Husband is done having kids, but I still want another child: LIVE chat 

Aww, well first, congratulations! This is just your first baby together. Give it some time. The newborn stage goes by really fast so hold onto every moment because it seriously flashes before your eyes. You may not feel that way right now though. Try not to stress about it. You have a newborn to care for and yourself to take care of. That's awesome you are breastfeeding btw! High five!! Again, just hang in there and hopefully his heart will change a little down the road. :)

Thank you for your encouraging comment! I definitely feel priveleged and lucky to have 2 amazing, healthy kiddos because I know some can't even have one. It's heartbreaking! I know it's all in God's hands and I have to put my trust in Him. And you're right, he will either soften my husbands heart or help mine heal. I would never trick him into having another baby. That's just so selfish, dishonest, and inconsiderate. If I do have another baby, it's because we both want to and are both on the same page about it. I'm trying to take one day at a time. Right now, we are both working on growing our careers and becoming more financially independent so I'm afraid to bring it up because it's definitely not a priority right now. Like you said, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Thanks again for your love, encouragement, and support!! It's comforting knowing someone else cares.

Aww, thanks for your love and support! You're welcome! It's definitely a topic that is not discussed very often out in the open. Based off of the many comments on my original video, there are so many people going through the same thing. I'm so sorry you are also going through this. Sending you positive vibes and hope!

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your encouragement!

Thanks so much Kamille! Maybe I'll do another live stream on this topic since there are many who are impacted by it. I have similar feelings too. I definitely feel overwhelmed at times just with my 2 toddlers, but part of it is their age too I think. One's 2 and the other is about to turn 4. But there is the financial side to consider for sure! That's the main reason my husband doesn't want a third. And I totally get it! I feel like I'm on a tight rope juggling all of my feelings and emotions on this. Haha! I'm also hoping you can find peace and contentment with your journey. Thx for your support!!

Ugh! It's so hard isn't it! To me, 3 is the perfect number for having kids. 3 beautiful lives and souls that I have the privelege of mothering. Try not to lose hope! You have a really young child at the moment. Maybe after they get a bit older, you can revisit the possibility of trying for a third. Best of luck and I wish you well!!

You're too sweet! Thank you!!!

Thanks for sharing!

Thanks for your comment! Adoption is not something we would consider. Don’t get me wrong, it’s an amazing thing to do. But we wouldn’t adopt for the same reasons my husband doesn’t want a third child (financials, etc). Also, I feel like your heart and mind have to be in the right place before adopting. You have to be ready to accept and love a human being that you didn’t create and you’d have to be prepared for if they develop mental health issues later in life. There’s a lot to consider! And I don’t think I’d ever be in the right place, especially considering our future goals. I appreciate the thoughtful comment!

@@nourishedmotherhood6381 adoption is something I would consider but my husband won’t!!! He doesn’t want another baby, adopt or compromise in any way!!! Please don’t wait till you are 49 like me. You already know it but you will have to face this with him so do no cave in!!! This is obviously huge for you that you are telling about it to the whole world besides your husband!!! I agree with you that there is no real value behind a soul of a child that you will bring into this world!!! Would love to talk to you more…do you have a fakebook group or something?

Thank you for your encouragement! I'm definitely not looking forward to how I'm going to feel down the road. I'm just taking one day at a time. We have 2 awesome kids and I'm so lucky. I try to always consider and hold on to that. I'm going to give it some more time before bringing it up again because we are so busy with our 2 toddlers right now. I don't have a facebook group. Maybe I should create one! Thanks for the idea!! My heart goes out to you too and what you are going throgh as a mom. It's so heartbreaking, but I'm glad to have people who I can relate to. Thanks again!

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Thanks Paul, but that is your opinion. Obsessed is not the right word. I feel more drawn or pulled to have more kids. It's a deep, in-the-gut/heart feeling. You can't place your views on kids onto everyone else. We are all in very different life situations and we all have different values, goals, emotions, etc on the topic. I'm still allowed to have my own opinions and feelings on the matter. It's my life!

@@nourishedmotherhood6381 control those feelings dont let them control you to the point of crying

You're welcome and thanks for your comment, but that's a little harsh don't ya think?! I'm curious, do you have children? Have you experienced the same issue? I'm sure we both have selfish desires when it comes to wanting or not wanting another child. I truly love my husband and respect him. I'm pretty sure I mentioned that in my original video if you want to check it out. However, we are both the "heads" of household in our family. He is not more important or less important than I. We are equals. But, we are also independent and have different views, desires, goals, and opinions on things. That's where we have to come together to love and support each other and truly reflect on what it is the other person wants or needs. That's what marriage is all about. It's about sacrificing something of yours for the other person. Wives and mothers are worthy of the same respect.

@@nourishedmotherhood6381 I think your desire is very legitimate, but what's lawful is not always profitable. I'm not trying to make my comment solely about finance but it definitely doesn't exclude it either. Yes I have children, I have 3 as a matter of fact. Yes, you and your husband are equal in the eyes of God, but not in the decision making. He is the head, you submit to and follow his authority as YOUR husband! Your husband has a moral and innate charge as a man to protect and provide for you and his offspring. According to you, he's doing that quite successfully so celebrate that. Stay in your lane. Furthermore, you TRYING to persuade your man/ husband to have ANOTHER child with you is not your lane. You're not even having success at persuading your husband. Why? Because your decision is NOT the most expedient! Men think logically, not emotionally. If HE wants children, you let him make that decision for his own household. In the meantime, trust God, His ways, and His timing, not yours.

That's awesome you have 3 kiddos! Did you and your wife both want 3? Or did one want more or less? You have to understand that you cannot project your views, opinions, beliefs, feelings, etc. about your household onto another household or person. What you and your wife decide to do is your buisiness and your choice. I would never tell you that what is best for my family is also what you should follow. I completely realize that men think differently which is one reason I respect my husband. There are many times I hold fast to his decision because of this. I put my feelings and emotions aside. Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken (probably taken out of context, but still relevent). I am also a provider. I work a full-time job while also keeping up the house, taking care of the kids, etc. Furthermore, if not having another child causes me to have severe depression, pain, emotional trauma, resentment, regret, etc., don't you think as my partner, who protects and provides for me, could flex a little and become more open to the idea? I'm not forcing him to have another. I'm not even pursuading him. I honestly don't every bring it up at this point. I just think there is so much more to consider than money and physical objects because we both know we don't take those with us when we leave this earth. We take the joy, love, and memories of our family and children with us. I like to think so at least. Why not put the joy and happiness of a new life above money or financial freedom.

@@nourishedmotherhood6381 the fact of the matter is this, if your husband is not even reconsidering on his own accord, then having another child with you is an unequivocal no! And it's a mute at this point. The real lesson is for you, not for him. You must believe that he has ALL of your best interests!The question is, do you believe that?

@@bhicks1098 No, I don't believe that because he is an imperfect human being just as I am. He is self-seeking at times just as I am. Regardless, my goal is to move forward as a team. He has convinced me to change my mind about many things in life for my good or for his good and I have the ability to do the same.