I was married for 10 years. Divorced. And in six months met another man. We had a great connection. I declared I was not looking to marry and content that way. We dated for 10 years. It was a great time. But, I knew I was not living a life pleasing to God. We broke up in 2008. I dated a long time friend for about 1 year after that break up. I quickly sensed that relationship was going to be fruitless. We ended it. But stayed friends to this very day. I was left to myself. Not long after, I was led to a Bible teacher on television. Through the Bible with Les Feldick. I spent my days in Bible study everyday. Early morning to midnight. Survived on water and nuts. I fell in love with Yeshua Messiah in 2014 and I have been single ever since. I love being in love with Christ and knowing God through Him. My friend is now my Bible study friend. We do a phone Bible study M-F 8a-10a. I love coffee and bible time. I wish I had your knowledge at that age. But it is all in God's timing. Ashley, you are an inspiration.
I've been in a 5 year relationship since I was 17. Got engaged July 2019, and we broke up last March. I was devasted and it still stings, but God is healing me. For the first couple weeks i was hopeless. It's SO hard when your plans don't go on how you wanted it to be but in this journey i realized so much more. I don't wanna be lost anymore, I don't want my plans anymore. I WANT GOD. I WANT TO BE IN HIS PRESENCE. I NEED HIM. And that's when it hits me, I need this season. I'm starting this journey where I let God take over and its the best decision in my life. To all singles out there, let's be intentional. Let's grow, let's get to know ourselves and God. No need to rush. He got you. 💗 This song helped me: You are by life church
Wow! Thank you for this AMAZING COMMENT! I am going to pin it! God is so good! He is helping you through :) May God continue to bless you and help you.
This happened to me too. I was in a five year relationship got engaged last year and we broke up this year. I was devastated... It still hurts but I know GOD has better plans for me
Mitzi, Thank you so much for sharing a part of yourself, I hope you’re doing better, and also thank you for your words. “I don’t want my plans anymore. I need this season. I want God.” This really hit home for me. And this is so right. Thank you. God bless! 💕
I am 19 y.o. & I have never had a boyfriend and don't intend to have one anytime soon lol. Even though I'm not ready for a relationship I still want to be intentional in being single🌻 I want to grow in my spiritual walk with the LORD before I have a relationship with a guy. Thank you for sharing Ashley❤
Same! I am 18 y.o and I have never had a boyfriend either I trust that God will do Everything in his time, while there is no rush! Singleness and every season in God's time is really a great blessing 🤍
Hello from Crete, Greece!🇬🇷Please share this amazing news! My husband divorced me in 2014, on our 2 year anniversary. I was devastated, but your story is giving me hope.
I think that happens for some women, but I know other women who met the one when they were still searching. Including those who met on dating apps, which is becoming even more common. But congratulations 💕
Lovely singleness content. Whoever is reading this i pray that God bless you beyond what you asked or expected so that you can be a blessing to others.
I’m 37 and single, it’s been a long wait already, and seeing a niece of mine get married last year was tough! Especially as I’ve experienced a broken engagement. Sometimes life seems unfair, when we have our priorities out of place and our focus is on other things. I’ve learned that God always knows what’s best for us, even when we don’t see it, when it hurts. And what you’ve said is so true. Jesus is enough!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. We were about to get married and 2 months before the wedding day I felt that we were going in the wrong way (this feeling wasn't new I could never be in peace with the idea of getting married to him, it was too early or too complicated. I was always finding excuses and reasons for my feeling) at first I was talking about reporting the wedding to have more time to work on the relationship... But then I realized that God wasn't the center of our life or couple. And we broke up and I told him that I still love him but I'm not ready now because I need to have a deeper and stronger relationship with God and I know that God was waiting for me and that it was what I needed. It's new for me ( only few weeks in being single ) , I want to get married ( I'm 25) but I trust God because he called me with purpose and I'm looking forward to see what he wants to teach me. ( I'm a french speaker, sorry for the mistakes) This kind of video are really helping me to stay strong, single, faithful and to listen to what God wants for me. Thank you. 🙏
I can relate to this. 2 years ago I totally surrendered my search to Christ. I was totally fine being single if that's His will for me. I asked Him that, if He has a love story for me, I will let Him write it. Fast forward today, I am engaged, to a wonderful Christ-follower man. We pray for each other everyday and learning and growing with Jesus. Psalms 37:4 is a reminder that God knows our heart's desire. Delight in Him, pray and obey. God bless you all.
oh my word! I just realised that the reason I struggle to build friendships with boys/guys is because I keep looking at them as my potential life partner (you know, because I am single and I'd really like to not be single). I need to start looking at them as children of God worthy of being known as friends and worthy of being my friends. Such a liberating perpective. Thank you.
Beginner artist here! Lol I love drawing and painting . I decided that I would use it for the good of telling the gospel and about Jesus . I’ve been single probably all my life and it’s been tough especially not having friends at all. Plus I have a chronic illness that keeps me at home. But Jesus is my strength and he’s getting me by everyday! I enjoy the peace and time I have just speaking to him alone. So this season is so worth it
God has been putting videos like this in my life at the right moments lately. I have been in and out of relationships for a while and I finally found the person that I truly wanted to be with and he was perfect and husband material. But he didn’t help me get closer to God because he doesn’t love the Lord like I do. God put it in my heart that I have to let him go and just focus on God because he has greater plans for me. I want to be able to worship around the world like Tasha Cobb’s, Koryn Hawthorne, Kim Walker. I need time with the Lord alone and it was hard to let go of someone that I loved but I need to enter this season of singleness because God is preparing me for something far greater than I can imagine. When I told my dad that I ended that relationship to be able to focus on God, He showed me 1 Corinthians 7: 32-35 so when you read that at this moment of my life it was a confirmation. Thank you for sharing all of this!❤️
Ashley you are so inspiring! I’ve been single pretty much my whole life. I’ve never had a boyfriend and know exactly what your talking about questioning everyone if there my husband . But I’ve learned during quarantine & your video that I must seek a relationship with God, which is the most important.
Me too, i have the conviction of the Lord about looking at guys i meet on church for example as potential husband instead of Brothers in christ, and i long so much for Christian friends 😭
I love this point! You and Taylor made many good points about future husband mentality during one of your earlier podcasts and I understood the problem so well through it. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ and that is a reason to get to know someone even if we don’t want to have a romantic relationship! 🥰
I've been intentionally single forever too (I don't know why everyone wants to be in a relationship. Heaven's too important and I'm constantly thinking about being with God to even THINK about relationships)
@@kristabrewer9363 Wow, good for you! It is so much harder for me and I'm trying to get out of the mindset of thinking about every guy only as a potential husband... But praise the Lord that He has blessed you this way!🙏
I am 16 years old, recently I have been seeing many friends in relationships and it has made me want one, but I have realized that I need to be willing to trust God and wait that he will give me the right guy . Your video really encouraged me to stay patient and really just enjoy this time of being single so thank you so much for making these videos
I got broken up with recently and have decided to start devoting more time to Jesus and to get to know him better! I want to make this time nurturing for my soul and life
Beautiful girl, thank you SO much for all you do for the Lord!!! You are such an inspiration to me and others. For some reason, I am seeing this video a year late!!! Watching it AFTER your engagement 🙈🤗😉 Ahhhh! Your life is a testament to how good our sweet God is! He is so so good. So so faithful. I just love seeing the end of your story before watching this. That encouraged me as a single who is trusting in God to usher me into the next season of life. He has heard my prayers and ik He will answer me. Thank you! 💛💛💛🌻🔆😘🎉🎊
GIRL!!! back in February/March God put it on my heart to just wait and be intentional single and get to know Him better. I've kinda followed it, but now that you posted this video it inspired me sooo much. Guess who's starting today :)
for all women growing in singleness of time God has a reason why your relationship didnt work out for months or years because God didnt give you that for a wrong person to love.. and God want you to focus His will not your will. and God give you a chance to change your priority because He knows your heart so do not fear if you dont have love life or in a relationship , instead be thankful because God has a planned for you much better than your planning. Thank you for reminding me or us Sister in Coffee Bible Time 😍😍🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I find it hard to speak about my longings, so I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty!! I'm glad to know that I am not alone and know how I should deal with it with God ❤️
I set out a year of intentional singleness as well!!! My heart warmed up when I encountered your singleness podcast ❤️ so so relatable. I love watching your journey especially now that you’re getting married 😍 God is so good! May He continue to bless you!!!
Your video made me so happy, I like what you share about your season of singleness and I can relate. I came to learn similar things from the Lord when I finally decided to stop focusing on the fact that I have never dated anyone and start to focus on my walk with God and He led me to this season of “intentional singleness”. I am now 25, and it’s a age I love and I really wanted to devote this special year to the Lord and He has been amazing. He truly His the best, a provider, a friend everything we need we can find in Him. And He keeps equipping us for the next season whenever it will happen.
Hey Ash! Its Hannah Berkoski from Moody Bible! Mollie and I finished our year of singleness in April and I am in agreement with what you said!! Radically changed my relationship with the Lord and will never regret a single day of that year. Thanks for this amazing video! Lots of love xoxoxo
What Ashley said was really helpful because the media and so many ideologies out in this world have made our ideologies lean towards understanding that we at all times need to have someone (specifically a partner) but it is not true. Singleness has an important role to play in everyones life and Ashley very aptly stated it. Thank you
I have been singled since September of 2020. I have 2 toddlers and a newborn on the way. I started praying for a husband when I was living in my car last year while my kids lived with their grandparents. After listening to your other video about whether it's a good thing or bad thing to pray for your future husband, God convicted me about my reasons of why I was asking for a husband in the first place. I learned that my desires were not in the right place and I was only asking God for a husband for my selfish needs/wants. I'm still learning that Jesus is enough.
Thank you for sharing this. I totally agree when you say it's a daily struggle. It is so true. Everytime I get impatient with being single, I just remind myself of the truth that a spouse cannot satisfy you. If Christ who died for you can't satisfy you, then which man can ? If Christ can't make you stay pure in heart, which man can ? And marriage is not self-centered, it's all about serving the other human being that God loves.
Yes tip 8!!! You hit the nail on the head!! I struggle with mindfulness and living right now bc I always think about my future! 💜 thank you for this you put this all in perspective for me!!💜💜
Wow! This video is old, but popped up at just the right time! There are so many stereotypes that marriage is the end goal and placing value and worth in it, but you're right, sister: we are living NOW!
This is exactly matched what the lord is teaching to me. I didn't realised that it is a lesson that God is teaching to me.. Before I watched this video I felt like am I only one who is struggling and now I understood that everybody has this type of thoughts. Thank you Ashley for making such a good video. This is really helped me .
This message is so great, i needed it. After a bad marriage of nineteen years my ex husband left me. At first i was angry and bitter. Then i found out the reason why. All because the Lord was waiting for me. He was my first Love. True the years i try to please my ex husband more and more till i realise that i was getting unhappy 😟 by the day. My Lord heard my cry and remove my ex husband. Now i AM back falling in love with my Beloved again. Only the fact that i had a marriage and the shame of a divorce was till today a struggle for me. But hearing that it is a blessing to be single makes me so happy 🙂 right now. Thank you my Lord for this word of encouragement and Bless the ministry of coffeeandbibletime 🙏.
Hey! Lots of love from India. During this quarantine I was just surfing thru youtube and I came across your video. I have seen all of your videos from then. Being a christian I never have read or thought of reading Bible. But bcause of your motivation I have started reading. I cannot tell you how much I am blessed because of you. My way of looking and thinking is absouletly changed. I am very glad to have Jesus back into my life. Your life is the living ministry for me. I cannot think how many people are blessed thru you. Thank you so much Ashley.❤
YES! Love this! I've had many informative single years in my life, and I am seeing someone now, but those years really shaped and prepared me for this season I'm in now. Every season has purpose. I mentor younger girls who are single and I think I will share this with them because it is so meaningful.Thanks for sharing! :)
As my intentional year of singleness is coming to an end, I have learned many of the same things you have, particularly that Singleness is a gift! A glorious time where I can be so Focused on Jesus and healing and growth without the distraction of a husband, pets, kids, etc… those things are also gifts, but in the right season. Outside of that season, they feel like a curse (I have an 8 year old, and have been married and divorced)- I was not a Christian then and let me tell you, God giving me this year of singleness is the most amazing gift I’ve had in many ways. I’ve learned that being alone and loneliness are not even close to being the same thing. I’ve lived so much life and changed so much this year and it’s been the best year of my life! I have pursued my interests and hobbies and become secure in who I am, my personality, how I like to dress and show up, and I don’t worry about what others think about me anymore. I know that I am Beautiful and body image doesn’t control my thought life anymore. I wear less make up and feel confident and comfortable and alive. The year seemed to go by slowly at the beginning but towards the middle, it has flown by! I did get distracted as well by a couple boys, for a couple weeks each time and it was a huge learning experience for me with Jesus and I got back onto the single train fairly quickly and focused on Jesus again. I would highly recommend a year of INTENTIONAL singleness for every single person out there, before they marry and have children.
Single and totally hearing you on EVERY point Ashley! Oh my my. When you mentioned the hubby point.. I was like .. rebuke! Haha thanks for being so transparent with your journey!
I honestly ENVY your polite LIFE Some of us of to mess up at the early stage before Grace took US! You’re really changing LIVES and KEEP IT UP I WISH I CAN SUBB FOR 100 million Times ❤️❤️❤️
I am single. The Lord is teaching me to rely more on Him than on a partner. He is also teaching me to see myself as His masterpiece without waiting for the praise of man
Ashley don't rush getting married. I've been married 3 times. Long story. I am grateful for the families I meet along the way . I had 2 great mother in laws. Miss them dearly. Good luck to you.
I am currently in year 5 of singleness. I took a vow of singleness for me to devote myself to the Lord and serve others where I work at a nursing home with the elderly.
You are beautiful, both inside and out. Thank you for sharing your singleness journey. I have learnt being in a relationship and thinking he potentially was "the one" and then that not being the case, the period of singleness after that experience helps me reflect on the lessons that God was teaching me and to learn from them . Each lesson teaches maturity
I'm 38 and single. I've never been married or ever dated. It's like I've been in an "intentional" single season for all my life! lol. In all seriousness, it's so hard. Seeing all your friends who have been married for years and have kids and I'm over here like "God, where's my husband?". I've learned and I'm still learning all these things. It's a daily thing for sure!
This video now says that it's been a year since this video was uploaded. Isn't it cool to see how God works in your life. Most definitely! I just came from your proposal video and am so excited for you! And now you are engaged and no longer single. Congratz again! God is good, all the time. All the time, God is good.
I'm single, and today God spoke me through this vedio, I realy need these words .. Tomorrow is my birthday and I want to listen the voice of God for my coming years , and today God spoke with me... And I now, I know that in my singleness time what God want to me actually. Thank you for this vedio... Dear sister may God use you more for the glory of his kingdom 😇😇
Happy early birthday!! I pray that God guides through this journey of becoming a year older, through your walk with him, and your journey of singleness. It's definitely not easy because there are so many distractions in this world and sometimes you can feel lonely and desire romantic relationships, but you are not alone in this journey as you have God and the community of brothers and sisters in Christ with you, myself included! I'm on this journey as well so if you ever want to connect please let me know! I know that it will all be worth it in the end
I'm so grateful I came across Coffee and Bible Time in this phase. God really was intentional about directing me to this channel. I feel excited, Ashley! God bless you guys❤️🌼
Hi this is Awesome it has been 4 years for me. God is so Faithful. My life is nothing without th e Lord. I am completely dedicated to the Lord. I know he will send me a great king. I do enjoy reading Proverbs 31. An amazing book. Continue to be blessed in the Lord.
Love this so much! I love your outlook on this, and there needs to be more content out there on this and for people to stop idolising marriage! Your life doesn’t start once you’re married! Run the race that God has set before you! Whether you’re married or not you have to run your race! (Hebrews) thanks for this video!
Thank you so much. I follow your videos and you helped me so much during these years thank lord. I am 20 year old girl and i'm muslim. I follow you from IRAN. I believe in jesus as a son of god. Your videos helped me so much to improve my personality and to be close to god even more than before. I read my quran and I love to read bible too. Life is more beautiful to me, than before. Just thank you for learning me so much. You're truely a hand of god. Thank lord that we have humans like you in this amazing world, that allah can lighten our path better❤️Love you so much
I feel like when we're single, we have so much more time to focus on our friends, family rather than all that time on a boy (plus if he's not the right one it's such a lost of time). Being single is also being dedicated to others in a way and to God of course. And that's beautiful.
Wooooowwwww! This was the best Christian singleness video I've watched this far. This was so refreshing and you learned some amazing and practical things during your year of singleness. I am subscribing now because this is tew good!
im single and God has been revealing those things to me as well, i decided to dedicate my single years to God and that has been so far the best thing i did
