I knew she was my friend when she arrived in my village, a place she’d never been, in the middle of the night, in pitch darkness and getting lost several times just to stand by me as we laid my dad to rest. Waithera Moriah, you’re my sister from another mother ❤️❤️
Murugi and Lydia are a match made in heaven. Did y'all see how she didn't even remember she sent Lydia gifts?🥺 It's giving "friends don't count favors, celebrate your wins as theirs, and would do that more."💓
I knew she was a true friend when she came after I gave birth, bathe my baby, and took her away for me to sleep due to fatigue , she did this for a while 2 weeks😢❤.
About being a people pleaser. I trace it back to growing up and my mum complaining about me all the time. I never did anything right in her eyes. Hardly ever a kind, complementing word about me. Until I got a great job and was showering her with LOADS of money. And then it was all praises about me. I extended it to friends and other people. Their praises made me feel like I am a good person. Until I lost my job during covid. I was so broke. Had to move back home and the praises and compliments vanished. It was a very reflective time for me. I got a great job mid-last year. Moved out of home. Now, I prioritize myself and my goals. I have financial boundaries. I give what I can, when I can. And I know that I know, I am a wonderful person. I am enough. ❤
You're a good person with or without praises. As long as you're not hurting yourself or other people... You're good. Am happy that you define yourself now on you're own terms.
Sometimes parents tend to hurt us more,and friends I'm glad you prioritize yourself now people will always be there for you when they know you have sth they want!Trying to figure myself out and let go friends too tho it's hard
Woi😢 Pole sana for what you went through. Its very hurtful get that feeling especially from a Mom. Good thing the experience made you see the dynamics of your relationship with your Mum and people around you. Choose you first always ❤️
I love this part of Murugi being surprised that she's the one Lydia is actually talking about.... If you agree like this comment,,, nmerudia iyo part❤😂
I love love Murugi, how she articulates herself you can tell she is aware of her strengths and weaknesses. I also struggle with people pleasing thing more of I want to be a hero in everyone's story. Murugi is a force,I always admire how she shows up in life and her perspective on everything.
I knew they were my true friends when I went bitching how a relative had refused to help me with something financial for my sister & she offered me the help and wondered why I was stressing and she was there and had what I needed! The most generous, thoughtful and funny bestie anyone would ever ask for!❤
The friendship series helped me put into perspective my now trying to reconcile friendship. It validated my feelings in so many ways, and also helped me look at things from the other person's perspective, after I watched part two I texted her and asked to chat. We're still uncovering and digging through the dirt. Though I'm scared to trust again, there's a glimmer of hope somewhere in the mess. Thank you, TMI.
I am here repeating the part where you are talking about "givers"/ people pleasers. It makes so much sense and I absolutely in consensus with ya'll. I have been called out fr!
I really enjoyed the friendship series. I have learned alot and for sure I will be a better friend henceforth. I related with Lydia's point that overcoming people pleasing makes you ready to leave. Thats me.
Always among the first here.....even though i didn't get the giveaway n the way I needed it.....but listening to these babes it's always therapeutic. I love 😍 😍
I knew she was a true friend when I over heard a convo between her and her mum (the mum was backbiting) and my friend stood up for me behind my back and against her mum !!
I knew she was my friend when i lost my phone and she gave me her late husband's phone. The husband had just died like 3 days ago. I didn't want to take it but she really begged me to take it. Ii didn't have a job by then and was waiting for a call from a job i had just come from an interview.
I knew she was my friend ,she really supportive during my pregnancy … another occurrence,i lost a thousand shilling in a mat and she gave me sh 500 so as I don’t go looking for the mat😢😢😢 its the small things ily Lillian
People pleaser is HARD Work...I had to stop being overly giver and People pleaser because it didn't bring joy to me anymore. Its like a self- abuse and it doesn't add value to oneself. Now, I have decided to just be Kind and not confuse People pleasing to Kindness. To have a friend is always good thing ...to have a good FRIEND is a blessing for sure❤ I wonder how Santa feels about this😂. He is the King of Givers 😅 Good topic 👏
One day I'll talk about love, pure love from one of my life sustaining friendships. Among other things, this lady gave me Kes 100k to boost my business when i lost my job and business was crumbling. Unprovoked, with no repayment timeframe! Aaah I really won the friendship lottery. Important to add that I am very intentional with my friends so yeah 😊
My friends tell me I sacrifice alot, always ready to give and help people out... My man thought I was a people pleaser... But when I give or do stuff for people, it makes me feel happy that they are happy .... I'm I a people pleaser?
Don't mind giving cz i give when necessary not when am asked so i can give all i want and I do it not to expect anything from anyone... there's good in giving anyway.
I knew she was a true friend when she held my hand when I was fighting rejection. She was also there throughout my pregnancy journey and she stayed with me in the hospital during labour for hours and later that night she waited for hours outside the theatre...Am blessed to have her. She came to the hospital everyday, could hold my crying baby and force me to sleep just to rest😢...priceless!!I hope and pray to never fail this one!❤❤❤B for blessed!
I don't you says this,"There's always something for everyone" , I feel like that line was meant for your podcast, like you can't leave here without something to learn about... especially about the giver talk and also when you guys talked about what's your your real real intention when you do something good or sacrifice sth for smn.those two areas were enlightening for me.. ...I have learnt quite a lot from this....Gracias xx
The truth about people pleasers!! That was me!!! I agree I was a people pleaser in a friendship and it broke my spirit from exactly what you described….hoping they would see me as a friend. Nope
you know you are a real TMI friend when you watch over 30min of the Idea Generation ad where they interview Ari. Granted, it is THE Ari. What a smart yt move to put out interviews as ads. Because if an oprah interview is in the ad break …. why won’t i watch it haha
I knew she was my best friend when she took care of me when i was sick.When she traveled with me for my wedding ,sat through a whole bridal shower in another language smiling and making sure I was okay even though she had no clue what the aunties were saying😂Chipo words will never be enough sweetest ❤❤❤❤
I knew she was my friend when she decided to get a second piercing just to give me company as I get my first ear piercing and the whole treatment journey
That's so sweet about the shoe story Lydia,,I had a similar one where we went out with my current best friend Lily❤ and I had heels on so we got drunk and going home my feet hurt so much,,she gave me her flat shoes and she walked barefoot as we walked home from the club and it was our first time going clubbing together
What happened to calling your friend a cab or offering to drive them home....that person that gave their car was overdoing...and besides, pregnant sick woman driving? Hello?! Make it make sense
Am that kind of a person who people can tell me anything even men and strangers sometimes even my bosses and am I ask myself " why me"? 😂😂 I think it's because am open minded maybe but i don't like people telling some deep secrets stuff 🤦🏿♀️ cz i don't even know how to handle just don't tell me your secrets am not ready to handle that... there's a guy i schooled with we hadn't seen eachother for years then boom we start chatting he opened up about his marital struggles and i was like " don't you have friends or your fellow men to open up to"?...being an openminded person is a struggle weeuh🤦🏿♀️ ...I met a guy through a friend who is the UK in a club the guy started opening up to me about his deepest secrets and i was like " nigga you don't even know me " 🤦🏿♀️ he told me he feels like he can trust me and those secrets were deep 🙆🏿♀️ i had to take shots of tequila to unload all the stuff he told me.
I knew she was my true friend when I told her I broke up with her cousin and she sent me this 21min long voice note empathizing and making sure it doesn’t bother me up coz she’s there for me
Joh! You are so ME. I'm on a journey of healing from people pleasing. Everything you said on the subject applies to me. Oh, it's such a struggle for me but I'm enjoying the liberation that comes with the little wins.
Whenever I feel lo, I just run to TMI to listen to them, especially when struggling with friendships and it's a bare thing that I can talk about. Thank you so much TMI
There have been many instances over the last 7/8ish years that showed me she’s a true friend, but I knew she was a true friend when she drove to my house to surprise me on my 24th birthday when I was deep in the dumps with depression. Planned a whole eventful day for me when my whole family forgot my birthday. My love language is acts of kindness and quality time and she’s nailed that to the T over the years. She’s been the constant in both my ups and downs. She pushes me to be and live my best life ❤
