I left my husband and 3 kids and never looked back 

An out of concern comment. Please note that the stories on this channel are less than 30 minutes and in no way cover in details the entire events that happened in 3-4 years. Also, I am not an 18 year old any more - I am about twice that age now and so much has shifted. That said, if you have not had a chance to read my book, and only have 10-20 minute snippets on here, you will come with a lot of bile at the thought of gaps in the stories. While you are right, you need to also understand that I did not have anyone in mind while creating the video and I assumed I was just moving over with my followers from a different platform who have read the stories umpteen times. The negative comments are very unnecessary. If you feel like parts of what you want to understand are missing and you need to understand, give me time, I will maybe do more videos now addressing all your thoughts - maybe. I'd be more concerned about the loved ones near me, making sure no one takes advantage of them, especially people the family deems so close, and also check on people that we feel are going through any form of abuse. Sometimes, they just do not know how to get themselves out. They may need help even when they do not ask for it loudly. Also, be kind - it costs nothing.

As a mother, no one will do that to my daughters and live to tell the story.And I don't care who they are. Although the situation made you stronger and it was your cross to carry, our responsibility as mothers is to protect our children, and you should have been protected.

I am finally here. Hugs Tatu Reginaldah

But you also had feelings for this child, why did you had to stay and not run away if you really didnt love him??

I remember crying a river while reading ME! Glad that you are now okay and can talk about it.

Sometimes we are not fully aware of our strength, until we face our weakness and doubts.Kudos sister.

I don't care how you found yourself in that situation as a teenager & how your parents did or didn't help with your predicament. You made a bold decision to leave in one piece & God bless you for using your life experience as testimony to inspire others🤗💕

I'm so sorry you went through all that. Yes, having money gives one some freedom. I need to get your book. Will try to get it through Nuria Bookstore.

I am inspired by your story. He left me and when he did I found myself. It has been a wonderful journey and at 63 I am still finding myself

It is well sis! Ended my marriage at 33 with four children… mine was abuse of all kinds. New subscriber here…

I don't understand what she's saying. Was she really officially married? She said her father was upset when this man kidnapped her...why she thought her parents would be upset with her? What happened to the man's real wife? Why she stayed in a kidnapped situation and didn't go home? Did she like him and that's why she stayed when she was kidnapped? Is there any development delay? Why is she saying she was married to this man? I don't understand.

This is quite depressing and disturbing at at the same time. This is a clear case of kidnapp. And nothing is said about it. She was pregnant for 9 months not 9 days…I beg your pardon! What is suppose to be the objective of this video in the first place?!!! It’s either the truth is not told or the parents are grossly irresponsible!

Thank you for sharing your story. I'll get a copy of "ME". Honestly men can be pretty aweful. At my first job I was a very young and naive 19 yr old, my boss would call me for dictation at 4:50pm. Why 10 minutes before closing, when most people would be leaving the office? Anyway, in my naivette, I would check my watch and at exactly 5:00 p.m. I would get up and say "my dad has come to pick me up" and would simply stand up and leave. He stopped calling me for dictation before closing. Only in later years did it dawn on me that the man was up to no good. Thank God in my young naive mind 5:00 p.m. meant you go home, no matter what.

My Darling so sorry you had to go through that situation. I understood what you have said. You were a child yourself! Don't let the negative comments bother you. Until a person walks in another person's shoe they could and will never understand. The Keyboard Warriors, Social Media Police, Haters /Talking Heads are doing their job. Can't help themselves. You are beautiful and Super Gorgeous. Nuff Respect to you my Dear.! 👍👍👍👍❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I can relate. The shock of being hit as an adult by another adult outdid the pain of the impact

You were kidnapped, police 🚨 did not locate you for all that time? Did you try to escape? Your parents knew this man's office, why didn't they go there to find him? Why didn't you try to seek help from the Gyn? I wish you could fill up the gap.

Hugs my black sister.. Keep the faith .god will ser you through.. ❤❤❤..love from jamaica.

I’m still wondering why your parents didn’t go to your kid-nappers office and have him arrested?

You're unbreakable and unstoppable, I salute you for that. You didn't let him destroy you. That's power right there!!! May you continue to soar and shine💐

I assume she got pregnant and also inherited 2 kids who were not hers biologically. Her fear of going home sounds like she was groomed by the man and to some extent made a choice to be with him. It is the adult man’s fault but she probably feels guilty about playing a role in the situation. This is common for young people who are groomed to be willing to participate in their own exploitation. The gaps in her story explain that subconscious feeling of guilt. The true violator is the man but sometimes victims do play a role in creating a situation where they are emotionally coerced.

U feared to go home n wondering hw ur parents wd react Whn ur kidnnappers called ur dad😢 Hmmmmmmmmm

You were staying with two step kids.....where was their mother /wife😮

But you were over 18 years and you accept to be kidnapped? You new your home, why couldnt you have ran back to your home after the birth of first child?

But you are always 18 ,baby number 1 , 18babay number 2,18,baby number 3,18

I need to understand how the parents didn't call police when the man told the father he had kidnapped his daughter?

Why didn't your father went to the police? Im very sorry you went through this😢 I'm curious...there were not occasions for you to try to escape and go to the police?

Practically kidnapped and turned into a slave. Being a child at 18 , it did not occur to her that she could say no and resist her kidnapper. Unfortunately some African upbringing of their girls esp., grooms them to go into a marriages of abuse. The parents were poor and with the mentality that the kidnapper had already impregnated her, she was seen as "damaged goods" and they gave up on getting her back. I cant imagine this kind of trauma. So glad that she stood up for herself eventually. I wish her healing and happiness. And i hope that kidnapper gets his karma.

It would be interesting to hear the man's side of the story. I am not taking sides but I also find it hard that her parents didn't report the case to the police or local authorities. Did they owe him something and took the daughter as pay back?? Or where they too scared to report the abduction of their daughter? I am a parent and I don't see how I can just sit back and not fight to get my child back! I think part of the story remains untold.

Tatu, thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through but I’m grateful that even in the midst of it all, your the voice to the many women who are undergoing this same or even similar situation. I pray for the peace, joy and grace of God to continue to carry you through each day. God bless you 🙏🏿

You could have run away earlier.

I just came across your story and I must confess I was moved to my bones. I couldn’t listen to the entire story because i couldn’t just imagine how evil a man could be. I’m grateful to God he gave you the strength to be free. My dream is to meet you someday to be able to interview you on my future podcast (beauty for ashes)

This is really sad, but I am wondering where your family was in all of this/ why did they not look for you? It's really troubling.

The 3 children how did they came about, your story doesn't add up about the children.

God bless and happy you are in a better place.

I don’t get it, how can someone seized somebody’s daughter for himself as a wife. Don’t you have police to report to that someone has kidnapped your daughter. Did the man put her in chains, why she didn’t run away. There are too many holes in her story. The man even called the parents to let them know where she was and didn’t make any effort to arrest the man and rescue her.

I'm confused. Why are you a mother figure to his kids? What happened to his wife?

Yes this story doesn't any sense!!

Really? Someone can take an 18 year old? And call their parents? That is called Kidnapping in law. This is strange because normally your mum or Dad would have been there😮

I have soooo many questions. Was there no police report or kidnapping report....was there no escape attempt........was he already married. .........was there a marriage ceremony.......when did the violence begin......sooo many questions.

Your parents somehow failed you my dear, why didn't they go with the police from the onset.

Evidently not all men are monsters but we need to give more room for people to talk about their experiences without calling them liars or saying they deserved, what did they do to provoke the other person etc. Men suffer too, but because of the same stigma most don't speak up especially when they were abused by a fellow man, example the whole P Diddy saga. People are going through a lot and can't talk. The saddest part is when young impressionable people are put in situations bigger than their age in a world that doesn't care, then when you are 30 and speak up they'll say you were grown and had a choice 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ it's really sad

Maybe the father knew the deal with this man why he didn't report the case four without her daughter something is fishing

Very sad to know that women are criticizing other women. I was a victim of domestic violence too. All those women who are criticizing her are criticizing her because you have not gone through that nightmare. Thank God you chose well, but that doesn't give you the right to criticize or doubt. That's why you don't understand. Don't criticize if you haven't experienced it or know the full story. There are parts within the story of a woman who has been a victim of domestic violence that has remained between God and the woman. That part of the story is so sad, embarrassing that it will never be known or told.

Congratulations sis, you survived a narcissist.

What a traumatic experience at a young age, glad you'd the courage to finally walk away. May God continue to lead you

I don’t know but this story is very incomplete and makes it so hard to be believe. 1. Where was his wife when he took you to this his other house? 2. How come his two older children suddenly appeared in the house? 3. Your parents never called the police? What of your siblings? They also didn’t think of calling the police? 4. Did your parents have an arrangement with this man without your consent and later changed their mind? I could literally go on and on with the questions. Please if you want people to learn from your experience, be honest about the life you lived.

Wives who have access to the money must always take money out to start a new life don't just walk out empty.but those abusive husband shall never have peace on earth until death hell shall be their portion

Tatu listening to the story I think you had a soft spot for this man. You even had a nanny and would go to school and never thought of getting away. I kinda think it wasn't a kidnap as you make it sound and perhaps that's why your parents any looked for you.

Which year was this? Did he lock you in the house?

Mmmh I really would love to read your book to understand your story very well! Honestly i don’t understand why your family let you stay for the four years!

Your parents should have known better not to expose you to a male friend.

This was a crazy man who wanted a maid, he’s a controlling man, young lady you were being abused left right and centre, no love control, control. You did the right thing to leave, poor children.

Amd your parents didnt even attempt to report and you never tried to escape?

Story doesn’t make sense! 3 kids after school and before 19yrs ?????? How is it dad did not react after the call? Give us a break!

Why not go back to the obgyn to remove the implant?

You are a very strong woman. Keep it up.

Wait .. what happened to the mans wife. Did i miss that part

I would have found a way to go back home earlier

People who can't empathise may assume you could have gotten out but when you feel helpless and useless there aren't many options...

Where did the other 2 children come from? You said you were pregnant at 18 with one pregnancy?

For me personally this is an official kidnapping and not marriage. Thank God you realized it.

Sad story of many girls who never talk about it. You Need to write a book.

This story is not adding up? Three Children at 18? Blaming yourself when you got pregnant because it was a mistake and yet it was a kidnap? Father reacting with unprintable words but not reporting to the Police. Tye gaps are just too much and places doubt on the credibility of the story unless you can address these concerns

Very sad story,but your parents sold you out to that monster!I mean what power/hold did he have over your father 🧑🏿 🤷🏾‍♀️.Something not adding up here.im glad you made it out alive!you are beautiful and well articulate lady❤

I just enjoyed listening and u are very calm. Sorry for what you went through, there are some very cruel people out there. Thank God you came out of the mess and you are now ok. Well done and I admire your confidence and commitment to move on

You are indeed a survivor. I can relate with aspects of your story as a survivor and as a lawyer I also run a woman rights advocacy Organisation. Deep down in us all we have the resillience to turn our challenges in to sucess stories. Cheers to the resillience of the human spirit. We must all remember that abuse thrives in the cycle of silence. Lets break the cycle of silence by telling empowering stories

Your parents and older siblings! I know I have no moral authority to judge them but just how could a man steal my child or sister and even notify me and I let them?

Amazing, almost unbelievable story! That man is a monster😮😢😢😢

Your life story is extremely sad. Hopefully, he will be legally held responsible for what he has done to you. He sounds like a beast. Heartless! Hopefully, you are in a much safer place, physically and emotionally!

How i have missed this channel of our 'busaa'taker all this time😲😲

3am? What wizadry is this😂 that man was a wizard for sure. The lost pregnacies is also telling, having miscarriages like that most times is a result of a ritual.

Tatu my sister and high school mentor. Pole for what you went through

He commited a crime against you and your parents. No one should judge you. I dont understand the laws or customs in other countries, but I can tell that you were not prepared for this. A husband is to love, protect and provide, he did not do this, or respectfully get permission, or the blessing of your parents. By the laws of my land, he kidnapped and gr aped you. He belongs in prison. You did not need to obey him, or care for his children. No shame or blame on you, he was wrong and evil. A child born of assult does not make it a real marriage. I dont need any background to know this. I am 68 years old.

So, where are you now? It's not very clear in the video...pole sana, mamangu. I was born in Mombasa Kenya and educated in Nairobi but I've been in Canada now for almost 50 years. I feel your pain. God bless you 🙏

So sorry, they wouldn’t have been angry with you, you were kidnapped.

He wants you to see you at his work place......what about the little one you left at home 😮I don't understand your story dear

Greetings! Watching from Baltimore, Maryland, USA. After listening to your story, my heart goes out to you. But mostly your child these reach children lies are hanging in the balance meaning they will be abused at some of their lives. All you can do is pray to God for this man to change and surrender his life to Christ . I am happy you got out of this terrible relationship, so you can heal . May God Almighty give you his peace , and heal you from the crown of your head to the souls of your feet.

Hopefully you will be able to create a career for yourself and get back your child. In the meantime keep praying, God will bless you and give you the strength to go forward.

I just don’t understand how she had 3 children at 18 the same age that she was kidnapped. She had triplets?🧐 I also don’t understand why the parents did not react. Why was she scared of going back home when she was kidnapped. The parents would have been elated and not angry. Too many questions in my head.

Women do go through a lot, you think yours is worse till you hear another persons story. It is well darling but i suggest you keep in touch with your child though.

Why didn't she go the professional doctor to remove the implant

Y didn't ur parents sue him for kidnap, well u r in a better place now n that's all yhat matters

Why didt ut gather go yo police, ehy didt u ran away whm u got a chance, hope am nt the only one qho z nt adding up on this story

Ok,ok continued listening to your story I understand they were your step kids

You are such a beautiful lady, I will check out your story

You are who you are! Each person acts in different ways, you were naive to the outside world as a young girl! It's a lesson for others that comes after you. Your life is a monument for other young girls to avoid being like the next you. I like how you told your story so that other young girls can be inspired, and alert, and understand how their lives can change within a minute for the worse. Thank you for opening up, you have just inspired little girls and explained how a child's life can rapidly change from an innocent child to terror! We all learn at some point in our lives. Thanks for sharing. You are blessed to be here. Never be ashamed of yourself, you did nothing wrong, you were just naive as a young girl! You are forever blessed! Thanks for sharing, you are not alone and will never be! Every day a little girl is being abused!

Lady you’re young ,you can make it Without this abusive man . Make Jesus your choice , and watch him work it out for you.

So happy you came out strong to tell the story.

Who are the other 2 children. Borrow phone and call parents.

That is not consentual, that is called rape of a young naive woman. He should be jailed that man. I don't care how much money he has. Is this how women are treated in Africa, they don't have a say over their bodies. What a disgusting and cruel man. Of that happened to anyone in my family, I dare not think what my family could have done to him.

What is happening in Kenya, this is day light kidnapping

2023, He lowered you to his home. He raped you, beat you, and held you against your will he was never your husband. How in your mind to be afraid to return home because you felt your parents would punish you, how? The man told your parents he took you. Your parents knew it was against your Will what that man did to you. Try to stop referring to him as your husband, He was a kidnapper and a rapist. You pray your daughter is not messed up mentally. I am happy you had the strength to walk away.

Why you Didnt you think of going back home

Had to be hard, leaving your kids

The story doesn't make any sense.

You so calm and beautiful

What happened to the 2nd pregnancy which you mentioned about?

This story zeee, nothing adding up

That man knows the implants 😮

That is very sad ,i am glad u got out .did u got your baby back.❤❤