! Yeah , for the first time I also hated the fact that i was lovable..and in that melancholy lost one of my greatest friend. You know , I always wanted a friend like you and my search was over after I found you...but it all ended ..that too bluntly !
There is nothing like friendship between girl and boy. If you thing it's wrong. either of them feeling for other person that's how conversation start. if both don't have feeling for you, he/she won't infract . someone is bound to love the other. and that's the fact my friend
Thankyou Vani-ka for providing such a wonderful lessions to many friends and reviving stories of many others. I'm sure you shared a living exoerience of many and I hope it acts as a catalyst. Tbise who lost their precious friends can share this to them. I hope you come back together again
Di this is not a story of your life but also a special msg and solution for those peoples who suffered from this thing 😊❤ But also awesome video it was❤💕
Didi you know what mere sath bhi similar scene huyi thi but main ne uss point prr bol diya tha ki i don't feel for you and didi you know cheezein uske baad bhi bahut ajeeb thi like I had to push her away for sometime because I don't want to hurt her more and didi sabse buri baat patta ha kya thi, ki aap ka friend uss time akela hota hai aur woh jiss heart break se guzar rha hota hai aap khud ko uske liye gunegar btane lgte ho aur main ne bhi aesa he kiya tha prr didi main shayad bahut lucky tha bcs woh waqt ke sath ye baat smjh gayi thi ki one sided love do exist aur esmein meri koi glti nhi hai and I'm glad ki hum phir se friends bnn ske but abb ess dosti mein woh baat nhi hai.... i wish di ye dosti sirf dosti he rehti.... Aur haan didi tbh aap ka bolne ka style kitna jydaa acha ho gaya hai aap phele he itni achi thi aur abb usse bhi jydaa achii ho gayi hai aap dil he jeet linn didi aaj you are the best didi, aap best hai bss because main ne aap se aap ki stories se itnaa kuch sikha hai na ki puchiye mtt like apni glti ko accept krna dusron ko judge na krna and most important jo i believe meri sabse jyda help kiya hai woh hai ki kbhi bhi pyar ki umeed khtm na hone dena pyar krne ka risk lete rehna idk isko words mein kaise likha jaye but ik aap meri baat smjh he jayein ge😅 so thank you didi for always being there for me for always showing me the correct path di🙂
*How much we deny the reality... The TRUTH is... A girl and a boy can never be just "GOOD FRIENDS" after they have shared their personal matters like feelings, emotions, likes, dislikes, experiences or whatever. They gradually start developing feelings for each other but they shape it and present in the form of friendship. How much they hide it, but truth is truth.* *You know, friendship matlab feelings develop karna hi hota h kyuki jab tak hamein apne friend ke liye feelings nhi h(any gender) then hamari friendship true nhi h... Anyways, there's a slight difference,,, jab same gender ke friends hote h to hum vaisa feel nhi karte but opposite gender ke sath (agar achhi friendship h to hi) aisa feel hota h ki we like him/her and our mind take it in a different way. Maybe one of the reasons is movies, web series, songs etc. that make us feel the same way and ofcourse the Human Nature and Desires.* *Let's talk from a girl's point of view...(cause I'm a girl)* *Girls first wish to be just friends but eventually starts developing feelings.. a naive one like me think it's very wrong and try to get out of it, as a result.. they end up crying because they want to befriend, don't want anything else but they have developed feelings and can't stop thinking about it.* *That's why I say... All this just gives instant pleasure and it's a harm in long term because it changes your mindset regarding everything, makes you weak and even more emotional.* *Intelligent (in terms of EQ) is the one who has friends but is able to control everything, again... like me🙂. Control in the sense agar feeling aaye bhi to ignore karna in the way.. ki ye sab to common h chala jayega abhi apne kaam pe focus karte h.*
Hey I'm just intelligent (EQ) , I just think if krishna and draupadi can be best frnd then why can't we, thing is that we need to manage our emotions in that way😊
Dear aap ki post dekh k hi pta lag jata hai aap intelligent ho, because jis tarike se aap ne explain kiya hai na such me it touched my heart ❤ thanks a lot 🙏
Someway I can relate it too . So I think ... But SK shouldn't confess this too fast , he could have taken time time tuning together n that part that she want him as a friend . For his image she replied positively which later became fact of hating her . See It's a very complicated for guys that he loves that girl but the girl wants only friendship . It's like what about him . It's nobody's fault at that moment. Cause boy likes her n want her as love but girl wants friendship . At last any one could get what they want or everything gonna ends in hating .... That's the ending here. If one compromises by stepping back the relationship would be saved . It would be good for one who wanted that thing n would be hurting n silently killin from inside for who compromises cause pure samay Mann mai yahi chalta rheta ki kash esa hua hota ya kash esa hota kash smj jati n all . Andr se vohi rheta . Soo I SK SHOULDN'T had said what he replied at last and ended . He should be with her after soughting out things . N try to get her afterwards . Hating n telling u could have left is like ....ye sb doglapann hai yrr . He wouldn't let her go if he loved her truly, basically he liked so I don't he did wrong or right. Jst imagine if he didn't replied like this the old thing could get back . N tuning together , getting more on each other . I'm quite sure that girl's jigr ka tukda would have changed from friendship to something more . Thats my hypothesis . What's urs ?
Aai haai, tu Vanika, mein Kishun. The same thing hit my mind and just let her go. It's just two characters in the same story but situation thik ulta tha. Really relatable to me. Thanks for this video. Tape a tale never misses to give us hope to feel something better.
For this reason I feel that we shouldn't fall in love with our frnds. Atlast we only loose them especially when it's one sided. But thn the truth comes that 'pyar btake thodi hota hai, voh kisi se bhi ho skta hai'.
Moral to the boys: don't start love with friendship. Movies me accha lagta hai.. but in reality, "main toh tumhe sirf apna dost samajhti thi", hi sunne ko milta hai.. Advice: If you think you like someone, gather some courage and start conversation in flirty manner and start dropping hints that you like her, from the beginning. And make her feel differently in non-friendly way. ( Note: Don't be toxic. Just don't approach her in usual way; friendzone way. )
Kahaniyan to bohot sunne ko milti hai par kopl didi aur vanika didi ke kahaniyan hamesha special hotihai✨ love the way you bring every story back to life...😍
He likes you because you both were real to each other! ❤️ 3:43 you said your answer. I can relate with this story and currently in this situation itself💔
To be very honest... I never comment no matter how much I loved the poetry... But this one just got too deep in my heart.. I just thought you were reciting my story with a little different content... That was really hard😍❤❤❤ I wish the other person in my story watches this video too.. Might this change something 😜🤣 Anyways... This will always be one of my most favorite poetries I've ever listened... Just awesomely beautiful 😍😍😍❤❤❤❤
I had a friend in my 8th grade. She was so funny and cute, we used to talk whole day, from early morning to late night. Then after a few months, I started having a crush on her and made the same epic mistake... I proposed her. Then... Well then I got blocked. After some days I talked to her and told to unblock me, which she did. We again started talking normally like nothing ever happened but my crush on her grew more and more because of that... So the stupid me proposed her once again... (And I again got blocked...) After some time she unblocked me by herself, and we started talking again and the same story repeated (I guess I proposed her 4-5 times and got blocked for equal number of times) After 8th I changed my school and we drifted apart... For years I used to miss her so bad... Then one fine day of my 11th grade, I approached her on social media. Then we again started talking and we became close again. This time I did not do the same old mistake again coz I realized the importance of friendship and it's limits. I realized that it's not necessary for the other person to feel the same way as you and to say yes. Two persons can be a lot more to each other while staying friends. I love her so much till date, and she knows that. Our friendship is now stronger than ever and I'm glad that I realized my mistake and got a person like her in my life.♥♥ ♥
Agar tumhe sach mein usse pyar hota.. toh tum tumhare feelings ko kabhi bhi nahi badal sakte... towards her... It's Impossible to be as a "Just Friend" With your crush or with whom you are emotionally attached💯
@@seedhibaat.nobakwaasExactly. Better to move on. Kal ko Instagram pe uski Marriage pics dekh loge, fir itne extra saal ka attachment jeene nahi dega...
I truly appreciate your words ❤️ like amaze to me ....... But you can't feel the pain when it hurt you back when your loved ones is always not wid you.......
Its so much true that what's for you it comes your way just like this video which was truely truely same to mine story...i don't know but tears came out of my eyes just by listening the line i you can't love the person just let him know...wish i could get a change to reverse that moment in my life and throw that regret out of my life as whole...😔
The story you bring everytime gives an intense feeling of our inner side We all somehow deal or experience it and you pour it into ur poetry and recite so beautifully Ur last vdo was too beautiful And every vdos so This one has my whole heart 💙🖤too Gob bless you 😇😇
I dont really understand that if things like this happens between two best friends of opposite gender, why can't we just behave maturely ? We both know that we understand each other like no one ever would. We weave a lot of dreams about our future partener, but we don't wanna be with each other forever. We want some some 'sapno ka rajkumar/rajkumari ' for marriage who we don't even know about, but we don't consider our best friend for lifetime. No matter how pure your intentions are, they will always throw you like garbage from your life. This situation is really disappointing.
You just told my whole story and feelings Vanika❤. I still miss him, and his childish way of being with me everytime. And holding my back in all the situations just like a best friend , That I had wished everytime since my childhood, But then I lost it after the proposal. I should have told him that I love him the most as my best friend forever , And I didn't wanted any chance to lose him at all💔 I accepted the proposal but didn't treated him the way I should have done. We didn't worked as couples but we were fire as bestfriends❤ Sometimes its too late to tell someone, their importance in our life. I don't know But I am still in that guilt and I can't get out of this. I wish we could be bestfriends again❤ I will give you all my love as a bestfriend is supposed to. I love you buddi💓
This just happens. Nobody can be blamed. These stories starts like that, goes like that and ends like that. You were right when you said you dont love me but I was also truthful when I said I love you D. And our paths never crossed again in last 11 years. Take care D.
Uff Felt Like Somewhat of My story but little Altered. I was also in a relationship and said yes for it because I felt that she shouldn't get hurted and I can't loose her. But at the end it was even worse than what could have happened if i had said hum dost hi sahi hai yar. PS:- I Don't Know Why i am sharing this But I Rarely Have a Crush on Someone. But Have A Crush on Vanika Since I Started Listening Her a Long Time Ago. Just Felt Like Saying It Today 🙃❤️
That was such a amazing story Vanika...❤️ You are superb as usual with your words and narration ❤️ The message in the end is really nice and can be relatable...but yeah it's hard to lose someone who is very special to us
