People in general are careless with things they have not paid for with their hard earned money. The fact that he's fortunate & he knows he can be careless & break stuff & it will be replaced makes it even easier. This sound like an old case of a child being spoiled. Stop simply letting time pass & replacing things after he breaks them. He need to work for things back. Make him learn the valuable lesson of EARNING the things he wants. And really make him work! If it cost $150 for a phone to be fixed, put a price on sweeping, mopping, cleaning his room.. all the way until he earns enough to get it fixed with money he has earned. Before he breaks another thing, he'll think about the hard work he put in for it 💯
When my son did careless things and got upset and broke things, that made me spend more to replace it. I let Dad handle it and he talked with his Dad and told him things he wasn't telling me. It stopped. You are a great mother and keep being that❤❤❤
Aye lil bro your mother telling you some real stuff I was doing the same thing at your age and I had to learn the hard way take the right path lil bro make your mother proud Prayers to y’all ❤
Asking him and providing someone he's comfortable communicating with is two different things I'm learning. As an Auntie my sister tried to ensure the kids were comfortable with many adults her girls can trust so after 30 years of being an honorary mom I understand a SUPPORT SYSTEM "village" more thoroughly. Once I reproduce I'd find a child therapist for "just in case" for my little too(God willing I can afford it) because it has been very helpful for talk therapy at times in my life. It's more of Emotional Regulation bc sometimes it can be anxiousness. When we don't have words we can't make sense of the emotion. He's a boy with testosterone and a totally different world view and expectations than a girl/woman so please don't take it as a personal stab against you as a person or mother. There are times where we still as adults do not feel comfortable communicating or being vulnerable. He may not know yet just like us during PMS. Kids are srill learning abd figuring life out too 💙 Rooting for you all Reedy 🫶🏽
Get a landline phone. Stop replacing things and fixing them immediately after he breaks them. Once he gets them back give him time limits on them. When he says he’s bored after losing or breaking things make him read out loud. Therapy helps. Consistently is key. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Stand on consequences good or bad
He break stuff cause he know you gone replace it!! He need his butt whooped and when he destroy stuff cause “he got mad” he can STAY mad without getting it replaced!! He needs to LEARN CONSEQUENCES!!!
And as kids knowing u will replace it , he feel comfortable doing it bc he know u will get it fix , let him stay without it for a few to teach him a lesson .
First like everyone is saying please get him a therapist. He’s frustrated and can’t express himself. Also stop running to replace things I had to learn that as well. They value it more when they have to work for it. Also my therapist suggested removing everything in the room except the necessities like the bed and that’s it. It worked for my daughter. I hope it works out for you both.
He growing up, going thru them pains, my baby use to just fought at school whenever he was stressed out or couldn't get something, instead of beating his head in😌😌 I had some therapy
My two older babies 20 & 21 didn't appreciate me until there were not a TV in my home and a PS4 when everybody was playing PS5. Now my 13 yrs old is waiting to get a nice TV n console. Cuz I learnt the hard way that over compensating material items hinders as they grow and mature. The bare minimum and then earn your right to enjoy that. I'm promise you will see a change. He not crazy he is spoiled and bad energy tends to flow when babies are given too many entitlements. Talk to him bout so called spiritual things and pay attention after that. Spiritual warfare is at play ..
Anger is a secondary emotion which means it perhaps another primary emotion he is feeling such as sadness. Also other strong emotions such as aggression is often genetic as well meaning somewhere down the family line it was also occurring. I would definitely encourage counseling where he can get better coping skills and a tool box to release his anger. Additionally, put him in some extracurricular activities to help keep him occupied during the summer or maybe a camp. Parenting is hard, keep going and asking the right questions.
I don’t think it’s anything in particular you’re doing wrong but I’d recommend he speak to someone about the behavior and coping mechanisms for when he does get upset. Because in reality he could punched a whole In wall, threw something, had an attitude, anything really but he is choosing to specifically to break electronics. Y’all both just need to understand the why 😊
That's what I'm talkin about mama, it's the don't think I won't pop you because you on this camera because I will. I love it!!!!! You sound like me sis I love this type of mom especially one that works hard for her kids and will let you know what it is at the same time periodt!! ❤
A physical activity would probably help as well. I know he likes mental stimulation but we need a balance in order to stay regulated outlets for physical, emotional, mental. Kids are very much little adults with wayyyyy more active emotions than us bc they also have a "parent" overseeing their EVERY LITERAL MOVE! I can't imagine that sh🤯 anymore i be side eyeing when another aduly ask mewhere im going NEOWW👀🤣🤭
He does cause it, he knows you’re going to replace it or get it fixed. Don’t even get mad just dont fix it or replace it. He will learn. Don’t leave him at home anymore he doesn’t deserve that level of freedom. He has to earn his freedom and luxuries so that he can appreciate them.
I left my son in the house. It started raining he was outside by the neighbors. He breaks all his devices also because of anger this happened last year.But he matured a lot and he do much better now, because I let him go without a iPad for a yr
I deal with this now as well and I said the same thing you said I’m gonna get my son some anger management classes or so kind of help because he do the exact things Riley do just break stuff up when upset
Yeah bring him by Bobo he’ll get his mind right!! When I was a child my punishment was to go by my daddy, it definitely got my mind right lol my mama knew I ain’t want go over there even tho my daddy was cool it’s nothing like staying with your mama!
Certain stuff you can’t let kids slide with if you don’t like take something they love from them then they will never kno cause they gonna go back and do the same thing
See my boy had issues with controlling his emotions caused by medicine he was taking for seizures. I IMMEDIATELY got him a new neurologist and asked for a different type of medicine because I saw how it affected him but he was still dealing with some of the effects from the medicine for some time after. So, I had to work with him A LOT to help him identify his emotions and behaviors. He is now at a point where he has more control over how he react when he recognizes certain emotions he’s feeling. Of course he aint perfect because nobody is and he is still a child but he definitely came a long way already with that. He also knows that there are consequences to his actions whether it be hood or bad but he knows it all depends on him. So he is much more conscientious of his actions and will think before doing things. This stuff takes a lot of time then you have to consider a child’s disposition & temperament too.
Re my 4 yo is scheduled for his first therapy session. I just want him to have an outlet and learn to express his emotions when angry. I’m normalizing therapy for myself and my kids.
Kids belong outside like the good ole days. iPads and video should be for rainy days if he’s playing the game all the time of course he’s going to get bored.
Yeah bring him by Bobo he’ll get his mind right!! When I was a child my punishment was to go by my daddy, it definitely got my mind right lol my mama knew I ain’t want go over there even tho my daddy was cool it’s nothing like staying with your mama!
