I tried to breastfeed my now 3 month old son for the first 8 weeks and it was the biggest fucking nightmare. Even when he learned to properly latch, I got the same toe-curling skin-crawly feeling you're describing, AND I had a huge oversupply and forceful letdown. Every nursing session ended in my baby coughing up milk and both of us crying. And people (on the internet) still tried to make me feel bad about switching to exclusive pumping! After I saw four freaking lactation consultants! This video made me feel massively better about my choice. Woo. Thanks.
Chelsea P. Wow you battled through 2 months, props to you! Nobody knows how the experience was for you and nobody has the right to judge. You are a great mom for powering through a very shitty experience!!
Chelsea P. pumping moms are saints. seriously you have to be organised and so much more effort and dedication! i admire those who exclusively pump its actually an art! it seems so simple to some but it really isnt
Chelsea P. It is ALOT of work. but extremely worth it for the baby. I had to pump because my son was in NICU in an incubator for 5 weeks. I'm very happy I did it for my child. 😊 He was only 3lbs but the breast milk has more fat in it when you give birth to a preemie baby. He thrived beautifully & I was able to monitor how much he was in taking.
Chelsea P. Sorry to say but ppl who keeps forcing that breast feeding is best have some mental problems either pumping or bottle feeding than letting a little one starve to death and poor mother get overwhelmed by not be able to feed em and I think those ppl who thinks breast is best should mind their friggin business they're not the ones that are raising the kids so hun don't ever pay no attention to those jackasses.
Wait, why would somebody be offended at not being told the gender of not their child? Also, inverted nipples causes EXTREMELY painful breastfeeding. Also, if you're not careful, you will develop thrush from the cracking and bleeding. (I know from experience. 😭) So, good on you for taking the necessary steps to take care of yourself and your baby.
+Carbs Are Happiness But she's like a super private person. Did they really expect anything? Like when she "revealed" her partner, I don't think she actually revealed his face.
SakuyaLuigi I know right?! Some people do! I feel like people expect RU-vidrs to be so upfront and share these personal aspects of their lives considering they publicized the topics (pregnancy, marriage/relationship) in the first place.. It's bizarre.
So long as baby is getting nutrition whether through breastfeeding pumping or formula that's all that matter. Mothers should me supporting each other no shaming each other. PPD doesn't go away after a month. Trust me
I am glad that you exist. I enjoy listening to you while I clean my house. This is a compliment. You strangely make my house cleaning sessions much more enjoyable. Cleaning my house without you is kind of boring.
I just want to comment on keeping details about baby under wraps - I commend you on it. I won't judge people who do share a lot about their kids, but in an age of massive oversharing it's nice when a kid can just grow up in private. Kudos.
I had the same experience breastfeeding my first child. It hurt like crazy and I bought every type of pump, nipple contraptions, creams etc... nothing helped 😪 - so 2 months of painful nursing and alternating with pumping - and a tonne of searching the web for help - I discovered nursing while laying down. It totally changed the angle that baby was latching and the pain finally went away - it was like a miracle! I'd say it's definitely worth a try 👍. I ended up nursing until baby was 18 months (when I got pregnant with my second). I hope this little bit of info helps!
She did promise to post it on several videos, which was getting more and more hilarious each time. (While the recipe would be nice), I really doubt that anyone is trying to be offensive, angry or anything, these comments are rather written as a joke, so relax. At least I hope Swayze finds these funny. But yeah, of course there is more important stuff, we understand that. That's also one the reasons we are making a joke out of it.
Oh ok! Sorry I was completely wrong!!! I do apologise for my quick temper. I do not realise it was kind of recurrent joke. To be honest I do not follow every single video each time , and as I am pretty fed up with the kind of comments of some people thinking that every single youtuber is full time working on his or her channel and some unrealistic expectations .... So yeah I guess I do have a chill of bet and sorry for the catfight I stupidly started, did not mean to so.... So now I fully know the context I do like the wittyness of your comment! :-) Ok go for some yoga and chocolate now .... ^-^
Haven't even finished the video (will edit this if something comes up lol) but about 10 mins in brought something up in me: My breasts didn't develop correctly, therefore it's highly unlikely that I will be able to produce milk. I'll have to wait till birth to find out for sure of course, but hearing the scorn and negative comments about people who don't breastfeed is like.... excuse me??? I've accepted it by now, but it just really irks me that any other woman could possibly say that to another. Okay. Finishing video now :')
shannonsays Seriously I hate those judgemental moms. Moms throughout the board are trying their best. Like seriously, focus on real problems, like children in abusive households - not people feeding their kids formula. When you do have a baby, I'm sure that you'll be a wonderful mom, breastmilk or not. 😊
Seems like people are so obsessed with "breast is best" they don't even take into consideration anyone else's feelings or circumstances. I was formula fed and I did/am doing great!
shannonsays I have the same issue and was never able to make enough. It's called insufficient glandular tissue or mammary hypoplasia. I finally found out what was wrong after my third baby, after seeing a LC. Now pregnant with my 4th, and knowing what I know, Ive been able to take some herbal supplements to help build tissue and hoping that'll help this time around.
Milk never came in for me. I don’t feel bad at all for using formula. I bond with my child during her feedings. So those judgmental moms can just take their comments elsewhere.
Fed is best mama! I've done all three, and I'm currently breastfeeding. All have their pros and cons, but you should do whatever works best for you and your family. I've delt with a lot of the things you described, and almost gave up so many times too.
I think exclusively pumping is much more difficult than breastfeeding so I take my hat off to mums who pump exclusively. I'm saying this because pumping just takes so much longer than breastfeeding, esp when baby gets older and become more efficient at extracting the milk from the breast. I'm still breastfeeding my 3 year old and I pumped a lot in the beginning because of latching problems and it took forever so I'm glad I were able to get him to breastfeed. I had to get a lactation consultant to help me though. Btw I also have big boobs and struggled so much with breastfeeding in the beginning that I developed a breast abscess which was extremely painful.
Actually I don't know ANY mother who didn't have pain while breastfeeding the first couple of weeks. I started producing colostrum like sechs weeks before giving birth. It was ridiculous. And when my son came it started running, no pouring out of my as soon as he was looking at me and still it hurt like shit. It was like a knife was stabbed into my breasts. And my nipples were so sore! They gave my some kind of silicone nipple to put over mine to protect it, cause it was already bleeding. And again there were so many others who experienced that. My back only didn't hurt when I breastfed lying down. But I sticked with it and after six or eight weeks it was the best feeling and experience EVER in my life. I thought it was annoying and weird too, the first weeks and I just sticked with it, because I didn't want to get a "nursing confusion". As I said after a couple of weeks it was way more than feeding my son.
It is odd that someone would see that as an issue....who the fuck cares. And like it makes a difference. Probably waiting for the child to self identify instead of giving a label. For now it's an "IT".
My kid was only formula fed the first year of her life and I got shit every time a friend of the family came around with her son (who is 5 months older than my daughter) he was only breastfed. At 10 months she was walking and following him around, speaking more words than him, less sick and the same size. So I'm just here like, I guess it really isn't that big of a difference.
I agree with her on telling some judgmental mothers not to tell other women that what they are doing is wrong. Its already an emotional phase a woman goes through and for other women to try to make them feel bad is so shitty. My mom told me she felt so bad and guilty because I was born a c-section and I wouldn't take to the tit and even before they left the hospital they knew it was better for me to take formula because I would just push away the boob. She felt a shame for a non vaginal "natural" birth and not being able to breast feed me and I don't think any woman should have to experience that.
You didn't fail!! You did what you could. I had to do the football hold and had a lactation consultant the three days we were in the hospital. It was hard. You did your best.
Skeptyc it's about mother bonding with baby. When a baby latches to their mother's breast, oxytocin is released. This stimulates the release of milk, but it's known as the cuddle chemical/bonding hormone. Evolutionarily it makes a whole lotta sense, since newborn humans are pretty useless and rely on their parents for literally everything. A thing that ensures mum won't leave baby to go do more fun things than cleaning poop and breastfeeding is if mum is completely head over heels for baby (because of all that oxytocin)
Sabrina Hutt I breastfed one daughter for 18 months and the other daughter I didn't breast feed at all because of the medication I was on. The daughter I didn't breast feed was always much more attached to me than her sister was, right from day one...and still is 16 years later. My breast fed daughter is also celiac and has eczema whereas my my non breast fed daughter has nothing. I do think breastfeeding is best but too much pressure and fear is put in mothers.
juicelake you're absolutely right, the pressure on mothers to breastfeed is totally insane and disproportionate to the actual benefits. But there's no denying that the benefits are more than just anecdotal as was said above. As Swayze said, the act of breastfeeding does cause mom to bond more with baby because if oxytocin but so do plenty of other things.
Skeptyc it's not 'crap' it's science. oxytocin is produced in breastmilk and gives both mum and bub good feelings after breastfeeding. however you do whatever you have to do to feed your baby. everyone who hates formula clearly doesn't realise that all these babies either woukd have died before formula was invented or required a wet-nurse (if their family was wealthy).
I remember how much it hurt to breastfeed at first. It felt like razor blades cutting my nipples. However, I stuck with it and after about 2 weeks of hell, it stopped hurting completely and became SOOOO enjoyable. I miss breastfeeding so much actually. I understand why people quit, but I just wanted to encourage those out there to stick with it if you can because it gets better.
I'm glad you're able to pump because breast milk is definitely better for your baby's immune function than formula and immune function is so important to overall health. There is a lot of research on this. I don't think anyone should be made to feel bad about the decisions they make because every mother's situation is different and most are truly just doing their best but it is certainly a plus that your baby is able to get breast milk.
Yes, yes! The same thing happened to me at the hospital. The nurses and lactation consultants told me I was doing it right but it hurt soooo bad!!! I started getting blisters and cracked nipples. I took a break from nursing and started pumping exclusively which didn't work for me. I decided to try nursing again. I used a supplemental nursing system because of a low milk supply. Now I am exclusively breastfeeding! Long story, but I'm so glad you're talking about breastfeeding. It's comforting! And yes most formula smells like cardboard.
Exactly the same experience- big boobs/flat nipples. Suffered through the football hold for 4 months but Bub was getting too thin. Switched to formula and he fattened up before my eyes! Was way harder and more painful than I ever imagined and contributed to severe post natal depression trying to make the breast feeding work. Best thing for both bub and I was the day I switched to formula.
I want to reassure people that gigantic breasts doesn't make breastfeeding necessarily difficult. For 9 months I breastfed with one hand on my breast making sure everything was visible to me, I didn't even consider it a hardship
Breasteeding isn't easy, and it hurts like hell at first but if you stick with it the pain goes away. It felt like baby was cutting my nipples with broken glass but once my nipples toughened up a bit the pain was gone. It took a little over a week but for me the pain was worth it.
How is formula feeding easier? When you're breastfeeding you don't need any bottles and don't have to sterilize anything, you don't have to take anything with you when you leave the house with baby... I just stuff some diapers in my bag and we're good to go. If I were formula feeding I'd need tons of stuff. When he's hungry at night I just feed him without leaving my bed (he's in a co-sleeper). True it's hard at first, but once breastfeeding is going well it's super easy. Only downside is it's all on you, but you can always pump too. Anyway whatever works for the mom is best, it's hard enough as it is without the guilt and judgment.
I think she meant pumping is less convenient than formula. And breastfeeding was too painful (which probably doesn't make for a good bonding experience if all you associate with nursing is pain)
I agree there's too much pressure put on women to breastfeed. I hate that women buy into this and feel bad about themselves. I had 3 children breastfed none of them, didn't want to do it. They're beautiful, intelligent, and interesting young women now, never once berated me for not breastfeeding them
My mum was guilt tripped by other mums for being unable to breast feed and they implied that her lack of nursing would affect our bonding in the long term. This was on top of the post natal depression she apparently suffered from. It must have been hell for her. Yet 22 years later my mum and I have the closest relationship we could wish for. I would die for her. And now I realise that there is so much pressure placed on mums often by other mums in society! It's like a witch hunting cult centred on judging other mums on their approach to motherhood. My mum couldn't even pump. I was fed purely on formula. Yet I haven't had any detachment issues, physical ailments or psychological problems associated with me not latching onto my mums fucking boob when I was zero years old. This is why sometimes I can't stand other women. I hope one day when I become a mum I'm surrounded by supportive women who lift me up rather than tear me down.
Loved your point on not shaming mothers who couldn't breast feed. I found it incredibly painful and i felt so bad. I feared the pain i felt would eventually lead to negative feelings about motherhood, I had lots of negative comment from friends and family but i pumped and guess what i still bonded with baby! Xx
Thank you for uploading videos still - and baby related videos too. Just started going through it myself one week ago and it is nice to hear a like voice speak out. Hope all is going well with your little one and that he/she and yourself are healthy and well x
We hired a lactation consultant for our first and it turned out that part of the problem was that he was tongue-tied. She literally lived with us for 3 weeks. It was a very stressful and difficult time, but it will pass!
I hate how they tell you if you're doing it right it doesn't hurt. Breastfeeding hurts like crap at first even if you're doing it right! I'm glad pumping is working out better for you.
Breastfeeding/nursing can be SO COMPLICATED and many more negative things. You still go through the trouble of giving your child breastmilk (and i know that pumping is not convenient compared to easy painfree breastfeeding & compared to formula) and that is great. Im sorry you had such a bad experience, it just adds to my impression that too often breastfeeding is not a easy natural intuitive thing that many people make it look like. Almost everybody i know has some sort of trouble with it. Whatever works for you and dont let anyones judgement affect you.
Breastfeeding is not complicated. It does takes work to establish a good routine but for most people WHO HAVE PROPER SUPPORT, feeding baby the way nature intended is the easiest thing in the world. Having said that people who choose to pump or use formula have perfectly healthy children. No disrespect at all for those alternative choices. After all, in the end what matters is a healthy happy baby with a healthy, sane set of parents, right?
Chestnut Rau it can be complicated and honestly not one single time of any of my friends and family who breastfed had it easy or without trouble. Too big breasts to inverted nipples, premature babies and nicu stays, infections of mom or baby, broken, bleeding nipples, too much or not enough milk, mastitis and thrush, lip tie, tongue tie and fleeing chin, babies who latch badly or refuse to bf, too much gas, acid reflux, allergies and the list goes on. So much creates problems and never have i met a woman who said "the baby latched on great, my milk came in perfectly, nothing hurt or ever caused troubles and i had an easy breastfeeding experience from start to finish". Women need to educate themselves about the science and techniques of breastfeeding, need to seek out support asap if something isnt right and need to have realistic expectations. Its comments like yours that make women feel bad if breastfeeding isnt easy for them, like its their fault. In a whole it just is not easy and many if not all women go through struggles during breastfeeding.
I know what you mean about the uncomfortable feeling of nursing. I nursed my first only a couple of months and switched to formula, but then I nursed my boys for 18 months each. I considered it to be a selfless act bc I literally just did it for them bc even though there were benefits for me technically i didn't do it for those reasons at all. I hated pumping so if I stopped nursing they would have gotten formula so that's why I nursed for a year and a half. Plus to save money as a single income family of five.
Breastfeeding if it works out well can be easier than formular feeding especially when you are out and about, it's always the right temperature you don't have to take bottles and milk powder with you just yourself, the baby and diapers. Also during the night when baby wakes up and baby is sleeping right beside you, you just have to turn to the baby and give him the breast before he's got time to start crying. Whereas with bottle feeding you have to get up and are right awake. Breastfeeding helps to get back to sleep easily because of the relaxing hormones that are released while nursing. I have both experiences. Unfortunately with my first son breastfeeding didn't work out, I really tried but had sore nippels and not enough support so after just a few weeks I quit. With my second son I didn't want that to happen again and thought no matter what I'm going to breastfeed. I suffered from sore nipples for four months and even after that I still had sore nipples from time to time but kept breastfeeding and now he's 22 months old and I'm still breastfeeding although I really suffer from sore nipples again since I fell pregnant four months ago, during pregnancy the nipples are very sensitive and I'm sore again since I've been pregnant. But nevertheless I still think that breastfeeding was better and easier for me than formular especially during the night it's so convenient and I didn't have to get up and just got back to sleep while I was breastfeeding during the night. The next morning I didn't even know how often he had been nursing during the night because I was never fully awake during nursing. So with the third child it will definitely be breastfeeding again and I'm probably doing tandem breastfeeding the older one and the newborn. The older one just breastfeeds for relaxing and cuddling just before he falls asleep not because he's hungry, it's more an emotional thing at this age. He already eats a lot and has his calories covered so breastfeeding is not a food thing for him anymore. Since I got pregnant I also don't produce as much milk anymore anyway
Idk why huge knockers made me laugh so hard. I think it’s because you seem very scholarly and serious so when you say things like that it reminds me of a teacher cussing or something. Hilarious. Also awesome educational video thank you
I just want to give large chested ladies some hope: while what she says about it being difficult to see baby’s latch and having to hold your breast is true, you can still successfully breastfeed your baby. I’m an O cup (yes, you read that right) and have an 8 week old baby I’ve been successfully breastfeeding since birth. It did take some time to figure it out and yes, I had sore and cracked nipples the first week as we worked on it, as I learned and as baby learned. But we are now two months out and everything is going smoothly. So no flack if you pump or use formula, but if you want to breastfeed, you can, even with large breasts. Good luck!
I admire you so much for continuing to pump after latching was not working out, most women would just give up. All this advice is so great. As a note to other women reading this who may struggle with breast feeding, pillows do help along with trying every possible position. Also, wearing looser bras (like leisure bras) can make a huge difference if your baby seems frustrated at times, and it took me a loooong time to figure that out. But sometimes it just doesn't work out so do whatever you need to do and love your baby!
I am currently breastfeeding and pumping . Side note a good way to know if your baby is getting enough milk is how many pee and poopy diapers they are making .If baby is not going to the bathroom frequent enough , that's a good sign they are not taking in enough milk . Babies will also cry when they are hungry after feedings , if they have not taken enough in . There are feeding schedules online that show how big a babies stomach is and how much milk they need to take in per feeding .They also talk about how much your baby should be eating based on their age, and how many wet diapers they should be going through as well . There are even poop schedules , that show you what your baby's poop should look like at each stage .💩 In regards to the your little one not latching properly , do you think they maybe had a lip tie ? They are a common infirmity that cause baby to not be able to latch properly .
Props to you for exclusively pumping, I have recently had to start pumping while at work and find it soooo much more time consuming then nursing. I have so much respect for mommas who pump!
Man, I really want to see your baby and everything. You're my favourite vegan youtuber by a LOT and I am so curious.. Respecting your privacy obviously, I just wish. lol
Thank you for making this video. Just got out of the hospital with baby and dealing with large sore "chesticles" that do not yet have milk. And I had two different experiences with nurses while at the hospital that really kinda opened my eyes about how strongly different people feel about breastfeeding vs. formula-feeding and how they push those views on you and make you feel like a shit human being for the choices that you make - even when they are in the best interest of your baby (for example, supplementing with formula while waiting for your milk to come in - my baby was starving and inconsolable.)
A friend had a problem with breast feeding because of large breasts. She managed to make it work out, but it is easy to see how some people have problems that don't make it possible.Good for you, the nutrients from breast feeding are best regardless of how they are delivered.
Sasset This is awesome. I feel like there are a lot of people who worry that if they pump and baby gets used to the high flow rate of the bottle nipple that they won't be able to breastfeed later. Good job xx
Lauren Fry i think my mom said something similar happened with me actually. She breastfed me but once i discovered how i could get more milk from the bottle i never went back XD
I applaud you! I lucked out and didn’t have much difficulty breastfeeding, but many women have difficulties and then are shamed by “lactivists.” Pumping isn’t fun and takes WAY more work than breastfeeding and is truly an act of love and devotion. I’ll never understand this culture of criticizing other women who are doing their best to keep their babies fed, happy, and healthy. Being a new mom is an anxiety ridden and exhausting experience, so let’s be nice to one another and supportive. Being unnecessarily judgmental of one another doesn’t help anyone and just creates lots of guilt and hurt feelings.
Thank you for this video!!! It truly was the best one I've seen (meaning non-judgement) regarding formula/breast. We as women need to stop putting one another down if we don't "agree" with how another mother is feeding their baby! Come on ladies! As long as our babies are fed and well taken care of, shouldn't that be what matters most!? Again, thank you so much for this video. I now have two teenagers (one was formula fed and the other was breastfed ... and they are both pretty darn amazing kiddos!) , but wish I would have seen something like this when they were little, and I was crying my eyes out in the middle of the night!!!! . 👍💕
My mom said she had to pump because I was a premie (premature). I was 2 months premature. My mom did say that the baby will be smarter as an adult if breast fed, that could not be true, too. But my brother was a genius and he was breast fed.
i had this same "big tiddie" problem with my son.... with a u-shaped feeding v pillow that i could kind of rest my boob on.... it took heaps of practice and determination. they certainly don't tell you about it beforehand. i was lucky in that i loved nursing so i guess that made it easier to stick with it.
If you wanted to give it another shot, I'm pretty large too, and what I would do is pile up the pillows high on my lap, a minimum of a foot. When it was time to feed I would lean forward slightly, put my hand on top of my breast and pull back and up so my nipple was visible, and made sure my baby was on his side instead of on his back. I'm sure you know this too, but the baby doesn't suck on the nipple like they do on a bottle. You've got to get the baby to open the mouth as wide as possible and then pop it in as quickly as possible. The nipple should touch the top of the baby's mouth. I'm only telling you this because it's sometimes more convenient to breast feed, like if you're out of the house longer than you expected and get caught without your equipment.
I personally thought bf was the easiest. no need to worry about bottles, packing formula, washing and sterilizing...but I've done all three. my last baby was the easiest, and I felt so free being able to just walk out the door without having to worry about packing this huge bag.
it must be uncomfortable to pump as well, but I hope you can pump for the next 2 years. It is one of the best things you can do to your baby. There s no big difference between pumping and breastfeeding, just make sure you have positive feelings while pumping. Just a quick observation, I would never watch a video about this issue, but It seems that I m not the only one who loves to hear your voice. lol you're the best around here. Wishing you guys all the best! Love from Brazil.
Thank you for sharing your experience I think it's good for new Parents to 'talk' about the real experiences because you read a lot about how it should be and it's not always beneficial if you are struggling. You found a way that suits you, Dad and baby. Awesome
Very informative! I'm super sensitive in my chesticles and I always thought I'd get a similar bad feeling to the one you described when trying to breast feed. I never even considered pumping like that! Thanks for this video :)
I think we should all agree that it doesn't matter how you feed the baby, the important thing is that you feed the baby, and every time the baby isn't sleeping, the baby is supported emotionally in everything he does. Life during the first year is a world of shadows, feelings, raw emotions, security or insecurity. It is crucial to make the baby feel like the world isn't dangerous or painful - and the top 1 way to do it is to feed the baby properly and being present emotionally c: Sorry, kinda went off-topic, but I felt like I needed to say this.
I admire you for keeping your private stuff private. Also I really appreciate that you go through the trouble of pumping so that your kid can have breast milk.
I am one of the more fortunate women that was able to breastfeed my 2 children for their first 9 months, because by then they were both eating solid foods by then and then switched them to Silk and that's what they have been drinking their whole lives.... They are 21 and 17 now..... I was also able to pump so that there was enough breast milk for other babies in the NICU and the labor and delivery floor.... I was very honored to be able to help other babies that may not have been able to have breast milk because I produced so much excess milk.... I am glad that you did find ways to allow baby to be healthy and you to feel accomplished.....
As a mom who suffers from insufficient glandular tissue/mammary hypoplasia and wasn't able to breastfeed her babies, I thank you for making this video. I formula fed my 3 babies and we did just fine! I have different plans with # 4 this go around.
hope your breasts are feeling better. as far as the nursing, a friend of mine had a similar problem, what ended working for her was the football hold while she was reclined a little bit in a lay-z-boy(that's if you wanna try nursing ever again). all and all hope your baby days and baby is doing/going well.
my mum had sever mastitis with her first baby, and he had to go on formula but he was lactose intolerant, and then also intolerant of the alternatives, and she had to change the formula every week because he would stop taking it. In those specific situations it can be way easier for breastfeeding. the lactation consultant told my mum when I was a baby that she wouldn't be able to produce enough for me, and that I should just be fed formula, I was never given formula though, she was able to produce much more milk outside of the stressful environment of the lactation consultation. She used a breast pump for me. I think the thing to remember with the closeness, is that when it's not forced on you by feeding, you might have to make a bit more effort for it in other circumstances. It's not that you can't get adequate closeness not breastfeeding, it's that it's harder to have inadequate closeness when you're not forced into it by breast feeding, or at least that's how I've had it explained.
Thank you for this video! I'm also exclusively pumping after trying to get baby to feed from the breast and it has been a struggling! I appreciate your honesty and the tip about putting the pump pieces in the fridge.
I exclusively pumped for 10.5 months. My son had a lip and tongue tie that went undiagnosed for months. The lactation consultants in the hospital were useless. I eventually had him diagnosed by an IBCLC and revised by a pediatric dentist. I'm loathe pumping! But you do what you gotta do. Hang in there!
You spoke about a depressive and "horrible" feeling while you were pumping or breastfeeding at the begining. Does a doctor or yourself tought about the RED syndrom? It has to do with the dopamine and hormons. Well, if you're ok now, they're is nothing to worry about! Good luck and thank you for your videos!
So interesting! that crawly creepy feeling of breastfeeding! It hurt like crazy for me for two months (bleeding, blisters and sores resulting in me crying most of the day from the pain! how did I get through that?!) and then that feeling for about 4-5 months! It was a terrible feeling. I hadn't really thought too much about it though! We exclusively breastfed for two years. I loved it, so convenient and cheap! But it was certainly horrible in the beginning! Although I really wish I could have had a bottle option through pumping but I never responded well to the pump :(
Aww you should have said earlier you were having problems to get some help and support. I really struggled with BF my first baby too, boobs swollen like big balloons, baby couldn't latch, toe curling pain, cracked bleeding nipples, it was awful but it passes after the first few weeks you get used to it, your nipples 'toughen up' and heal up the pain stops and it becomes an enjoyable experiance, honestly, i know it doesnt seem like it at the time but it just takes time to get used to it. You have to learn how to do it and you're all in a mess in the begining with swollen boobs and a screaming baby, it's really stressful but you learn with practice and it becomes second nature you end up able to pop baby on and off hands free :) All my friends had problems too and i helped them through it. I pumped with my first baby also for the first few months and i was supplementing with formula too, but pumping sucks and after a while the milk stopped coming out and i was pumping less and less, but i was still BF and baby was getting milk that way and i weaned off the pump and formula until we were only BF. The whole process took a few months and it was really, really hard in the beginning but it gradually got better as time went on and we continued to BF problem free until 2.5 years. If you still want to try to BF, because it's way easier and more convenient than pumping, just keep offering your breast first before the bottle and make sure baby is attaching right (nipple to the back of the mouth), you can also try to get baby to use you as a pacifier after feeds and at night, basically at every opportunity stick your boob in babys mouth, the more they suck the more milk you'll make. If you don't want to BF thats fine too though, formula is not poison so dont let anyone make you feel guilty about not being able to BF, it's not the end of the world. But if you do want to its still possible, just keep sticking your boob in babys mouth and they will get it eventually. It will probably even be easier to BF now because your boobs are less swollen, softer and easier for baby to latch on. It just takes some practice, you need to be determined. Good luck! xxx BTW, breastfeeding IS the easiest most convenient way to feed your baby, once you learn how to do it and get past the difficulties in the beginning. I'v used formula, pumped and breastfed so iv experienced all 3 and BF is by far the easiest. No bottles or equipment needed, nothing to wash or sterilize, milk on tap 24/7, bottles run out of milk but your boobs dont, you can BF at night without getting out of bed, and boobs are the best pacifier. :)
Maybe try sizing up on the pump flanges? That may help a lot with the pain while pumping, especially if you need a lubricant. They may just be too small for you!
Biggest issue for me was being sexually harassed. Got my boobs when I was 8 years-old and my mind was not maturing as fast as my body and I was soon sexualidad by boys and men. This experience made me hate stimulation. I ended up exclusively pumping after two months of trying to nurse. My baby was just not latching. Pumping was not easy either, it was painful, my nipples were irritated, it was also emotionally tough because I felt I had failed because "breast is best" and that I was missing out on that "bond" that breastfeeding moms talk about. I guess I bonded with a machine for 16 months.
I work in the business office of a surgery center and my coworkers always went into my supply closet to pump lol. I decorated the outside of the door with a cow spotted sign that said "Do Not Enter".
I find it interesting that you compared the "annoying" feeling of breast feeding to ASMR. I personally love ASMR and it relaxes me and it has helped me fall asleep every night for years. You don't enjoy ASMR or breast feeding, and other people love ASMR or breast feeding. Just shows everyone is different, every body is different, everyone's experiences are different, and there's nothing wrong with that. I also appreciate how you spoke about not "pump shaming" women. It's true, many women feel overweight, tired, like they've lost themselves, like they have no idea what they're doing and they're going to hurt or kill their child at any moment, they don't need "pump shaming" or any type of shaming added on top of that. Everyone has opinions, but choose your words carefully because you may hurt someone's feelings. Interesting video, thanks for sharing.
Breastmilk IS WAY BETTER than formula I've seen it in my three children, it's great for their micro biome which is extremely important for their immunity. Good job for breast pumping 👏🏻 is a great gift for your baby
My mom only breastfed her youngest child. When I came home with chickenpox in 1st grade, everyone in my house ended up catching it. Except for my mom, who had chickenpox as a kid, and my baby sister, who was breastfeeding. The doctor confirmed it was because she was breastfeeding that she didn't get the virus because my mom had the antibodies.
powderandpaint14 yes, that's exactly why I say it, my first one was formula fed since I didn't know any better (look at the advice given online that breastmilk is only "slightly better ") and I had same issues she had trying to breastfeed, and so that child is very prone to getting viral and bacterial infections since a very young age. As for my other two I breast pumped for a year and they have very strong immune system, barely even get sick. I've done a ton of research and read books about the relationship between micro biome and the health of an individual, and there are many factors that come into play to determine the organisms you will have living in your gut, and breastfeeding is one of them so I strongly believe and support more natural alternatives as it benefits good bacteria and good bacteria equals good health 😊
I wish I was more informed when I first had my son, I also had huge breasts and no support on breastfeeding and ended up just going to formula! I don't regret formula at all, just wish I was more informed in regards to expressing or even proper latching him with large breasts!!! I have since had a reduction and hoping if I am to have another to try nursing again, if not pumping is going to be alot eaiser now I have informed myslef
Thank you again for your candid words on this topic. I'm one of the weirdos who was breastfeeding-odd and got through it. With Each kid I was able to grunt through it for six months. Because it hurt even with a perfect latch, and yes that icky feeling...I felt like crying and not tears of joy...every single time. I did it. Im proud of what I did. I hear it's also good for their gut. I feel like it's a sacrifice I made for them early on. I'm part of the itty bitty titty committee normally so that was a plus. We went to soy formula after that with both kids and they were fine until they weaned at 1 1/2 years. But yes. Talking about the reality that not everyone is going to love the experience needs to be done ✅. Women and parents in general need to know. Again thanks and happy pumping.
I know this was long but I must also add, I did not only feel like crying 😭...it was this terrible violating ick..this feeling that is so hard to put to words and the only thing that made it better was watching how soothed my children were and how much it addicted them to Mommy (that's right, I said addicted). I did feel bad for my hubby. He couldn't have that with them. And my son is now three and still grabs my shirt and smells it-and sort of pretends to nurse while sucking his thumb- because it comforts him. There's gotta be something there that science hasn't yet figured out. Breast is Best. In any form. I think it gives them stronger emotional well being, and immune function. And whether UN-V admits it or not, if she didn't sense her baby's need for it...she wouldn't be doing it. Mammal moms specifically make special milk for their special child. There's no real replacement for that. But if you can't for any understandable reason, and you have a program or money 💰 that'll pay for the soy (please don't be fooled that dairy is the best option) formula 🍼. No reason to get upset over it. And it's nobody's business but YOURS.
I have massive boobs too and really struggled initially - I screamed and cried in pain those first few days of breastfeeding as I had no skin left on my nipples 😩 I pumped as well but eased back into breastfeeding as I healed. In the end I successfully breastfed for 4.5 years across two babies - hope that helps anyone else who may be feeling discouraged.
Also breastfeeding at first should take a long time to make sure the baby gets enough hind milk, but it gets much quicker as baby grows. I'm curious, have you ever read about the different make up of breast milk produced at night vs in the day time?
Just commenting as I watch through the video 😂 but seriously breastfeeding was so much easier than formula (coming from someone who did both) like seriously, you're a logical person how can you not see that breastfeeding (once established) would be easier and more convenient than having to buy and mix up formula + sterilise bottles + make sure you have enough formula etc wherever you go. IF breastfeeding is well established it's by far the easiest most convenient way to feed a baby.
no need to excuse yourself!! youre just unnatural vegan all the way:-DD. my baby is 14 days old, i have size g now and it works very perfect but im sure its not for everyone and i just like the natural ways....just takes a little effort thats totally worth it...all the best!!
good video. I went thru that 20 yrs ago,had problems too, eventually was successful. La Leche League videos helped me. I had to pump because had a 12 hr shift job& pumping was painful for me. I think your sharing should help new moms, maybe mention La Leche League if you do an update.
It's sounding like postnatal depression. Please be mindful of these things when Baby gets a little bro/sis! There is support out there so absolutely seek it out. Be your own advocate, you don't have to feel bad when going through such a big, life changing situation. Enjoy it.
Sorry the lactation consultant was wack, unfortunately a lot of people have that experience... props to you for exclusively pumping that's hard work! And while as a birth worker I advocate for nursing, at the end of the day fed is best! And we as a society and as women just need to support one another no matter how we choose to feed our children ❤️ have you seen the documentary the Milky Way, it's pretty fascinating
Breast milk also has immunity for the baby! I don't have kids but I was formula fed ( due to a breast cancer scare ). Also, don't let anyone bring you down for doing what you do! You sound like a great mom so keep doing what you do! The things you sacrifice for your baby, they will be so healthy! It will all be worth it
Thanks for this, im one of those moms that didn’t know the breastfeeding hysteria was BS at the time, i felt very bad horrible for a long time because I wasn’t successful at breastfeeding, it was excruciating for me and i felt like a horrible mother and i had only just started. Now that my oldest is 5 i can see that it was utter nonsense
as a nicu nurse theres alot that you could try in the future if u want to breastfeed. but doesnt sound like its your thing lol which is fine if your pumping thats awesome. make sure theres no rubbing in the flange. you may need a larger size. you can rub the lubricant right in the flange too. :) allow milk to dry in your nipples. its a great healer!
Thanks for making this video. I had a similar experience with breastfeeding my first (apart from the large breasts as mine are probably averagish). But we also had trouble latching in the first few days due to a combination of a sleepy baby and posterior tongue tie which was snipped quite quickly are it was discovered. I ended up supplementing with formula in the beginning to get baby back up to birth weight but eventually started pumping enough milk to be able to exclusively pump and I was prepared to do this for the long haul as our baby was still not showing any interest in latching. I was lucky though as at around 9 weeks she finally just deciding to latch and feed directly from the boob - I was also lucky to have plenty of family support from my mother (a midwife) and an awesome free breastfeeding support clinic locally who helped me fix her latch so it wasn't painful. I however do realise not everyone has that support. I commend anyone who exclusively pumps though as I know first hand how much harder it is and how inconvenient it can be but it is worth it to know you are still providing custom made milk for your baby :)
the touch skin to skin is definitely good for mom and baby. there is some research that the milk content is actually affected by some impact of that contact, plus obviously touch is valuable. this is researched! also there are some real benefits for the jaw development to longterm breastfeeding.
Random question here but I was wondering if your views on birth control still align with the video you made 2 years ago? Also would you consider making an updated video if any new facts or statistics have come up within the last 2 years. I just came across your 2 year old video on birth control and i found it to be super helpful and informative (your one of the main vegan channels i love to watch because your rational, relatable and you always come with valid points and facts) . I'm 18 and considering going on birth control and just wanted to ask if you still stand by it because to me your word is gold lol , hopefully by some chance you see this , much love!
My mom was not able to breastfeed me and I grew up healthy and fine (I am now 30 years old and contemplating having kids or not), and I love my mom more than anything. Plus I have a lot of photos of both my parents feeding me, specially my dad (which is awesome!). The obsession with breastfeeding nowadays is way over the top....Women should be able to do what feels right to them, as long as it doesn't affect negatively the baby in anyway. The hole shaming about "not breastfeeding" has to stop...
Important note: one of my twins had blood incompatibility Jaundice, this had absolutely nothing to do with milk :) Side note, twins were both fully breastfed and still are at 3yo. Congratulations on your bub and exclusively pumping!! Xx
You can switch from pumping to nursing after you get past the painful parts. I have a condition that makes breastfeeding extremely painful. I breastfeed 3 kids for 1 year each. First child everything was wrong with both mom and child. I pumped and used nipple shields for the first 5 months then transitioned over to breastfeeding only. It was equally painful with each child for months but the permanent nerve damage made it easier (no joke). I HATE how people say how great it is, it is freaking AWFUL! AWFUL!!! It does not feel natural.
I had super shitty lactation consultants in the hospital for my first two children - zero help. I think women are SEVERELY under supported when it comes to breast feeding - maybe it's different with midwives idk, but those few days in the hospital - no help. I did successfully nurse my 3rd - but my access to info and experiences nursing mothers was a lot more in 2017 than in 2004. The online village was a life saver. Two bottle fed, one nursed ...all 3 are perfect little monsters 😊
Honestly it makes sense to me that it would be harder for larger breasted women to breastfeed. As a fellow big knocker club member, I think the ample tissue in the boobs makes the ends more rounded like a bullet shape which might be harder for latching. Everyone's shape is different so this is just a generalization and of course probably doesn't apply to everyone, but smaller boobs typically mean that there is more give in the skin which would give the nipples a "longer"? profile thus making latching easier for baby. I'm glad you found a setup that works for you. I think it's clear that you are committed to providing the best options for your child, and you should not be ashamed one bit that you have chosen pumping.
I thing you present your option so strongly that it can cause controversy...again. For me it is way easier to breastfeed because i can go everywhere i want with few diapers in small backpack. I had problems at the beginig but i went through blisters and pain for three weeks and it was worth it for me, actually it gives me freedom :)
I exclusively pumped for 15 months. The lactation consultants at my hospital were useless as well. I supplemented until 6 weeks and my milk supply caught up.
