My mom hated her wedding. MIL took over everything, and neither of them knew how to stand up to her. She didn’t get to choose anything, didn’t know anyone invited other than her immediate family, and they had to beg to have a first dance and cake. She threw away her dress, the photos, and the wedding video too! So in case anyone needs to hear this, PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN WITH YOUR MIL! My parents plan on having another, more personal wedding in a few years
lol my bf didn't want me to meet his mom. I met her unfortunately, and him not wanting me to meet her was for good reason 😬. He didn't want me meeting her, yet alone ever letting her know when we're getting married. We don't want a wedding or anything, and I'd just rather have a small get together with my family (like an outdoor bbq type of thing with my siblings and parents), but I don't want that woman ever meeting my family, yet alone being part of something intimate/personal because she's not invited! Some people will probably tell me to just have patience with her/not be rude or anything (even my parents lol. I'm not rude to her, but if they met her, they'd realize immediately how she behaves), but she's not invited no matter what! 🙄
Brides need to keep in mind that the wedding is about you and the groom and your families coming together. It should be a day about love, not about having all your DIY and decor and other items looking pretty like Pinterest or Instagram
I can't believe I'm watching you now as an engaged woman. I have the kind of wedding planner who plans everything and takes all the stress away, I only have to choose between things she already narrowed down, so I'm enjoying this a lot, even in the middle of a pandemic. God has blessed our preparation and we're heading to the alter with lots of peace and happiness.
I enjoyed my wedding planning and our special day. I remember standing at the altar about halfway through the ceremony and thinking, "Our ceremony is almost over and I spent longer selecting the flowers than the wedding ceremony itself!" That might put a little perspective in wedding planning for some. The wedding is one day; your marriage lasts a lifetime.
I got engaged in July and married in September. I knew that if we were to wait and have a huge wedding (covid). That I would end up disappointed and overwhelmed with everything. We had a small backyard wedding at a rental house on Nantucket and we put everything together ourselves. I remember only my parents and sister and I putting flowers on the arch together and it’s one of my favorite memories. It was just us and 14 other people. It was the best
I just said vows in my kitchen and we took photos at home and around our town and then just had family come over for a toast and we all went out to dinner. IT WAS PERFECT haha zero complications
I get married on Saturday and I have been feeling the stress HARD the past few months. I guess that’s partially from planning and then replanning a wedding in 2020... I find it hard to give things up to people right now and have been so worked up over the details (we can’t afford a planner). Thank you, Jaimie. I needed this.
I think the party goers don't usually know what has gone wrong luckily. My day of coordinator was so bad! Try not to be hard on yourself. I'm sure your guests had a great time!
I think it's super important to be talking about being disappointed with your own wedding. I'm sorry you had that experience but I know so many women do and I think we often feel like we can't talk about it because we should just be over-the-moon because we had a wedding. Thank you for sharing and using your story to try and help spare others the same experience! Oh and btw I've been watching you since I got engaged (almost 2 years ago now) and your content helped me SO MUCH. You are the reason I hired a wedding planner and the reason I got really clear on my vision and stepped away from Pinterest and the reason I was realistic with myself about the amount of DIY projects I took on. I had some minor disappointments on my wedding day but all-in-all it was wonderful and you played a huge part in that!
Been watching you for years, and after such a long engagement, I have to say I stopped looking at Pinterest when I started watching your channel! You gave me confidence to DIY and still stay true to my vision. You also convinced me to hire a wedding planner so thank you thank you a million!
Can you do a video of a mock wedding? Like Draw a picture with your words and take us on a trip through the itinerary for the day. I think that would be cool to see :) Btw, luhh you! 💕❤️
Thank you so much for this! I had my wedding in September 2020 and although there’s a lot I loved about it, there was a lot I hated and have had guilt/resentment over. I still have a hard time watching/looking at wedding related things on social media...thought I was crazy 😂
The video I didn't know I needed. Wish you didn't have a sucky wedding day, but this is so helpful when I'm feeling overwhelmed about all the little things. Helps keep it all in perspective!
I’m currently dealing with this right now with a vendor . Her lack of communication has made it very stressful for me. I’m ready for this to be over with.
We put too much pressure on picture perfect, pinterest weddings.. Had a mini wedding in our backyard, I DIYed almost everything to even the decor & linens. I decorated the night before. I wanted to do everything myself, incase I didn't like how other people such as vendors would do them. We had a Hallowedding and nobody around me catered to us non traditional Halloween brides. Or I didn't find any🤷♀️ We are having our big reception in a venue once the pandemic ends,now we have everything ready.
I work for a wedding planner, and my ultimate dream is to own my own wedding planning business. I binge watched your channel as soon as I got hired,a nd I love all of the information you share! I am able to apply it to my job and get more out of the experience. Thank you for helping me realize I love wedding planning!
Plllllllleeease do a wedding re do or a vow renewal oh because you deserve it so much for who you have been to so many couples. I am so thankful for your tips and tricks and advice.
As I watching this. Our wedding is next year in May. But everytime someone or I think about how I proposed to my fiance. I hated it, fumbled it but she said yes. Utterly surprised by she said yes.
I agree 100% about the comparison game. I did that with my dress. Then I remembered Jamie's advice and stopped looking thru google, RU-vid and pinterest. I love this video, 100% from the heart.
Now that im finally engaged after watching your videos for 2 years i literally am so excited!!!!! But the overwhelming part of me is crying cause i feel like this whole process is going to stress me out 😅
Omggg I’m in the exact same position. So glad I’ve watched this! The Pinterest issues are so true because I’ve been looking at a picture which I’ve been trying to follow and now I’m comparing my centrepieces to the picture.
Hi Jamie, I like your videos and your tips are always useful, however I think they will be better if you add more visuals (for instance photos of your wedding, etc). That will keep your viewers more engage with the video
This is exactly what I needed to hear when I got engaged 2 years ago. Ah wells, I had almost the exact same experience up to the wedding day. It was beautiful, but the things I would do differently! I also vow to help ensure no one else I'm connected to has a similar experience; thank you for making wonderful videos like this.
Your videos and online program gave me so much peace of mind while planning our wedding. We pivoted once or twice because of Covid. Our small wedding turned into an elopement for safe measure. But it still turned out beautiful and your videos and course were key in that. Thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️ And I'll be returning when it's safe to plan a big celebration on later on!
Watching this made me confident about my choice of having a wedding planner. Yes it is very expensive and probably the single most expensive service I’ve paid so far in my life, and that’s including immigrating to another country, but I want my wedding day to be relaxed and joyful for both of us and not associated with stress, tears and fights. I’m also the type that gets overwhelmed easily and fairly disorganized. 😅 (for context the planning service is 10% of our budget for a small wedding of 50)
Your videos helped a lot. I couldn’t go professional coordinator but I did hire a good organized friend to be day of coordinator. It was a great decision. I had the most beautiful peaceful day. Although plans did change due to rain. I got your tip of taking pictures of house things should be set up for her, and a great floor plan and timeline. The organization tips I learned from binge watching your videos helped me enjoy the 3 Month process of planning a small wedding for 32. It was perfect!
Originally booked my photographer, she was lovely and relatively new to the wedding industry and she was half the price of more experienced professionals. And then the panic set in and the wedding nightmares started and they were always about the photography. I then noticed that she’d recently received some bad reviews on her Facebook and it completely threw me. Decided I had to stretch the budget for another photographer. I’m now happy and relieved I loveeee seeing all of their work pop up on my feed and can’t wait for my day! ☺️
I’m glad that I found your channel. Honestly, I’m so stressed planning my wedding, which we agree it would be small, but anyway there’s a bunch of details to work on and all of your videos and advice are being taken in consideration at the moment I’m making decisions. We have a limited budget reason why we did not hire a planner or coordinator and I try to do as much as I could. One more month to see if I could make everything work. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, that shows how much you love what you do.
FOREVER! I wanted everything perfect! I wanted things so specific and everything just I wanted. I was terrible at taking opinion. And was stubborn about my guests but then I realized I WILL NOT CARE. Love the decoration and love the idea, but at the end of the day I just care that I have a blast on the dance and have a lovely ceremony with my new HUBBY!
Maybe picking a venue that has a lot of things built into the package? I plan to do small diy projects but I’m hiring a partial wedding planner that also does the day and the venue has one as well. I’m keeping the rest simple and buying anything I need a year in advance. I’ll stay tuned with anything I miss but I trust the venue to be nice. It’ll work out.
I LOVED THIS VIDEO!!! I have been a wedding & event planner in NJ since 2012 & I have been saying these things to potential clients for years. I would love to post this to my website for future brides to see!
Loving your videos!! I needed the "know when to stop pinning" rule. I'm 102 days out and just had a florist meeting yesterday, really should let go of comparisons and edits at this point in that space!
My best advice, dont let too many people play in the wedding sand box. Meaning, not everyone's opinion's matter. Accept that not everyone will be happy about everything. As long as you do your best, meet peoples physical needs then your good! And also provide entertainment (:
I had a day of planner...she paid a lot of attention to non -important things and not enough to timeline! I had to ask if I could walk down the isle because I had no idea what time it was and no one told me it was time to go! Plus some lots of other nonsense. So I feel you! Also I cried the next day when we had to take down all the flowers lol.
Because of you I hired a planner and coordinator! She doesn’t do it professionally, but did it on a lightly part-time basis, she was completely Type-A personality so it worked splendidly. Thank you for your videos!
I can relate to the pintrest problems. I remember two months out I came across beautiful wedding receptions with massive floral design and bouquets hanging from the ceiling. And I thought o my I need this, this is beautiful. My wedding isn't special enough as it is. I need this. My husband fiance at the time pulled me out of it. As well as the fact that the venues roof wasn't high enough to do that kind of decor. 😅
I didn’t enjoy my wedding because it happened in the pandemic and in the uk at the time you could have 30 people at the ceremony and then you weren’t allowed a celebration afterwards. I love the fact that my best friend is my husband but the day does make me a little sad. Luckily we are going to have a vow renewal and celebration soon 🤞🏼 this summer but it depends on the situation still. I can’t wait to celebrate with the 150 people we wanted! Xx
I hated one of my vendors too and we are looking to go into a lawsuit for their service and product. Worst part it was our videographer/photographer. I sooo needed to hear this from someone else. I would love to sit down and drink a glass of wine with you and talk about all of these❤😫
I told my husband before the wedding..." Just want to let you know ..the actual wedding isn't 'fun' for the bride and groom". It's basically " acting " the part and is mostly fun for the guests. I told him "the honeymoon is for the husband and wife to have fun." After I told him this....it ended up being great but I was lucky enough to have it at a Marriott where their caterer did everything except flowers for me. I wish they would do away with backdrops. They are so stupid and a waste of time...IMO...I mean...are we in high school?? I am helping my sister make hers and we are already stressing about who will help us put it up etc etc....So not worth it!!
These are such great tips! Thank you. I'm in the process of planning my wedding, and I'm still several months out but I've already had to stop checking pinterest because I keep finding more and more ideas and I think my partner might have a panic attack if I bring her anymore ideas because new ideas mean more $$ 😅 Also love the note that comparison is the thief of joy. I'll remember that.
My daughter and I have been planning her wedding, but mostly I just give some ideas, and say it's up to you, but here are some suggestions. I want it to be her/his vision.
I agree with matching personalities with the vendors! I reached out to someone who offers a vintage car for the wedding day and he was so rude to me. I looked at the reviews and BAM, there it was all the clients giving him bad reviews. As stubborn as I am, I REALLLLY wanted a photoshoot in a classic vintage car, but not the owner there on my big day. I tried looking at other areas, but there was nothing else. I guess I can live without it lol
I'm all about diy and the hardest thing to do was accept that I couldn't diy this wedding during covid. With everything locked down during most of our engagement it's just not feasible. I listened to your advice about personalities and we personality shopped our venders. Our decorator is handling almost everything for us. She's coordinating a ton of stuff but calling it decorating. She's amazing. I've had to let go control and take a breath and trust her. She really listens to what we want and makes good suggestions. I still fight with the idea sometimes of not doing all the setup myself. I'm not lifting a finger all day at my wedding which blows my mind. I'm only diying place cards and envelopes for the invite add ons. My fiance and I will both have to confirm 2 things each in the morning on our wedding day. I'm texting makeup artist and hair stylist to confirm timing for their arrivals. My fiance is handling the cake stuff and confirming with the decorator that everything is going as planned.
Jamie I mirror your opinion. I slept 12 hours the entire week of the wedding making things happen and everything except the few hours leading up to it was miserable. I heeded much of your advice leading up to my wedding and I'm glad I did, but I still hated much of the process.
thank you for yir videos i told my daugther to trust me and she will not let let go so i'm so close to just not help her but i know it will be so stressful will see how this will end
Wish this one would habe been your first video. Was watching your channel during my hole planning time, and i did not put together the right crew, did way to much in the last 4-8 weeks, i was stressed out as hell on my wedding day and though my wedding was beautiful and 80% worked out the way it was planned i had that same feelings, even one year after sometimes that sadness and feeling of regret regarding the venue, the people we hired for decorations etc. overshaddows the joy i wanted to feel when thinking about my wedding...
I didn’t necessarily hate my wedding: but there are certain things I would definitely change if I could do it over. With that said, my husband and I have toyed with a really fun renewal ceremony (post covid) I would love a video on renewals or wedding redos.
How did you end up doing your wedding? I’m African, so I just know my wedding has to be an event. I go back and forth some times in wanting something intimate thoughts.
@@nadiadansani2139 i'm not actually married yet! i've been engaged since august. i would go to the courthouse any day and get married but i have a crazy mother who would not let that happen. my plan is to wait until we have a house (hopefully) with a yard and just have a party in our yard. that way i could make as much as i could on my own for decor. i want to have my favorite music and my favorite food and the people who matter to us there. probably 10-20 people. i go back and forth on whether or not we would have a ceremony at that party. i'm leaning to no but that's something we would need to work out. i'm also nonbinary and a lot of the traditional parts of weddings and marriage are very tied to making the bride the groom's property and i want absolutely none of that so i think that's why i want it to be at my own home and everything. just whatever we need to have it feel fun and safe and full of love for us.
Can I just say you need to think of the aspect of EVERY cost to your wedding plans. Your TIME is also worth much more than the money you spend on your wedding. Especially if you aren't a DIY person. Do not commit to projects that are way over your head. You may be wasting money and precious time if it never gets done or doesn't turn out. I'm 4 months away from my wedding and I'm only DIYing our centre pieces and the seating chart because I knew I couldn't handle more.
I hated mine too. My mom found out about trying to pull an Andy and April (from Parks and Rec), so she threw a church wedding on a $0 budget. It was a shotgun wedding trying really hard to be a regular wedding. Also, his grandma was threatening not to come, his family didn't offer to help once, they were all grumpy, it was a blizzard so my best friends couldn't make it up the mountain, my hair was terrible, and my dad made us stand in front of everyone while they ALL said stuff about us, and we didn't get to eat the food we had plated up for ourselves. It was just over. Luckily we got divorced so we get a second chance!
As a vendor i know that you can hate your couple as well, if you do not mess well its ok to move on and find someone who really gets you. (Lots of people always tell me to take everything and i tell them if you are not the right fit it will turn out for both party's terrible). I think price should have nothing to do with it some of the most expensive vendors or jerks. Thank you for being honest. cheers Anne
My photographer wanted to go home (it was a late Catholic wedding on a Saturday night). The band took their 15 min break and when I came back in the ballroom, nobody was in there but the band and the idiot photographer told everyone we were leaving so go to the lobby of hotel and line up. I paid for another 45 min set with the band and they asked if they should pack up and I said yes. I lost money and my reception was shortened. I felt like an idiot o ask my guests to go back in the ballroom because it's not over yet. The photographer pushed along cake cutting and bouquet toss too. My mistake, not setting a schedule, I did not have a wedding planner. We had 250 guests.
Oh girl! I didn’t like my wedding because I was trying to people please to much. My families Mormon and kind of bullied me into getting a certain wedding dress. I hate my wedding dress I wish I could go back and stand my ground since I paid for everything
I had my wedding because I looked horrible in my 2 events and everybody makes fun of me. Although I’m a beautiful girl. My in-laws choose my outfit and everything but I don’t know either I have to blame them or myself. It’s been 4 years I don’t want to see my wedding pictures. And even if I saw someone looking pretty in their wedding I got triggered. I don’t know what to do 🥺
First video shown was for something about guest don’t care about.. from 3 years ago. So I’m like hmm wonder what she talks about now. 😂🤣😂🤣 classic. Subscribe
