I built a 7-figure creator business and quit. Here’s why.

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Why did I quit my 7-figure business? In this video, I share my reflections on what happened and update you all on what's been going on. ↓ Open for more!
♡ What's in this video:
00:00 Introduction
01:26 How My Business Escalated
05:24 Worrying About The Future
06:23 Meeting Successful People
07:28 The Comparison Trap
09:46 The Pressure To Be Liked
11:51 Self-Induced Pressure
12:19 Things People Didn't See
12:56 The Scale Trap
15:24 The Sunk Cost Trap
16:07 Pressure of High Ticket Clients
19:10 The Identity Trap
21:53 Mentorship Overload
23:00 Feeling Out Of Integrity
23:55 The Pressure of Employees
25:01 The Process of Dissolving
26:33 Do I Regret It?
27:17 The Lesson of Enoughness
30:50 Life Updates!
31:47 The Importance of Values Shifts
32:57 Gratitude
34:23 What I Wish For All Creators
36:16 What's Next?
38:20 Privilege To Take Time Off
39:54 Next Video!
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@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for all the love. It truly makes a difference - I tried my best to reply to as many comments as possible, but if I didn't reply please know that I received your message and appreciate you being so kind to even leaving a comment. 🥺 If this video resonated with you, please share it so more people can see what can happen when we’re not careful on this entrepreneurship journey. What are some things that resonated with you? Comment below!

@crypto_saidi 5 месяцев назад

Glad to see you being back.. Missed you

@MaiKVang 5 месяцев назад

I'm such a fan of you! So glad to see you! ❤

@marting2715 5 месяцев назад

Hi, I used your video to improve my English 😂.

@rye5946 5 месяцев назад

Missed you happy your back❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@hartesa 5 месяцев назад

I really resonated with changing values in my 30 from wanting a career to wanting just to spend time with family

@divineofomaja 5 месяцев назад

😨15:22 "I've traded my 9-5 for a 24/7" I felt that! Big shout out to all creators and business owners

@limitlessglobalgirl 5 месяцев назад

SO REAL and RAW - if we don't put ourselves first to BE

@arrow2380 5 месяцев назад

That's the trap. Most people think about being an entrepreneur and content creator because they think it's EASY when it even more difficult than a regular job. High risk, high effort, high stress, high reward.

@EVA-ki5vw 4 месяца назад

And their employees who serve drinks only 5 days a week for specific time feel entitlement to be paid like businessmen if the businessmen are making millions or billions. Absolutely evil.

@joshualewis83 4 месяца назад

The greatest book to combat what she is talking about is the 4 hour work week. It talks about this exact topic of scale creep.

@arrow2380 4 месяца назад

@@joshualewis83 it's nowhere near as simple and practical to do the things written in a BOOK. Whenever you see EASY way to doing something..... There's a BIG chance that is BS.

@billclint-g9n 13 дней назад

I am at the beginning of my "investment journey", planning to put 85K into dividend stocks so that I will be making up to 30% per year in dividend returns. Any advice?

@AlejandroDiego-g9m 13 дней назад

Investing without proper guidance can lead to mistakes and losses. I've learned this from my own experience.If you're new to investing or don't have much time, it's best to get advice from an expert.

@shukriAmad 13 дней назад

Many people minimise the importance of counsel until their own feelings become overwhelming. A few summers ago, following a protracted divorce, I needed a significant push to keep my firm solvent. I looked for licenced advisors and found someone with the highest qualifications. She has contributed to my reserve increasing from $275k to $850k despite inflation.

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Glad to have stumbled on this comment, Please who is the consultant that assist you and if you don't mind, how do I get in touch with them?

@shukriAmad 13 дней назад

Not to blow her trumpet, but Svetlana Sarkisian Chowdhury is exceptional in navigating tough markets. She has been planner ever since we met in London global economy conference. she's verifiable , so you could just search her and book an apointment. good luck!

@BarryKeys-o6p 13 дней назад

I just googled her and I'm really impressed with her credentials; I reached out to her since I need all the assistance I can get. I just scheduled a caII.

@CameronFussner 3 месяца назад

Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future. Making money is not the same as keeping it there is a reason why investments aren't well taught in schools, the examples you gave are well stationed, the market crisis gave me my first millions, people shy away from hard times, I embrace them.. well at least my advisor does lol.

@lowcostfresh2266 3 месяца назад

Investors should be cautious about their exposure and be wary of new buys, especially during inflation. Such high yields in this recession is only possible under the supervision of a professional or trusted advisor.

@leojack9090 3 месяца назад

This is superb! Information, as a noob it gets quite difficult to handle all of this and staying informed is a major cause, how do you go about this are you a pro investor?

@hasede-lg9hj 3 месяца назад

I stopped trying to predict market outcomes based on chart studying after 5 years of uncertainty. Not having a mentor caused me 5 years of pain. I learned to follow the market's direction and keep it simple with discipline.

@hasede-lg9hj 3 месяца назад

I won't pretend to know everything, though. Her name is Amber Angelyn O'malley but I won't say anything more. Most likely, you can find her basic information online; you are welcome to do further study.

@fadhshf 3 месяца назад

Thank you for this tip. It was easy to find your coach. Did my due diligence on her before scheduling a phone call with her. She seems proficient considering her résumé.

@iamlyday 4 месяца назад

This video honestly put me in tears. Im 3 months into closing my business down. I just need to be happy. So many around me dont understand.. they even think I failed lol. Overall, its not what people think. Its how YOU feel

@aliabdaal 5 месяцев назад

Absolutely loved this video ❤ thank you for being so authentic and transparent, related to soo much of what you talked about. Looking forward to seeing the next chapter of your journey 😊

@bybeatrizatta 5 месяцев назад

This video actually reminded me a lot of your story of scaling to too many employees for the co-hort and then having to keep the co-hort alive for them. Guess we need an Ali ft. Vanessa video on scaling at your own pace ;)

@thorisotlake 5 месяцев назад

Please do a podcast together, this is so interesting. I’m new to the creator economy and my worst fear is loosing my identity in this journey ❤ - Thoriso

@nompilomichell 5 месяцев назад

Watching this video made me think of you @Aliabdaal, am a follower of both your channels Vannesa lua the longest but can see both your journey growing your channels. Much love

@beebsblue 5 месяцев назад

I thought of you too when she was talking about scaling up and the issues you’ve faced with that

@jkennethlim 5 месяцев назад

Deep dive episodeeeeee ! :D

@jackielaroga5408 5 месяцев назад

This is a very rare kind of honesty from a big name. I relate to the burn out when I opened a Milk tea shop because of the hype and I thought I am going to be financially free if I have a business of my own. It is so cool when people call me a BusinessWoman when I am really just a single mom. The pressure of expenses, marketing, manpower, dealing with the unexpected drama hit me and I finally closed my shop and focused of what really makes me happy. Being a caring mother. I never cared if people will call me a quitter but I'd rather quit than lose my present happiness.

@randomthoughtsat3am647 5 месяцев назад

Love this perspective. Very insightful for me as I am in sort of the same position and wondering if I should carry on or not.

@EVA-ki5vw 4 месяца назад

And their employees who serve drinks only 5 days a week for specific time feel entitlement to be paid like businessmen if the businessmen are making millions or billions. Absolutely evil.

@MsSuitzHospitality 4 месяца назад

That was very honest. I appreciate that and wish you the most magical journey.

@kayv5840 4 месяца назад

It is hard work, especially in the food industry, imho. Ultimately, you need to look for your health and passion, and caring for your family. Only you can decide that, not others. 💕 I wish you and your family the best!!

@lovekiddo 4 месяца назад

Omg.. This is signed. I'm mother of 5 children. I'm single mom of 5 and my younger just 6 months old. I trying open bobs tea shop. And I can able have income take care all my kids. Many thing too learning, law, rules and have to keep up take care kids. My ex husband doing drug and betray me. Not thing help me and my children. I have to fight hard stay stronger for my kids. But I so exauhed and I seeing many challenges front of me. I'm Not feeling well, I'm sleep 4 hours a day. Wake up kids school take care new born. Driving all day. No time eat and no time Sleep but I have to work make income for my children. I'm watch this video and read your comment about tea shop.. Should I stop kill My self to open tea shop?

@jauretsi 4 месяца назад

"I traded my 9 to 5 for a 24/7"

@joaovitorionetto 2 месяца назад

😂😂😂

@Friday4 2 месяца назад

Story of every entrepreneur

@mirysick 2 месяца назад

😂😂😂😂 that’s true!!! Been there

@honeyiroam 4 месяца назад

The INTERNET NEEDS THIS! Thank you for opening up about this. Very important for all of us to hear your story, we appreciate it!

@debbieshuaib8467 5 месяцев назад

And there she is reminding us all of the reason why we fell in love with her channel in the first place: honest, valuable information that comes from the heart ❤️

@cutepawhandmade 5 месяцев назад

YASS

@DrAndreaFurlan 5 месяцев назад

Welcome back girl! I am a 54-year-old physician in Toronto with a RU-vid channel of 625,000 subs. You were my inspiration when I started and you still are!

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DeKETLERED

@AshleeLoveit 4 месяца назад

Wow !! Congrats! This is amazing! Inspiring

@CammieKN 4 месяца назад

Congrats!!! You’re such an inspiration!

@juliecraig3194 3 месяца назад

Amazing!

@underconstructionJAM 3 месяца назад

I'm an attorney who started a construction-based youtube channel...faceless... because I need an outlet. It's been 2 years and 890 subs later, I'm still trying to do this thing all the way from Jamaica 🇯🇲 I subscribed to your channel because I saw that it addresses the matter of pain...I am eager to hear more about that subject as a woman who deals with a lot of pain for unknown reasons.

@FatinFeisal 3 месяца назад

"When you don't have a strong sense of self, it is so easy to accidentally adopt other people's dreams as your own" THIS

@carlasamuels479 2 месяца назад

So true ....same for other.peoples problems ..so tired of being used

@MonicaMain 4 месяца назад

My favorite video on RU-vid so far...I get so sick of hearing from all the guys on RU-vid about how we're not working hard enough, we're not productive enough, we're not making enough money...and listening to you is a breath of fresh air. THANK YOU! I needed to hear this for sure.

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DUNIYADARI

@CammieKN 4 месяца назад

Exactly! I feel so exhausted!

@mybostonrealtorkarina 3 месяца назад

and lately how they're waking up at 4.30am to do their mandatory cold plunge 🙄

@jennjennsuu 2 месяца назад

@@mybostonrealtorkarina 😆

@NickiPostsTravelStuff Месяц назад

I agree. But the thing is, two years ago, Vanessa was that person. Telling everyone to work harder, make more money, push, push, push. She guilted everyone else, saying they don’t really want it, if they’re not willing to work every single second, etc. So after watching her guilt so many people for so long, I find it frustrating to see her change her tune. Like good for her, she finally gets it. Balance is important. But she never cared about balance before, and pushed other people out of balance.

@Joycethedentist 5 месяцев назад

So happy to hear from you! Weirdly I can resonate with this (I say weirdly bc I don’t have a 7 figure online business and I’m a dentist😊) but when you went dark I was just about to sign a huge new lease space for my practice and hire a bunch of employees for my social media business. I had been feeling exactly what you were describing and your absence felt like something I understood without really knowing why. I took a step back and realized i don’t want bigger scale, more employees, and less time with my son. 👉The trap is wanting to live up to your “potential”. I felt like people expected more. I knew I could do more. But today my dental practice is 2 chairs and I see one patient at a time. That’s what makes me happy. Thanks for the positive impact Vanessa❤

@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

OH this is SO GOOD! I love that. I think we also don't want to disappoint our younger selves who had all these "big" goals and dreams. We're not disappointing them, we're just going through a values shift and that's OK. I really love this comment. I am so happy that you're happy.

@twonrichpo1126 5 месяцев назад

👏🏼👏🏼

@joyceling 5 месяцев назад

this is super inspiring!!! i love that you know what you want and didn’t get sucked into what you thought you wanted

@Iamcarmenrosas 5 месяцев назад

Same! I'm an attorney with a multi-six figure business, did sign the new lease and hired new employees and then shut it down after a year.

@YogaBlissDance 5 месяцев назад

Good for you!

@Mamamia90210 5 месяцев назад

I did something similar but on a lower scale. I joined an industry a friend was in because she told me I’d make all this money. Prior, I was a stay at home mom that was itching to start something, anything! So I took some course and launched my own business and scaled it to 100K but I was never home for my kids. My relationships started falling apart and I was beyond stressed. Work doesn’t stop once you get home when you’re an entrepreneur for many people. I had no boundaries at all. I resonated with this. I closed my business and I realized it was NOT for me. I’m happy you’re in a better place. Don’t feel bad or ashamed about it. You did something amazing and knew when to bow out! Much respect!

@melasonbelizaire1185 4 месяца назад

This honesty IS your brand. This is what sets you apart. Thank you for being you. Never change. ❤

@storylearning 4 месяца назад

“When your whole life is a performance…” - never considered how damaging this is before. Thank you for this video.

@ThinkMediaTV 5 месяцев назад

Welcome back Vanessa! Great video. Looking forward to the much needed insights you've learned from your experience on sustainability, pace, health, and authenticity. Appreciate you! 🙏🏻 - Sean

@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

Thank you Sean and think media for being a part of my journey! Appreciate you too!

@KellieEatsCrayons 5 месяцев назад

Yes, Vanessa! What Sean said ;)

@PaperCraneOfHope 5 месяцев назад

Well this comment made me smile. 🥹

@Boos_Boswell 5 месяцев назад

@@VanessaLauthank you for your transparency. Gods Blessings 🙏🏽☝🏽

@TangoJordan 5 месяцев назад

When you get a comment from Sean, you been missed. 😂

@CodieSanchezCT 4 месяца назад

V you are the real deal. Love this video. Thrilled to know you and see what’s next.

@trebmaster 3 месяца назад

Getting a compliment from THE Codie Sanchez!!! Oh, man. That is going to make her - or anyone's - day! :)

@sheemahayre4144 Месяц назад

I didnt have that 7 figure business experience but I praise the Lord for allowing me to realize what youre sharing here! I cant stop watching. And i can relate in every point you said! ✨💪🏻 there’s just so much AUTHENTICITY in you, in this vid. Praying that people can watch this and realize this as early as possible 🎉

@jessicabuck2302 5 месяцев назад

As a clinical integrative therapist, I just want to celebrate you Vanessa in your transformational insights that you have gained in this time away. The way you share your message radiates such courage and most importantly what I feel from your video is, AUTHENTICITY. You are rooted in such integrity throughout this video and I can feel your sense of resourced presence. It is beautiful to witness. Thank you for sharing and being you, you are enough. And there is a true power we can feel through here that is within you. ❤

@itsjessicahomann 5 месяцев назад

You said this way better than I did but I tried lol

@LightnessofJoy 5 месяцев назад

This message is so wise. What is a clinical integrative therapist?

@maureensmarketing 5 месяцев назад

Vanessa, you inspired me to grow my social media-based coaching business, right now I'm 20 hitting 10k months, and I'm constantly thinking about whether or not I need to scale faster. This video changed my perspective, I don't usually comment on YT but this video really provided insane value. Thank you 100x.

@SkySocialAssistant 5 месяцев назад

Vanessa's insights are truly invaluable. ❤️

@skymotherheaven 5 месяцев назад

Life Quality over Quantity, How beautiful put together.

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DUNIYADARI

@DeepakDaiya 4 месяца назад

Never saw such relatable video as a creator!!! Thank You Vanessa For Making This Masterpiece... Really Helpful 👏👏

@CyborgAngel 4 месяца назад

💯💯💯💯

@FactNight 4 месяца назад

Hlo deepak bhai , I'm your subscriber 🤩😅

@emilyutter6697 4 месяца назад

So few entrepreneurs have the courage to do what you did, let alone share it so openly. The first time I heard of you was when you closed the business as the story hit the entrepreneur community. I didn't give it another thought until now, after having seen several posts mentioning this video. Watched it this morning and just want to say I celebrate you, and this is truly of service to other business owners. Wishing you the best in your future endeavors.

@thelifewithnate 4 месяца назад

Entrepreneurship is a very tough road and has been glorified in some part I feel over the past couple of years. As a wannapreneur, I'm using these lessons as I relate to some of them in building some creative businesses hopefully myself. Vanessa is a gem!

@HumbledTraderOfficial 5 месяцев назад

you look so much happier :) makes me happy seeing this video

@victorwong5127 5 месяцев назад

IM A BIG FAN

@TechOutAdam 5 месяцев назад

She does! She looks so vibrant and free in this but in older videos she looks mono and tired.

@nicabautista440 4 месяца назад

I agree!! You can see it in her eyes 🥹✨

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DeKETLERED

@sepidehO 5 месяцев назад

Not me JUMPING on this video as soon as I saw the notification. Was thinking of you a few days ago and wondering when you'd be back! Excited for what is to come!

@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

and not me JUMPING on each comment of this video lolol, thank you for being a part of the early watch party !! and i am excited for what's to come too, I feel waaayyy more. grounded.

@sepidehO 5 месяцев назад

@@VanessaLau The love in the comments just 15 min after you've uploaded this goes to show how much you've been missed!! Great job on leading by example by taking the rest you need

@priscadera 5 месяцев назад

Same here too❤

@FlinaMania 5 месяцев назад

SAME!!!

@MissArtisticSasnuhy 5 месяцев назад

I was thinking of her too literally 2 days ago, saying I wonder when her sabbatical is gonna end

@ADenton 2 месяца назад

This is a success video. (1) This is a clear display of a high level of success in an entrepreneur’s journey. Your business success provided the resources necessary for you to overextend... which led to tough decisions. Great lesson. (2) To me, this video is about running your business from a place of authenticity as a natural expression of yourself, so you don’t burnout. Money/status isn’t worth the pain. So good. On my journey, I’ve partnered with a very successful RU-vidr and entrepreneur in my business. Lots of lessons in this for me.

@Chicquette 4 месяца назад

Disappoint as many people as it takes, to ensure you don't disappoint yourself. Great video. Good luck on your growth journey. Looking forward to seeing what's next. 🎉

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DUNIYADARI

@ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman 5 месяцев назад

See this is why transparency, sharing your story and sharing your testimony is so important. You just never know who needs to hear it. I’m sure you can already tell by the comments the amount of people you are helping. And you have no idea how much you are helping me right now. I am nowhere near where you are but I can already see myself stressing about some of the things that you mentioned. So this is so freeing. I’ve been following you for years, so I was able to see your growth and I can understand why you felt so much pressure because your name is literally mentioned in so many videos. I’m glad you took the time away that you needed 🙏🏾❤️

@brownreport 5 месяцев назад

one of the realest videos on the internet that I’ve seen in a while. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable.

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DeKETLERED

@geniuspeng 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your story. We often see only shiny success stories and not the work and stress that goes on behind the scenes. It’s so easy to lose ourselves in the wake of it all. Your video resonated with me and reminds me to return to myself and not compare too much when things get rough

@whachuupto 4 месяца назад

It's so heart-filling to see the lovely girl I knew from elementary school, make such big waves in a global scale and still be deeply grounded to her sense of self. When you left your farewell note over a year ago, my knee-jerk reaction was pure relief for you. I was so proud to see you disconnect and focus on yourself. Glad to see you back as a healthier, happier YOU. 💕 I'm finally starting to publish some of my own content for the first time this year and I'm really excited to consume your old videos with a new lens!!! Bahhh!! 😍 Sending you so much love

@baggioyeong 5 месяцев назад

Super authentic and super relatable! It takes a lot of courage to take a pause and quit when you’re at your peak. Super inspiring! I noticed most entrepreneurs , self employed people or sales people start out by hustling like mad. Especially those that don’t come from wealth. We tend to make it our life mission to get as rich as humanly possible. Only to realise we do a few things 1. To use success as a measurement of our worthiness 2. To experience the “ rich “ life because we didn’t have it 😂 3. To prove “ others “ wrong Only to realise it rly doesn’t matter end of day. But what contributes to happiness & significance is 1. Good health 2. Great relationships 3. Doing things that makes us truly happy 4. Making enough money to fuel that life that we want for ourselves and not the life we think we want Happy for you! 🎉 incredible to find a genuine and honest creator out there

@JakeyWakey 5 месяцев назад

true true

@kristyna9553 5 месяцев назад

perfectly said👏👏

@U_neekliss 5 месяцев назад

💯

@Get-Vertical 5 месяцев назад

I'm in tears watching this because I went through a similar experience in my niche. So much pressure, everyone relying on me, keeping up on social media, always on a hamster wheel, comparing myself to others, not feeling good enough.. all made me CRACK throwing in the towel, unfollowing literally everyone, signing off and not looking back for 3 years. It was the best 3 years of my life, started a different business outside of my niche, found God, became a mother, found REAL friends (like you said that weren't using me for resources or social climbing), enjoyed family gatherings (because I was no longer distracted by my obsession), started living my life for myself and stopped living behind my camera. Now that I've "Came out of retirement" I'm a year in and really trying my best to stay balanced and not fall into that same trap. But girl be careful because it's not easy - I am feeling myself slowly starting to change the way I do things to please the following, sponsors, and algorithms. That's why I am happy to see this video - because I look up to you and you've helped me a lot. Now reminding me I really need to trim those weeds and stay grounded. Keep being you, you are awesome.

@kayv5840 4 месяца назад

Mental, physical, and spiritual health come first. 💕🙏 I’ve started seeing some business support groups in my area via social media, and I think they help with the stresses that come with business. They give support and share advice. Maybe try looking into that if you are interested! And therapy, which no matter where we are in life also does help to bring us back to earth. I hope this helps. 🙏 Best wishes to you!!

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DeKETLERED

@Tania-rg7jp 2 месяца назад

Real friends not using you for social climbing is a “game changer”.

@Dbzchalkcrusingasmr 22 часа назад

That is is why I only post when I want

@KnordRW 4 месяца назад

Vanessa, this is the first time I've watched one of your videos and my first exposure to you, and I wanted to say THANK YOU for your openness, your vulnerability, and your authenticity. You are the permission to so many others who are feeling the same way, and the ripple effect of what you've said here in this video is going to be felt far and wide for years to come. THIS is what it means to be an influencer and a leader, and you are such an inspiration!! As you come back and redesign and recreate what you're up to, please let me know if there is any way that I can support you. Your "new" pillars are an inspiration for how I wish to live my life, and I would be honored to support you with this if I could ever possibly do so. Sending you so much love and joy and happiness!!!

@JacobCorregidor 4 месяца назад

It’s good to see you post and update Vanessa. Happy to hear that you’ve gone through tremendous growth, that you are healthy, and happy. Missed seeing you!

@FitnessFAQs 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing your story Vanessa. This affirms my strategy of running a lean business.

@MontemayorMark 4 месяца назад

🐐🐐

@xoTheMoxieQueen 5 месяцев назад

The most authentic video about coaching and content creation I have seen - ever! I can feel the pressure from some of these creators and it’s cringe. You’ve validated every instinct, suspicion, thought, nudge, inkling, conclusion.

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DUNIYADARI

@_estheradebayo 4 месяца назад

Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and honest. I can relate a lot with most. The “Identity Trap” in particular is one I’m learning to let go off and instead embrace my uniqueness. It’s good to have you back🎉🎉

@Ishtarthemoon 4 месяца назад

So many good takeaways here. I truly appreciate this and I’m glad you took a break. I’ve been growing my business very slowly taking into consideration my nervous system as well as always asking if it aligns with who I want to be and what I want to bring to the world. Sometimes I wish it wasn’t taking so long but your story is confirmation for me, I’m older now and I’ve already been through many identity pivots that I’ve learned I don’t want to grow too fast in the wrong direction and then make a huge pivot. Nothing wrong with it, it’s just not what I want at this stage in my life!! I hope your year off did you some good and I’m sure your next pivot is going to be much more aligned with who you want to be 😄

@zhorina 5 месяцев назад

In many ways, having a bad corporate job experience can create a trauma that we try so hard to get away from, instead of healing from it. Really happy for you!! ❤

@queenshibadarling 5 месяцев назад

Excellent callout!!!

@verabirgitta8588 5 месяцев назад

You're definitely on to something

@realestatebykemi 4 месяца назад

Amen to this powerful statement! 🙏🏽

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DeKETLERED and

@deeglamgrl6421 5 месяцев назад

This is by far the most transparent video I've ever seen on this or any other platform. Kudos to you for exposing a side of hustle culture most people would never dare to.

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DUNIYADARI

@improvebylearning1794 21 день назад

Thank you for being honest, open and vulnerable and because of that I never knew that I am not alone. You made my day just listening to your honest and open stories

@DrapersDoingRenos 5 месяцев назад

I went exactly through ALL OF THIS with my interior design firm and brick-and-mortar store!!!! I so get it! especially the scale trap. I also felt totally sucked into that!! 2 years ago, I closed my store, let go of all my staff, cried a lot and trusted that letting go of my 7 figure design firm would end up ok! I think it is going to be, but I am still working on it. I will say I am SO MUCH HAPPIER!!!

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DUNIYADARI

@EvanCarmichael 5 месяцев назад

Welcome back Vanessa and what a courageous video. Excited to see where the next year takes you :) #Believe

@tayomwilson 4 месяца назад

Thanks for the video and its good to have you back! I am currently at a crossroads within my career so I am grateful for the transparency and valuable insights shared!

@emilygowor 4 месяца назад

My first time watching you online and by far one of the most authentic and helpful videos I've seen from an "influencer" (because you are!). So many aspects of your journey are relatable for me- it felt like I was listening to myself. My scale/level of "success" wasn't the same magnitude but the lessons/feelings were all there. It took me 2 years to close down my previous business/offers - huge - and yes I let some people down in the process. But I just KNEW I needed to. It was a calling. Now I'm starting to come back stronger and clearer and way more fulfilled - and letting the optimal Emily business model (that is simple and scalable) come to me. Thank you Vanessa x I feel what is coming and its a blessing.

@ContempoCoding 5 месяцев назад

Girl, I am so glad you're back and doing so much better! I purposefully don't scale because I know I am just not good at managing that much. I'm happy just taking what I can handle by myself and and an editor. Having a comfortable and flexible lifestyle is so priceless!!

@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

I'm so in awe of your self-awareness of what you're good at and what you're not good at. I also agree that management isn't for everyone. I definitely wasn't the best manager - it was hard work! I have also scaled back down to an editor and me. I appreciate your perspective!

@PaperCraneOfHope 5 месяцев назад

I love this so much. 🥰

@solgonzalez3936 2 месяца назад

I can relate to you ... As an editor, it takes time and careful consideration to plan and create projects, collabs without thinking what is your main role and objective for a moment. Some proposals tend to end up in an ordeal one could had avoided or controlled better. Not everyone we bring into a project is worthy or profitable, if that is one of the ideas.

@KaylaCarlileArt 5 месяцев назад

As someone who has gained a following for a passion and lost themselves in the “people pleasing”, I relate to this so much. I stopped creating art for myself and started creating art that would go viral. This is refreshing, thank you for sharing!

@lorrainepascale 5 месяцев назад

Same!!! Me for baking ❤

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DeKETLERED

@soniateach 5 месяцев назад

This video had me in tears! 😢 I'm so glad you took this sabbatical and you're sharing your reflections with us. Welcome back! Looking forward to your new videos ❤

@sarahjiang9394 2 месяца назад

It's So UNBELIEVEALBE that I have SO MUCH connection with you when you speak your story in this video even though we are in total different industries or career paths. Like you literally speak for me, my mind that I haven't figured out yet. More specifically the traps you are talking about...I felt the same way and I became not happy while making more money than before. You are the mirror to myself while I am at my life crossroad right now. I'm very empowered by your story. Thank you! I'm looking forward to your next series of the real you content creation.

@petra-coutlis 5 месяцев назад

As a Fractional CMO to online entreprenurs I see SO many people fall into these traps - its so refreshing to get a behind the scenes look at how this manifested. I love the concept of doing less and making ENOUGH. Welcome back!!

@SheenaSchleicher 5 месяцев назад

What you are sharing is SO important & had me in tears. I'm 10 yrs into running our SEO agency (nearly 18 yrs in the space!). We've made a name for the ecommerce SEO strategy work we do for bigger brands. I've dreamed of scaling & often compared our biz to so many other agencies (mostly male led). Somewhere in the last few years our business stopped serving our family & I feel like all we do is serve our clients--the mental toll is 24/7. We're at a point where something has to change. I cannot allow all this work to distract me from my kiddos... soon to be 4 littles under 8yo. And really, SEO is not that important & definitely not the only thing I want to be known for. Eager to follow along & hear what you've learned!

@VickyLashenko 5 месяцев назад

I feel you mama! It’s a challenge to run a demanding business while raising a family! Men are built so differently and it’s so unfair to compare ourselves to them and their success! Been there done that as well! All the best to you and your family!!!

@animaloverdani10 2 месяца назад

You’re so real for this. I just had perhaps one of the biggest breakthroughs since starting my business two years ago. It’s been such slow growth because I also work as a nurse while seeing clients on the side. I’ve compared myself to people like you who skyrocket to success - thinking that’s what I wanted. But this video made me feel grateful for my baby steps. I’m learning as I go and acclimating to each level of success as it comes. That’s a blessing. Thank you so much. ❤

@rinomic 4 месяца назад

Thank you Vanessa for being vulnerable and transparent. It truly reminded me of your earlier days on BGA courses where you shared what went well and what did not. I'm glad you've found back your happiness and hope you continue to be happy❤

@courtneysmithtriathlon 5 месяцев назад

I love the honesty here. I especially love that you realized you lost yourself. Many never hit that point. As an entrepreneur who had a startup and went through a “I have to grow” period a decade ago, this resonated. The difference was, I am a single mom and my son was 6 months old when my startup got funded. I made a decision to walk away from it and focus on small businesses of my own. I can attribute that decision to my son, bc I cared more about time with him than growing/scaling. I could go on and on. Kudos to you. Most people care about how “successful” they appear. The wisest ones know creating a lifestyle that you love is true wealth/success. You realized this at a young age! Long before some do. I’m happy for you!!!! Wishing you all the best. 🙏❤️

@TheRealMTR 5 месяцев назад

What you've articulated is a struggle that most successful digital creators go through. Understanding "enough" is the lesson I've learned in this video. Once enough is understood then balance can be attained - which is a pillar to a successful / happy life. Amazing video - excited to see where you go in the future!

@djflapjack4744 5 месяцев назад

didn't expect to see you here sir! MTaRmy in the building!

@MarketingHarry 5 месяцев назад

Welcome back Vanesaa!Love your authenthicy!Thank you for sharing your personal story with us and can't wait to see your next video

@Nick_Lewis 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. I had a business before RU-vid and I can see myself in your story - always growing and comparing myself. I realized so much of growth and scaling in business is ego driven. Now I keep things on RU-vid intentionally small and I’m happier and less stressed for it.

@brentandmir 5 месяцев назад

Omg I’ve been watching your videos since 2020 and love learning from you I’m so happy to see you back! ❤😊 this year is your year! 🙌🏾🤗

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

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@twomindmethod 3 месяца назад

This video is excellent! Your level of vulnerability and honest is so amazing! The kinds of difficulties you describe in this video are issues I have seen over the years (and faced a couple of times myself)... all that emotional stuff that gets pushed aside in the name of progress/growth, tamped down in order stay "strong" or "on target", or suppressed entirely... only to come back stronger in the form of anxiety, depression or burn-out. The way you put words and story to this process is so incredibly good! You have done a service to this field and all of those who come after you.

@kaileighlauren 4 месяца назад

I absolutely appreciate how vulnerable and open and honest you are about this whole journey for you. It’s simultaneously inspiring, and also encouraging for those of us who have experienced something similar, but at a smaller scale, because it is influencing how I navigate my own business trajectory. I have also found that I am not somebody who wants to scale at that level, where I completely lose myself, and have to manage too many people, so I am eager to continue following your journey and learn from your experiences. 💜

@svensshed1564 5 месяцев назад

As an ex ceo of a small business I can so relate to everything you are saying. I suffered from everything you said, the imposter syndrome, the comparing myself to others, all of it. What I find is that you just need to be happy with where you are. Most of the time, where you are is where you are meant to be. I now focus on trying to develop staff and that is what makes me incredibly happy in life. I am now playing with another start up that educates people on procurement and how to sell to govt. That is a real passion, and its more a hobby than a business

@demarcusds95 4 месяца назад

Agreed. A lot of businesses crash from scaling too fast. A business with staff that makes you happy is the “million dollar business”. 🙏🏾

@MiliVelikova 5 месяцев назад

Literally last night I was thinking "I wonder when Vanessa would come back" and it's so good to see you back! Welcome and I'm excited for what's to come

@bvhimanshu 5 месяцев назад

Bro same 🤣 and not me seeing you after long time in here only

@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

OMG its been so long!!!! I'm the himanshu, it feels like the OG gang is living in this comment section lol. I missed you Mili, it's been a while!!

@shreybajaj8516 5 месяцев назад

Same!

@NoreenSajolan 5 месяцев назад

Same here!

@eloisek4245 5 месяцев назад

Same!!! I checked her profile 2 days ago 🥺🥺 and here she is! Comeback 😭🙌

@TheGreatest2484 5 месяцев назад

I'm glad you are doing well. I learned a lot from watching your videos in regards to social media, but it makes me extremely happy that mentally you are doing well. I missed watching your content. Welcome back and I pray you continue being the best version of your happiness.

@youcanhealyourheartbreak5999 5 месяцев назад

Years ago I saw my identity as the wife of my husband. It imploded when he rejected me and I had no idea who I was. Now I help people who’ve been through loss 🧡

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

DeKETLERED

@shatajshinajones2660 3 месяца назад

Omg wow… did you guys separate? I’m feeling the same way, like I’ve lost who I am. I force myself to be a happy entrepreneur but my business with my husband doesn’t make me excited to get out of bed. It’s his dream and vision

@iamlashawnda 5 месяцев назад

I can not tell you how happy I am to see that you are back!! I checked your accounts quite frequently because I knew it was only a matter of time before you would give an update. I have so many takeaways from your video and I am very thankful that you took the time to share the REAL side of what it can be like as a successful entrepreneur. It's rarely talked about and I am glad that you are changing things up to match your vision and align with what YOU want vs what everyone else tells you that you need for "Success" I love this for you!! Welcome back!

@thealienpod828 4 месяца назад

I have followed you since your early days (with different YT accounts) and I always looked up to you as somebody who made something from nothing. Your determination and desire to constantly grow inspires me. But this video sets you on a whole different level. You are someone I would recommend everyone to look to as somebody who is responsible, accountable and most of all honest. It doesn't matter what you are earning or how big your business is. You are definitely way above the rest as a human being. RESPECT!

@JerikaZimmerman 4 месяца назад

Hi Vanessa! I found you early in your RU-vid journey and you inspired me to grow my RU-vid channel. I’ve experienced a lot of what you described on a smaller scale. I learned what’s enough for me before it was too late. I recognized early that the hustle culture of scaling was not for me and that slow growth with a team of just me was more than enough. This is what I try to tell everyone who watches me now, that it’s okay to have a tiny small business and to feel successful in having enough. Thank you for being so open and honest. You look so much happier and I can’t wait to watch this next chapter of your life ! ❤

@meccamcconnell 5 месяцев назад

Welcome back Vanessa! I resonate with your story so much and admittedly fell into the trap too. Your transparency is so appreciated and gave language to how many of us have been feeling! Wishing you continued peace, joy and success!

@VSGLife 4 месяца назад

Very well said Vanessa, it is definitely an easier path as a creator. Good for you! Looking forward to what you put out going forward, and congratulations on your engagement! We’re here for it honey.❤️🙏🏾

@carmenwg 2 месяца назад

Your video brought me to tears. How real and authentic of you to be who you really are instead of this life you accidentally created. A million bravos to you, you are one of the real ones! I wish you the best of luck and love on your journey. God bless you.

@justanotherrachel9733 5 месяцев назад

I'm so glad you're back! I found your channel just as you left, out of all the creators out there in this niche you resonated the most with me and what I wanted to do with my business. I look forward to what you have to share with us this year!

@isabelfaith 5 месяцев назад

Fell in love with your channel back in 2020 when I first started my RU-vid Channel. Binged your entire channel. Somewhere in the middle I remember your content & vibe kind of changing. BUT THIS VIDEO RIGHT HERE!!! This is real & raw & brave & I'm all for it!! I can't imagine the pressure & stress of all the success. Keep rocking on. You're awesome!!! You have helped many, many people not feel alone in starting a RU-vid Channel! From all the lessons & all the "straight to the point videos", to giving us guidance on HOW to Start, You were that support we needed when we knew we were meant to create content but had no clue WHERE to start. Your content has always been valuable, informative & no BS. And to all of that, Thank YOU!

@angelaweeks5207 4 месяца назад

Vanessa I have adored since you began your channel and admire you so much for taking that pause and reflecting and being honest about it. You’re a true inspiration! 🙏

@michaellefevers4248 4 месяца назад

I started watching your channel back in late 2022 and was excited with all you were saying. I had fringe ideas of things I would like to do but I was still just messing around with it. I remember your Jan 2023 video and then the year got busy for me, and I totally went a different direction. In short, I didn't realize you were gone from RU-vid (my fault) but I'm actually thankful because I would have missed you more! 🙃 THIS video was amazing, and I felt everything you were trying to get across. Again, I'm learning things from you! I'm glad you're back with a renewed sense of purpose! Welcome back!

@Catina28 5 месяцев назад

Welcome back.. One thing I will add for anyone under 30. Vanessa has beautifully described the process all young people have to go through before u find yourself. Uve spent so much time absorbing and learning from others that there comes a point wen u will realise u can't follow it all and must choose a path. This is all normal and u get better at it by the time u get to 30. That's the main reason that most become conservative wen older

@GiselleLoayza 5 месяцев назад

This is so true

@deborahgold 5 месяцев назад

This is one of my favourite videos from you! So authentic, so raw. Love the editing style too, it's less graphics and quick paced and feels like the focus is more you and your story x

@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

Thank you so much!! Lol this video took a long time to put together! i was verrryyyyyy rusty with filming after not making videos for a year haha! I really appreciate this positive feedback! Means more than you know.

@MitsySalomon 5 месяцев назад

@deborahgold I agree with you on the editing style. So dope.

@hazelandjorge 5 месяцев назад

I was thinking the same as this comment! You are smart and in some ways I lost interest in your videos. Now days we see in social media the same videos with different people (boring) This is the type of videos that inspire and feed creativity of creators and confirm us what really matters. As a designer I really love this one! If somebody wants to succeed "God will always be vertical relationship and any other else horizontal!" in this way we do what is in our heart under his magnificent purposes.

@Mitchell_Network 4 месяца назад

I appreciate you telling the story behind your success. So many times we assume people on RU-vid just fall into success but you really explained the stress of being successful on social media and what it takes. Good luck in your new businesses.

@angieokamoto9250 4 месяца назад

❤❤❤1000% love! I must say that your welcome-back message was incredible! I am truly impressed by your genuine care for the people around you and your audience. Your message made me feel like a VIP and I appreciate the way you inspire and motivate others. Thank you for being such an amazing person and setting such a high standard for others to follow.

@eVaniwithaV 5 месяцев назад

"I traded my 9 to 5 for a 24/7." That resonated with me so much! I completely understand. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable about this!

@demarcusds95 4 месяца назад

It’s so true and the juice is not worth the squeeze. People are waking up and are starting to realize what makes them happy. It’s good to see

@thecalliekelley 5 месяцев назад

THIS WHOLE VIDEO GAVE ME CHILLS! YOUR HONESTY IS F**KING EVERYTHING! OMG, THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! This video was meant FOR ME! You are speaking TO ME.

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

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@michellerukny 5 месяцев назад

So proud of you for sharing all the reflections of your life. This is so raw, real and valuable! Great things to come for you!

@smartoperationsclub 4 месяца назад

Wow! Which video! Thank you for sharing this journey you have been through. I'm glad you're posting videos again!

@elenatodoesposible1111 5 месяцев назад

I admire how authentic and conscious you are. Many people are chasing dreams and putting so many pressure on then when actually they don’t truly want that. Thank you for sharing and remind us to be just humans and not “images” for please others. Reminding that our value doesn’t depend on our results. ❤ much love for you

@adelinesugianto2380 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing this. I think not everyone dares to be completely open and honest about their journey publicly. I believe it will help a lot of people who might be in the same position regardless of how big or small their struggle is. Welcome back!

@mybostonrealtorkarina 3 месяца назад

Never heard about the book you mentioned, but how spot on on the vertical vs horizontal relationships ! "Horizontal" people ( 🙋‍♀) are often seen as "unambitious", but the reality is they may know themselves enough to move through life in different patterns, cultivating and collecting quality relationships, not mere $ or accolades. Great reflection, thank you for sharing 💕

@HELLO-JESS 3 месяца назад

YASSS! YOU ARE ENOUGH! Beautiful message of truth! Thank you for sharing this very important experience. I am a new content creator here on RU-vid and your experience is very eye opening and helpful.

@BBenoist 5 месяцев назад

We were both in the same program with Sunny and I have watched your channel from day 1. I have to say, Vanessa - I am so damn proud of you for what you did and what you are now doing. I look forward to the new *you* that is coming our way. I am sincerely wishing you the best.

@MissKrysEightSix 5 месяцев назад

The way I resonated with you throughout was unbelievable. My experience is different in that my husband has decided to take reigns over our company. He was scared to make me feel like he didn’t need me and I was scared to say I was overwhelmed. It was affecting our marriage and when we finally spoke about me staying at home, it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders and HIS! I’ve realized that, we as women, already deal with so much stress and our family life, there really is a threshold where it starts to affect even your mental and physical health. I didn’t realize that until this January when I started to stay home and care for our home and my body. My husband is incredibly happy to have a warm meal to come home to and I’m soo happy to serve him knowing what the stress is like at work. The way you look incredibly calm and happy is exactly how I feel now. Congrats. ❤

@VickyLashenko 5 месяцев назад

This 💯!!!!!!

@tomatotrees372 4 месяца назад

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@jennjennsuu 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for this. I’m currently 25 with not much to show for myself and sometimes I feel like a failure 😣. But honestly, this video gave me a whole new different perspective. It has so many gems I actually might have to watch it a second time. But what I mainly got from it is to make sure to have a strong sense of self/identity so we don’t lose ourselves in our pursuit of success. And to really define when enough is enough. What kind of quality of life you genuinely want and to strive for that, but no more. Especially if it will cost you your happiness and sanity. Thank you so much 🙏🏽. I subscribed 💕

@ruthnovales880 4 месяца назад

Thank you for your genuineness and authenticity. It’s hard to come by these traits these days on social media. I am so excited for this next phase of your life!!!!

@iamgiuliaguerrieri 5 месяцев назад

Full body chills! I’m SO ready for this next chapter. 🎉🎉🎉 You can just feel and see this new energy. It’s radiating from you. Thanks for being such a role model through my journey 🩷

@OhohohTST 5 месяцев назад

Girl, Dan Koe and Alex Hormozi just ain't keeping it real, you feel me? Big shoutout to you! Respect for trusting your gut. Your vibe, vulnerability, openness, and straight-up honesty are what make you a legend. Being a woman is your strength!

@spicy_lola 5 месяцев назад

I had to mute them and their toxic productvity

@VanessaLau 5 месяцев назад

Aww thank you. I realize through this process that there is space for everyone. So many different styles, different values, different personalities. It's what makes the internet so great - we get to choose our mentors and who we want to follow. It took me a while to realize that just being me is the differentiator!

@WisdomWithin999 5 месяцев назад

Yesss this comment right here

@MonicaMain 5 месяцев назад

@@spicy_lola me too! I'm glad it's not just me who is starting to cringe at their attempts to make everyone feel like lazy POS for not working hard enough or smart enough. It's just exhausting and there's no life balance at all. But those guys are young. When they hit 50, they'll likely change their tune on "productivity" and switch to spirituality and life balance. They're just not there yet on their journey.

@user-ex3mx7hk4l 5 месяцев назад

@@MonicaMain 👏👏👏

@STREETFOODJOURNEY5 4 месяца назад

welcome back sissy 🥳

@thewayet 5 месяцев назад

Welcome back! Good for you! Thank you for sharing and you are enough!!! 😊

@TheCosmicInitiative 5 месяцев назад

This brought me to tears because I feel all that pressure now before I have even reached the level of success I want yet. And it has been turning me into someone I don’t like. Taking this to heart

@twonrichpo1126 5 месяцев назад

Definitely a great honest much needed video. She let it all out. So many people are so afraid to be this honest. Vanessa is a super hero in my mind. And yes take this heart n use it to ur advantage

@SkySocialAssistant 5 месяцев назад

Hey there! It's okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes. Take a break is also important 😊

@jessicastansberry 5 месяцев назад

So glad to see you back Vanessa! I love that you're sharing the BTS and everything as you come back too!!! We've missed you

@mirandaamora 4 месяца назад

Wow, thank you for sharing so transparently! Tons of us in the coaching industry went through similar things within the past year in our own ways so you are NOT alone. Excited to see what you create now that you're more aligned!!!

@tdona77 2 месяца назад

Just wandered into your channel. Thank you for your insight on the reality of being a digital creator, it is an eye opener. I am happy to see that you are taking your life back. Make you and your family the number one priority. ❤