I Destroyed My Family - A Story I don't talk about 

Here's the vid of my dad's birthday car - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-0XVCLAP5SZw.html Here's the vid of my dad quitting his job - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-rwaunGvGmS0.html I recognize that I didn't destroy them, but I'm not sure if we'd be all split of like this if I hadn't have tried to help

Forty years ago, my mother took out $10,000 in student loans, a Mastercard, Visa, phone and utilities in my name.It took me over a decade to clear my name. Not everyone gets good parents.

“I destroyed my family” You what mate? You did the best you could dude. I would have done the exact same thing

Joshua Fluke : - Full stack developer - Entrepreneur - CUTTING ONION NINJA

You didn’t destroy your family. You chose to step out of the fire

Man, from hearing your stories it's like you've lived multiple lives

Josh, you're the most real dude on RU-vid.

damn, who's cutting all these onions.

I think your greatest asset is that you are a great story teller.

Hey I'm 58 and I actually listened to your whole story it was like an audio book... you have the gift or orator and writer.... Put it together.. you will do Great

This was so intense dude. I wish more people can see content like this. People are so quick to judge others who are in tough situations without even realizing the unfortunate series of events that got them in that situation. It's so hard articulating the pressure to work hard to people who have stable families they can always fall back on. When your entire family depends on you it feels like you are carrying the weight of the world on your back.

1. I cried. 2. Your sis needs to wake the hell up. 3. Hi Joshua's dad! I hope you're well!

Dude you've been through more shit than most people can imagine. You're a strong man.

I can relate, My parents( actually my dad) took advantage of me financially the last 3 yrs I lived at home before joining the Navy 3 months before I turned 18( mama co-signed) I worked more/less full time and went to school and every cent nearly went towards the family’s budget. My first payroll job when I turned 14( you had to be atleast 16 , but we lied on applications) . The pre computer era made this possible when the requested copy of a birth certificate never arrives and nobody follows up on it, made this possible. Anyway in those 3 yrs I managed to buy my first car with what very little of my pay I was allowed to keep, but my dad kept the car for himself, when he did that I saved and bought my first motorcycle which he sold while I was in Basic Training! This was many, many yrs ago. Today, I’m a grand father, with grandkids from 3 of my 4 adult children, and I can honestly say not only have I never taken a nickel from any of them, but there was always lots of cash handed out by dear old dad and my youngest actually drove a brand new car in high school ( no I’m not rich, just generous . I have always resented the kind of man my dad was and I vowed to not ever let anyone harbor those thoughts of me, because they never go away , they are regrets that race forward with the mention of a name.If I am to be resented, it will have to be my views or politics that differ, or I asked someone to do something I myself would not do( not happening). Anyway good luck young man, you remind me of a guy that got kicked around yrs ago but had a strong work ethic and a level head on his shoulders. You will be just fine! Just Keep Diggin Young Man !

You’re killin it, Josh. This is only the second video of yours that I’ve seen but it’s obvious that you are a really stand up dude. You have a good heart. Hang in there.

THE reason I subscribed to your channel is YOU. The way you share your life and the wisdom you’ve gained in your young years is inspiring. You’re such a good man - smart, compassionate, level-headed, committed, integrity to the moon and back, loving, strong while not fearing vulnerability, principled, and so much more. You’re not perfect (no one is) but you are so human and not afraid to show it. Totally endearing and you’re the type of guy I would be friends with if we met. Keep being you! It’s beautiful.

dude you tried to help your family dont be so hard on yourself , remember no matter how bad it is stack overflow is worse

Thank you Joshua for being so open with us throughout your journey on this thing we call life. We realize you're putting yourself in an extremely vulnerable place, and we appreciate it a ton.

There’s more to this story. Sounds like a major addiction, father, mother or sister, maybe all three.

I stumbled on this and man, I’m glad I did. As a mother , I just want to say I would be so proud to have a son like you. God bless you in all that you do.

As a parent, you feel a lot of shame to go to your children for money. Honestly, dude, you are a good son. Make those videos with your dad.

I can't believe how privileged i am when i hear your story, i feel like i'm leeching off my parents for having to do 1 extra semester at uni because of my lazy ass. I don't think i could've handled your situation man :/ I love my parents and we have a great relationship but i can't even imagine my family in tough times and i guess that's a good thing. But one thing's for sure, i have to work my ass off like you to be successful at life, thanks for making this video and showing me that, it's a good reminder to do my best every time no matter the circumstances.

You didnt break the family, the family was together, they naturally drifted and you couldnt control it, it would have happened in Georgia too. Youre so strong and responsible :)

You're a tough SOB Josh. None of this is your fault. You did way more than most would have. It is commendable.

Man, you’re the sweetest. You might get tons of comments from me about your videos, and not only are your Corporate Cringe videos absolute gold... your home-hitting videos are the absolute best. And it fucking hits home, let me tell you. Thanks. I’m proud of you for doing what you did to help them as much as you could.

31:17 is the story of my life I'm tearing up now; loneliness from family 👪 is killing me. I miss my 2 sisters, my nephew, and my parents. I have no friends because they are not worth it. Stay blessed Josh! -Eugene

Hey man, you’re a really good dude and you’ve had a shitty string of luck. You deserve all the success you’ve gotten this far and more. I appreciate you! World needs more Joshua Flukes.

Your Mom and sister failed the family. Your Dad and you tried to compensate. Fight or flight. You are both fighters.

You didn’t ruin your family. I can’t believe all the stuff you’ve gone through.

"The road to hell is paved with good intentions."

You didn't destroy your family, bro. You did the best you could. No one will fault you for that. You did your best, Josh.

Joshau, your story really hit me in the feelers on many levels. We all have our problems and issues but it takes a courage to make such a heartfelt video. I'm sure that so many people can relate and watching you talk about your issues and how you're dealing with them will really motivate others to help themselves out of the pit of despair we often find ourselves. Sometimes we forget that we're not the only person in the world facing problems and it feels like the world is against you. But even if a person like you who seems to have so much more of their life has such a burden on their mind, but yet prevails to achieve and follow their goals, it's a real motivator. Your videos are really motivating and you have a positive impact on so many people. Don't forget that you mean so much to so many people. All the views and comments come from real people, a lot of whom respect and appreciate you a massive amount. Now I don't tend to show emotion or BS people with emotional fluff, but I can see when a bro needs it.

They didn't want to bother you so they maxed out your credit cards and ruined your credit. Yup, no trouble at all...sheesh.

Josh, what your family did to your finances is absolutely inexcusable. You are so strong for not being resentful. I hope your sister wakes up.

Joshua, I wanted to tell you that you are a good man. One day you will look back on these situations and you will realize that they were the pieces that God used to build you up to be the man who he created you to be. It's situations like these that they don't only try us, and break us, but they also build us up. Make us question the kind of man we want to be. I feel something just telling me to tell you.. one day you will be that man who was brave enough, had courage enough to step out to do what needed to be done. To face your life head-on and that makes you a good man.

There's a book I remember reading called: "The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty" by Aaron Clarey. There is a chapter where he speaks about the hindrance of helping family and the costs of culture and moral duty - he predominantly talks of sons feeling they need to support their single mothers as "man of the house". In your case, your parents didn't make poor choices but fell on extremely hard times and you made it your moral duty to help them. Your plan was admirable and likely would have worked if it were simply you and your dad. You felt compelled to support your father, your father felt compelled to support your mother, your mother felt compelled to support your sister, but your sister felt compelled to support nobody; she is the most worrisome character in this story. I'd focus some attention on building her self-esteem. If she's unresponsive to help, cut her off because watching the people you love self-destruct is painful.

Very powerful story . My respect for you went up by 1000 when you helped move your family out of Georgia. Serious boss move. You went above and beyond. My grandmother always says things eventually fall into place. Stay positive and take care of yourself. 😊

You didn't destroy anything, you did your best man.

I lost my dad when i was 14. In 34 now. There is a moment of every day where i literally have to keep myself up on my feet because i get hit with such a deep momentary sadness that i forget how to breathe and i have to will myself not to start crying. Everyday. I never had a chance to help him. My brother... I disowned him when i was 24. Drugs. Stealing. Lack of concern for his choices and i was struggling to find my way alone in life. After my father had died i got family hopped, my mother was not involved in my life to that point, and basically enrolled myself in a night school program to graduate 2 years early from high school so i could legally work 40 hours a week to support myself. Anyway... My brother died from a drug overdose a few Christmas's ago. I hadn't talked to or seen him or even thought of him for years, and even over the phone with the police as they told me i was very heartless about the situation. I went to i.d. his remains and see him before i called our sister and grandmother to inform them of the situation. Those few moments alone in the hospital room with his body was as tough if not tougher than losing my dad. I never gave him a chance and i have to own that for the rest of my life. Long story short. Family blood is no thicker than any other blood. It runs just as fast from a stranger. Looking back now, i wish i had the willpower to not just suck it up from day to day when the memory hits me. I wish i had the ability to try when it might have made a difference. I appreciate this video. Im so happy i subscribed to your channel.

Josh I have been listening to these big events in your life, they are some of the saddest experiences I have ever heard someone going through. Especially since your heart is always in a good place. I thought my life was tough but it isn’t anything like these stories. Keep your head up.

This guy is so real and relatable he just keeps breaking my heart every time I listen to him and yet I still can’t stop listening to him.

Most dev channels advertise how to "get rich quick" if you put the grind and hustle in first. Josh, you're one of the real ones. Thanks for telling it like it is and sharing your life story as well as your dev journey. It is so similar to what I've been going through these last couple of years. Also, I'd love to see Millennial vs Boomer videos 😂😂

I had a very similar thing happen to me in 2008, and sort of perpetuated itself throughout most of my adult life. My dad left my brother and I in a house that was foreclosing and I had no idea until one day a sheriff came to our door and asked for my dad. I had told them that he hasn't been around in months and I don't know where to find him. I was in total shook, I was 18 years old, my brother was 15. My dad wasn't answering his phone, we had 30 days to be out with no where to go. My brother ended up dropping out of hs and living on the streets for 10 years before he got his shit together. I could go on about this and what happened in between the 11 years since then. Life isn't easy it's not meant to be. We are all heading towards the same fate. We have to help the people we love the best we can and if they aren't grateful for the help and reciprocate even it just by staying out of trouble then you have to move on and take care of yourself. I'm sorry about your loss, and I hope the best for the future of your family. I enjoy your insight on things and how you share stuff like this. Kind Regards.

How can you label this 'I destroyed my family'? It sounds like you did everything you could to save them but they still destroyed themselves. It's hard but at one point you have to let it go. I know: I cut ties with my family and moved out of my country.

Damn Josh, you've been through some shit. However its these tough times that help you build character. Life is hard. I got nothing but respect for you.

This was the most real thing I've experienced I've never seen anyone's life go this wrong and still continue to do his best And what the fuck do you mean by saying I destroyed my family My guy, u did ur absolute best and that's all that we can do Stay strong man, we are always here with you

Hey man, really sorry that your grandpa passed away. May he rest in peace.

I have mad respect for you, Joshua.

The American culture is so confusing to me. I see more logic in having his parents move to Utah and getting a bigger apartment so they can ALL live in, rather than having two separate rent and lives. Once things have stabilize I would consider moving out!

Dude I so feel for you. All the suffering you went through. You deserve every bit of success. You are a real inspiration

Jesus. You have a harsher experience than I do. I've essentially lost both of my parents and nobody among my aunts & uncles give me a shit or either just mocking me or taking advantage of me & what's left of my old man . Ending up homeless stranded in a hotel for more than a month. Well fortunately I've still got a roof over my head and a computer to continue pushing my projects ahead making ends meet for the time being. Jesus. I'm heading to Turkey & Belarus to see what I can do to get back on my feet. Dude. I wish you all the best. You have my respect & thanks for this video.

These stories about what happened to you fascinate me every time. I am so sorry you and your fam have gone through this. On a brighter note, you are an excellent storyteller.

A lot of people try to pretend they've had it rough, but I think the people who've *actually* had it rough know the value in being positive and spreading positivity around. Props to you for spreading positivity. Your videos helped me get my first programming job less than a month ago. You're one youtuber who deserves the success for sure.

Bruh.......you are an incredible human....much love coming from Portland

Wow, I ugly cried during this. Really really powerful video. God bless, I’m so sorry you’ve had to overcome so much in your life man.

when we set a boundary, we are withdrawing from the undue burden of someone else's shame that they don't want to carry themselves. it happens in families, where the parents use the children. by withdrawing, im handing their shame back to them. it hurts, but it was always theirs.

You are a good son.. Some americans this days wouldn't do the same

Dude, believe me, you would never regret helping out your parents in hard times. That's the one thing that I've learned in life. More power to you and wish your parents all the best.

This video popped up in my recommendations and I teared up after watching the whole thing. I don't know who you are but what you did is admirable. I wouldn't be able to do what you have done for your family.

It's so heartbreaking to listen to this after having listened to the newer updates and knowing how nothing was like he thought man

Bro, just write a book. This is like the saddest ish ever!!!

My grandpa passed away last Saturday. Right there with you. Stay strong bro

Dude I'm so happy I found your channel by accident. You're the most humble dude ever from my perspective at least. HUGE RESPECT from me to you for all you've done. Cheers to you dude!

Mad respect. I'm in a similar predicament as well with my family. It's really hard. Thank you for posting this.

This made me cry. I grew up with drug addicted parents that would pawn out my ps2 every week to ‘have money for food’ I have lived my whole adult life with my finances hidden from them because I’m worried I’ll get taken advantage of.

Correct title: My Sister Destroyed My Family

With this content the YT algo will chase after you. You're doing things right Josh, keep going strong 🙏

This video teared me up. I have a huge respect for you, man! You've been through a lot but you've always tried to do the right thing!

It’s hard to understand why someone so close could betray you. I’m sorry you had to go through this Josh. Thank you for sharing your story; I know it’s a difficult topic.

I've never related so much to someone on social media before. Thanks!

What a beautiful human being you are!! Congratulations for that!!

Hard times make the best version of you!! Thanks Josh

Wow.. Just wow.. One of the best videos I've spent a half hour watching in 2019.. Thanks for sharing... wow.

I will be very proud of my 8 year old son turns out a man half as decent as you are. My respect to you man

Wow, so sorry you and your family have gone through so much. I hope things are better.

so this broke my heart and fixed it at the same time...

Josh we love you....... watching from Nairobi , Kenya Africa.

I honestly cried watching this. You didnt break your family apart. You helped your family. Its just life circumstances sucks and you are very strong trying to keep them together. I think if you didnt help them before it wouldve been much worse. Now your mom is able to take care of her mom and is able to be there for her family. Im wishing the best for you

Everytime I watch these videos I am reminded that I have a really good family. I hope no one experiences what Josh went through.

You're a freaking inspiration. This made me thing about my finances differently and made me orient myself so that I could always cover an emergency my parents may run into in the future.

Man intense 🤯. Great to see the truth and not the usual social media BS, “my life is perfect”, thanks for sharing. All the best dude, you rock, looking forward to the new style videos with your dads adventures / reacts

Hey man, I appreciate you. Thanks for being there.

Damn I thought I had it rough. I left home at 17 and was homeless living in my car for a while. I'm doing well now. But if I had to support my family I don't think I would have made it

You have to keep your mental health !!! You have done the best you could and beyond. You are experiencing life as is everyone else. Worse is out there than what you going thru. Again, Your Mental Health is important !!!

I'm so glad that you're willing to tell these stories... a lot of people are suffering through things like this and blame themselves and feel guilty for not doing enough while being eaten alive financially by family or friends no matter what the reason is. That's why these videos are among the most popular on your channel.

I know what you're dealing with guy. Eerily similar situation i had to work through (more like survive through). Unforseen problems seemingly dropping out of the sky. First in your lap then on your shoulders. You didn't destroy your family. Nothing wrong with being the captain of your own ship and expecting all hands on deck to either start helping repair the damage or get out.

I'd watch boomer reacts.

Jesus Christ, and I think I had it rough...you've been through a lot man.

Your honesty is inspiration.

I have a beautiful,20 year old daughter-she works.Watching this,makes me wish,I had a son,like you....Can't have been easy....You're special,and I hope you are appreciated....

Dude as someone who has gone through so much i can really relate. You did your best and your right your sis and mom could have worked as well with the wage they could have lived an ok life. Not great but ok. Its really sad that a country with so many opportunities people waste it.

Hey Josh, I appreciate you 👍🏻

If I were in your shoes I would have failed miserably.. I have no idea how you made it man.. wish you the best

12:07 "We didn't want to put more burden to you... So instead we stoled $5,000 from you" What kind of thinking is that? When my brother died, my mom didn't have any money to pay for the funeral. (The bank refused to take my brother's money to pay the funeral, because she asked "too late". Assholes). So she asked me, my ant, my father and my sister for money. Of course, me and my sister were the last on the list, but she asked anyway if it was okay. I refused, because of college, but my sister accepted. She never stole anything from me and she's still paying everyone back the money she asked. (Except for my father, I think. He gave her the money, for what I understood). That's what a parent should do. Scratch that, that's what a decent human being should do. I can't believe some people would actually stole for their own children. That's fucked up.

Josh 🥺 you are..... wow. You’re a stand up man being so young and being level headed. How hard that time was for you. We need more men like you in the world. Definitely pulling at my heart strings.

I feel you on some of this - I've went through similar credit situations with one of my parents but the action behind it was not as pure as your parents. I'm happy to be in a situation where I can help out my siblings and parents. You've clearly went above and beyond and I know deep down your family is grateful for your efforts.

As you recollect these memories I can see you reliving some of them through your eyes.

I truthly cried at this video, at your story, at how you treated and made your best at this critical situation. I hope you my bests, I wish to your father my bests, and I’m really sorry for your loss. You bring me in tears, but they aren’t comparable with your tears. You are pure gold man.

when you're planning to study coding and end up on this video

I’m so sorry for all things you’ve been through...