Guy has no common sense. Even I as a high functioning autist high schooler had more street smarts. I could come up with more elaborate schemes to skip school.
Listening to this makes me realize my parents aren't all that bad.. your parents man have no sympathy for your situation.. Idk how you hold it together id be off the rails if my parents treated me like that. You sound like you're doing your best and they still insist on being as toxic as possible. After this video and the last one I'd want nothing to do with them. Like that's not how loving parents should treat their young adult child. I would never talk to them again, but that's just me..
also to be clear, i work in retail. You can definitely walk in, ask for a manager, explain your situation and ask about any open positions. People who actually come into the store are way more likely to get the job because they can put a face to the name. don't talk to a random employee, ask for the manager. I know for a fact that it will surprise you, and you'll at least feel better about yourself for trying.
Dog, for every job I’ve ever had I spoke to a manager in person first. They tell you to apply online but then that’s when you say “I’ve already applied, I was just hoping to speak to the hiring manager to check the status of my application.” Or something like that. Doesn’t have to be super professional. Apply online, then go in person. Works like a charm
@@di115 you're coping. You're afraid to speak to people so you rationalize your social anxiety by pretending that the world has changed a lot more than it really has. The reality is managers will appreciate you going in to talk to them in person. You're just too scared to do it.
This is actually good advice. Most people are to ashamed and embarrassed to take this route. But this is what will get you a job because most will not go out of their way like that.
Forreal, people who do have that familial backing are completely different people. They can have other probs or whatever but always having a safety net almost stunts them. Always wanna be going out, buying crap, spending money on "experiences" they just dont get it
@@junkequation Right? I must admit that this is suspicious. Why didn't he show them these messages? I doubt that if he did that, they would still not believe him and assume that he has a second phone with a second number that he uses to text himself. I slowly stop believing him
This is probably the only good advice I've seen in the comments so far. Walking in places has never really worked for me so everyone saying just do that aren't really giving great advice.
It’s been that way since the dawn of humanity women bring your own demise and destruction of what you e created you lose it all and she leaves and the pattern repeats with another man she branches off to
Have you tried using a temp agency? They will hire anyone with a pulse. In fact, I got my first job through them and three other ones during college. Also, you have a master’s degree in STEM and multiple years of work experience. The government will bend over backwards to get any STEM major who is a citizen that can get clearance, especially if they can relocate and take a slight pay cut. There is absolutely zero reason why you are jobless for 4 years 😂
@@AK-hi7mg or just smart enough to understand when you are being exploited by evilcorp who is going to treat you like garbage and never pay you what you are worth.
@@nunyabaznus7851 So your solution is to live off your aging parents surviving off of fixed income? If he had stayed with his job and moved back home, he could easily save enough to survive and even retire early especially since the house will probably be left to him. He’s not sticking it to “evilcorp”, he’s simply delaying the inevitable and dragging his parents done with him
@DGIGANTO456 could be a ghost posting the company put up with no intention of hiring more cleaners. Then, they can work the ones they have that much harder and pretend they’re gonna hire someone else to lighten the load.
With the long a gap in working there is no way he will ever get a tech job. Any job that requires a resume will see he has been lazing about for half a decade and reject him.
@@sz I also lazed around for years after getting my cs degree. I had to go to one of those shitty code bootcamps to get my first job. You will only get paid 50k or so which is shit, but you get experience and after 2 years I got a 6 figure tech job at a bank.
As much as im on your side bro, you're 35. You shouldve been looking for a job, there was no way in hell either of your parents were gunna let you bum it out off them forever, this was a long time coming. Even If you had just been working part time at McDonald's saving 250$ a month, your parents would've been much easier on you and youd have some money put away to not ask them for stuff like clothes or use their car. The more you take from them the more angry they become.
Sounds like your parents made a decision to pressure you based on pure emotion. The smart thing to do would be to track your progress and let you find a position in your field. Having Taco Bell on your resume will do nothing but taint any future interviews.
You're right and wrong Losermaxxing. You do have to speak to a manager first to increase your odds at getting a job, but where you're kinda right is in the fact that it doesn't guarantee you the job. When the manager remembers your face, you're beating out most online only candidates save for those really exemplary ones. What you're likely losing out to is people who know someone on the staff. It's one thing to hire someone who you at least know how they look and act, but its another to hire someone who has people vouching for them. Friends get friends into job positions, you should see who your dad or mom knows in employment so they can vouch for you to help you get a job. This also has the added benefit of helping them get off your back, as now they would have a more direct hand in your quest for employment.
The job I have now I literally walked in mere hours after being released from jail, and my boss interviewed me on the spot. I was in gym shorts and a T shirt, she hired me. It’s crazy to me I can get a job within hours of being incarcerated, I don’t even have a damn drivers license, this dude has every advantage at his disposal and can’t even do it. I think he doesn’t WANT to work
@@BD-1-And-OnlyI agree with you to a certain point , your boss is female and you were released from prison which during that time im sure you lifted if its safe to make those assumptions. Biology played a role in your hiring whether you cared to notice or not. An ugly or out of shape dude won't have your results unless they can make up for it in charisma. Plus this guy obviously struggles with some kind of undiagnosed disorder, not that it's an excuse but he clearly behaves and speaks like a teenager so he's stunted in some aspects as where you're not clearly I think these are some important factors to his story which most are missing.
Just treat your dad's request as a useless government job and do what he says. If you gotta drive around for 3 hours a day to have a free house and food, that's a small price to pay. If you wanna prove it to them that you can't apply in person, use your phone like a hidden camera and record the conversations when you ask for a job application and show them to prove it. 35 year old with a teenager mentality. Your mom shouldn't be buying your clothes for you in the first place.
It's honestly wild. The biggest hole in the story was that he thought he could actively date a woman with no money. "Mom can you buy my 35 year old, jobless ass, a new outfit to wear to my totally real date" Gtfoh. The mom should have told him right then, "okay bud, and is she going to be picking up the check or is that on me too?"
@@GenghisGunt if his mom's anything like mine... If I said "hey mom guess what I'm going on a date with this girl I met at XYZ" she'd straight away offer to buy me something, even for oldest sibling who's like 50, if she had some real big job interview or something coming up, whatever the occasion was, our mom would try and help in some way, that's just her nature sometimes I have to turn it down though a d say no it's fine I've already got something but then she might just turn up with like a gift to help with whatever
@@NickGreiner1988 missed the point of my post AND the part of the video where he claimed it was his mother who was upset because she was tricked into spending money on her NEET son.
To be fair, your mom could have reacted worse. When you told her you couldn't find a job after walking into multiple businesses and asking for one, she could have not believed you and claim that you just drove her car around to pass time and trick her. Your parents are understandably frustrated with the fact that their son is failing in life and they are desperate to help you. The problem is that they ran out of patience and became irrational.
@@NiceOCGuy1981Watching your son in his 30s spend four years not applying for a job, not doing anything to improve their career, and barely leaving their house will make anyone go insane
The fact he records these videos and uploads them to RU-vid for the world to hear the most embarrassing and sad stories of a middle aged man contributing nothing to society, leaching off his parents tells me he either has no shame or it’s all made up, trying to larp as a dbdr clone.
Yes, I'm lucky my father is conscious of leaving me money when he passes and my mom has supported me in my endeavors. My dad recommended I borderline stalk my former employer to get a summer internship one time. He suggested I refinance my student loans even though they were all federal.
I was literally about to say this, where tf is he recording these videos because his parents in either place would surely hear him, and he doesn’t leave home so??
Hmmm… it’s almost like all rooms in the us use Sheetrock and carpet. Just because he sleeps in a garage doesn’t mean he can’t enter the house. All houses have very similar acoustics, plus phone mics block outside sound nowdays
Not going to help to be honest. Most minimal wage employment is literal exploitation. A child sized paycheck that can't even pay for a shoebox bug infested slum apartment and enough ramen noodles or Mac and cheese to get you through the week. Dumpster diving for food jobs.
This is real. This was literally my life a few years ago. going to a boxing gym just to get social interaction, getting brutally rejected by my oneitis, getting kicked out of the house. It's literally my life experience in a nutshell. I think there is a lot of Chad survivors guilt going on where successful guys can't handle how bad it is for sInge men our there.
@@nunyabaznus7851 It's not that we don't believe it can happen, it's just that we don't believe it's currently happening to this guy. Lots of holes in his story
Lmao, my boomer dad did the same exact thing last summer. When applying online failed, I called up a friend and got a job working at his gas station. This summer, I am doing summer classses full time working towards my mechanical engineering degree so I am not employed atm and my dad is good with it. The moral of the story is that trying to get a job in person when you don't personally know the person never works. You got to apply online, and even that seldom works. Connetions are important.
Bro are you me? Your dad sounds exactly like mine, even down to the mannerisms of banging on my door like a maniac and ranting like a maniac about work, money and sht he doesn't hve a clue about. This was when i was 21 and only much later did i come to find out it was my mother manipulating things behind the scenes (Not to say my dad wasn't a pos himself). It wasnt enough for her to just make my dad's life miserable.
Why are we acting like he can't apply online and drive around to try applying in person as well? He has nothing but time. The fact that he was actually applying for another Computer Programming job online just the other day tells us he wasn't really trying to find a job. He's had years to find a job online. He could walk house to house and explain his situation and get yard work. Anyone...anyone can find a job. People with 4th grade educations who don't speak English are finding plenty of labor intensive work to do. There's no shame in anyone who works hard to support themselves.
@@grtf47guarantee they tell him he's overqualified or needs to speak Spanish. Or if it's an all black taco bell they just won't hire him and give him the run around. Literally had this happen to me.
I’m in programming as well but lemme be honest with u, The market is rough right now but if u start building projects consistently and get decent in data structures trust me you’ll get hired and I know you’ll cope but trust me this is your only way out right now, give your parents a six months window work on these things and you’ll for sure get a role.
@@blondequijote see the learning resources are abundant and you’ll find nearly too much content which might be overwhelming so I’ll ask u is web development something u want to get into ?
@@dmh5220 that’s the thing. I understand working with computers is a broad field and there’s lots of specialties. I think web development would be a good one because if nothing else I have something I want to make a webpage for. I’m not going for the super high-paying jobs but if I can get a basic working knowledge and do some basic work I’d be pretty happy with that. I freelance and side-hustle lots of things but can find days to set aside for specific projects.
you're too special to "carry lumber or whatever it is they do in home depot"? im happy for your parents for taking this step, they see you for whatever you are and they're right.
The saddest thing about this is people are really looking at a man and his situation and thinking damn the parents are wrong on this one. Dude is in his mid 30's, living with his parents, paying 0% of the bills after he willingly quit a high paying job, refused to look for work for years and is ONLY now applying for "programming jobs that require a computer science degree" because he was forced to by them and ya'll are like "Boomer Parents sure are mean" WTF??????
Bro I’m sorry. U did this to yourself. Even in this situation your dad literally said get any job. U coulda gotten a job work like 2 days a week which is common and do that until u get a programming job.
For a lot of people they never truly developed the skill of exhausting all possible options and only react to stressors when it comes to being displaced. Many truly struggle with undiagnosed illnesses and can appear to function like a normal person on the surface but then shut down when pressured. They are unfortunately cases that wouldn't make it if it were over 100 years ago. Stunted individuals.
They're either delusional or they're looking for any possible excuse to push you out of your comfort zone. Do like I say and secretly record your interactions so you can show them you getting redirected to online applications over and over.
Here’s places you can apply at with a walk in application Burger king, mom and pop shops restaurants, migrant owned buisnesses, bars and clubs , private owned business, private own warehouses , land scaping, construction, day labor , picking fruit and veggies at farms, Rough work and hot but it’s something take it and build from there man good luck
It's a larp for sure. Feels like he's reeled in an audience of people who relate to his situation. Bros broke, jobless, depressed, out of shape, living with parents, all the classics. Decides to go to the gym and it all goes even more downhill. The message is "don't get up"
If the method isn't working, change the method. If you can't motivate yourself to change the method, subtract the elements that destroy your motivation. If you can't subtract those, change the mindset. If you can't change the mindset, stop protecting your ego. If you can't stop protecting your ego, suffer until the pain of inaction exceeds the pain of action. If even then you fail, note on what made you fail and adapt accordingly. Then try again. You have to change. "I can't!" You have to stop making excuses, even if you can't the notion that you can will carry you much farther. If you can't beleive there's even an ounce of hope you will fail. Self fufilling prophecy. You are responsible for what's left of your life. Make the best of it, appreciate what there is to make of it instead of trying to fix the past. You're not likely going to make it to 50 living like this.
If gym girl is real, why not show your parents your texts with them? If you can only apply online, why not apply online on your phone/laptop in the places you're told to apply online? Many ways out of this situation my dude.
Bro u could've at least hopped in the truck and just asked places if they were looking for people and then fill the apps out online and that would've solved the problem....
Between DBDR and this channel, and my life i can see the common denominator: PARENTS. My parents were kinda of ignorant (not exactly mean like this, but they had their mean moments) and it's fascinating to see shit like "parents mad that they bought clothes for their son", it wasn't supposed to be something that parents do? There is a level of "learned helplessness" teached by a specific set of parents that shows on every blackpill/basement dweller guy, they literally avoid teaching things to their sons, or helping them with basic stuff that any parent should help, and then get mad or disappointed when they look clueless. In my experience there are two kinds of parents of "losers": the ones so mad at how their son is a loser wating magic to happen without knowing it's kinda their responability until their son is 18, and the ones one understand that status, become friends on a process to get out of it. Only 1% is the latter type. The silver lining here is: the best thing that happened to me was leaving parents home, due to a job in tech. Learned to fucking drive at 29. Went to parties at 30. I belive the only real maxxing is getting away from your parents home, no fucking way someone becomes a "hopeless loser" if not by being teached (assuming what normies say are real and blackpill is "not real", so this is the best explanation). Maybe this can be a blessing in disguise, it will be absolute shit because you couldnt prepare, but pay attention to how you behave when there is no expectations to meet or people softly (or in this case heavly) bemoaning you all the time. I hope you find the answers man.
I’m sorry but this line of reasoning is precisely why so many young men fall into this trap. I agree that poor parenting and learned helplessness contribute to this type of behavior, but they definitely aren’t the driving force. The harsh truth is that these men simply lack ambition and have an unearned sense of entitlement. It is not your parent’s job to help you with a date and support you 100% financially at the age of 35, especially when you possess the means to do that yourself and refuse to even try. Same with DBDR. I’ve heard the guy say with a straight face that he has zero problem doing the bare minimum and living off his struggling parents. One thing that BP love to ignore is that women also grow up in the same circumstances but have much better results. Why? Because they are held to much higher standards as children and built a support network with other women to uplift each other. The BP community could be this, but inkwells actively chose to make it as toxic as possible. At a certain point, you need to stop blaming your failures on others
I see... That does make sense. I was thinking maybe another reason is growing up in a single-parent home. I think parents who live seperated really put their children in a bad spot and put an unnecessary burden on them. That's why they struggle more mentally.
Gen z here. Every job I’ve ever had I applied in person. Even if they tell me to do it online. The act of going in and asking shows a lot. And then I’m agressive with the call backs pushing for an interview. Nowadays u don’t get jobs u have to take em
You got a degree man , still doing better than most Print out 100 resumes make sure it shows you graduated college amd just go hand em out Craigslist jobs actually helped me find two jobs I like to apply online and then go in person and say i applied online Stay up bro you got a degree thats not nothing
It kinda is nothing man. 😂 I know stem people still living at home. This advice is obsolete, he needs to make connections and just do temp work or postal service work at this point. All of which takes applying online or calling. His chances will be much better than fucking sending useless resumes to indeed or monster to ghost jobs that tell you they aren't hiring.
Holy shit you are COOKED. "I can't complain" The couch was hot :( it huwrt my wiw back i din get sleep :(((( Like holy shit bro I get it I really do. Your posting rage bait to get engagement bc it worked on me thats why im commenting but holy shit.
Batman couldn’t get this information out of me. Mid 30’s still living with my parents, who are begging me to get a job. I’m honestly embarrassed just watching this video.
Dude, going into places helps a lot when applying for jobs online. The manager will put your face to an application and assume that if you came in to speak to them in person than you actually care about the job. Your dad is right
Connections help more tbh, speaking as someone who's done this, done this for others, and has seen this play out. I agree 100% that going in person helps, but he should've utilized any connection his dad/mom with whatever form of employment then weasel his way into a position. In addition to the manager putting face to application, there's now someone there who can vouch for you.
It's nice that even recording from other house you keep the exactly same sound quality. That's actually crazy, it's almost like you are recording in the same place. 😏
I used the same mic and I held a pillow in front of my face like I usually do. I don't know why you would expect it to sound radically different. Both houses have similar sized rooms with the same ceiling height.
living with your boomer parents is hell. get a job. move out. parents will treat you like a child even into your 30s and throw ultimatums at you. you can't ever relax. move in with some other losers
You could've avoided this by just applying to places on your phone in your dad's truck in a parking lot and even to fast food places and showing the emails that confirm your applications as proof.
He could have just lied and tell them that gym girl rejected him after the date... Also if his parents think he made the whole story up why isnt he showing them the chat? This all is probably cap
@thejohncenafan100 I know I said he should've lied about the date too and I suspected this was bullshit but I don't know why someone would keep this up from aside from attention.
The thing is most blackpillers are young men who only cave into enabling this sort of behavior “jobs are pointless anyway because I’m ugly” this guy needs to actually hear what he needs to hear and not what he wants to hear. You’re in your mid 30s unemployed and get surprised when your dad kicks you out
He never confirmed the date was cancelled. Given his last freakout where he turned his phone off for 2 days, I would believe he totally misunderstood the situation and she still went to the date and waited for him, and HE stood HER up.
@@vriiite he was also awutistic as hell. Any below average looking guy with the slightest bit of charisma could have closed the deal. She messaged him first. There was obviously signs of attraction
Bro just show your parents the text messages of you and the gym girl to prove her existence. Also idk why you didn't just either lie about going to jobs in person while randomly driving around to your dad, and or actually go outside but just apply either on your phone, your laptop, or a library computer.
I saw someone at Dairy Queen yesterday get handed a paper application..I’ve seen them at Taco Bell too. It’s not unheard of to apply in person even if it’s less common. You could have just went in to numerous places, came back home and applied online if you needed to and told your dad that you were told to apply online. At least you would have met his demand of going out in person to apply.
Dude you should have just gone out and applied and for the companies that say do it online just pull out your phone and apply while you are there. You make shit difficult for yourself
Could you get a forklift license? If you have any industrial estates nearby you might find some factory/warehouse that needs a forklift driver/storeperson. The people i work with who do those jobs seem relatively content. Loading and unloading deliveries, keeping track of stock, consumables, shit like that and they're generally pretty popular people among other workers despite any personal foibles, like MAN some of tge storemen at my work gave been pretty fucked up but everyone likes them because they're just friendly and easy going and don't take shit too seriously. That's all it takes. If it's like some really big factory then the pay should be pretty good compared to fast food places.
buy a 6 pack of mixed donuts, tape your resume to the underside of the lid, and tell the cashier/ front desk to bring it to the managers office. instant job. definitely should work if its like a warehouse job or something.
You should legit just get some basic job at walmart or target , then see if that will appease your father. Also, if you do, make sure to call the manager the next day after applying online.
No, they don’t see him until they give him an interview and he hasn’t got an interview. So other than what he was just forced to do, that is not the reason he isn’t being hired. Because they DONT SEE HIM
relatable - stay positive and thanks for the upload. i am curious though, do you HAVE a CS degree? If so, why the heck would you be applying for fast food?
You’re not qualified for a programming job. You don’t have any experience. You need to get experience by building projects good enough to land you an internship then doing one for at least 6 months.
Honestly I was with you until this video, you’re 35 go ask for a job, it doesn’t work like that 100% of the time but if applying online is working 0% of the time you have to try something else.
Dont stop keep trying to get a job, when you get a job keep looking for a better one you are in a rut whether youll admit it or not. A change of routine would be good for you.
Just stop. Nobody is this good of an actor. believe me this is very real. And to the other comment mentioning Dbdr, yeah it's similar because most men are dealing with the same problems now.
@@nunyabaznus7851 Lmfao "nobody is this good of an actor" Are you serious dude? Do you think its difficult to write a fake script and just loosely follow it and pretend to get emotional? Lowiqcel detected, once again, all of these stories happen within WEEKS of his channel blowing up. How dumb can you be? Multiple story arcs exactly the same as DBDR
@@lombardi4 when it happens, it happens fast, and all at once. That's the way bad luck usually happens. you fall and you get repeatedly kicked while you are down.
