@@BernadethBautista-pj3hl I’m sorry that happened to you. Been there. Do you think the process of forgiveness would be worth it if he did realize he made a mistake? It’s not an easy process but is possible. In the meantime get to know and love yourself again. You’ll need that strength regardless. I don’t know your spiritual path but I’ll pray for you.❤️
I was with a Fearful Avoidant.. it was the worst. Its like a drug addiction. Lovebomb - that first high, its so amazing, you've never felt better. Breadcrumbing - you need more, you want that initial high! The discard - extreme withdrawals, that just destroy you mentally and even physically, like you cannot survive with out that high.. you'd kill for even just a taste.
Same.. ignored a lot of flags for what was just a fantasy with a damaged and immature person. The breakup showed her true colors but also how how much work I need to do on family of origin issues
I don't feel like such a weirdo now, thank you. If I knew this felt so terrible I would never have allowed someone to get so close. It is not worth it at all. I was so much happier as a successful, busy workaholic and I'm running back to my old single life as fast as I can.😊
In my case, I was deeply in love , I loved him more than God and that was my mistake. I am done , it is possible to move forward the love I felt turn into compassion
I don’t think it’s always the case… she dumped me two months ago and I know she completely forgot about me… I’ll eventually get there as well, we need to stay strong brothers. Let’s turn the page once and for all and move on with our lives without looking back. Enough crying, enough mourning of a girl that hasn’t thought about us for weeks if not months.
The main reason for that is because we’ve abandoned ourself in the process! Our self concept must be poor to energetically push people away. Change your energy and start loving yourself they will mirror that change
Omg me as well!! it was a very good relationship, but I had to end it after 6 1/2 years because it was one-sided. It was ambiguous. I tried to end it many times, but he begged me not to he even eventually got me an engagement ring. However, the closer we got to the wedding date the more he pulled away for no reason at all! No arguments, no disagreements, it made no sense. He simply said I deserved better that I was an angel and that I was perfect but he just did not know why he could not commit. And that was the end of that my heart is shattered. My mind completely destroyed at the moment. Battling depression, battling scary thoughts fighting every day to keep moving forward in this darkness full of confusion….
He came back promising to give us more time because that we the only reason why we split up before. Then he quickly repeated the same pattern after i loved him back. I wrote to him to say i can't take it and feel hurt and disrespected his response was saying i deserve better and that he is sorry. I am in unbearable pain now i feel so let down and used. Thank you for sharing this
I lost my man over the same thing. What I discovered too late is that if I'd just layed back and let him handle his business, he would be back. Especially since he was having a rough time taking care of his mom's affairs. I just didn't realize how deep that went. If it's not too late, tell him you understand that he's doing the best he can and love him though it.
I experienced those things you mentioned because we have been friends more than just a friend 10 years or more... but He was ignored me... I feel sad when he did
we are in no contact because he has been silent while he's going through a rough time....basically changing his while before he moves to where I am....if he does.... the time apart is making me doubt everything. I know he wants me to wait for him but I don't think he realized how hard this would be for me. I know he expects me to message him even if he doesn't message me back...reading my messages used to be enough sometimes, but not now.
yes of course rig even now w/my newly person since last year i have a strong connection w/them yes really he is always on my mind its really truelly..🙏💞❤️💞🙏💚
4 years of no contact... from my narcissist daughter, she stressed out my husband and her father so bad that it killed him. She devastated and destroyed me beyond repair. I tried staying in contact with my grandson that we raised for the first 6 years of his life. She has to keep the speaker on, so she can hear what we are talking about. He can't open up to me cause if he does he will get in trouble for it. It hurts so much. I worry about my grandsons mental health everyday. I can imagine how hard it is for him. There's nothing I can do unless it gets physical. The laws don't protect from mental abuse and I don't think it's right.
I been living this - what he's saying in this video - for at least 10 years. If I skip the year, I went back to try to fix things with them but most of that year they were not interested in contacting me (family of origin). So, I might as well count that year, so estrangement started in 2008. Actually, there'd been problems way back before that even as far back as my childhood. I see it all now.
I don't feel safe when I think about maybe going to visit them. They never mention seeing me. I actually feel safer not being around any of them. I feel like I might die if I go there - I do not live close to them.
Good luck. This is hard to do. I gave in after two months.. I just don't like living in the past. I pray one day you WILL get over them and find someone who will NEVER think about hurting you or breaking up with you. Try learning to forgive if you can, but it's fine if it will take some time. * sending you a virtual hug *
Yes he John got a hold of me showing his singing and words laughed so much and said he was going to come but read he is not thinking of me he had even plans for tonight so it's pretty hard first david of all that happened now its harder than ever yes hard to let go
One of them (the last I've been, but very little, in touch with), says they all love me and want me to move back there (to my home town), however, not in 10 years has any of them mentioned seeing me or me visiting. Maybe 9 years or less with 1 of them (my sister, covert narc) who's caused me the most pain.
When i finish this comment, im going to drop on my kness to pray for God to release me of all these feelings for someone whom i fell in love with & he has ghosted & blocked me... there is days i just want to be dead bc it hurts so badly. Agonizing & nights are the worse. I toss n turn. So here's to a new mindset.. may God quickly answer my prayer. Amen
Ya I miss him HOWEVER what i miss is a fake, liar,cheater, sick, very sick individual. THAT person does NOT deserve ANY of my attn..EVER. I NEED TO ACCEPT this is truely who he is. NO THKYOU. I respect myself more.
So long as he is not in front of your eyes!😂 You shall stop thinking about someone who is not present visually to unbalance your hormones And then suddenly you shall regain your liberty 😂 Interesting description of why we suffer so much: it has to do with something related to safety and the of course to the happiness that some people elicit on our chemicals
Maybe because relationships (and the world in general) especially sexual relationships create a spiritual bond which can only be broke through prayer to the one and only God the God of Jesus Christ the God of the Bible
Who are you to tell me about my pain and suffering I’m sure you have your own. Just because you can move on faster than most. Don’t tell me about mine.
It’s a constant feeling of despair. When you have a no contact with someone that you cared and love and they moved on time and time over and yet you’re stuck I hate that.
@@robin2319 because I loved her. More than anyone. From the moment I met her. And she left multiple times. Before she left the last time. She proposed to me. Got a place for me and my kids. We were even trying to have a kid of our own. It's hard to give up on all those dreams. But it was even harder that she made those commitments and then decided to leave. If she was so unhappy and tried to convince herself to be happy I wish she wouldn't have made all those promises and commitment knowing it would destroy me if it didn't happen.That future meant so much to me. It's hard to live in reality that it's not going to happen. I'm trying my best to move on. To know I'm worthy of someone who will stay. I'm loving myself and improving everyday. But it's still hard to let go. The brain knows it's time but the heart is stubborn.
@@robin2319you always right.. but sometimes it takes a while to move on. You right my ex boyfriend dumped me so I am thinking about that you say move on when someone dumped you. (True)
I will put my Trust in God! He knows what is best for us! 🙏🏼. I myself, don’t know what happened. Totally blindsided, I never saw it coming. Much Aloha & Blessings as we heal our mind, body, soul and heart! 💕
I understand that pain you have it feels like someone has stopped on your heart and kicked you in the stomach I’m sorry that you are going through this 🥺🥺
Yeah, it is but what I plan to do at the end of my no contact period is send a friendly text about how a movie I saw reminded me of him, and that I hope he's doing well. I mean that. Release to me is turning that hurt energy into appreciation for the good stuff we shared.
Wow okay thank you. Because I’m trying to move on and better myself. I pray, deleted and removed any reminders, journal, forgave myself, forgave him, and still it happens. I also accepted he has moved on so I have no hope and I’m actually glad because it’s pushing me to dig deeper within myself. I’m just ready to stop feeling the little lingering thoughts/ heart aches from time to time.
This is what I’ve been going through, it’s been 10 months and I’ve never had someone stay on my mind for this long, two months max. I do not want him back in a relationship, doesn’t work with us. However, we were like best friends. So I lost not only the relationship but a best friend, sucks
This more or less happened to me, I feel I was betrayed by a friend as friendship was big on our connection. I don't want a relationship because he can't do it, but I just don't seem to get over him and I want it over with...
I feel this way about my ex. It's only been a week, I had to leave as he is an avoidant, but he was my best friend. Even on that level, it's very painful to lose him.
Yep, I understand how y'all feel. He was my best friend too. It's been two years. It's been even harder since I lost my dog a year ago in July. I'm just now starting to pick myself back up.
I took my hurt and turned it into a kind of strength. I let the good things we did put a smile on my face, let the good stuff fuel my reason for giving folks my extra shopping bags at the store. It's strange but that hurt taught me something about how to love my fellow human being better.
Your videos helped get through some rough patch in my life.. No contact and focusing on myself helped a lot .. Now we are back and relationship is stronger!! I did not know my faults in this relationship and we have a new beginning w new goals !! Thank You Brother
The feeling like your dying and not feeling safe in your body is 100% what I’m going through. Thank you for validating my feelings and explaining what’s happening
This....tis rite here. 2 yrs nc and breakup this still hits me hard, genuine ptsd, and sucks fuxxing ass soo sooo much. Eat yu said i can totally understand this too too well. Always.
Today is day twelve of NC, it's horrible and I'm very down, especially the fact that the last text that we sent each other was twelve days ago,and the last two are still unread,not to mention he hasn't reached out at all, totally without hope💯💔
I just got past day 60. I’m here to tell you it gets easier to bear with time… Just focus on improving yourself and your life and spend time with people you love doing things that bring you joy.
Something about this doesn't sound hopeless to me. My spirit tells me that some love is there. If I were you, I'd put a smile on my face because this doesn't feel like a lost cause.
