I appreciate the support thus far. We are almost at 1k subs. 😱🖤✨🙏🏼 Time stamps: 00:00 I quit my 80k salary 01:11 How I had the courage 01:36 Hair loss 02:10 Trichotillomania 02:50 No appetite 04:11 Life is uncomfortable no matter what 04:28 What's next 06:28 Reminder that you are worthy 08:30 Not sharing for pitty 09:20 Why you shouldn't compare yourself to what you see on social media (Story time) 11:42 No self blame 12:29 Money does not buy happiness 13:39 Taking ownership 14:00 Money matters 15:25 What's next 15:54 Advice 17:07 Money matters 17:30 My dream in life 18:32 Take aways 21:21 Why I share this info. 22:44 Age 32 has been tough 22:55 Take ownership of highs and lows. 24:05 Thanks for the kind emails some of you have sent me.
Hi fellow HSP, just like you, last year in november, i also quit a job that was paying about 80k at corperate, i was so drained and burnt out and felt myself just living and dying with a comfortable paycheck. I wasnt happy at all as it felt soul sucking, i was on prescriptions too just to get by, it affected everything, now fast forward it's been about a good 6 months now and ive been living off my savings and learning more about myself, i didnt realize how much of myself was lost and i didnt know how to relax coming out, with the new time i had, i started to have the opportunity to work on myself, mental health, physical health, i was able to quit my prescriptions, these days im working a minimum wage job to make some cash, budget hard, i can say it's humbling but i am definitely a lot happier and I found a new profound motivation to hustle, bless, i hope the best on your journey
@ProgressWithChristina I transitioned into a new field that was about a 50% paycut. It's really humbling to be back here, I didn't know how much reliant I was on my previous salary, not just physically but mentally too, but the feeling of drained has gone away
I wanna give you the biggest hug and just have an open convo with you. Similar to you I realized I prefer to be around people and go into the office as I recently ventured into solopreneurship and felt maybe I was feeling depressed for the first time ever. I didn't like it. I didn't feel right at all. It was new to me, so I went back to my old job which I've always enjoyed and felt an immediate positive shift. Realizing what is and isn't for you is very important. Stay positive. I now have an certain empathy for those feeling depressed. All the best, appreciate every breathe and be thankful for the here and now 🙏🏼
It sounds like you were missing the social connection. I’m glad you were able to find it again. That has definitely played a part in my depression. For some time I felt socially deprived to the point where I felt really anxious and then panic. Thanks for sharing. 🙏🏼🖤✨
Through the years I could tell something was on your mind. I’ve been subscribed a little bit after your factor review. I remember talking with you when you planned to save money. I know we just talk in comments but I consider you a friend. You made the right decision. What I’ve learned since our talk is you have to have multiple streams coming in no matter how small and constantly grow them. Life is harder I think on us single people cause there is no other income. Keep your head up Christina 🙏🏾from Kentucky.
Yes I consider you a friend and appreciate your support throughout the years. You have supported me through all the different topics lol. I agree, it’s harder when there’s not someone to split bills with but we will figure it out. Thank you so much. 🙏🏼
Real shit. I randomly came across your video and I just want to say this is so refreshing. Not in a schadenfreude way, but in a reality check kinda of way. Everything on social media and in real life too it seems is so fake and staged, but this is real. This is a real human experience and your emotions are real. You did not bring me down nor do I pity you. I respect you for having the courage to be real in a disengenuous world.
Yes, I agree. Money is very important. Being financially independent = Better quality of life, freedom to pursue your passion full-time, and a overall sense of security.
Thank you for being real and sharing your story. I envy your bravery. My corporate job is ruining my mental health and I.m too scared to quit. I feel so alone because everyone is acting perfect all the time.
I never understood why people past 30 have simple jobs like a cashier etc and now that I’m in it I understand. I’m hopeful that I’ll have some mental space to figure out what’s next. The cut in income is definitely scary but so can a stroke from the stress or the anxiety getting worse.
@@ProgressWithChristina Exactly, I actually used to look down on them, but now I envy them. I.m also afraid that if I quit my job and choose a less paying job, that people I know are going to look down on me. Absolutely. I hope you do, best of luck to you.
@@asblil I used to look down on them in my early 20s, but now I get it. And part of me is afraid of that, but this year has been so hard I honestly don’t care anymore. This year has taken the “you never know what someone is going through” to a whole new level for me. I’ll share more about why in future videos.
I like your honesty and being sincere. I believe you have made the right decision in leaving your job. Money is important and you need it to live, but true happiness is not being wealthy and material things. A lot of people are posting on social media how wonderful there lives are but a lot are far from it. Do what makes you truly happy life is to short not being happy. Keep your spirits up you are a beautiful women who is smart with her whole life ahead of her! Big hugs and thank you for sharing your struggles and helping others. ❤
Sometimes life uses adversity to make us change directions, have faith that everything will workout. You are doing the right thing by prioritizing your well being. Have no fear, everything is going to be alright.
Not sure why this video was suggested for me but this struck a chord with me. Last year I quit my corporate job to pursue accounting in a small firm (always wanted to do it but for life reasons it didn't happen). The company I worked in before was toxic as hell and I'd finally had enough and decided to just take the plunge so I would never live with the regret of not making the switch or at least trying. I feel for you. Taking a big pay cut, going back to 'square one' and a job at the junior end of the scale and learning the ropes again and resetting is tough. One thing I tell myself is that, in 3 years time, I'll be qualified and the painful times will be over and in 10 years I'll look back and see this time period as a drop in the ocean and I'll be able to say I lived life on my own terms and did what I truly wanted. I think you made the right decision if you think it was the right thing by you. Stick at it and I'm sure you'll be brilliantly successful :)
@@ProgressWithChristina It's still ongoing for me but what you said was right. In these situations you sometimes have to just think "I'll figure it out"
Listen I've worked office jobs as a business major... I lost my last official office job 2 years ago during covid. 1/3 of the company was "laid off." The entire job was a fukin downer. I started a new job a few months ago way out of my wheel house, so to say. I work outdoors at construction sites as an inspector. I'm mostly outdoors. I drive to different places almost every day. I get paid 8 hours of work for 5-6 hours of work. I don't make as much as when I was in business, but my mental health is much much better. I have time for my other interests and hobbies/side business. You can't lie to yourself. Life is a journey so keep going and you'll find your place.
What makes the job so bad? I work at McDonald's $12 hour after 2 years working here. Now 8 months a year I'm allowed 38 hours a week, the other 4 months over winter "be lucky" I get 16 hours. I'm used to short staffed, stressed out hollering bosses, terrible customers ( one just told my coworker teen to go kill herself because she gave him the wrong coffee), and overall knowing that I will never be told good job but rather 'do more'. I'm taking orders for both lanes while frying hash browns and wiping down everything before cleaning floors all at once multitasking pro but sure boss I'll stop being lazy and do more lol. I learned 6 years to grow thick skin. I'm about to be 35 years old and mom of 3 teenagers. At this point I'm thinking about next 20 plus years, how could I get more from life. Maybe learn to drive, maybe continue education, I don't know yet. I never had vision about my future other than being mom. By the way I'm bing watching your videos - well done and good luck with your future!
Thank you so much for sharing this. It gives me a perspective of what others go through. For myself, the amount of work is not sustainable to complete and it’s very high stress. Similar as yourself, never good enough and in fact told do more. You sound very aware so it would be worth exploring what other things may interest you. I applaud mothers. I hope you are able to do some self discovery. 🖤✨
Let me add to this: This is why it’s so important to be kind to service workers. We don’t realize that you don’t hear it enough. Kindness is so important and I will talk about this more in future videos. I’m glad you are watching my videos and I appreciate the support. I hope they resonate in a way that helps you.
I hope you enjoy your journey from here on! Keep your head up, speaking your honest truth is the first step and be encouraged that you chose your well being! I wish that I could take you out, 33 same feeling. Watching my ex through social media as she gets a new bf, new car Mercedes... Goes on a cruise to place that I've always wanted to go. Icing on top I told my manager at new job that after probation period I will be going for my masters degree. (Ivy league school/ healthcare system) well that job ended shortly after lol. Sooo lesson learned do not trust your employer or watch ex social media. Anyways not sure why I just vented this but it's not good to hold stuff in either. Hope you enjoy whats next and you may even make way more than 80k! You got this :) subbed too
Yes never trust your employer. The only person you can bet on is yourself. And glad you got to vent. It’s not good to hold stuff in. That’s also why I share it on here and so it helps someone along the way. Thanks for sharing and thanks for the sub. 🙏🏼🖤✨
I’m going through what you are right now. It’s hard. I can’t be honest with anyone because I’m afraid of being judged, but they know what I’m going through. It’s hard for me to reach out even if they tell me to. I hate myself and what I’ve become 😢
Noooo. Hate yourself. 😢 whatever you feel you’ve become, you don’t have to stay there. Focus on who you want to be and start living through that now. Self compassion. 🖤✨🙏🏼
@@ProgressWithChristina thanks Christina. I guess being aware is the most important thing. I just wish I was better than this, as a human being. But I will practice self compassion. I appreciate your advice 🙏🏼. Stay strong on your end as well. You’re a very strong person.
@Mixam-256 We will always want to be better remember that. Even at our best we focus on being better. So I would suggest starting there - live through the future you now. Small changes. I appreciate it. I sure don’t feel strong lol. Thanks for the support. One day at a time. 🖤✨🙏🏼
@@Frank_Diaz. I would think there were opportunities. Especially with claims. The job I put my two weeks in for is for workers compensation claims. Like herding cats lol.
I’m 33 going on 34 tomorrow. It has been hella tough just getting out of bed most days. Wage slavery mixed with everyone else seeming happy makes things seem more pointless. I’m also on Vyvanse and have an opiate addiction…. That looks like a train wreck now that I wrote it down 😢
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Sending you a hug. 🫂 And yes it makes you feel worse when others seem to be doing so well. It makes me happy for them but makes me feel more behind in life. 😭 I hope writing it down at least helped you vent some.
Christina, have you been tested for ADHD? I just watched another video fo yours and commented. It really does sound like a lot of what you describe going through is congruent with being ADHD.
I have taken multiple tests and apparently I do have it. Like I said in the other comment, I hated feeling like a zombie on adderall and the come down when I didn’t take it was horrible.
@@ProgressWithChristina Here's a short video, less than 4 minutes, of ways to help with ADHD without medicine. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-cvxULrV5qT4.html
@@ProgressWithChristina And one more video, less than 5 minutes long. Top 5 tips of dealing with ADHD. I'm really pulling for you! I know how much this condition can get to us. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Rg4K8NxvSpY.html
@@ProgressWithChristina I don't think RU-vid will let me post videos on your comment section. But there's a 4 minute video here from the channel Psych Hub called "Top 5 Tips for Living with ADHD". It's worth a watch, just to help get some structure.
@@ProgressWithChristina And one more suggestion from the same Psych Hub channel. It's called How to Treat ADHD (Without Medication). I really hope this helps somehow. I'm pulling for you!
One thing, if you havn't done it already, is deliberately cutting costs and investing the money in order to be financially free. You're still young, you can check out of the rat race if you plan out your financial trajectory. I know its tough right now, but what's tougher is working a long time, even past retirement age.
I'm a truck driver and have been working 6 days these passed couple months just to keep up, what kills me is that I am away from my wife and baby of 6 months for some paper that gets printed endlessly. The dollar is a s**t design. The time we lose from our loved ones an exchange for dollars. Feels like the government uses my family as hostage to keep me working
I would certainly reduce the quality of my lifestyle to save my own sanity. If that means giving up 80k a year then so be it. You've plenty of time ahead of you and the Hairdressing option could be a real good rest and evaluation period. Obviously I wish you the best.
@@ProgressWithChristina It will work out because it has to work out. You will look back and admire yourself for being so strong and decisive years from now I'm sure of it.
I only make $22.50 per hour at my job, but I work in a office in a warehouse. I don't have to deal with customers. I don't have to be on the phone all day with people. I don't have a pressure to meet sales quotas. I don't have an A$$hole boss, or bully owner of a small business to deal with. I unload trucks with a fork lift for about 50% of my shift. About 25% of my shift I bring things into inventory, and put them away in the warehouse. The other 25% is actual computer and office work. I lift heavy things and that also keeps me physically fit compared to being sedimentary in a office environment all shift long. I work some over time when I want to. I don't earn as much as most people I know my age at 42, BUT I am comfortable, and my job is LOW STRESS for me. We also get 2 breaks and two hoops for basketball and a pool table in our break area so for at least 20 minutes every shift I work I am shooting hoops with co workers or playing pool. I have to work my DJ business in addition to my full time job, but my stress level is the lowest it has been since I was like 24 years old, and I'm enjoying life to the fullest while still working a lot. I believe you are making the right decision for yourself, and you will be in a better place 2 years down the road mentally by a long shot, and living a much more enjoyable life! Hang in there!
Thanks for sharing. And I have worked at a warehouse before and enjoyed moving vs having a sedentary job. I’m glad you’ve been able to find a balance and have creative space to pursue your DJ career. Maybe I made the wrong decision, maybe not but I will figure it out. I appreciate the support. 🙏🏼🖤✨
Cristina you are worthy and you are loved I know what you are going through I have paranoid personality disorder and I have to schizophrenia it is very hard for me to trust people I love I am trying my best to trust again don't cry please it is okay to cry it helps I have come from a lower income to I am 40 year's old I tried to commit suicide I God has saved my life I never used to be religious I am now we love you Cristina you are very gorgeous keep up the good work and stat optimistic my goal is to get a house with a pool we love you Cristina God bless your family give your mother a hug for me ❤️✝️🌹🌺🌹😻
Most woman i know looked for a spouse who had a great job. So they dont have to work and can raise children or maybe work parttime and do what they like. Not that they realy like the guy, but the lifestyle they provide, but thats for another day. You are good looking woman.
How f'd up is the US if people need Adderall to survive? I'd rather live in my car than do that or leave the country. Life is more precious than sticking to a certain place on earth.
The defining characteristic of life in North America is how much of it revolves around money. You need a constant and significant stream of money just to have some semblance of dignified existence (~4k at a minimum in big cities). I'm originally from Eastern Europe where almost everyone has a 1-3 bedroom apartment they own and the basic necessities (food, electricity, internet) are very cheap. You can practically survive without working for years, which some lazy unambitious people do. This would not work in the US, most Americans will be homeless in a matter of months if they stop working. This creates constant anxiety for which there is no solution other than to get filthy rich... or drink Adderall.
@cadcad-jm3pf Correct. At least 4k to have an ok quality of life. Really to just survive. It’s interesting to see the viewpoints that people from other countries have about the U.S.
Your treasure is definitely in Heaven, achievement of righteousness is worth more than gold. God bless you Chris may you find the peace you deserve. I lack a partner because of my values and ethics aren't easy to find. So is a good woman. Your mother would be so proud of you. I too live truthfully. Hold fast do your best to be you. Greatness comes through the effort not mentioned by suffering. Remember that God loves you and your family was blessed to have a strong loving daughter as yourself. Hurray.❤❤
Money doesn't buy happiness depending on your society, as far as i know americans spend and can be superficial, if you're a man most of us need money to get a girl, so in short money just gives you freedom and more opportunities, after all we're humans shallow creatures that have no sense of time and are unaware of our own faults
It sure does not buy happiness but it takes the financial stressor of life away. It helps provide a better quality of life in many ways. Money is very important. I don’t desire materialistic things, but I do desire stability etc.
Read the little prince It’s a good book on life pretty much what you’re going through right now As far as loosing weight just walk and properly diet your self I lost like 90- pounds in 6 months from just walking I just found this channel but I figured I could help out in some way
Thank you for the suggestion. As far as losing body fat, fitness is something I am passionate about. I just stopped taking care of myself and stopped working out/eating but making an effort to take care of myself again because no one will do it for me you know.
@@ProgressWithChristina read this for whenever you feel like giving up save this for when you need to hear it People love downplaying other people's success. You know why? Because your success acts like a mirror to them. They don't want to admit that success demands hard work, resilience, and yes, even some unfair advantages. They only want to believe that it's luck because then you're living proof of their failure and laziness. If someone doesn't believe in you, and you want to make them believe in you, you need to show undeniable results. Words can be changed, but the results of actions will always stay. Just because you don't have the results you want today doesn't mean you won't get them. When everybody else gives up, you will still be working for your dream. It doesn’t matter how long it takes; if I want something, I will go and get it. Nobody can stop me. People have a misconception that there isn’t enough time in the world, but the reality is that your life was given to you for a reason, with sufficient time to live it. It’s just up to you not to waste that time. The future is something you’re supposed to create. If you truly believe in yourself, you can create any fate you want, but if you give up, nothing will change. It's sad to see people go through life using their past as a source of pride, thinking it marks their character development. The truth is, holding onto the past can prevent true healing and growth. You might believe it makes you strong, but in reality, it's holding you back from becoming a better person. Letting go of the past can free you to heal and move forward. Many people spend their entire lives without ever experiencing the profound breakthrough that comes from truly letting go and moving on. Change is hard, but staying somewhere you don’t belong will only destroy you.
You’re right, they don’t. My point is that we don’t know what’s really going on and one can easily compare and wish we had that life then feel worse about our own not knowing they may actually be going through similar issues.
@@ProgressWithChristina hang in there! Try to go back to the things that bring you Joy . Favorite foods, favorite movie , favorite hobbies. Get back to simple . You got this !
I appreciate it. It’s easier to share the is to my phone and the internet than people I know. I’ll be sharing more videos hopefully it helps people not brings them down.
Hilarious 😂 This is why im glad i grew up in a misogynistic household 🤭 im glad i dont allow my girlfriend to work UNLESS she desires to which i force her to keep a basic job to simply "keep her busy" Life is already stressful and yet your leaving a 80k job while so many would do anything for work. Am i missing something because the higher my income grows the HIGHER level of stress i carry mind you i have a hogh level construction job AND i run multiple businesses and its like nothing to me! In my opinion women shouldn't be allowed to deal with work OR any form of stress because in time stress literally destroy ls a woman beauty REALLY fast!
@@ProgressWithChristina would obliterate your chance at getting a husband and removing the need to work from your life entirely just get a husband and be loyal and ur in ez mode
