St 1: Everyone blaming the OP are morons. The children are adults at the time. They said they didn't want to hurt him like he's a child or something. They only thought about themselves. If they were in the same situation, they would've wanted to know the truth.
I'm so disappointed with those comments. They are demonising OP like his bio kids are still helpless children who can't do anything about their mom's affair. Also, imagine getting cheated on, feeling betrayed that your kids actually knew about the affair and didn't tell you anything and then getting dunked on by Redditors. Let's see if those redditors can still act like angels if their kids did the same...
1st story: reddit casually gaslight OP into adding his daughter and son back into his will lmfao daughter I understand,she wanted to tell but was forced by her brother to keep her mouth shut. Son? Hell nah, I would disown him
No, you can’t understand the daughter because she was a fucking grown adult too she was not a child to be manipulated. She’s just weak willed and can’t be trusted because she could stab her father in the back because the other two can talk her into it.
F all of them that are calling op yta let’s do the math ops kids are now 30 and 27 so minus 5 years back when he caught his wife with the ap in bed so the son was 25 and daughter 22 now minus about 3 years they knew now it equals son 23 years old and daughter 19 years old so they aren’t innocent at all they can clearly think for themselves
So true. They sided with their mom by not telling OP about the affair because the son is a little momma's boy while daughter needs her mom for financial support. They are selfish, and yet, people are demonising OP instead. Like... wow.
@@creflotthank you I have a feeling ops ex and the ap where bribing the son and daughter with money and gifts now they feel guilty yeah no. I had a friend now ex friend who became a douchebag was helping his mom hide her affair from the dad and as a reward he got expensive gifts and money for his involvement long story short dad found out and disowned him, his mom and dad had a very nasty divorce witch the dad won, mom married her affair partner one full year the honeymoon period lasted after that the ap started putting his hands on her and constantly kicked both my ex friend and his mom out of his house why I stopped my friendship with him was that he would take out his anger on friends and his ex gf who he didn’t deserved he was also abusive towards her the good thing is she saw his true person and left him, now his alone with no friends begging his dad for money and a place to stay his dad now got married and blocked him
3rd story...STOP TALKING!!!! and get a DNA test, they are easy to do, you talk about being worried and then say you're worried about splitting the family apart.. You're not only unsure but freaking aggravating.. you want everything but don't want to find out...just stupid...
Story 3: OP is getting on my nerves. Stop with all of the "what ifs", defending the hubby and "her kids could be". Go to the friends house with hubby and the kids. Take baggies with you. Grab hair's from the different combs/brushes. At home, take your hubbys toothbrush. Just replace yours and his with new ones. Take the samples to the lab. You'll get your answers. Then you can kick back and tell yourself that you were an idiot for suspecting hubby. Or you make arrangements to "take the kids out". Both sets if possible. Break the news. I suggest doing that at the GPs house.
I am pretty sure what you suggested is highly illegal... Especially since it involves invading a different house and going through kids' personal items who aren't legally your own Pretty it would also put you on a certain list that would have you telling your whole neighborhood what you are and done where you move
@@DragonLawyer This particular OP just kept going on. Bouncing back and forth. She needs to get her butt in gear. Her daughter and the friend's son are moving quick. It's better to know for sure before they sleep together. That would be an additional problem if they are related.
Exactly! I'm so frustrated with OP that I already want to stop listening to her rambles. Get them some dna test and get it over with. She's afraid of opening "the can of worms," and it's possible that she was wrong? GO, DO IT SECRETLY! If it turns out that the best friend's kids aren't actually OP's husband's, she can finally know the truth and be at peace. But if they truly are her husband's, dang, girl. Have some self-respect. They are effing with you in front of your eyes, your kid and her possible half-brother are about to get it on and you're still afraid to disturb the peace? Smh.
I am so interested and invested in the eventual resolution of story 3 but let's get back to Story 1. First off, screw those YTAs. Those kids were in their 20s when they decided to keep Mommy's affair a secret. They clammed up to keep Daddy's money and his favour. Mommy blew up the marriage. Mommy screwed around with another man, and got caught by Daddy. Kiddos kept Mommy's little secret. Kiddos are also full-grown adults, and know infidelity is more often than not a deal breaker in a marriage. I'm glad they could come up with a mutually satisfying resolution, but let's not pretend OP was abandoning little innocent kids here.
Don't forget some of the comments were telling him that his stepson was just using him and doesn't care about him. Like they were literally trying to convince him that the only ones he should rely on is his kids. You know the ones who hid an affair while both being grown adults.
Story 2. NTA, not even by a long shot. First, OP's husband knows OP's trauma when he said there's a fire due to a house fire that occurred in her past, and then calling it as a prank and him laughing at her reaction to his call. How low does he have go to use a traumatic experience from your spouse just for shits and giggles? Second, the prank caused OP a lot of stress and OP's pregnant and about to give birth, yeah it's not rocket science to know why this is bad. Thirdly, calling OP's reaction to the statement of "it was a prank" as an overreaction. Like WHAT WAS HE EXPECTING?! FOR OP TO LAUGH ALONGSIDE HIM?! YOU USED A TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE FROM YOUR SPOUSE'S PAST AS A JOKE, WHEN SHE WAS PREGNANT AND AT A STAGE WHERE THE BABY CAN COME OUT AT ANYTIME.
So the adult kids chose to hide their mother affair.... but are now shocked that he cut them all out if his will?? NTA, time for those brats to learn the meaning of "Actions and Consiquences". All those YTA commentors should get off their high horse, cause the lack of oxygen has seemingly caused them to forget that the bio kids were adults and chose to protect their mother.
Story 2. Pretending the house is on fire will never be funny. The pregnant wife could have fallen or worse. So glad to hear that the wife left at after the first DV incident rather than place her or her child in further danger. Well done and I'm proud of you 👏👏👏 Now move far away from the monster asap.
Story 1 nta the kids burned the bridge not you. Also these yta's need a rude awakening. I want to know how they would feel if they were in op's situation. Especially with them defending the ex's infidelity. I hope this guy is doing well.
r/AITA tends to be extraordinarily biased when it comes to certain people. And if the situation is a child versus a parent, more often than not, people on that subreddit are going to take the side of the child, regardless of how objectively wrong they are.
Story 1) I'd cut them out. But that all depends on how/when/what they knew. The big question is what other steps did they take to protect OPs mental state other than hiding the affair. Story 3) Just do the DNA test lady. Take the swaps out of a covid test box and run with it.
Story 1: Okay, Kids aren’t automatically entitled to inherit anything from their parents. Not when they commit heinous acts of betrayal, and covering up an affair is definitely betrayal, especially when the kids are adults or at least old enough to know right from wrong (the law states it’s age 7 in my jurisdiction). Good on OP.
Story 3 - Look, I might be biased since I do believe men and women can be friends with no actual attraction to each other, but I honestly think there's no concrete evidence towards anything, and everything is just circumstensial. What I find is more likely is that the friend did have feelings for OP's husband, but never acted on them, so she seeked out men who look like him. But, in the subject of fairness, I will offer a possible way to be sure. OP should try and sit the kids down and show them all your evidence before opening up about your suspicion and why you were so against them dating. It's important to lay down the evidence first before dropping it on them so that they could see your point of view more clearly. Then, if they're at least concerned enough to make sure they're not being Lannisters in here, ask for their DNA to do a DNA test. Is it good? Probably not. Does it have a chance of backfiring? Yes. Is it better than nothing if she's right? Absolutely
Or in front of the other two adults be like "hey lets all do some ancestry kits, i found out i might be a descendant of Native Americans, so we might not know what else we all are"
1)whoever think OP's bio kids are in the right and that OP is "heartless" needs to stop reading what ever fiction novels they have, they choose to kep this a secert, and ruin themselves instead of being completely with OP and prevent him from wasting more of his life and move on to be happy but they didnt so they deserve nothing 2) please leave her and dont get him close again 3) this is crazy, ALSO OP WHAT THE HELL?!?!?!? you cant stop asking yourself what if, constantly and need to get answer you have some evidence but you need more please, you cant keep letting yourself be in doubt throughout your life, get a paternity test, even if its not consensual, it needs to give you a piece of mind they arent against it as much as OP with them being put into this situation, because they know,
A lot of these people are either still children themselves, or adults who are still in the mindset of a child, which is exactly why they jump to the defense of OP's kids, making up all these excuses for them when the simple fact of the matter is they were plenty old enough to know better and be held to account for their choices.
Story 1: Given OP's ex-wife cheated on him, his bio-son will marry who's a cheater, just like his mother is, have a kid with her, catch her with another guy; one who likes living the "van life" and care for their kid alone, when she disappears on them with her AP, the bio-daughter will marry a man, who's a total opposite of OP, have a kid on the way, find him in bed with one or floozies, and have to prepare herself to be a single mother, and and instead of ever finding new love, or dating, let alone, getting married again, and making room for stepchildren, just like OP has, the bio-kids will need to keep potential new spouses, and stepkids, at arm's length and concentrate on three things: Raising their kids, getting therapy for themselves, and repairing their relationship with OP.⚠️
2 story 😳 If my husband/bf pulled that prank on me, I'd lock him out of the house for the night minimum. Simulating life-threatening situations "as a joke" should be considered as legit crime IMO
Story 3. Talk to Luke in private ffs protecting your daughter from an unnecessary traumatic experience is way more important. Your husband may be angry at the accusations but if he didn't cheat a marriage that long should overcome it.
10:06 nta obviously but really the kid isnt using you after just saying he has an ego problem and is cutthroat but "oh no he isnt using me he isnt like that" dude will be in for a rude awakening
He didn't say the kid was cut throat. He said it's a cutthroat business. And as for the kid having an ego problem. Welcome to a 16-year-old boy who's probably an extrovert. Better than a fully grown mama's boy who protected his mom while she was sleeping around on his father.
Also the son is working in an adjacent business most likely to get experience elsewhere before taking over the business which he disregards. But the Egoistic and Arrogant stepson is a better fit? Sounds like the kind of person that will try to run a business without learning how it works and crash the company
@manofmann8901 working on an adjacent business is different than running a business. He's also a grown man with social anxiety. It's not like he's a kid who can learn to overcome that to run a business. And unlike the son who had zero interest in working with his father, the stepson had shown interest in the business from a young age. A lot of extroverts are a bit egocentric when their freakin teenagers. He's a kid for crying out loud. Not the Wolf of Wallstreet. He can grow out of that with guidance. But a grown man who hid his mom's affair from his dad, told his sister, who actually had a conscience, not to say anything... never showed interest in working with his dad... and has social anxiety... Yeah, totally a great risk for a high stress job that requires social interaction 😂
Wtf with the 3 story, dam it just a nasty business everywhere, half brother who doesn’t know his crush is his half sister, sweet home Alabama, I hope this is fake but the probability that something similar happened around the world 🤮
Story 1: another raggedy "father" blaming his children for his failed marriage. A real parent would not put their children in the middle of their relationship, period. The mother was wrong, this father is wrong. They have both emotionally manipulated their children who have absolutely nothing to do with their piss poor choices. But it's interesting to see yet another AI story of a sh!tty father holding his children accountable for something they had no part in. Yuck.
Sorry are the grown adults hiding there mom's affair suddenly angels or did you purposely skip the part where they are adults who are very much capable of there own actions. Also I see you just like making up stuff for fun because where did he blame the grown adults for the marriage failing, love for you to quote where.
@@JayElJay If something affects the family unit to this degree, there is no staying neutral. They were both grown adults and chose to keep their mouths closed, which makes them complicit in their mother's adultery. This is the same thing as someone being the getaway driver acting like they are innocent of participating in a robbery just because they didn't stick someone up.
