This man if you had self control, you wouldn't be in this mess. You have a wife and children why bring a strange woman into your home and bear another child. A lady that knows you are married and still chooses to have an affair with you is morally bankrupt. Two morally bankrupt people brought an innocent child to the world only to use the child as a pawn. So sad when adults behave like dummies.
This cheating thing must be addressed. Bringing a child into the world when you don't have the means to do so is very wrong. Forget the Europeans that brought a culture which they themselves couldn't keep to Africans is laughable. This word 'cheating' must be revisited.
You are very correct. This days, I fear girls in Lagos putting asunder to marriage. This girl is just evil and she got what she planned from her evil hrt😢😢😢
Hats up to the father. The lady is just being petty. When the person is not a salary earner, the payment should be based on the minimum wage and the court must give credit for the other children.
Kudos to the Dad for cheating while married. Clap 👏🏾 for him. Hats up to the father, the lady should have just swallow the pill of being cheated on. Christopher Edjebah, Urhobo waadoo eeehh Weldon
She is also paying. It's not the money he is sending that she's using for the child upkeep. He should have been more careful since he knows he is married
His inability to express himself firmly put him at a disadvantage; He messed up by fathering a child he couldn't afford 2. He wasn't sharp and firm in negotiating his monthly responsibility...He should have sought a Lawyer's advice before coming.
Having children from multiple women in this Nigeria economy is deadly. Especially when the other gender are looking for who will bank roll them. I pity this man.
God bless you, i really pity the Man...........and the judgement was kind of one sided.....issue of access to the child by the father was not discussed......
@@AntomichKornevdidn’t you watched and understand when the judge 👩⚖️ said that he must come with a clean hands if really his intention is clear?? Make una rest Abeg
I don’t know why you’d be broke and still wants to have another wife. Now the girl set a trap for her, the child might even be his. She only dated him to put the child on him & after giving birth she left & drag her to court for upkeep. I hope my fellow man learns
Next time Zip up if you cant fend for another mouth effectively. The law is right on this one, its not about emotional sentiments.The father is the primary care giver of any child
How come judge did not address the man complaint that he has been denied access to her daughter. Atleast give him visitation rights. The judge focused on only what the man has to give neglecting his emotional imbalance.
God bless you sir. Came to the CS just for this kind of deep thought. In as much as I love this program I've been noticing some feminist judgement sometimes.
I have noticed in her judgment most time that even she allowed the father to see their kids, she suggested going to their school. If the father can provide for his kids while not allowing the kids spend nights and weekends with their fathers. I am just advocating for equality among parents when it comes to raising children in a divorce except it proved otherwise that either of them is incapable.
If I bring up my girl child so she is attractive to a married man WITH children and she goes AND becomes pregnant by him, AND then, she cannot maintain that child on her own, then I have not done a good job. :(
Judge Fumi should redress this matter and give the man access to his child. He didn't denial the child. Judge this isn't fair. Give him access let his other children bind with their sister.
Throughout the entire process she kept repeating that the law grants custody to the woman but gives access to the children to both the man and the wife. The current stage of the child hardly raise that issue. If the child were of school age or where he could come and pick the child to spend holiday she would have addressed that. If he wants to see the child with the mother he can make that arrangement. What kind of bonding can a 2 year old have with the older kids at this stage? We don't expect the mother to drop a child of 22 months with him and another wide and her kids, even for a day? He didn't make any strong issue about not having access to the baby. He didn't cite any instance when he requested access and the lady denied him? He just made a general Statement. The lady herself knows from the court that she cannot deny him that access. What judge Funmi is saying is that he should commit to fulfilling his obligations first to demand the right to access.
From what I gathered, his wife and children don't reside in Lagos, so the bonding between the kids might be a bit challenging. And the issue there is, how far are we certain his wife agrees to the bonding?
@@janeumoru9173 He has no job, yet his preeq has bin working full-time, innit ? He has a family. He didn't focus on his family and decided 2 b fuckin upandan.
@@janeumoru9173What is not fair? So what is fair is to be sending 5k to her to take care of the baby per month? Did she force him into her? She knows that he has other family, but he didn't know he has his family before taking her as a partner to cohabit? You are not looking at the matter from the point of view of the welfare of the baby.
I m biased on this case and the man has even played a fatherly role on the only daughter he has without a reasonable doubt , the woman was totally at fault.
He didn't complain about that. If he said he has been giving her cash, it means he has been seeing her physically. He knows where she lives and he didn't complain she has been dodging him. She only doesn't want him calling her bcos of the insults.
She actually did but she said if the man didn't take responsibility of the child it seems compelling the woman to allow the man access to the child wouldn't be justified
It's time for men to have sense. Whether you leave abroad like me or in Nigeria, avoid desperate women, lock or zip your trouser to prevent bringing an innocent child/children into the world especially when you cannot afford to take care of your responsibility. The LAW does not favor US men when it comes to child support. They will make you pay thru your nose 👃 PLEASE BE GUIDED
While I am not against DNA, women say a lot of rubbish when they’re angry. Until recently, the mother of my children was denying their paternity, me I was not bothered because of how much the children resembled me. Women are emotional while men are logical. This gives us men the responsibility to display maturity at all times.
This taking care of a child needs to be revised. She fully knows this man get fam. She needs to be some responsibility of bringing this child into the 🌍. This victim of a thing needs to be reviewe and reviewed
So the man doesnt know he has children before sleeping arround. He knows better and it's all his fault if he sticked to his wife, he wont be in this mess. That's the consequence of adultry
Make una continue playing. So the man that knows he has a lot to lose could not keep his gbola one place or make sure he uses protection when he wants to do? He is the one that should be more careful. Law no send u message.
He had a family in another state, while working in another state did he have to have a sexual relationship going on ? Abeg this people should just maintain Mtcheww.
But it was a woman he cheated with. Asuming the man is no more and she herself does not even have a job what would had happened? I think women should learn more to be content and stay with a man that is not single instead of thinking the married men have more to offer than the single guys
@@ecitychurch D woman who cheated has no bizness with d wife. It's d man who has a responsibility 2b faithful. He is d one cheating. D woman isn't married 2 anyone so she isn't cheating on anyone. D man has a wife, so he's d one cheating on his wife. If u r not ready 2 b faithful, don't get married.
You have a wife and you went ahead to start a relationship outside your marriage and now you can't feed your child because you don't have a job. Mr. Take care of your daughter sir
The man should be liable to whatever judgement that is passed on him. You have wife and children but still chose to sleep with a strange woman. This is the result. Men should be very careful. The law will never favour you. Whatever you see, take it like that.
The people on here saying is unfair, you must be high on some kind of Kool-Aid. Child support is a must in the event of divorce. Your brothers and sisters in the Western world experience paying monthly and if they don’t then jail is beckoning depending on their state’s law.
I love Judge Funmi so much. She is such a a woman full of wisdom🤗 As for our brother, you will control that rubbish under your trouser next time if you know you don't want to be responsible. Shebi you people don't want to be faithful to your wives, then you'll all learn in a hard way 💯
The child is in her custody therefore She has already fulfilled her part according to the law. The case could also be reversed if the man had custody in some cases
I don't pity this man at all, he is facing the consequences of his infidelity. When they tell you guys to stay one place you will not hear , because you have been told that you are polygamous in nature. Now see your life outside. He must provide for this child and also the children he has with his wife. Also, his wife should be adequately informed, so that he won't neglect his responsibilities at home while taking care of his child with this lady.... He must carry his cross because he got himself into this mess....
How it started was when he travelled for a week no calls no texts messages and if i call him he will not pick up until, he came back one day and all he told me was that i should be preparing that we are traveling to port Harcourt .when we reached Port Harcourt he stopped taking care if me and my children,even to bring money for food he will send five thousand naira for two weeks and if i call him again he will start causing me and calling me all sorts of names .My neighbors are the ones that do help me and my children but he have a second wife which he gives money everyday and i and my children manage 5,000 for two Weeks
How it started was when he travelled for a week no calls no texts messages and if i call him he will not pick up until, he came back one day and all he told me was that i should be preparing that we are traveling to port Harcourt .when we reached Port Harcourt he stopped taking care if me and my children,even to bring money for food he will send five thousand naira for two weeks and if i call him again he will start causing me and calling me all sorts of names .My neighbors are the ones that do help me and my children but he have a second wife which he gives money everyday and i and my children manage 5,000 for teo Weeks
@@fayemiolapade4957He didn't complain about that. If it was an issue he would have raised it. She asked the court to compel him to be responsible for the child's upkeep. She won't ask that if she is preventing him access. And of course he would have raised it if it was an issue. It is not everytime the judge address that if it doesn't arise in the hearing.
@@swiftoutcrygaming3297 @swiftoutcrygaming3297 watch the episode again. The man raised it. He even said when he came to the court room his daughter did not recognize him. The judges shut him up while he was trying to press more on that
Judge funmi u are doing well but all this desperate women should be taught d need to abstain from married men who hv kids expecially when d man is not bouyant. Is he supposed to leave d family bcs of ur carelessness. Am so ashamed of this woman.
Be doesn't know he has a wife and children that he's not bouyant to take care of and went ahead to cheat and bring another baby, the law will not change but will continue to hold some of those men way know get sense.
Well he also has a child with her so it’s his duty too to cater for the child no matter the unfavorable issues they have. The child’s care is the major issue here.
These South West ladies and their life when it comes to marriage is too uncultured. Is this court that is giving them the leverage to behave the way they do. They know they will always be paid by the man .
This is prejudice. The couples are not from the SW. Didn't you listen to their names? Besides there are irresponsible people everywhere. Stop the bigotry!
The issue is what is the current minimum wage in proportion to what the plaintiff is requesting has upkeep for one child? The government itself has been irresponsible in the welfare of its citizens.
The reality is a worker on minimum wage is not expected to have wife and 4 kids and he is not expected to live in a flat. He is not expected to live so far from his workplace as to incur huge transport cost. Minimum wage ideally is for workers like cleaners. Is a cleaner realistically expected to take care of a family of 6 comfortably?It is not just here in Nigeria. In US, for instance, a single shared bedroom could go for as much as $700 to N1350 depending on location and facilities. Average minimum wage is about $7 per hour. That is about $1400 per month on 8hrs basis. So how easy is it for a worker on minimum wage to afford a room and feed? Not to talk of feed a wife and 2 kids. So minimum wage is not for a family. That is why some husband and wife do 2 or 3 jobs to survive. And in Nigeria, was there anytime in history when the govt ever paid a minimum wage that takes care of a family of 6? In 1984 when I was to be employed as a sales boy in a pharmacy after my O levels, what I was offered could not even feed only me. Of course no accomodations or transport is even considered. Even as a graduate in 1992, I couldn't afford even a room when I started working and I was earning more than a fresh graduate in civil service. Would it not have been stupid of me to get married and have kids and then start blaming my problem on minimum wage? The question is how many companies are making the kind of profit to be able to pay their least worker above N60k? Or is it everybody that is working for govt? If govt pays N250k for instance to its least worker and it is graduated upward like that, and private companies do the same, what would happen to the cost of goods and services they provide? Already some of them are laying up workers bcos they cannot afford to pay even what they are paying currently. Some find it so difficult to even break even and they are closing down bcos the more they increase their product prices, the less sales they are making. Yes our politicians are over paid, but even at that can govt realistically afford a drastic increase in minimum wage? And can private companies do the same?
@swiftoutcrygaming3297 To summarise what you have said, live within your means and stop blaming factors beyond your control. After all, Nigeria has been in this situation decades before this defendant decided to get entagled, so he was aware of the economy.
What is your definition of nice? How do you address a man who lack self discipline, control and cheated on his wife a nice man? You must be an adulterer .
I believe the honorable judge was very tired 😢 before this case because she didn’t display her usual awesomeness… this man had things to say , if a lady I hv been taking care of tells me I’m not the father of the child I’ll stop everything from that day .
Don't accept more than your capacity, it is not against the law. The court will force you to agree and Once you have accepted it, you are on your own. Contact your lawyer before going to court🚶🚶🚶 I REST MY CASE.
For the first time,i do not like the way the honourable judge handled the matter.How do you expect a man in his right senses to continue to spend money on a child whose mother said does not belong to the father.What if the information is correct eventually,he would have ended up caring for another person's daughter.Let them do DNA test to ascertain the paternity of the baby before the man continues to spend his hard earned money on a child that is not his...
Did he raise paternity issue here? Bcos men have been coming and getting DNA done free, many see the court as a means to get DNA done even when it is not necessary. The court should make sure men who raise doubts about paternity pay for DNA or reimburse the court if it comes out positive.
The judge can only rule on a matter that is brought before the court. In this case, it is the welfare of the child. If the father has doubts, he can bring the issue of paternity to the court and the court will order a DNA test.
I have never seen a rolling in favor of a man in this court even when some ladies default how won't ladies keeps coming for fake justice in their favor
Tell your men to zip up and be faithful to their wives and stop cheating it will go a long way to avoid this type of situation. There’s what we call self control let the men deal with caution
@@kubiatraphael5219Tell your women to close up and be faithful to themselves, follow singles like them and stop dating/cheating with married men. It would go a long way to avoid this type of situation. That's what we call self discipline & self worth. Let the woman tread with caution.
@@kingjerrydayyWhat should women do when married men disturbs them it's not like you men know what no means. Besides how do we know they are married if they lie. There's also the issue that men are allowed more than one wife. What men like you mean is open your leg but don't make me accountable for the results. Also, if you are the head of the family and the logical gender why is it taboo to take responsibility for any actions you take. Maybe the women should be the head since you expect us to deal with the mistakes of two solely.