I Am, I Want, You’re In My Way: Healthy Self Esteem vs. Unhealthy Narcissism - Rabbi Manis Friedman 

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"To be a realist in Isreal, you have to believe in Miracles " David Ben Gurion

Well I figured out who crested God, yiu can compare God to a tree , which produces leaves, photosynthesis, oxigen , pollens , cross pollination for bees ,butterflies, branches , fruits, flowers, water for some worms from inside, nectar, shelter to birds ,from storms ,water, winds , winter , etc , seeds from fruits to land on the floor and grow more trees , you can imagine every purpose it serves ,how beneficial and resourceful it is to all its animals ,humans, and earth, . Ask yourself this question is the tree aware of all the mitzvahs it does nourishing , nurturing, feeding , protecting, sheltering, everything around it ? Do you think the tree is aware of how critical and important it is to creation? Do you think the tree is aware of how motherly or fatherly or loving and kind to all its creatures and earth and environment ? Do you think you can talk to a tree? Do yiu think the tree even though has no mind or consciousness is not alive and very much a living organism with its own functions? Yes the tree is pretty much alive is so full of life it gives more life than we living creatures will ever do. The tree is absolutely selfless and ego free . The tree doesn't go around telling everyone around worship me because I do all this for you, even though we humans cut them down, burn them down , destroy the forestation of all trees and plants and vegetation, they never are aware of the destruction we cause them , in spite of all that destruction the tree keeps doing what it is in its essence, is like an angel is just selflessly doing what it is , consistently and continously producing life and whatever the tree is producing, God can be compared to a tree ,it it got its branches , leaves ,flowers, nectar ,pollens , and everything it produces is all living entities in every dimension, it just absolutely selflessly produces what is in its original substance or essence, that's God's core main character and trait , God was the first self conscious, aware , manifestation, that came into existence by its own, all the elements surrounding its consciousness made it happen miraculously, God is nothing short of a miracle. The elements that existed before the creation took place is a place that had no light nor heaven nor earth , out of that place of abyss, that little spark just materialized itself into a structure of consciousness, God had always existed just like a tree alive but not conscious like we are , and somehow the inner power and strength of an eternal energetic manifestation formed itself structurally, God's consciousness formed itself then created light. There was simply nothing but darkness, and God was content with what it was. But somehow it was enough, so God being an energetic existence using the same structural conscious body of unlimited energy from that energy light came into existence, God had no choice but produce what was already another form of existence in darkness, God is like a tree it just produces forever what it it is inside of it, the nature of God is producing and cratimg and sustaining, ,God in one word is selfless. This is why God tests people for selflessness because after all God was in an eternally lonely realm before everything took place , creation is not an original state , creation is created on the background of the original state which is darkness, ,everything that we see experience, live , and feel, is the byproduct of God's creation. We are all connected to the same source all living entities in every dimension. God is like a trunk , and everything else is us and all living entities. There is not separateness of God with all its creatures , if God ever, stop sustaining our existence we would all die and perish , ask yourself this question, what feeds and sustain our souls, or consciousness? Just like our bodies are sustained by the elements water, food , medicine, clothes, our soul is also sustained by another type of nourishment, that which we don't know exactly what keep our soul alive, what kind of soul food feed us , or soul water feed us , but I can tell you the source of our aliveness is God Himself. We procreate other children on earth, but God creates the souls ,no one here on earth can create a soul , so.our soul is a direct creation of God himself just like a tree produces mangoes and the mango drops on the ground, and its seeds produces others, trees. So God is just like a tree the tree of life . Just like the planets sun satellites, is all going around in circles around the sun and an unseen force is keeping in place for thousands of years , is called gravity, we can't see it but that dark energetic matter is what glues everything together and keep in order what's taking place as of now , the sun uv rays , that's God, we can't see it but we are pretty much surrounded in a suffocating way by God's infinite energies. Everything is held together by that same spark, same source gravity forms order and structure, facilitating the union of all matters and mass. As result what exists . God is absolutely selfless. Just like a tree God has no choice but to create and create. Just like the case of yiob (job) He hit rock bottom in suffering, lost everything, family ,sons , wealth , health , at the end of the deep terrible plight he had no other place to go but up , just like God, God came from a place of absolute emptiness ,darkness, abyss, a depressing place , He was alive in its own cosmic body and structure of conscious existence and he was content. Because there was nothing yet , then he said let there be light and God saw that it was good. Ask yourself this question why did god caller light good ? Why could God differentiate between good and bad ? God had to be in a bad place or a place that at least he couldn't call good. In order to call light good there must be bad to help identify between both . How do we know we are hungry without being hungry first? How do we know is not good to be alone without being alone First? That place where God existed before all creation took place must have been pretty bad for God to even himself call light and everything else crested it was good It just says a lot about God himself. He likes good created things. How does he know is not good to be alone telling that to Adam without God himself being alone First? How does anyone ever distinguish between good and bad , and all the opposites of creation. In order to tell one thing from another . God just have always existed just like a tree producing and producing and producing but God just had no idea there could be light , then he said let there be light and saw that it was good. Is like a wine tester cresting a wine and testing it for quality, and if is good then it passes kosher, if is bad he toss it away . Same is with God he was just creating with no blueprint no plan no diagram, no planned ideas while his powers is endless he underwent through the creative power till finally he arrived at a plateau and called it good. And on the seventh day he rested. This creation is the best work he has ever made . And can be better ,but it all depends on him. Maybe if he attempts to redesign the creation most likely there will be cosmic consequences, and maybe what we are God just doesn't wanna risk it just like the flood. This is why God regretted the flood enough to put a rainbow as sign that he will never flood the earth again . So far so good as we speak is good enough. Perhaps later in the future things could change . Who knows what God plans many things he doesn't reveal because most likely we can't handle matters of universal proportions. We being tniy specks of star dusts, some things are just concealed for our sake . And yes I never want to know such things, if God ever reveals them to me the I have no choice but to accept his will. Because his will is always right and come to fruition, can't get into an argument with God once he makes up his mind.. God in essence is the tree of life .

He is so right. Thank you.

Thank you Rabbi and the staff ! May everyone would get the real happiness by offering their talents, wealth and even time of their lives to each other, and pouring out the Divine light inside which is bigger than their contours. Please be with G-d. - from Japan.

Thank you rabbi

Yes, Rabbi Manis Friedman, "We couldn't do what we want to do," In anyway, after we work hard if there is no food and a good night sleep & good dream, and getup in the morning see the sunlight and the outside fresh air, imagine how life would be hard....if we don't have these.

theres no FLIGHT without turbulence

These MEN are amazing how they stick together!!!!!! HMMMMM 😐 And the older the better??

Finally something absolutely logical! I was victim of extreme abuse and tried all types of psychotherapy without much success.

It's fake.this society..and I feel quite sceptical when I see people not doing and living a right life..

I'm one of those "non Jews" learning Torah.

An amazing man... I'm hearing your words!

This is unbelievable! Tysm

Are you sure he is a rabbi, he looks like a movie person, an aging Tommy Lee Jones, is he pulling our leg?

But i do feel needy, even though I know am also needed, or at least appreciated

I find a lot of people can't tell the difference between need and want. All my needs are met by God. I also see others who expect you to meet their expectations to validate themselves. Expectations placed on a relationship are just rules of conduct.

This is a very high concept and so hard for me to get my head with it I know you are correct. My battle

What am I needed for if Im non jewish?! I want to be needed too

Well in my own journey I do lots of tikum olam , but because of the severe handicaps God placed on me , I limit myself. I wish I didn't have such limitations but it is what it is , I do only everything that is within my means and power and resources. So much good we can do and yet so much limitation. Short life , illnesses , body tireness , personal needs basic ones, I wish I had plenty of power to tikun olam.

Thank you to the IGTK team for all you do to share Rabbi Friedman's teachings with us.

(Wants don't NEED to be satisfied. They WANT to be satisfied!)

“Fathers Will Be Done” on earth as it is in Heaven. The Best Prayer..the Only Prayer! 😊❤

Thank you Rabbi Friedman, I am a Noehide and I listen to you every morning when I wake up!

Much needed. Thank you for the gems

Lots of us always wanted to listen. We were blocked out too Rabbi.

Rabbi your wisdom is manah to my soul thank you

Terrific Rabbi Friedman.

That’s right in what door

It's true without having the deepest knowledge of meaningful life in Judaism, we can not resolved the real connection of education between humanity & world history. In fact, nobody is perfect but God, believing in The Ten Commandments can bring people to the "First wisdom is the fear of God." 🕎☮This is time, we need to understand how The Almighty God did a miracle in individual thinking in family life. I think family is the first community and we need to understanding mother's and father's different responsibilities they have among their children.