Ex knows op compromised on his life goals and on his stance about kids just so he could be married to her. She cheated because she thought she could, plain and simple.
Let's be honest, the partner usually doesn't want to give up the security of something built to be with something that's honestly irresponsible and not as secure.
I don't. There's a perverse pleasure in these stories. To destroy those that destroyed you. Is it wrong? Probably. Do I care? Nope. These stories are great
This is heartbreaking, but a good reminder to never give up your goals for anyone. People can come and go in life, but you will always have to live with your own decisions. He should've went to medical school.
@notlisztening9821 possibly, but he also gave up on a career goal he had, got married even though he didn't have plans to, became a step father even though he doesn't want children. He may have been left with a what if about her but he could have also gottent the career he wanted and found someone else who actually wants the same things as him.
It's funny that he thinks it's petty and weak to actually do the mature thing , it's better than exploding and yelling and screaming in the middle of a lobby or anywhere really
I know she's an asshole, and he deserved way better after 17 years of everything he gave her, but the hate sex part... he shouldn't offer that and she shouldn't allow it... sort of makes my skin crawl... Both of em should just leave it be...
She won tho. She got a guy to give up his career to take care of her and her daughters. He helped raise 2 kids that aren't his and they don't even see him as a dad. He took a massive L imo.
Have you finished watching? The daughters thought he was the person that cheated on their Mother from a previous relationship and silently resented him since. Once that came up on their appointment, they forgave each other and ended things on a respectful note.
@@aerth6946 They gave him no respect at all. Then a bunch of resenting and issues and then "oopsie sry" and all is well in the world? Not the way it goes. Not ever.
That is true, but now comes the rest of her life, while growing elderly. Will that reproductive success translate into romantic success, for, again, the rest of her life.
think about the worst waste of time in your life. think about how much that pissed you off. now, divide 17 years by that amount of time wasted in your life, then imagine going through that situation that many times. that's how much time this dude's wife caused him to waste
I'd love to see more variety in stories again. Feels like the last 5 or so were all revenge porn against women that I assume gets the most views but I enjoyed that this channel wasn't only that. Feels like all these reddit story channels are trending in that direction
I think I personally like these since it pretty much always ends badly for the cheater and I feel like that’s a big reason why their so popular, there’s definitely comfort in the thought if someone were to do that to me or a friend, that it could or maybe even would likely end badly for them
why does everyone say that its healthy to forgive the person who wronged you. if your partner had an affair you don't forgive you don't forget you tell them to fuff off and live your life without them. Who else agrees with me or am i in the wrong?
While I can fully understand your reasoning it's because it is healthy to forgive. To forgive merely means you won't hold it over them any more, that you let that situation go and move on. Not that you have to continue to even interact with that person or act like it never happened. Just let it go and stop letting it decide everything moving forward. Now all of this is soooo much easier said than done and I haven't even fully embraced it as there is a couple people I haven't fully forgiven in my life.
I watch these stories from this channel all the time. I want to hear some stories of husbands cheating to see a woman’s perspective. All I’ve seen so far are wives cheating
I'm listening to this at 2x's the speed, but I could have sworn he said something about snapchat actually being watsapp. They do send notifications with the message showing.
what did OP do? if you mean his hateful nature and sadism sex, then I'd say it's mostly understandable, the sadism sex is questionable, but he had 17+ years of his life wasted, why do you think he went to see a therapist several times throughout the story? he became mentally unwell and even suicidal due to a result of her betrayal, I'd be furious as well if someone decided to throw 17+ years down the drain, he's been with her for pretty much half his life
The hate sex bit just grossed me out, I wouldn't call it full on r*pe but the dynamic of the whole thing just wasn't one of proper consent, she had gone emotionally dependent on forgiveness and he extorted her for shit she normally wouldn't do for the illusion that it would lead to forgiveness.
Didn’t he make it clear there would be no forgiveness or reconcilliation? Why did she keep coming back again and again? Didn’t he say he’d do whatever he wanted and not care about her?
16:34 bro gaslited himslef into that, he jist never externalized anger as rage +only forgive on your hearth to let the burning rage go, but never admit it out loud when the problem is still going or you could break and remember to NEVER GORGET
10:49 not fully through the story yet but I’d have to say the talking shit about me behind my back seemed more of a betrayal than the cheating. We all have lustful tendencies but talking shit about your significant others downfalls are beyond betrayal.
Yeah I was with OP til the violent sex, he literally describes it as violent sex and that he wanted her to be uncomfortable during it, that’s gross as hell
Having sadistic sex with your wife and making her breakfast in the morning is a weird move, ngl. I was thinking his plan to confront his wife and the AP at their hotel was something like a manic episode, but he kind of seems to gets off on the drama of it all, like a part of him enjoys the mess. Glad he's at least going to therapy, he needs it.
I’ll never understand why people who have it all: stable relationship, family and income only to throw it away for a thrust. Only to cry crocodile tears when they get caught. It’s so stupid to me.
I wish I was friends with this guy...I ultimately quit relationships because I left from about 6 back to back relationships that ended with cheating...last was an engagement after 3 years following 14 months of cheating through Facebook with some Christian guy...I need to find somone to help me repair my trust but therapy isn't for me I need a friend who can relate...an entire year of cheating hurts...and I went through a week of nothing but sitting there in bed crying my eyelids raw
@@CaptainShenanigans42 Yeah, but not me though. His parents were right about the damaged goods part. My best friend is going through the same shit. Told him many times she’s not it, but he wouldn’t listen. It’s just like you said.
35:13 That’s why she’s so hardcore into you now. Your showing dominance over her, your being greedy with what you want in bed & not her, which ironically is exactly what she wants, that take charge & demanding what you want from her & taking it. When women (or men) make so many choices/ decisions etc, when it comes to the bed, they don’t want that power/decision making. They want to be told what to do, they want their partner to take charge….
@@ResidentWeevil2077 >"and him for becoming a hateful sociopath." >over 17 years of his life was wasted and went down the fucking drain because of her I'd say the way he was acting was understandable + he obviously was mentally ill as well due to a result of her betrayal and even became suicidal due to her cheating as he felt like he wasted his life, why do you think he went to see a therapist several times throughout the story? he has every right to be angry/upset at her
