I Kissed Someone (It Wasn't You) music video Q+A with director Hazel Hayes 

Timestamps to all the questions etc.: 0:00 Hello and welcome. 1:20 What the song is about. 6:05 Why we chose to go so sexy. 8:34 How did you get the faces to be blurred? 11:27 What the intimate scenes were like. 13:45 "The story" 16:30 The pandemic. 18:04 dodie takes on any challenge. 19:31 Was the connection to Hazel's short film Dementia intentional? 20:35 Was it intentional that the last shot looked like it was from the perspective of a person leaving? 20:54 Different interpretations. 21:13 What Hazel said to each actor. 24:06 Internet issues. 26:40 Why Reb's legs are in the video. 29:26 It wasn't as hot as it looks. 30:30 The things you end up saying while editing. 30:50 Credits. 32:14 Who directed? 32:24 Can you sing a song for us? 32:34 How did you go about the colour scheme? 34:22 Where did you film the shot on top of the building? 34:59 How do you budget for a music video like this? 35:18 How emotionally prepared were you to film the music video? 37:56 What happens to the furniture after a shoot? 38:41 WHEN WILL YOU WEAR WIGS? 39:38 Was it inspired by Bly Manor? 39:45 Did you ever fart? 39:50 WHEN WILL YOU WEAR WIGS? 40:28 How do you fight the male gaze when you want to express sex on screen? 41:14 Showing a woman being sexy, from a woman's perspective. 42:57 Hazel being uncomfortable. 43:38 How performative it was. 44:10 Did you drink real alcohol on set? 45:36 Can you talk about the echoed voices in the chorus? 47:19 Did you speed up the song on set? 48:23 Was the lack of time clarity supposed to represent the lostness of it all? 48:42 The last shot. 50:30 "I Kissed Somone" 50:57 Wrap up. 52:51 One nice last question. 53:30 Who contributed how much for ideas? 56:25 Thank you for watching.

hazel saying "darling" just _cured_ me

Hazel's calming mom friend voice in the beginning just makes me want her to be my friend and keep me sane

Hazels kindness towards dodie is just so precious 🥺🥺🥺

I’m in love with Hazel’s accent

after watching this, I'm like ---- damn i really want to act in something directed by Hazel

I honestly loved the beginning here, just seeing dodie being shocked that she hadn't started the stream and hazel going "and that's ok" in the most comforting way? That was amazing, seeing someone deal with a situation that could be quite stressful for a person so gently and respectfully. Love it

"of course I have a back" one of my favorite bits of the video

idk 'bout y'all but hazel and dodie are giving me persephone and hades vibes and i love it

Is anyone actually surprised dodie is a sexual being? Even in her coming out song, which was pretty wholesome and whimsical overall, she made it very clear that she had kissed people of the same gender and liked it lots. Have we forgotten about the lovely photoshoot of ver in lingerie? About shadowboob??

I kissed my first person since my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up - this song came out the next day, and I cried a lot. Bah, your timing is amazing. I love growing with you.

ugh their friendship is so pure, you can see they care about eachother so much and it makes me so happy :))

I did get some "Human" vibes... Also in Human, there is a face without a body. And here, bodies without faces ! I love it :)

Almost felt like it could have been about someone trying to get past someone who had died? Not purely the grief process, but trying to be back to living... it created that feeling in me.

Yessss! I love that you talked about how people perceive you as innocent little Dodie for some reason. I'm very glad you gave the music video that angle!

hazel is so good at soothing people *i feel soothed*

doesn't anybody feel like Dodie's really glowing in this video today? :O

wanting to kiss reb is so relatable

I cannot believe the timing of this. We broke up three months ago and I recently reinstalled tinder and felt like this. It was so wrong, like I was cheating, but also like I didnt really want to look at anyone else like that but I did WANT to want to look at other people like that. Dunno what the best place out of this feeling is but Im trying to push through and try to flirt and whatever until it feels natural and right again and like Im not missing something or someone. I loved the video and song btw obviously

this is definitely one of my favourite dodie songs, the bit that always gets me is the echoes of “i know” it’s just so eerily sad. dodie and hazel really outdid themselves

I came late but now I get a hazel and dodie podcast to listen to while I embroider :)

Ok now I really want a dodie tipsy talk, with them talking about her new album and both of them having fun with how ridiculous it must feel to interview your friend lol... That sounds like a bad pitch but it sounded good in my head 😅

Forgetting to press the button and talking for 10min as if they're live is such a Dodie thing to do

took me a full three times of replaying the phrase "how do you fight the male gaze..." to work out that it was in fact "male gaze" not "male GAYS" 😂😭😭

petition to see the reb cut of the music video where it’s just reb and dodie for the entire song

I love the maturity and sexiness in this video and seeing a more drown up side of Dodie. Love your growth!!

Im glad she's straying away from that 'precious smol bean, yellow dodie' portrayal - tho it was a cute era, it was sickly ... this is mature

Just wanted to say that the sisterly love that Hazel and Dodie have, is beautiful.

i think somewhere midway i just started zooming in on dodie, and before i knew it i was crying and i don’t really know why but i just feel so much for you dodie, and i’m so proud of how far you’ve come you brilliant magnificent human. ily aLSO GIRL YOU LOOK SO GORGEOUS AND CONFIDENT AND JUST PERFECTION BYE

at the end she wakes up and immediately looks next to her, looking for someone . i think that showed a sort of codependency side to this story where waking up alone feels cold and empty and wrong. she clearly wanted one person there next to her, the person she is trying to forget but still longs for. the last shot being handheld made it feel like a person walking away from her, maybe that person who is 100% over her, and maybe never loved her at all. the one light is SO stunning, showing how she is completely alone in this pit of darkness. absolutely beautiful visuals thank you hazel and dodie for this video

Hazel is that sweet mum friend we all need

kudos to dodie and hazel today, so fukin proud

i feel like mentally i've grown alongside dodie ever since i discovered her music when i was like 11, so now that her songs have more 'depth' and maturity, it's just good to know that people change over time and that its okay to embrace that. also... hehe fill a hole..

I have such a huge crush on dodie after this music video dear god help me! 😂😂😳❤️

Can we see the animatic at some point I’m dying for another hilarious hazel human vibe animatic🤩

Awesome that you guys have such a genuine friendship and also working relationship, makes me want to make an artistic collab with my best friend

Your new song and video are both amazing dodie! I'm so excited for the album

i dont like the term single/lonely, i prefer the term 'on standbi'

Absolutely beautiful video. I love seeing this more adult and sexy side of dodie. I can’t wait for the rest of the album to come out.

Two of the most beautiful minds

This video also feels like dating and meeting people who turn out to not be for you and searching for the right person. Basically online dating and sleeping with some people and that moment of realizing that it won't work with that person and having to start over again every time.

39:35 actually surprised neither of you have seen bly manor, highly recommend though :)

Hazel, you look stunning in this! Also, the use of color and handheld shots is so unique, and you really pinpointed the story I envisioned as I listened to the song. I absolutely adore it. Well done.

I really liked the music video and this livestream because I feel like I have such a deeper understanding of the song now, so beautiful dodie

I love love love hearing all these tid bits and behind the scenes stuff, especially with you and hazel as a amazing team, I hope you continue to create things together in the future!

Please please please make another podcast-esque type video 😩😩🤎

I loooved watching this with tech difficulties and all. Also as a tomboy all my life the two of u make me feel somewhat proud of being a woman. You killed it and ive recommended ur song and music video to so many ppl! Powerful stuff.

Listening to this while drinking an awkwardly large glass of wine is the only way to write a paper on a Monday night

The music video is so good. I remember when human come out and I watched the commentary on that music video too. It is so interesting to find out about what happens behind the scenes.

The song is amazing, the video is beautiful -and sad-, and these two are so talented and gorgeous.... ugh

i love your songs and music videos so much and it's so nice to hear about all the things that went behind making it. as a filmmaker and video editor (and as someone who has a dream to work in music videos) i love seeing hazel's input in it and how it all worked out 💞

you guys need to make a podcast together i beg

i’ve looked at dodes so much my dpdr got me thinking her face is mine aahh :,0

I wonder if Hozier's 'Someone New' played any tiny role in the making of this song..

yall are so cute and im so proud of both of your creative development

This was the video deep dive i didn't know i needed

I love hearing about the process of making the video! Thanks for this.

This friendship is so beautiful. Also love the song & video

this music video was so fucking beautiful. I cant wait for the album!

“And you do have a back! I’ve seen it!” LMAO

Thank you for doing this, it was great, and the video was beautiful!

this is literally my comfort video i just sit and watch the whole thing every few weeks

i agree! that beginning bit 46:20 i thought it was a 100% hazel! lovely video, love you both

The 8 year friendship between you two definitely shows! ☺️

It's a really great song. Sadly relatable and relatably sad.

The sentiment of the song reminds me of the first line of Night Shift by Lucy Dacus but like less angry

You are doing so much better in life and have so much reason to celebrate. Am I watching a stranger. You went from looking shy to looking like a bar drunk.

ICONSSSSSSSS ❤ This is wonderful - you two are wonderful! The music video is honestly something really special.

The funniest thing is when I saw the thumbnail I went 'Ouuu this is gonna be so cool.' I don't think it ever felt out of tone for me and I've been watching you since 6/10. Maybe before? Some people don't like to accept that people have grown up because they associate your cuter(?) phase with a time in their life they might miss.

this song came out the day after i had my first “relations” with another person since my breakup. I cried all day out of guilt and feelings that i didn’t understand. thank you for putting how i feel into words, it’s beautiful ❤️

All their friends when they thought the stream went down; "YOU ARE LIVE! DON'T SAY SOMETHING YOU'LL REGRET"

The wigs questions had me on the floor

Hazel is such a pro! Thinking of everything and erverbody on set. Very impressive!

omg no they dont know what the haunting of bly manor is. watch it on netflix both haunting series are incredible storytelling and just really good horror

Will there be a livestream on may 7 for the album release?

thanks for giving us such an in-depth look at the music video and everything behind it!

I JUST missed it 😭

this was so comforting, i love you both so much, i am so happy for you both and i love the video and the song!

Hazel "they didn't think you had a back?!" 😅

The beginning of the live session is so dodie

Hazel, you're just such a good friend! The situation with the boob is hilarious and I'm laughing so hard! but i'm also realizing, this is amazing. i wish everyone has a friend who covers their nipple at the right time.

imagine getting a call like "so we're gonna pay you... to make out with dodie"

ily guys so much

Oh my god Hazel is just so.... 💖💝💕💞💓💗💞💝💘💕💓💓💓💝💘💖💕💕💝💝💕💞💓💗💞💘💖💖💝💝💘💕💕💞💓💗💗💘💘💕💖💘💝💞💗

i felt no anger whatsoever when seeing the thumbnail, just a bit of surprise and then pride and then every feeling at once as i got sucked into the actual video and concept

hazel at the beginning oh my god 🥺🥺🥺🥺

you don’t know what bly manor is?? you would love it!🥰

hazel saying darling. that's it.

I LOVE ITTTT

hazel is the literal sweetest ever- i just had to say it again

So relatable, love it

The video, the song, the humans who made it: stunning 😍✨

Loved this q+a! Ha hate the typical chatty guy on a date way too many of them. Lol can’t relate to meeting a guy who’s looking to fall in love 🤣

bly mannor is a netflix show horror/thiller!!

Ahh i missed it but it’s lovely music video.. i’m pretty sure it’s one of your best music videos!

she is so sweet omg. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

I love the reference to that prank interview lolololololol

I MISSED IT???????

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this is my 5th time watching the live and i still laugh cuz they thought they where live