Oga, take it easy with this woman. She has been there for your family, you too, pay the bills for 1yr then come back to the negotiation table. You cannot force her. This tone will get things worse. This marriage is already on a bad lane now and do not allow this to continue Oga.
You just have to beg and pet her. Show her love and you are in a tight situation. And she will come along with time if you still need her support. You as a man is frustrated and she too
It's not one year, it's four years, she have been paying all the bills over all, so now if she said the husband must take over, she us not saying anything wrong, he must take over it's his duty
You guys forgot that the man is saying that the business is still growing but willing to take 70 or 80 percent of the bill at least. 100 percent will crumble his business to square one.
Oga, humble yourself , love your wife and cherish her . She has done it before and can still do it again. You can not force her . I support you madam .
The husband you married unconditionally for better for worse in the alter, this is how you judge it. For Christ sake both of them are one? The wife tried yes but, leaving him to shoulder the whole thing knowing that he's business is still picking up sends slot of men to early grave.
I believe the man's family is the problem. The man is making the woman to take of his family. She is thinking the in-laws are taking her for granted.@@samchuks
All the whole families are all ganging up against her,this people are thieves in disguise. Sister don’t you ever pay a dime, this man is shameless. How can people be this shameless, his sense of entitlement is out of this world.
Are you alright ,supporting the woman not to support in the running of her family. When the husband will divorce her I don't think you will be there for her, you enemy of progress
We all agree that they should be grateful and they recognized her support efforts for the family. Do not forget that this man was the one who financed this woman’s business in the first place !!!!!! I bet that she would not have done anything if the funds for her business came from her side !!!! This man shall drop this case and reduce drastically the home expenses. The kids don’t need to go to private schools.
This man is shameless ooo. Change yourself to woman then and let her be your husband. If you are the man here, why do you want to relegate your duties to a woman, your shame dey shame me ooo
Mr man, have some respect for yourself now. She can only volunteer to assist you where she can, not you sharing responsibility with her, and you are saying you are the man of the house. She has been handling this all alone for 4 years, now just for one year, you are crying. Please be appreciative of your wife. Allow her to assist you in her own way.
The pressure is always on men to provide but when he can't fulfill his obligations due to circumstances beyond his control, the wife owe it a duty to support him unconditionally wherever she can. Whatever they own, they own it together, if the husband is not doing well in business, the wife should step in if she is capable and vise versa.The children should be their focus for collective success and not who owns what. Both should support each other unconditionally without timeframe attached to it.
Please this woman is a wife material Mr man if you don't lost what you have you will not know the value Oga it is your responsibility to take care of your family only one year you are complaining of your business going down.what of her business for 4years.mr man you said this house belongs to you and you are the head what is why you will take your responsibility as the head
@@CelinaNkeoma So if you're in her shoes, you would like wake up every day seeing your husband suffer and struggle to shoulder bills while you watch just because he's the head of the family? Both of them are one and not separate, they own their business together for their children. Who is the wife saving her money for?
I think she is saving her money for the raining day but their are better ways to resolve and discuss this matter between themselves and not bring it to the public.
Madam, you are very right. It is the responsibility of your husband to take care of the family. You can support your husband if you wish. Your husband is arrogant
And ungrateful too, with his entire family. See all of them, not even one is an exception. I'm sure that's why she brought them there one by one. She has done so much jaree
madam please you took full responsibilities and your business did not collapse,, since your business is still booming, you cannot just fold your arms, please support him, it will not kill you, that is understanding, the load becomes lighter if both of you work together
Paul you said you are the head of the house then you take care of your responsibility She's bringing your family as a proof Head of the family who cannot take care of his family
Madam, don’t bring out a dime anymore. Oga, you will also share the house-hold cooking , washing and kids needs . Yeh yeh husband . Since you are the head, carry on all the responsibilities. A greedy husband.
The pressure is always on men to provide but when he can't fulfill his obligations due to circumstances beyond his control, the wife owe it a duty to support him unconditionally wherever she can. Whatever they own, they own it together, if the husband is not doing well in business, the wife should step in if she is capable and vise versa.The children should be their focus for collective success and not who owns what. Both should support each other unconditionally without timeframe attached to it.
Is so shameful that this man is doing this to the wife . It is obvious that this woman is married to them for what they will suck out of her . This woman tried for this man and his family . Oga, stop depending on your wife .
Honestly you have to be grateful to this woman. At lest try and start paying nd see how it goes. She’s a nice person. I’m sure she won’t just sit there and watch your business go down again. She has tried for your family. Imagine all your siblings burden she took it upon her self to make sure they never lacked anything that your sister was very rude to her just because she has graduated. Haba think about it
With the tone of this mr paul, the wife will never accept the spliting of bills. You can force your wife to shoulder ur family bills as a man. Oga carry your cross mbok. Nnewi Anambra state.
Everywhere worldwide, spouses supported each other. Women are helping meet their husband. Those days, the husband took care of everything but ended up early death because of too many responsibilities. Please, wife, assist your husband.
The pressure is always on men to provide but when he can't fulfill his obligations due to circumstances beyond his control, the wife owe it a duty to support him unconditionally wherever she can. Whatever they own, they own it together, if the husband is not doing well in business, the wife should step in if she is capable and vise versa.The children should be their focus for collective success and not who owns what. Both should support each other unconditionally without timeframe attached to it.
If the husband is incapacitated God forbid, wouldn’t she assume the responsibility for her children? Women are not wired to run bills only very few can do that. The dynamics of home management are fast changing now with the economic downturn. The husband can find adjustments in the spending look for more affordable housing and school for the children if the wife insists not supporting
Sweet woman the foundation you layed is the major difference now, Because first love did not allowed you to think well, so what ever he has done to make you angry please for give him for the sake of your children, remember that you have children in the house so take it easy and let God gives you Peace of mind
This requires tact! Someone who has done it all in the past will hold you when she sees you’re falling. At this point I am the man doesn’t come in. If a woman is doing the household chores plus doling out the money, they may be silent but crying within. He should just have continued, this is a good woman; she will help at some point, those things are in built.
I am so sorry for this woman. No one is even on her side. They are all on their brother’s side and non of them wants to understand her perspective. MC, it was good that she brought them here. You can see that they are all turning everything against her. You are telling them their brother brought the matter to you, but they are blaming her for bringing the matter to you. Hmm! The man should humble himself and talk to his wife and respect her.
Madame, just bring only your 30%, then don't give his family 10 kobold again. That is how some in-laws are. As long as you are giving them money, you are a good person. Now you have become a bad person even to that girl. Some in-laws are very ungrateful.
MC reality thank you for your good job. With this the family is judging away from the truth inside of them to call their brother and tell him the truth this woman has tried so far.
MC, bring in an ekonomist to discuss this family households Economy. How much does the man make monthly/yearly? How much is the woman earning? How much is the expenditure. Is there away to cut down cost? How much are they saving? Etc
@julieryatim7802 economists analyses topics relayed to the production, distribution and consumption of goods and services. They also cost an arm and a leg. I'm just wondering if economist in nigeria is free because this so called husband is not going to pay for it, so who is going to pay for economist to come on youtube for marital issue. I think maybe they need to talk to an accountant
@mortalwombat78 They can also talk about household economy. I see it on TV in the country where I live. They have helped many families who are having difficulty in keeping it together. Help them understand that certain expenditures are not necessary when one is looking at the broader picture of family economy. They take it step by step.
I would like to know why when a man marries he has to support his extended family. Can't they work and support themselves. Why does a wife have to support her husband's family? That is gross madness. A family is made up of man, woman and children. Yes there is the extended family but his wife and children should come first.
Why is the man enforcing it, he's not ashamed at all. Well I blame the woman that started helping from the beginning. The husband and his family will never appreciate her. Shameless man. Did she send her to school.
If the wife has willingly been shouldering 100% of both nuclear & extended family financial burden, the husband did not need to introduce a strange funding formular at this stage. He should in return reciprocate by allowing the woman to decide how to support. A loving woman can still prudently manage 70% provided by her husband to achieve same result as though 100% was handed to her. The husband should change his approach and apologize to his wife. In marriage, teamwork is what makes the dream works. God forbid, assuming anything goes wrong with one, the other will still single handedly carry all the burden 100%.
Mc, this woman is not stupid. She knows that her husband can confidently handle the bills. She will support if necessary. This woman dressing doesn’t even reflect the amount of money we are being told she makes. Madam pls don’t let them frustrate you. Pamper yourself. Proverb 31 describes you as a “VIRTUOUS WOMAN “. Oga, forget about your wife’s money, take her out, surprise her with simple things, show her that you love her only and not because of money.
Reality just look at the way the family is blaming the woman that she brings the family out they forgot that is the husband that brought the matter out and the lazy uncle is saying if she is the first person to take care of the husband family
THE MAN IS SPOILED, HE NEEDS TO PAY EVERYTHING, IF HE CAN'T COPE HE NEEDS TO ASK HIS WIFE TO ASSIST. THAT'S WHAT MARRAIGE IS ALL ABOUT,SHE'S YOUR HELPMATE. SHE WAS DOING EVERYTHING HERSELF SHE DIDN'T SAY 70 /30,KNOW THAT THE MAN HAS MONEY HE WANTS 70/30,OR SHE CLOSE HER BUSINESS, WHY. HE NEEDS TO PUT HIS PRIDE IN HIS POCKET AND SETTLE THIS ISSUES AMICABLY.
This is deception... He lured the man into the marriage and trying to rope him into the responsibility without remembering the past... All the man asking is support until his business bounces back.. it's not too much
THIS WOMAN TOOKED ON HER HUSBAND ROLE FOR FOUR YEARS. PAYING ALL THE BILLS AND TAKING CARE OF HIS FAMILY. NOW IT IS NOT ENOUGH. NOW HE'S DEMANDING MORE . REALITY, THIS MAN IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF HER. MADAM ,THIS MAN IS TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED. HOW MANY WOMEN OUT THERE WOULD PAY BILLS, AND SUPPORT HIS FAMILY FOR FOUR YEARS. REALITY, PLS IS NOT FAIR FOR HER. WHY Y'ALL COMING DOWN SO HARD ON HER ? IS IT BECAUSE SHE'S A WOMAN. MADAM, DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST FOR YOU. AND DONT ALLOW YOUR HUSBAND, ARE HIS FAMILY TO PUSH YOU INTO A CORNER. WHAT NONSENSE.
MC reality things like this you don't need to start begging the woman caution the man you caution the man tell him what is right and what is wrong before you not proceed to settle issue.
This month from the look of things body language and all when he was not having he was so calm that is the peace of mind he said he was given he was so calm because there was no money. Now business has started taking off a little money is coming he became so arrogant and look at the way he's not feeling pompous behaving unnecessary in a wrong way to the wife.
Oga u re a wicked 🖤 man, pls appreciate this woman she has been. The one doing all sorts of things for past 4yrs if she say no pretend and say k.ur wife has really done alot for ur family u too do the same since she said she will not support with time I am sure she will change her mind.
Very entitled family. The husband’s sister is the most thoughtless. Now she’s a graduate and can shout at the person that payed her school fees, even though she’s in a relationship. Big girl for mouth.
No no no MC, she's not wrong bringing his family. She's confirming the facts that she stood for not only food, clothing, and shelter for 4 good years, BUT she went beyond the responsibility of being a good wife. Paying for how many years for someone's education where NO binding contract is in place stating that it's a loan until she gets employed 1 day. She didn't borrow monies to the uncle's wife for his operation. She fit the bill in its totality. You shouldn't be biased, MC. She was actually too good for these unappreciative family members of this man. It's coming across as if they had a serious meeting in her absence to drain her finances. Don't pay a dime Charity, this man has plans that's not good for your well-being. If your friends were that bad, why did they not influence you to NOT pay the bills for the past 4 years.
IMAGINE THIS MAN, AND HIS FAMILY. REALLY THIS IS VERY UPSETTING. PLEASE DONT PUSH HER BECAUSE YOU'RE A MAN. SHE'S A WOMAN WHO HAVE A VOICE . MADAM, DONT YOU HAVE A FAMILY ?AND WHERE ARE THEY? Y'ALL ARE PUSHING HER OVER THE EDGE. Y'ALL SHOULD BACK OFF HER. AND ALLOW HER TO BREATH . 😠
MC Shout up. Never side with this lady. ARE they not a family? Madam stop listening to other woman outside. If you want your marriage work with your husband
Oga shut your mouth! You are talking about authority but you can't take your responsibilities. The woman is tired na! She has been supporting the family for 4 years, let her breath for even a year and after that, you can go for that 70/30 percent.
Mc . This man hasn’t been paying bills for 4 years, it made him lazy He paid for a year , and hos complaining, she has been paying for 4 years, nobody heard about it When it comes to his own turn, his bringing her out
Settle this thing off camera for them I think she's angry because she was brought into the day social media... She is a good woman should be appreciated by recognizing her efforts in the house.. she will listen if you talk nicely to her I mean the husband...the man is ungrateful.
This man's family is ungrateful and shameful. Why is Uncle embarrassed? Didn't the husband bring her out? She has no fault in this, but she's a woman, and it's so sad the husband can't understand a marriage of 6 years. Uncle, you shouldn't be embarrassed; she assisted you and your family. Stand by her, she also needs assistance. The husband isn't a man; he's a weakling. Take full responsibility as the head of the household. He supported her business, she sponsored the marriage. One cut one, lol. The husband and his family seem to be worried about public perception because they know it's wrong. Help this lady, she's been through a lot, MC Reality. The husband isn't making a point!
Please withdraw this thing from social media. Your family is gradually being destroyed. Leave your wife alone for now. She can still help you later. Enough of this nonsense.
I'm not understanding why it's so hard for the husband or MC Reality to comprehend the main point. This woman took care of the whole family including members of his family for 4 years without any help from the husband. Now that it's his turn to pay bills he still wants her to contribute. Let him pay all the bills for 4 years alone and then after that they can share equal part of the household responsibilities. He really should be ashamed of himself. She has literally been the man in the marriage and did not complain but now he's complaining. Just shameful.....Do better Sir....
Stop exploiting this woman. She has done her best. Let the husband do it for 4 years and they share the bills. Why did he believe that the business will collapse. What happened if this woman had mishandle her business as you are afraid that the business will collapse.
This man got it all wrong... You don't force this on your wife, sharing responsibilities happens in love and not by force. When I see things like this, it shows, they both lack understanding of what marriage is because in marriage there is nothing like your money and my money, its our money. The wife just needed time to put her finances together again and it's wisdom for the husband to give her that space...
It is not the turn of the man the man should start sponsoring the woman's family MC reality let the mass sponsor the woman family for 2 years not even for 4 years let us see how it come the business will not collapse.
Oga just take it like your wife is a housewife and go out there and hustle for your family as an African. Stop hopeing on your wife that's why you are not moving forward in your business