I'm Starting Over at 47 Years Old 

Hey Mel, This is a very powerful video. You have a lot of people who are in your corner and who support you, both close to home & all over the world. Literally all over the world, think about that for a minute. That's how large of an impact you have made, you are worth it & you bring more to the table than anybody will ever be able to measure. I for one, value your friendship immensely & if you ever need anything you know my wife & I will always be there. We both miss you. Keep fighting the good fight. I appreciate everything you do. You're the best.

Mel you will make it. My first marriage lasted 13 years. My wife said she didn't want to be married to me anymore and asked me to leave. I took my bed and stereo. Then I met Patty, my second wife. We where married 32 years. Together we had an Ebay store. I lost her to cancer a year and a half ago. Sitting alone in a 4 bedroom home, where do I go from here. I had my stuff but I wanted Patty. Then along came Anne. I dated her 51 years ago in high school. Now she fills my life. I believe God brought Tom in your life for a reason! Surround yourself with family and friends. The road is bumpy and sometimes rough but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

You're not starting from scratch, you’re starting from experience.

If you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and a few good friends, you're richer than many.....you got this Mel!

I am 64. I last started over at the age of 56. I sold things, gave things away, including 2 beloved horses. Moved 1,200 miles to my home of my youth. You'll be good. I'm OK, struggles? Yeah My house of love and light? YES! Fancy? No. But God always provides.. Always.

My husband left me suddenly after 17 yrs of marriage and i was devastated. He left me with nothing. I am 45 now and i am slowly picking myself up. Still grieving but i know god has better plan for me. I am changing my career and i am working on myself transformation. I am so much stronger than my younger years and i value myself a lot more. I don’t know where i am heading but i know i am making greater life with God’s help. I wish you all the peace, joy and best.

You are grieving for your old life and having to learn a completely new one. You are not alone.

I started again at 47.. life does get great again. I’m 53 and living on my own now and loving life. Just me and my cat ;)

Cried my eyes out. My husband left me suddenly at 31 with a 9 month old and a 3 year old. I lost my house that I’d worked so hard for, we made no profit and I couldn’t keep it alone. Fast forward it’s been 7 years since then and while i no longer own a home, my girls are happy and loved and I have been with my new partner for 4 years. Sending so much love to you xxxxxxx

This is a beautiful place...its literally nicer than 90% of the world....I'd be so grateful to have that!

Listen, you’re not alone. I’m 54 & starting from scratch. I own nothing except furniture & clothes & feel overwhelmed, as well.

I'm starting from scratch with my daughter. We live in a welfare condo. I got divorced. I'm 44. It's hard, but life I guess is what we put into it. I'm in the UK. I'm yet to make friends.

I had nothing at 47/48, no money, no family, no friends no next of kin, no qualifications, no job and homeless. I am not a junkie, delinquent, crazy etc the standard stereotypical loser in life. You have a lot more than me, family, and a massive home. I live in state housing with OLD PEOPLE (No choice of my own) and I am only 55. There are other people worse off than you. You need to be strong, I didn't even get a settlement. Don't feel sorry for yourself, just keep moving forward. You have a lot more than other people.

Started again after 30 years at 47 as well. My kids want nothing to do with me. My 21 year old hasn't spoken to me 5 years. My 28 year old only texts when he needs something. But I am me and have peace of mind. You will be ok, it will take a while. Just be true to yourself.

My father left my mom with 8 kids and not a penny after decades of abuse. We were all separated and I lived in a car with my mom at 7years old. You have a very nice place, food and your kids. you landed softly. Congrats!

I left my husband in March of 2019 after 13 years of marriage. It was so freeing. I started over then. Then my brother died in 2020 and had to move to be closer to my mom. 2 years later I met who I thought was the love of my life. January 15, 2022 was our first date. Wonderful year. Then came 2023. I never thought anything would be worse than 2020. 2023 I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. My job went south. My relationship broke up. Didn't see any of that coming. Started a new job at the end of 2023 and moved in 2024. Health is getting better. Job is challenging so it's taking up all my time. New church. New friends plus my ride or die friends. Life changes constantly. I want to be stable. I need to exhale. Im with you Mel!!!

I got divorced when I was 29. I’ve had 4 different relationships. After 35 I said no more and gave it to God. Now I’m 47 still single and my heart aches being alone. Although I have a nice home, I dont have any children and no partner, I often think if I could go back I would have at least four children. You are so blessed to have yours.

47, with looks and energy of 35. You have earned this blessing through your hard work. You just feel out of sorts. This too shall pass

The aquarium would make a beautiful terrarium filled with plants! 😍🌿🌱❤

My husband of 24 years abruptly left without warning Jan 2018. I was 59. I actually thought I was going to die due to the blindside. Like you, I had to completely start over. Good thing I knew how to do it from previous tragedies in my life. I had a few “starts from nothing” in my life. This time though, I moved forward in a solid relationship with God. I didn’t have to struggle as I have a good career. Fast forward 6 years - I’m perfectly fine. I listened to Gloria Gaynor “I Will Survive” sung it on the top of my lungs for the first few months. You will survive! You have your children. You’re still young. This is your chance to do life your way. You might feel lost right now. Unsure of yourself, your decisions. Feelings of loss are pervasive. Feelings of rejection unshakable at times. Grief comes in waves 🌊 and demands your complete attention when you least expect it. Large task ahead of you, but when you find smooth sailing one day - you’ll be so grateful-to yourself and the process. You’ll be amazed & proud who you are, and of your accomplishments. Lean on those you love & who love you. Expect that it will take some time. This is different than a death - yet the same. Allow grief. If you shut it down - it will just come out harder & uglier at some other time. You’ve been part of a couple for 2.5 decades - now you get to do things your way. You’re going to LOVE the new you! ❤

Debbie here from the U.S. I am now 68 yrs old. I was divorced in my 40's. You will get by. Your new house is beautiful! Deep breath one step at a time. It gets better. As a single women, be careful of men. Not all are bad, but they can be. I wish I was in my 40's! You are still young and can do this!

I had to stop this vid at 35 seconds because the words “ I’m worth it” need to be printed out and put in your car and in your work space so you can see it daily. I got divorced after 13 years of marriage. Apparently my now ex was having affair for 2 years. It’s took me two years of a mind fog to break out of my rut. Running and mountain biking saved me. My motto I printed out was “ kick today’s a$&”. The ride or die fans are here ms Mel. Vent anytime ok ❤

Mel, I understand how you feel. My mom kind of went through what you're going through. She was 46 years old when my dad died of a massive heart attack at 52. They had 5 kids and four of us were married and out of the house and she had my 15-year-old brother left to raise on her own. Mind you my mom had never had a full-time job outside the house. She was devasted and didn't know where to start. She only had a 7th grade education. A neighbor helped her get a job at the hospital where she worked as a nurse's aide, and I talked her into taking a night class to get her GED. She had to learn all the shorthand terms for drugs to administer to patients. It was a lot, but I helped her study until she got it down. She kept saying she wasn't smart enough to get a full-time job because of her education level. I told her you have raised 5 kids. That takes skills that you've learned and applied to everyday living that you can use on a job. You have to budget your money to pay bills, to buy groceries and gas for the car. You know how to multitask to get several things done at once. (Clean house, wash clothes, wash dishes prepare and cook meals, etc.) You've had to manage 5 kids - keep them going by scheduling all the things they are involved in - which means you know how to manage your day and people. After telling her all of this she sat back and reevaluated her life skills and realized she had a lot to offer someone in a full-time job. She didn't have to work long though because she met a really nice man who was widowed, and they got married within a year and he told her she could quit her job which she did promptly! 😂 By the way they had 35 years together before she passed away. I'm just telling you all of this because you are so much more ahead of her in your life and in your business than where she started, and I know you're going to make it. I know it's scary and seems impossible, but you are strong, and you can do this!! Good Luck in your future endeavors and I'm looking forward to watching more videos from you about all of your trials and tribulations - because if any of us live long enough that's what we all go through, and it's called life. You will have sad times and happy times and I pray you enjoy the journey along the way. Like some of the other responses say if you need to vent because you've had a hard day, or something didn't go as planned that's alright because we're here for you anytime.!!!

Girl you have more than most people a whole house. Your in a better position than a lot of people you are blessed whether you know it or not.

You have your own front door! That's worth a fortune. I'm a DV survivor, finally bought my own 4 bed home after 14 years with a conservatory and balcony, helped by being an part time reseller. You are SO worth it, you have it, you have a lovely gentleman in Tom to give you emotional support. I'm really proud of you and all you have achieved. The cat is gorgeous and I'm very confident you are going to smash it!

From someone who has been in your shoes, take a little time to grieve what is no longer. THIS is a new chapter of your life. Turn the page and create a brand new chapter. Enjoy your new life. Don't spend too much time dwelling on what was. I lost 5 years of my life dwelling and I am so mad at myself!! Cook new foods (you have lots of cookbooks), travel, take day trips with your kids, get new wall hangings etc to decorate your new house. You are never alone, you have 33.6 thousand friends who have your back!

You may not believe me but this is actually the most liberating moment of your life. You have a clean slate and limitless possibilities ahead of you. You can do anything you want. I wish you good health and fortune for the adventure ahead.

I started over from scratch at 52, walked away with nothing but what I could comfortably fit inside my car. Fast forward to 59, and I'm thriving! Thank you for sharing 🙂

Mel, if people are honest, most have started over several times in their lives; for reasons of their control and reasons out of their control. It truly makes us stronger and opens doors we never knew existed. You're amazing and you've got this! Your home is so very lovely and feels fresh and full of future happiness. Keep the fish tank. Fish are amazing and your kids could learn an entire new skill set having and maintaining fish; plus they're incredibly relaxing and peaceful. So happy for you, Mel.

The honesty and rawness in this video is why you’re one of my favorites to watch. Starting over is hard. But you’ll get through it and be better than ever. “I’m worth it” was felt by many of us. Much love from the states 💜

This just showed up on my feed… You did not just leave your house with boxes from what I heard. You have your children, your health, peace of mind, new freedom and let’s not forget the cat. It seems like you have support and people in your life that love you. You have a home. You are way more blessed than most people. You seem very strong and you will be fine.

I’m cheering for you. I’m in exactly the same position. I left a 30 year relationship and my beautiful 3 bedroom house with just the clothes on my back … but I’m happy😊

Give yourself a month or two and one day you will wake up and you'll realize you ok. It just takes time. Routine will be your best friend. Hugs

The house looks really spacious - I hope you will be really happy there. You are not old, you are a beautiful vivacious young woman with lots of life and adventures ahead of you and you are definitely worth it - look how far you have come already. Sending love x

I got divorced when I was 29. I thought even if I lived in a studio apartment it was something I had to do. I eventually bought a house all on my own. I didn't have a lot so I decorated it with yard sale finds. I bought power saws and tools from yard sales too to do renovations. You have a talent for finding deals already, so you can just look beyond the books at the thrifts for a while to find furniture and art....and you won't have to consult with anyone about what they like. It's all about what you like! It's a blank slate for you to design!

Not valuing my self worth….WOW you nailed this one I’ve got to get Better at this. (I’m 53 starting again) WE GOT THIS. Right ?! 🥰

Think of it as a different way not like you’re starting over, but you’re starting a new that sounds like a much more positive mindset

It’s okay to be happy and sad at the same time! You are grieving the loss of your old life while getting to start a new one. ❤

Hi Mel, I had to start over at age 60. It has been 8 years now and I have never been better, except for a few unresolved family issues that will take more time. I stayed with a friend for two years, then found my own apartment.

I had to start over again at 51, moved to a new state where I didn't know anyone with 2 suitcases and a box of bedding and a few decor pieces. I've never felt so much peace ❤

I am so excited for you!!! I started over at 47 (I'm now 50) and I'm better than ever! The freedom alone is amazing, stepping out of the drudge of married life! The exciting things is you never know what is going to happen and where this next chapter of life is going to take you. Wishing you all the love. Be strong, you have so got this. Much love from the UK xx

Feel free to reach out to your Aussie community in the group too if you are ever overwhelmed. You've got this and we got you too.

Hi Mel, you have a luxury house, a garden, you have your children and a cat. You clearly have SO much more than a lot of the people who really do have to start from scratch. Please be aware that you do have a lot and are extremely lucky. I hope you do enjoy your new start. I was a bit disappointed as I really needed to listen to somebody who was trying to cope with literally nothing.

I have gone through this twice and while it’s rough it’s also liberating. Losing stuff you like sucks, losing stuff you don’t is nice. In the end the stuff does not matter, only your happiness matters.

The journey always starts with 2 new steps. Be big be bold be strong. Just like in your business

My dear girl ! Count your many blessings, It is hard ,I know so well, my life has been me many starting overs, because of a few unsavory marriages, many decisions not made with intentions, and health reasons. I'm now 80 and I've had to start over once more, If I can do it at my age You can do it too.❤ Mel, while you're starting over, take the time to read two books,Nevelle Goddard, feeling is the secret, & Think and grow rich Napoleon Hill. It will change your life and how you look at your reality.

One day, one book, one moment at a time… If you let yourself think about it all too much, dwell too much. It can feel so overwhelming. But if you just tell yourself, I don't have to do anything in any moment…but this one thing… You don't have a whole room to pack up, just this ONE item at a time. And use that mentality in everything, you will arrive at your destination. You will find the light at the end of every tunnel, even if you can't see it. Just one step at a time.

Once you get your new home organised you will love your new way of life. No one to argue with, you make your own decisions , fix and learn from your own little mistakes along the way. Your kids will survive and thrive, mine did!! Xx

Financial stability is about making, keeping and growing money, there are 3 parts. Most people make money but can’t keep it. Good luck with your new journey, I wish you well.

I'm 46 and restarting my life too. I lost almost everything last year. Had family steal my money and made me lose my jobs and car. It's not easy. So many years of abuse. It's over they're gone from my life. It's traumatizing. But I'm working on getting my life back. If I can get a car so I can get to work I'll be all set. I did a GoFundMe in hopes of getting help. Maybe if you need to you can do one too. You're alive. You'll get through this. Hopefully you have family and friends you can trust and that they will be there for you. I had no one really. But my animals. Things are getting better. One step and one day at a time.

This is a new chapter in your life. It's time to take care of yourself have no regrets and keep moving. Exercise, & eat healthy.

I think it’s quite normal to feel flat! It’s very emotional leaving the old and starting the new! Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to adjust. ❤

Mel that house is AMAZING! that backyard is sooooo nice!! Plenty room for relaxing after a hard days work. Very happy for you and nothing is wrong with a restart in life! Only good things to come!

If you own this house, and pay rent at warehouse, move your stock into the house garage.

Your garage surpasses our entire rented house by far. Thanks for providing a space to occasionally vent, share thoughts, or simply talk to someone. Life can become more challenging and complex at times, but it serves as proof of our existence.

You're not starting over entirely! You've got years of learning under your belt! Lots of folks start over without a great system of support and an awesome eBay shop! You've got this!!! :D We're all rooting for you. :)

Starting over with a lifetime of experience. You’ve got this Mel 🎉👍❤️❤️ You are so worth an amazing life. Hugs and lots of good vibes coming your way from the USA ❤❤❤

You can do this! I am going through the same thing, after 38 years of a terrible marriage, I am free and happy! I have 3 wonderful kids and I need to heal me first. I did get the house but I am paying for everything! Selling on eBay, working and also learning about money! Good Luck!

A beautiful new home for beautiful new life ❤ . I've started over with nothing twice since I was 40. I'm with you in spirit my friend.

Mel, you are amazing! I was afraid that, at 45, it was getting too late to live my dreams and change my life. I was encouraged by this video. You are worth it. I am worth it. Our cats are worth it 😊 Sending hugs from 🇨🇦

Man this video speaks in VOLUMES to so many of us!! I am rather New to your RU-vid Channel and of course I am now a member of Techs group, I can only speak for myself when I state this, I feel like I have found “My People”! I shedded tears with you Mel! Almost as if you are/ living thru my past! You are 47 years YOUNG! I was 51 when my recent RESTART, began! (For the 2nd time). I am not gonna write my BIOGRAPHY here BUT just know “We are your People” much love and Positivity!!! I don’t doubt one bit your greatness that awaits ❤

It’s not silly to want your kitchen items at all. In my culture they say the kitchen (everything in it) belongs to the wife. If she leaves she takes her kitchen with her. If she passes everything in the kitchen is handed over to her family and it’s precisely because of the reasons you’ve given. So your feelings are totally valid. Wishing you love and light in this new journey 🌻

So many blessings are on the other side of hardships, You got this. I found beautiful life after leaving my normal and so will you! so excited for you and your future!

Mel - You Got This! You will land on your feet and be better than ever! It's normal to grieve the loss of your old lifestyle. Change is hard. But you have your family, Tom, your cat, and us! We're cheering you on every step of the way. BTW - your house is incredible!

I started watching you when I started selling on eBay as I began with selling books (and some other media and junk) I had lying around my house. I love every video you share and I hope you can feel how much support you have because I can't be the only one who looks forward to every time you post. Best wishes, you got this, you are worth it!

My husband passed in 2022. I’m in my 30’s, but even so, it feels like starting all over again after him being all I knew for the last decade.

I started again at 37. I am 41 now. Burnt out from working and paid very well. Over consumed buying crap I didn’t need! I have gotten rid of it now. I had quit my job I have been rejected 100 times. Don’t worry we get better! Read a few financial books is what I invested in doing and it brought me back….trying to get on top of my finances and almost lost my house. Keep going forward!

What an amazing home. I would say you have bounced back from the brink! It is so much more than what many have.

Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable with us. In my life I have learned that many people start over and/or reinvent themselves in many different ways (divorce, lost job, fed up in general). It takes a different path for everyone and I think you have some good business advisors with Tech & Sport and Chris at Daily Refinement. For your personal finances, check out to see if the group ChooseFI has an active group in Australia. Going through the fire is tough for sure but the other side is always clearer. One step at a time is the approach I take when I am feeling snowed under. Big hugs to you and much love.

Thanks for sharing your story Mel! I'm relating to so much of your story! Congrats on the new house, may you make lots of great memories there! You are an inspiration (and not just becuase your ebay biz is awesome!) You've got this ! Prayers and hugs from Oregon USA

Sending lots of love! Thanks for sharing your story. I started over at the same age. Yes, it's difficult at first. You will definitely get through it with time. You are an inspiration to many with your business and perseverance.

Mel, I want to just reach out and hug you so tightly. You look so much younger then 47 first off. I'm 46 and its not as old as we seem to think it was when we were kids lol. You're stunning imo. That cat is also absolutely beautiful. I love your new place too & I'm so excited to see how you decorate, get settled into it and make it your own. You are an inspiration. I want to also say that youre not starting from scratch. It may seem like it materialistically but you have experience, you have knowledge & youre able to retain new knowledge & tomorrow will be easier then today. You've got this ❤

Lovely house. Private and spacious...good choice. You're going to be fine. New beginning. ❤

Awwww, you're so darn sweet and my heart melts for you but I know you are a very powerful person and you will rise above all this in no time. You are so very helpful and so many people look up to you too. You have so much love and support and are so valued, more then you will ever realize. Many blessings and can't wait to see what happens next.

The struggle is real but you are never given more than you can handle!! Take a breath focus and remember YOU GOT THIS !!! You do a great things keep it up.

Im starting over at 49, in the middle of divorce, moving with the kids, giving up my eBay store for now, going back into a stable job because it makes sense at this time. Waiting on our settlement too. I wear a bracelet that says “ You Are Enough “ I want my children to be proud of me, that is my motivation 😊 We have to go through the bad to reach his glory ❤ Beautiful lady you are ready and can do this, be patient and kind to your self. Freedom and Peace are worth it 😊❤

♥️ Mel, my heart is with you and I’m praying for you during this difficult time. You are a lovely soul and you are so strong, you have many people who love you out here sweet friend.

You are an inspiration! I love your rawness and truthfullness. I have been and will continue to watch your journey! YOU'VE GOT THIS!

I feel your pain. I have recently gone through a similar situation after 32 years. Heartbroken. Life is about looking forward, not looking back.

You will do just fine. You are not starting from scratch, you are moving in a new direction with the wisdom you earned and learned from when you first started out. That is priceless. You are not an old woman. (I'm 73 and old!) You are in the prime of your life with a chance to learn from your mistakes and how fun to take your new knowledge to make things so much better. You get a second chance. A do over. How exciting! Nothing worthwhile is too easy. You have to earn it. But boy! That is so satisfying! You know what to do and you will do just fine. And think about this saying that really helped me move on. There comes a point in your life when you have to let go of the Past to make room for your Future! Good Luck.🙏🙏🙏🙏

You're incredible! You deserve all of the wonderful things that are coming in this new chapter of life! ❤

Mel, I so admire your honesty! You have so much to look forward to and be proud of! Seems like an of an era but certainly a new bright future ahead at the same time! So sorry to see you down and hope you get settled in very soon! Sending love from Texas!

Stay strong mel❤

Thanks for sharing, it is a cute flat.... New memories will be made from the fresh start. Create traditions to move forward with. Luvs and Hugs from a stranger who knows about new beginnings.

Alan Rickman was aged 42yr when he played Hans Gruber in Die Hard - it was his first ever movie role!

Thanks you for saying how I've been feeling for the last 7-8 years it's hard and don't shy away from feeling or saying anything. It's very freeing. Virtual hug your way. ❤❤❤

Mel, keep ramblin', keep sharing, you are helping others!! Your house is beautiful, and you are making a home for you and your kiddos!! You are amazing!! Love you bunches!! ~C

So many people go through this, it's great to have these honest conversations about what it is like in real life

Mel you are so worth it .......your absolute authenticity was extremely raw to watch,I have been where you are. I wish you joy and an abundance of growing self worth by valuing YOU x love from Bunbury western Australia x

Sending hugs!! New beginnings are hard at any age! I have faith in you! I love your energy! Your new place is really nice and bright.

You're courageous, inspirational and so honest. It's very hard to be that honest on a very public forum. Don't underestimate how much positive impact you have via your youtube videos. I'm rooting for you. Sending love from London, England X

Lovely home! I hope you make some amazing memories there! The natural lighting is soooo nice! Thanks for the candor. I'm sure a lot of us can relate on some level or another. Also, you look amazing for 47, I hope to look as good as you when Im that age!

Oh Mel I so adore you❤ you give me and so many others so much motivation. Girly you are so real and so raw. Thank you for being you💗

Wishing you all the best, you can do it, my prayers will include you from now on. You go girl!

Hang in there Mel - you got this! I divorced about 2 years ago, my first time on my own, after being with my husband for 18 years. I'm 35 now, starting over, and I'm still struggling to figure things out. We can do it, we are worth it

Your new place is lovely. Your cat is OMG GORGEOUS and clearly adores you. YOU ARE WORTH IT all, Mel. New start, fresh beginning. I am so glad you have the kitchen goods. My Sis and I (lovingly) fought over a paring knife my aunt had bought in the 50s. She won and she framed it! That knife is a legend and has so many good memories. I got my mom's tongs. Funny how these simple tools mean so much. So, let us know what the first big meal you make will be. Congrats!

Your honesty is strength and not many people have the courage that you do of sharing. I have faith in you Mel you will achieve what you want just keep on track you know what to do.

One of the most honest videos I have ever seen. Thank you for being so honest. You are not alone. Big hugs.

stay strong, we all appreciate you ❤❤

YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOU ARE SO WORTH IT! Trials and tribulations, warps and wefts, crests and troughs. YOU GOT THIS, YOU CAN DO THIS. YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS.