@Just Michelle This why she should cut her coochie privileges off and stop popping out babies for him. I don't know how they're this stressed out and still bringing babies into the world. Not to mention the postpartum depression that comes with giving birth and then having to deal with the death of a child on top of that🤦🏾♀️ they gotta slow down
Are we going to ignore the fact that she literally looks snatched after 14 kids? I mean the triplets were the most recent additions and look how she bounced back.
Yass! I couldn’t believe she was the one on the thumbnail! I just had my first baby two months go, I look like I gave birth to quintuplets 😩😂! I need her secret!!
The fact the father wouldn't hold his daughter so mom could fold clothes is awful! He made a big deal about nothing. She is trying to take care of your kids and keep your house clean. Help her!!!!
She said the baby needed a breathing treatment which is why she wanted him to put the okay baby down and help with the one who needs extra being that you're here. Let her kill two birds with one stone. She seen a way to take advantage of having the extra hands.
@Anita M He even admitted to wanting to help with her less because he's afraid to be attached to her and something happens. *they've lost a son before* so he didn't just not help mom because he was holding another child. He didn't help because he's afraid of bonding with her.
I say let him hold the baby...Just let LOVE flow naturally as long as its there... My children's father just left...Ok. Everyone is dealing with a lot...Be patient and PRAY ❤🙏
@lovemumiyah He does not feel comfortable or trained enough to administer the care their daughter needs. He says this himself. His stressing wife, plus 14 kids is why he's shutting down. 14 is too many for any human being. Then the post partum they are both experiencing is a hard one. They need some time apart, counseling and to reevaluate. Maybe some time away from the cameras to heal in private. Not everything needs to be televised.
Your oldest daughter has her own life it's not her job to watch over someone's kids or help raise someone's kids all the time shes a young girl and she must have fun don't take her childhood away
@@TamaraGarrettAlpha my niece (who's my age, same year and month, 1week apart) she's the first of 4 kids and now that we are both adults (23) she's decided against having kids because she's had enough of it at her young age.. and she's still her siblings' parent to this day, she's like their father and I feel bad for her. Her situation had affected her so negatively, it's insane.
@@aplusdiva7006 umm ARE YOU?! You clearly don't understand human emotions. He is hurt too not just her. They both lost a child together so they have to work through it.
@@pink1237480 it nice to know you understand that... Rejecting your spouse and your child is not acceptable all in the name of loosing a child. Counseling, group therapy and understanding is needed. I know for a fact you didn't watch the entire video because your conversation would be different. For future reference please educate yourself so we can have a proper discussion. Goodnight 😁
That is so true you know the mama should be able to cry on somebody's shoulder too not just the daddy I know they going through a hard time and all but this is the time when they need to be coming together like the grandma was saying
Man. Because families have a way of thinking the oldest is the third parent or the kid help and it is not fair. She is NOT required to get all them kids ready or to help them not be overwhelmed. THEY had all them kids. Not her.
They need to quit having children...too many babies, all that noise, crying, health issues and up all night. I'm sure there are some colicky babies in the bunch...just up all night. There needs to be a cut off point.
Hate how he’s trying to flip this YOUR A FATHER if she got pregnant and held all 14 of your kids the least you could do is hold the baby he act like he gotta change diapers and feed at the same time
Plus he is acting like it all about his grief she has grief too and I know she has more of it she carried that child bonded with that child now he is passed on man he need to grow some balls sometimes I can’t stand men they act like babies and it’s all about them and women are supposed to just suck it up.
more . You both need help for all your children and help for yourselves. If you don't get help, everyone will greatly suffer. Remember, mom and dad, you made these babies. This has gone too far for all concerned. Please get help for your entire family (mom, dad and other child/children). PLEASE!
"Let the children be children. " a child should not take on the responsibilities of taking on the role as a parent. Yes its ok to assist with her siblings but not play the role of a parent. They should get an assistant.
it could be postpartum like with any other mammal it is probably because dawson is sick , and she doesn’t want to take care of the sick baby because it is so much work she had 3 babies at once it’s a lot , she probably just needs a little help
He’s not a bad father he’s just not listening. He shouldn’t automatically be in the defensive side when someone is addressing something. Room for improvement doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent everyone can always do better at everything. But he’s not very good at receiving feedback and actually listening to others concerns just his ego 🙄
This is literally how my parents were in the beginning. I’m the youngest of seven and by the age of 11 my dad was out of my life and I was only having phone calls on my birthday with him.
He is tired coming back from work, home no rest has to help looking after the kids, they can't even go on holiday, they lack wisdom, even if you want a big family, this is crazy.
@@aideenawickstrom935 your flipping weird bothering to comment that on a two week old comment clearly lots of people agree with . Who are you ? Can’t you make your own post ? Annoying little troll .
She lost one of her babies. It could be grief. In the beginning of the video, as soon as it begins, she also literally says “I am not sleeping at all. The house is chaos.”
Wow, they definitely did not need the last triplets. She had the same reaction he had when they get get called out on parental short comings. Dad bond with the baby. Mom & Dad your oldest don't have kids, she deserves an adolescence. Periodt. Also since money ain't a thing, hire a damn au pair.
Yes she definitely needs a nanny , that alone would reduce her stress levels! Trying to do it alone will literally drive her insane ! Ain’t not a thing wrong with getting help when you are overwhelmed
@@thomasenagadson-influencer9583 she needs multiple nannies. No sane responsible nanny will take on 14 kids, including 3 infants, that's a kindergarden class.
@@oldaccount315 I wouldn’t speak on the matter if I don’t have personal experiences. I come from a large family. Could you take care of 14 kids and give them all your time and dedication?
My parents had 3 kids and i was the forgotten one so i can speak from experience there is no way you can 14 kids and one of not feel like a black sheep and not cared for like the others
@@oldaccount315 I 100 percent agree. I’m naturally really great with kids. Sometimes I think they associate me with a clown. But as of now in my life. I don’t think I want kids. At least of my own. I might just donate some eggs and call it there Eight kids seem like large amount. But it seems doable. 14 kids is a whole different story. It seems like they have done it successfully. But they are lacking emotional communication.
I think it’s horribly sad that when 2 adults make the decision of having multiple children, the oldest child has to be penalized for the actions of their parents by raising children & helping taking care of them instead of living a fulfilling childhood. They’re inducing a “trauma” on her that she’ll have to deal with in her later years.
So they lost a child and another has special needs. The way he was talking sounded like it was her fault for having sick babies. Man be blessed that you had so many with out issues. She's asking for more why get mad. You need to check your manhood.
Well he obviously didn't think it was enough of her fault to stop having kids smh I'm guessing it's intentional cause that's too many kids to not take precautions even with having multiples
Why the HELLLLL would they have 14 kids and they never see eachother. They fighting over who needs help. Its like they dont even understand eachother. Whats the point of having such a big family if its gonna be like this
They have enough money and time like before they had no kids they made sure and also one of there babies died so that’s why the dad dosent wanna get to attach to the child a grief again.
I need him to listen to her. She’s crying out for help. We not talking about the 13 other kids, the focus is on one child right now. Couples, please listen to each other. Don’t be defensive! Like dang
@Anita M So what he was holding another baby that baby was fine he could have put that baby down and help his wife instead of TALKING SMART TO HER. The BIGGER PICTURE is about her WANTING TO FEEL SUPPORTED BY HER HUSBAND and him bonding with their daughter. It's not about folding clothes. She takes care of her 90 plus percent of the time. When she ask for relief. Man the f- up for that ONE MOMENT. It won't kill him.
Her babies are beautiful. Pray for parents like this. Instead of y’all adding negative comments about their communication. Most of y’all don’t even know how to take care of yourselves.
Erm.. don’t think these people will find it easy to bring up 14 children either! Why would you have 14 children? Sorry, I’m sure they’re all very nice but why??
I'm impressed with Karen. She seems very caring and wants to communicate with her husband compassionately. I like him too. He's overwhelmed as anyone can imagine! I think they are going through a very challenging time, but will come through just fine.
He gives off narcissistic vibes. She’s expressing how she feels, and how she needs more help with their sweet baby Dawson, and he’s literally counteracting what she’s saying by putting her feelings aside and inserting his. It’s all about him it seems... and she is trying to parent 3 new babies one that needs more care.. and he isn’t willing to help it seems as much. Maybe I’m wrong.. but that’s what I’m seeing. I’m not a fan of him.😒
There is something much deeper here. When the need to have this many kids to fill a void means that something is wrong. He seems selfish & she's overwhelmed. Tubes tied. Sorry. But it's not fair to the kids.
Theirs not enough love to spread between 13 kids and it just get more and more difficult as they get older...the stress levels ...in this situation sesh ...please let's pray for them 🙏
Right??? Kids be wild. The guilt from covid for parents of only children rn tho. I feel bad for having 1 alone through this but I couldn't handle any more.
That’s sad. I understand losing a child is extremely hard. You can help and love the child who is alive right now. Not the child who has passed. He’s not the only parent who lost the child. She did too. Idk. Trying not to be so judgmental on such a sensitive subject, but I’d hate for him to look back on the babies life and wish he did more.
So If his baby girl grows up healthy and one day she stumbles upon this video where her father refuses to be with her.. how is she gonna cope up with it. I mean I would be so sad if my dad just refused to spend time with me
He’s trying to distance and be defensive when she’s approaching him 100% correct. They are both hurting. He’s not listening because he’s making comments on absolutely nothing she’s saying - she’s not THINKING nothing, she’s going off her observations and wife is spot on. He’s saying “she had a problem” yuck !!!!!
Men always get to say, I don't want to deal with that. Women don't have that option. Hold the baby!!!! Bond with her! Dawson never ask to have special needs.
You don't feel comfortable holding your baby ?????.... He's being selfish in this moment because he's pretending like he's not understanding what she's saying
Why would she have one child with that dictator much less 14. It's run more like a military camp. The kids just like that ones from Alabama show, their not getting enough one on one attention and it shows in their behavior, especially when they all get sick at once and crying just wanting to be held and loved, then the oldest kids are expected to help raise the younger children, like the 19 and counting kids had too..... The children are the ones suffering. Hate to see how these children on these multiple shows turn out, good example look at the kids from the Kate plus 8 show, their divorced, one kid put in a special home because Mom could handle his behavior, now he's living with the Dad and his girlfriend, and another daughter living with the Dad now, the rest living with the mom, the oldest 2 act like there the parent. The Mom is always trying to get a gig on tv.... Poor kids are the ones who end up paying for all of it...
Your response is not only long winded but just plain bizarre why feel bad for multi children that have TWO PARENTS in a clean, stable home? Lol where do you see dictator in this man? He’s emotionally needing her to understand his feelings and vice versa he even acknowledges that at the end of the video.
@@nikkibankhead6759 just because they technically have both parents doesn't mean they are getting the actual benefit of both parents raising them. They have to focus on the youngest set of kids each go around and the older ones get neglected. There are too many kids and too many chores for there to be any time individually with each kid. Kids need that bond and attention. And it's horrible to keep having kids and the older kids end up being psuedo parents instead of having a childhood themselves. My mom had 4 sisters and even with that she didn't get time to bond with her parents since they were always worried about earning enough for all the kids and all the chores that come with it... 14 is fucking insane
@@nikkibankhead6759 I come from a family of 6 kids and two parents. I honestly can say that the more children in a home the less care and attention you get from the parents. I have twin brothers who are 11 months older then me, another set of twin brothers who are 10 years younger then me, and one more brother who is 12 years younger then me. As the only girl a lot of the parenting fell on my shoulders because both parents had to work to support us and as a girl everyone assumed I was the built in babysitter. There is no part of my childhood after the age of ten where I wasn’t caring for or helping care for my family in some way or another. Not that my parents were bad parents in any way, I never doubted for a minute I was loved, my parents were just super busy. My Father died suddenly when I was 13, and it just got harder for us from there. I would never choose to have more then 2 kids, because I feel like as soon as the kids start to out number the adults the level of closeness (and one on one time) from the adults to children lessen. I am far closer with my brothers then I could ever be to my mom, and I honestly think that comes from not getting a ton of individual time with her. I love her a lot, but she just isn’t my best friend like lots of my girlfriends are with their mothers. I will admit I am super jealous of my friends and their mothers, that might be part of the reason I would not have a lot of kids; I want to be my future daughter’s best friend and confidante.
Yeah but so is Mama, but she has to step up and do what is necessary, he should also step up and take care of the sick child. We keep acting like men can just not be there because of "issues" but the women must be there because the children need someone.
@@femdivinemind7777 That does not negate the fact that he is still a father & still has to take responsibility for his children. His grief is understandable, but choosing to deal with it by ignoring your children and not taking care of them is toxic. He has the right to his feelings & be afraid of losing another child, but he does not get to just ignore the child
@@YeSung24081984SuJu He's not ignoring the child...that is clearly not what he is doing. He is avoiding establishijg a bond. Fear and unresolved greif when losong a child is an incredible pain. Compassion is needed here not people talking shit about a man who is very clearly an excellen father and husband. He can't risk breaking down because he carries the entire family. That IS him taking care of his responsibilities.
The grandmother is right being the oldest of such a large family can be such a stressful job. My older sister helped my parents to raise me & my sister's brothers, I always felt like she sacrificed her childhood for ours, especially in a black household where the first child is automatically expected to help.
Covid19 taught me 1 child is enough, during the 1st wave I saw how some of my neighbors struggled with homeschooling, working from home, running out of food because at some point shelves would be empty at stores, couple fights were crazy, so no breeding especially with climate change too.
I am a mother of 4 grown adults now. I could NEVER see myself having 14 children with different personalities. This is crazy all by itself. Why would she do this to her body and to her mental state.
I just need to point out how beautiful this family is and how sweet those babies looked during the tense conversations their parents were having. 😍 Also, Dad needs to grow up and it's refreshing to see Granny check her son and advocate for her daughter-in-law and grandbabies!
I love that they all are open and vulnerable with thier feelings, and acknowledge when they've done something wrong and where they could improve. That's a sign that even though things are tough they have to tools to work through it.
For those saying she can't possibly give attention to all 14 or can't possibly spread love to all her children... I hope you keep that SAME energy when looking at the Duggar Family. 😒😒😒
He seems to be a proud dad as in look at all my babies, however he is wanting to only do the easy stuff. Sad to say. Being a mom of 5 I could not imagine her stress level. Loss of Carter so ruff, but he needs to open up to her about his issues also.
Just remember a parents choice to continue to add to the family shouldn’t fall on the existing children responsibly. There’s a difference in helping out and raising siblings. I raised mine and it cause resentment between us all. My sister and I aren’t close at all but my brother sees me as his second mom. I wasn’t able to be a teenager so I missed out on a lot.
She loss a baby and the rich emotions behind a loss is huge. I love this family and they are still grieving than one of the new triplets has heart issues. This is a very loving and supportive family and I admire their relationship and love. 💜🌹💜 Watch the entire series before judging this great loving family.
I see in the comments that he's been battling some personal things but giving the baby their medicine whilst the mother folds isn't a massive ask, if he doesn't feel like he can give the baby the medicine then he could just hold her as the babys farther. I'm sure the mums just as afraid and overwhelmed as he is.
I love this family. What strength they have in each other. They are doing a wonderful job raising all their kids. Amazing. I'm so glad I came upon this program. I'm enjoying watching every episode.
It's totally not fair to the oldest child to have to assist in caring for 13 kids!! The adults made the choice to have all those kids, why is the oldest child paying for it
I’m on my third baby and I feel like I’m going crazy. I’m done with kids when this baby born. I can’t imagine having a village worth of kids like that! Jesus. It would destroy any parents. Yikes.
I wish that she will stop defending him for not helping her with treatment. He just doesn't want to do it , burden he carry he forgot about how wife carry too . Sad about a little girl she need her own life
Just like grandma said it's all about communication and this is clearly a really difficult situation. I applaud the willingness to work through it without completely loosing it cuz Lord knows anyone else would have
