I have a stalker. here's the full story... (with photos & videos) 

Who’s advising you? Giving a stalker any attention only encourages them. Please hire a threat assessment team.

i feel like this is how to not deal with a stalker 101

As someone who knows a girl who was murdered by her stalker, this video feels dangerous to me. I would honestly advise deleting and seeking professional help instead. NONE of this is your fault NONE. However, this video is giving him attention that will only fuel the fire. Nobody needs to see this - you don't owe anybody the story. protect yourself instead.

His fragile ego could blow up after you exposed him. He will take that as rejection and he could retaliate. It's dangerous. You have endangered yourself further.

I am a PI. A restraining order is a piece of paper. That's it. He is dangerous. I know you're taking this seriously, but not seriously enough: your mom should not have opened the door, she should have just called 911. Take it more seriously. It's not "creepy," it is DANGEROUS.

He's going to love an entire 36 minute video dedicated just to him, because that is how this will be received. Please contact a professional on how to deal with a stalker and their false reality. His behavior IS violent and he is unwell. I am worried for your safety. :(

#1 rule do not give stalkers attention. Call the cops. You have put yourself in more danger by posting this video :(

I’m shocked this video is still up. So many people in the comment section giving you absolutely valid reasons to take it down. This is a dangerous situation. Please protect yourself and your family.

The "love you byyyye" at the ending of the video was probably not the best way to end this one.

crime enthusiast here. number 1 stalker rule is do not ever refer to them as "my stalker" !!! distance yourself as much as possible. he's not "your" anything. he is clearly obsessive and his behaviour is escalating. i feel that this has been mishandled so much already, and this video will only make it worse. please read your comments, there is so much good advice here 💞

GIRL MAKE SURE HE ISN’T TRACKING YOUR CAR SOMEHOW! Praying you stay safe🤍

This girl is so naive. She’s putting herself in a harmful situation. Makes sense with the way mom was acting. Smiling the whole time, like she couldn’t wait to share with her best girlfriends what crazy, exciting thing just happened to her all for the gram and the drama of it all.

girl be careful, stalkers often take any kind of response as a secret message of confirmation that you want them. also makes them feel like they have some part in your life and they they are “your stalker” instead of just “a creep” please be careful

Posting about him is giving him exactly the attention he seeks.

Absolutely get a restraining order 100%

jeopardizing your safety for views is crazy. this is not how this should be handled

girl you need to move out of that building asap. restraining order. this is scary

Girl I’m sorry but you should not put your mom/aunt/sister in those positions. Call the police!! They might not be able to do much but they can most definitely escort if need be/tell him to leave. putting your own family members in direct conversations with him is dangerous and may just feed his delusion because he’s “meeting” your family

“I have a stalker.” *Then proceeds to share more personal information about where my parents live and wear an identifiable sweatshirt* I think you’re taking this too lightly to share with the world for content.

As someone who was stalked for years in high school and college- PLEASE delete this. Any kind of attention whether good or bad fuels it. This is not a laughing matter and can seriously be life threatening.

‘…he exists in my life’ Statements like that will gratify him

Getting professional help and working with law enforcement ❌ Risking your life for views ✅

As someone who has been stalked previously, I find this video wild. Someone stalking you is not entertainment, it's a dangerous situation that can escalate so rapidly. The response of the people around you is ghastly - confirming their relationships to you, where you stay 🤦‍♀ I almost hope you've made this up because if this is a real situation, you're in danger and you've just publicly validated his contact attempts.

The fact that this video is still up after all the warnings from viewers that posting this is a bad idea is telling. RU-vid views > One's safety

The fact that this psychopath probably thought he was going to your parents house to get their blessing. Wild.

No matter what's the situation, do NOT open the door to a stranger. The part where your mother opens the door and speaks, i was so scared to hear him having a secret weapon or something. You never know if they're gonna hurt you physically too. Those stalker psychos are scary af and they can do unexpected things. Keep in mind.

He's gonna be SUPER HAPPY that you made a video about him and have his pics on your phone!!!! And the "I love you" at the end is gonna be his motivation!!

You do know this is like a love letter to him, right? That's how he will see it. Seriously, this can't be news to you.

The tap tap tap alone… terrifying

Go to police, move, throw your phone away, change car, stay silent for year. Selfdefence, gun, dogs. Stop recording, stop sharing your private information. Are you nuts

“This is so scary” let me make a 36 minute video about it giving him attention and my exact location

A woman who lived near me had her life taken by an obsessed fan of her podcast. The dude drove halfway across the country to do it.

This is definitely the darker side of internet fame.Sorry it happened to you Summer

18:24 "it probably doesn't seem that scary" GIRL THIS TRAUMATIZED ME I CANT IMAGINE HOW U FEEL

He needs to be put away. He’s definitely dangerous.

I have gone through this. If they are stalking you they are at a fragile point in their life. This guy who stalked my sister acted with violence because my mother called the cops on him and he saw it as a sign from my sister to attack my family. They see things differently and think certain actions are signs of action.. This could be a sign of a video for them, they could think you are being held against your will to post this. Be careful.

I had a stalker for two years. This video is a mistake. Post NOTHING on the internet, like ever again. Disappear. Get a firearm.

Using THIS for views is insane. I don't think you or your family is taking this very serious at all. Immediately after hearing everything he said to your sister and aunt, I would have taken all of that information straight to the police and started the moving process. Please step away from the internet for just a second and think about your safety.

As someone who has been stalked, you have absolutely no sense of self-preservation and honestly it’s gross that you’re trying to spin this as entertainment to piggyback off Baby Reindeer’s popularity. For everyone else: if you have a stalker and want your quality of life back someday, don’t make bad choices like this.

Girl, he's going to see this video as a declaration of love.

Both you and your mom have no sense of self-preservation. Why did your mom even think opening the door to that guy was a logical thing to do? Why are you stating in this video what your current location is? Why do you keep posting to social media? It’s only fanning the flames of his delusions. Do you realize that you’re putting not only your life in danger, but your parents’ lives, and the lives of anyone who may interact with you whom he perceives as a threat to his fantasy world?

Don’t EVER take food or drink from a stranger and consume it. Girl what is wrong with you?

Girl now he DOES know it was your apartment 😭

Moms should be much more traumatized, scared, and protective of their kid not laughing about it on RU-vid

MOVE! Move now! I was stalked and almost killed over 30 yrs ago. I had to be put back together by doctors. I deal with pain 24/7. My world shifted and I have been forced to live a half life ever since. I would not wish it on anyone! My horror began when I chose a particular breezeway during high school and dared to say HI in passing. That is all it took to light the match. What happened to me happened before we had a cyber lane. I sort of stumbled onto your video because of its title . I shuddered when you said you were in UTAH I was instantly even more afraid for you (I have a permanent order of protection and I am notified when my stalker moves and I was told he lives in UTAH right now). I was glad you included that video - not the same guy! Thankfully. But I tell you plainly- DO NOT MINIMIZE this. DO NOT TRY TO JUST LET IT ROLL OFF YOUR BACK. DO NOT MAKE A SINGLE EXCUSE for him. DO NOT ASSUME IT WILL PASS. He and you share(d) an apartment complex and common elevator? That really sends up a RED FLAG for me. MOVE! If you are determined to stand your ground (and adopt the misguided dangerous posture that leaving would demonstrate weakness and you won't let someone have that sort of control or influence) then you need to realize you MUST AMP up your personal safety practices. ( have moved multiple times and realize it is better for ME to find a new place to come home and feel more safe and throw the stalker off (and make him do more work to FIND ME) than stand my ground. I count each move as an opportunity to explore a new place! You can also consider moving where you are enveloped by family. At one point I moved to where my grandparents AND a ton of family lived (an Uncle was SHERIFF) which helped me feel even more safe and at that time I really needed all the help I could get! UTAH is MORMON Central and that church has a sophisticated societal structure that is supposed to help members of the church with any need. If you are a member, wonder what they could offer or provide ???? No matter where I live. Here are my suggestions for you (and anyone dealing with a stalker or in fear of someone who hurt them who is now out of prison) TO DO LIST: 1- buy joggers pepper spray. I use Guard DOG (can buy it on Amazon). It is attached to a glove, fits like part of your hand. Sprays 16 ft. Fits easily in your bag. Make sure the switch on off when you put it in your purse. Don't leave home without it ON! Just don't leave or keep it in your car. Put it on before you open your door and before you exit your vehicle. 2. If possible, get a doorbell camera. Maybe see if management and you can work together. 3. Put Security lock on your doors - I don't mean just front door either. I use "Childproof Home Security Door Lock, 800 lbs Withstand Reinforcement with 3 Inch Stop" and I have them on EVERY exterior door AND two interior doors that help make my SAFE ROOM upstairs. 4. If your car doesn't have a dashcam - get one! And lowjack your car or use some tracker device. I have all three. 5. Set up a security swaddle - someone or a group of someones you text your movements. I hate to bother folks so I use only hubby. He knows he doesn't have to reply. It is a record I make of my movements so if I don't show up somewhere police will have a location point as near in time as possible to start to figure out what happened. Before I leave the house I text him and let him know where I plan to go (may be a list of places). Then as I arrive, I let him know cryptically I arrived and when I leave that location. YOU NEED TO aggressively create a security detail. 6. Try not to be alone when you are out and about. It pains me when I read about Mollie Tibbitts and more recently Laken Riley. Young women grow up and think their independence allows them a freedom to safely go from A to B. Some can blissfully navigate and not be harmed. But with each new day that freedom is disappearing for most women of any age in the USA. And for anyone who is contending with a stalker - that freedom evaporated and you would be wise to not try to tempt fate. There is good reason to adopt a pack/partner protocol whenever you can. 7. Put a few lamps in different rooms on timers and when you are home - DON"T let anyone looking from outside be able to isolate which room you are in. BUY black our drapes to make it more difficult for anyone watching to know what is happening on the inside. 8- double lock your windows using some sort of jammer, I use dowel rods. If you have a sliding glass door, make sure you sensor it and use a jammer lock too. Some final thoughts - I have had to navigate this while our Nation and the world added a cyber lane. I have two desires - - our CONGRESS would change the US from OPT OUT to OPT IN (like most of the rest of the world!) It would allow each of us to live more fuller lives without surrendering and compromising our personal safety - CONGRESS and/or FCC/FTC would be forced to better manage whom they allow to use their services. Specifically - when I went through what I did , AT&T had to set a trap (literally) on various phone lines - my home, my employment site(s) - I was working four jobs to pay off medical bills so there were several. Each time he called he often used pay phones- I or the person who answered had to dial back in using a specific code so that call would be trapped by the carrier. A person from AT&T was in court with a trolley of huge record books for the calls. NOW a days we have cell phones, not landlines or some other device where calls/communication occurs. There are still communication carriers but when it comes to being harassed or stalked by someone - sure the prey/victim can block the stalker BUT are there records being kept by the SERVICE PROVIDER? Laws have changed. And from my chair not for the better when it comes to stalkers imo. It is now easier for them to track a victim AND maneuver in the shadows and more difficult for the victim (especially if the victim is not in the same jurisdiction) to find help to SOLVE the matter or set up a legal trap for the stalker if he persists . It really boils down to who is the local law enforcement and just what laws they CAN use. IF we had laws that forced the CARRIERS to deliver to our devices the actual originator's (stalkers) call information it would be a terrific first step. It would also help stamp out Nigerian fraud attempts mainly targeting seniors who think some laws are still there and that when crime happens law enforcement can act. For victims of stalkers , and fraud (including squatters) - right now our govt puts the burden on the victim and does not even bother to make sure the communication traffic supplier/provider has to help! The criminal and the Provider who aided the criminal by allowing their platform to be used are shielded legally. The victims - not at all. This needs to change. We used to have National Public Safety that paved the way for us. Somewhere along the way all shifted to protect the criminals who make our communities unsafe and who are responsible for causing harm. We need our safety net BACK!

why tf do people equate finding a person attractive to having a mutual connection. absolute disconnect there

24:02 that tiktok video gave him gratification. Imagine how this one at almost a million views would make him feel… girl stay safe

This video feels way too casual and flippant for the actual issue at hand and it worries me for you and your family. This has moved into EXTREME & DANGEROUS stalker territory here and you need to be taking every precaution to protect yourself. Continue to document EVERYTHING, MOVE somewhere with higher security, put cameras everywhere, add additional security to your windows and doors, and consider acquiring a weapon to protect yourself with. Police reports and restraining orders only get you so far, and clearly the police reports have not been a deterrent to him or else he would have ceased this behavior. At the end of the day a restraining order is just a piece of paper and it doesn't actually physically prevent your stalker from showing up anywhere you are... it just forces him to get smarter and sneakier about how he does it. There are many stories of women dying this way, Christina Grimmie and most recently Zohreh Sadeghi come to mind. PLEASE be so so careful!!! This man is very unwell and will stop at nothing!

You should handle this a LOT smarter! Stalkers often kill.

People like this will only PROGRESS and ESCALATE their behaviors until they are locked up or dead. This is so dangerous

The fact that your mom opened the door to confront this crazy stalker with no measurement of self defense is wild… and the fact that you proceeded to tell everyone about where you live now and where your mom lives is also wild! After all of that?? Girl…

I honestly wouldn’t have posted this. It can go one of two ways. It will either encourage him, or the public humiliation/rejection will spark a rage in him and cause him to retaliate. He obviously isn’t mentally stable. This is the first video of yours that I’ve seen and I understand posting about your life is your job, but I wouldn’t be advertising where you live, what you drive, or that you live alone. You need to file a restraining order, move with out letting the public know and invest in a g*n. It’s not something to take lightly whether he’s made any threatening advances (yet) or not. I’m really really sorry this happened to you.

girl, I honestly would take this video down if I were you because I’ve been in this exact situation before and bringing any light to him and this situation it is only going to bring more harm.

don't kno why you would post this online. you're acknowledging this guy and giving him recognition. he'll take this as communication with him and could continue trying to pursue you and who knows what could happen. i get that you want people to kno in case anything were to happen to you but i fear posting anything about him just further escalates the situation. you're dealing with a mentally ill person. he doesn't think or react rationally. all of this needs to be handled privately with the police

This young woman is in great danger. I don't think she appreciates how much danger she is in.

WHAT ARE YOU DOING, DONT GIVE HIM ATTENTION, DONT PUT YOUR FAMILY IN THESE SITUATIONS, DONT POST THIS, CONTACT POLICE!! THIS IS DANGEROUS

This sounds dangerous. With the "love you, bye" while blowing kisses at the end of this video while discussing a stalking situation could give a wrong flirty signal to a stalker..

Just another tip y’all, if someone leaves stuff like this at your door don’t touch it with bare hands incase it has drugs/something to knock you out on the handle/etc. glove or plastic bag to the garbage! I’m so sorry you had to deal with this

He’s already watched this 100 times. Girl this was not smart…

That is so deeply disturbing. He’s obviously mentally unwell. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

What on earth are you doing??? This video is dangerous that person is mentally ill! Delete the video and get a restraining order!!!! This is such a horrifically bad idea

He is going to unravel at this, please BE CAREFUL. This will not have the same effect on him as you think it will, this turns stalkers deadly and I'm not trying to scare you but you need a higher level of awareness about you now, This is a pattern of behavior that is already known to turn dangerous. He's created his own version of you in his mind and now you have absolutely shattered it, there are outward repercussions for doing that.

Girl, not the best way to deal with a stalker. You are his Baby Reindeer and you just validated him by giving him so much attention. Please be careful

You guys gave him too much attention , you made him even happier with a whole video for him

Girl please be CAREFUL

GUYS! This video is for MONEY! She has over a million views. It's only for money! She'll never take it down.

Please check your car for any trackers

The ring camera footage SCARED me

No offence, but I don’t think you should be telling people where you currently are because that can be really dangerous. On RU-vid, or on social media. This man could go on to be more of a danger, addressing him rationally may not work as he is clearly mentally disturbed. I also don’t know if giving him this much attention is a good idea- it might spur him on in the long run. Please continue to take this seriously and stay safe. This is a very serious situation.

This is extremely alarming. I had a stalker and the sex crimes detectives in mu case said the stalker truly believes they are in a relationship with you. Obviously! They can escalate in a very scary way. Take this super seriously. My Aunt was a criminal psychologist and freaked when I told her what was happening to me. She made me move immediately, and I did! The police didn't have the identity of my stalker. Just his finger prints on the outside of my bedroom window and his DNA all over the siding of my house below that same window. These crazy people can escalates to kidnappings and murder. Please, please be aware of your surroundings at all times. Get a retaining order and report it EVERY time he breaks it. Block him on everything, and I would move! My anxiety was going crazy just watching this! To this day, I still don't know the name or identity of the stalker I had. Thankfully, you know so you can be proactive.

Babe your survival instincts must be broken because WHAT

She’s not taking this very seriously with the smiling, giggling with her mom etc. Opening the door to a complete stranger? Like what is wrong with you? They’re lucky he hasn’t hurt them yet cause they definitely have given him an easy opportunity! SMH

She clearly loves the attention and is taking this way too lightly. Hope he doesn’t kill her.

The ignorance- sending family to confront him…protecting his identity..opening the door of your home to speak with him-this is what NOT to do 😳

i hope authorities take care of this and don’t disregard it until something bad happens. they need to take you seriously and protect you. this man is dangerous

This video came up on my recommendation and I just want to give some advice to anyone really. It can really be dangerous to make a video regarding someone who is talking you and has your home address. Not only could they come back but they could leak your address and put you in more danger. It's an ego boost for them and also now a challenge. I would get in contact with law enforcement immediately. Food for thought, stay safe everyone.

Men scare me genuinely… the delusion is INSANE

The fact that your family put themselves in potentially direct harm multiple times is alarming. Please do not interact with people like this, it is extremely dangerous. I'm glad you're all safe.

bro is going to think this is a sign 😭

girl respectfully, this video may make matters worse. You are giving him attention using your platform, which he may find encouraging. Plus you laugh throughout this video which makes it seem less serious, and the way you frame all of this as a “story time” makes it feel like entertainment when it’s actually very scary for you and your family. This man is obviously not mentally well / stable so you need to be proactive - contact the police, don’t post photos / anything about your location in “real time” on socials, etc. please be safe!

Summer, I had a friend lose her life to a stalker 5 years ago. It is still very difficult for me to talk about and rarely do I, I'm not blaming you at all. Just asking that you please stop sharing so much information online. For some reason this video came up in my feed I had not had the pleasure of following you previously, but even from this one video I have ascertained so much about your life. You have got to be more private about your plans, location etc ppl are bat crap crazy, as you are aware. I'm not blaming YOU, just a concerned viewer. I pray you are and stay safe 🙏🏽

You are either totallly unaware of dangerous a situation this is or this is a total setup to make money...

Opened the door wide for the stalker :) All the best

This video is a textbook example of everything you DON'T do when someone is stalking you. I hope she doesn't become a lesson learned...

24:04 girl he literally says in his messages he wants you to post about him why would you make this video?Do you need the Adsense that badly?? You don't seem to be taking this seriously AT ALL.

Wow, youtubers would even put themselves in danger just for clout. This is so sad 😢

Saying that you were in Utah in a video like this is unnecessary and unsafe. Genuinely we don’t care, and you probably should’ve lied & said you were elsewhere.

You really need to consider taking this down. Thousands of comments warning you from first hand experience. This could last years and be extremely dangerous for you.

The second hand cringe is too much, I can’t finish it. You’ve gotta find another way to validate yourself, the fact your family lets this stay up is really sad. You need better ppl around you.

I’m 3 minutes in and I’m already like so worried for you for giving away some details about your living arrangements. This video basically feels like an invite for more

Why is she exposing herself and her family like this? Just why?

Guys it’s cool clickbait look at her body and facial mannerisms … she is making money of this video heaps!!!

It’s kind of sad how excited and giddy you seem to be telling us this story. Honestly if I watched this with no volume I would think your telling a happy tale.

This is a really strange video to post. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, but the fact that you shared in this video that you are currently in Utah at your families house, you shared that you still live alone, and you mentioned your last name in this? Not safe at alllll girl and you need to reach out to the police again. This is not gossip, your life is literally in danger.

This is NOT a good idea. The guy is clearly delusional and will probably LOVE this video you have made about him. I don’t understand why mom went along with this. This girl is in danger.

Sadly I had a stalker in high school who I didn’t even know existed. He ended up finding out where I lived and knocking on my door, told my little brother he was a friend of mine from school and we had a group project to work on. My brother let him inside. It was insane. The cops never did anything because nothing happened. They basically said something needed to happen before they could actually DO anything. He emailed me, paid money to a website to get my cell phone number (flip phone at the time), and was following me everywhere (I was a teen so I walked home from school and he drove)… it was insane… truly terrifying. I had nightmares for years.

Don't say he hasn't done anything hostile or extreme because everything he's doing is EXTREME af!!! Like he needs help and Jesus! Stalking is very serious!!! Making anyone feel unsafe in their home is NOT ok!

Oh, honey, please be careful. I had two stalkers in my time. One found my parent's house and me during summer vacation junior year of high school and spent a week sleeping in the nearby cemetery and surveilling me. My Stepfather took care of that one. Then at age SIXTY-THREE I was stalked for six months by a guy who had done two years for rape and robbery. I was very very careful..had escorts in some situations, gave the guy's mugshot to the doorman in my mother's building, wore disguises and varied my routes. Blocked him everywhere and he finally lost interest.. It's a horrible horrible feeling to be stalked and I hope you stay safe!!

I would take this down. You should NEVER acknowledge a stalker. Please be safe.

Summer, this really serious! It doesn’t matter that he hasn’t threatened you in a common, dare I say, “traditional” way. He is threatening you by following you and your family to your homes, your safe havens. It’s fantasy trolls like this one who are dangerous because they make up their own reality and they don’t give up no matter how direct you are. I don’t mean to scare you but this could easily escalate to a life-threatening situation. This kind of person is desperate to believe there is a chance with you and if and when he finally understands the truth, he may move to another level. He is truly sick so anything goes. Please be careful.